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Often, I’d read questions online like this one: Is there a way to be a straight man and a bottom? I would also read confessions about how they’re straight but are strictly bottom when they’re with men, or that they’re straight but that they want to try bottoming.
Recently though, I’ve read a really intriguing post asking readers if they’ve ever received mails or messages from guys claiming to be straight, ones who “enjoy anal penetration but feel too ashamed to ask any girl to do it on him.” The original poster (OP) said he received plenty of messages like this in the past, and usually, he doesn’t believe these guys, but this time it’s different. The OP added, and we quote:
And at first, I thought that he was just closeted but the more I talk to him I believe is true and it’s not the first time of hearing something like that. There is so much stigma on the straight community that it wouldn’t surprise me. What do you guys think? Are they actually straight guys who can enjoy bottoming even though they’re not attracted to the other person? Either way, he is hot, so I don’t care, I’m just genuinely curious if you have had similar experiences.
One guy replied, “I had a friend like that, lived to take it whenever we’re drinking together…. He married an adventurous girl who wears a strap-on and hasn’t thought of being with a guy since.” While another guy shared, “I know a friend of mine like that. He is 100% straight but still loves anal play. Getting a dick or a dildo in his ass gets him hard in seconds but he has absolutely no interest in guys.”
But there are, of course, guys who think otherwise like this one guy who said, “I think if you accept being fucked by a guy, you cannot be straight. Anal play does not mean being gay of course, but being fucked by a guy? I do not believe that is possible.”
Another guy hold more or less the same opinion. He replied, “Playing with dildos or being pegged by a woman: straight.
Wanting to suck dick or get fucked by a man: not straight.
It’s really that simple. All of the ‘straight’ guys saying they just think dicks are hot and want to touch another man’s dick in any way are not straight in any universe.”
Meanwhile, one guy explained that the reason why there are straight men who love bottoming is probably mainly due to the fact that “anal pleasure is because of anatomy, not sexual orientation.”
Anyway, you can read the readers’ responses here.
What about you, guys, what are your thoughts regarding this matter? Share them with us below including your stories, if you have one.
Yes, Anyone can bottom. The main thing is pain tollerence. If you have never had a cock in your ass. It’s going to hurt either way str8 or gay. I still have issues getting tapped. I dont have sex that often so its like tight as hell all the time
dunno re that. I would say there’s a close nexus between ‘pain’ and ‘pleasure’ with anal sex.
But would they want to? No shit anyone can. If they crave it then they’re a lot different from someone having it forced on them. And as a raging homo I can tell you I’m a total top. I fucking hate it. Not because I’m straight or don’t like the idea. I hate the sensation. That doesn’t mean I don’t love (sucking) cocks.
I don’t believe an ass gets “loose” after being fucked once. BS when someone says they have a tight ass because they don’t get fucked often. Guess what, big thick pieces of crap come out the other way.
Most straight men are bottoms they need to know how a hard cock in their ass feels like but than most just like to get sucked off & have their hot load swallowed.
Straight men don’t have sex with other men unless they’re raped.
As an anecdote to your statement:
“You Can’t Rape The Willing” and “There Is No Such Thing As Voluntary Molestation!”
you come across as an incredibly close-minded Gay guy: ‘it’s my way or the highway.’ News for ya’ – not everyone has the same opinion as you do, and that doesn’t make them ‘wrong’, just of a different mind. as for your comment re Str8 men not having sex with other men….? plenty of guys who are in essence Straight try mm sex at some point in their lives – to see if it might be something they’re into. Some of them remain Straight, some decide they’re Bi, others decide they are in fact Gay. your black vs white way… Read more »
Incorrect, but cute that you think you know what you really don’t.
you dont know what youre talking about. I know a few completely straight guys that like the occasional dick play. They have no attraction to men at all and, in fact, think that any romantic thoughts of men are disgusting. They also will suck a dick but will never kiss a guy.
Personally, I fall into that grey area between straight and gay, and unidentifiable. That’s fine with me, and I’m comfortable with it. “Are they actually straight guys who can enjoy bottoming even though they’re not attracted to the other person?”. -Yes “Wanting to suck dick or get fucked by a man: not straight.”. -Arguably True “anal pleasure is because of anatomy, not sexual orientation.”. -I agree As a Total 100% Cocksucking Fuck my Ass Bottom I accept I crave Gay Sex, but I do not identify as a Gay man… because, I am not attracted to Men in any way… Read more »
You’re the embodiment of a repressed homosexual. You’re not emotionally available to men. You have sex with men. You admit to preferring sex with men. That absolutely makes you homosexual. You won’t allow yourself emotional intimacy with a man because you don’t “identify as gay”- whatever the fuck that means. You’re not unidentifiable. Your textbook repressed homosexual with internalized homophobia. Sorry to burst your bubble that you’re not some enigma. You’re a stereotype.
Isn’t it *fun* to psychoanalyze strangers whom we will never know…..?
Lol. Right ! Well he must “wannapeekapeepee” too or he wouldn’t have stumbled on this site ,
Meh. I am what I am, and I’m comfortable with that.
But, because I’m not just like you doesn’t make me a stereotype, or repressed.
I like men fucking me, and I like fucking women.
I don’t do intimacy with men, but I naturally enjoy intimacy with women.
If all that has to be in the textbook I don’t have to read it to be okay with it.
amen!
You say,” As a Total 100% Cocksucking Fuck my Ass Bottom I accept I crave Gay Sex, but I do not identify as a Gay man… because, I am not attracted to Men in any way beyond being a bottom for them.”. So why would you call yourself unidentifiable.. Why wouldn’t you identify yourself as bisexual. You know a man craving to suck another man and get fucked by him is just about the main purpose of being gay… you may not be want to be as intimate with a man as a woman at this moment. But you may… Read more »
I know a few str8 guys who like to be fingered while being sucked off.
I have heard of str8 males
being fucked by females who use either a dildo or a two headed strap-on.
Anal sex = anal sex, regardless of sexual orientation.
Some sex workers have been known to put on the latex glove and start working down there to augment the oral as a way of getting the guy to finish faster.
Unfortunately, today’s porn is more about technics than enjoyment. It is all about
presentation which, in my opinion, renders today’s porn as perfunctory and not about
spontaneity!
You’re watching the wrong Porn Kasper!! Dig a little deeper, there is a lot of “today’s porn” that is pretty HOT! try to redefine your searches. TIM, Raw Strokes, Black Breeders.com ,Dark Alley and so on and so on…all raw
I’m a DL guy that still loves women and pussy,, very masculine and dominant when with women,,,, I have a ole lady also,,, I have never had a desire to top a guy but I really enjoy being a bottom,,, I enjoy it when a top pump me fulla dick and I also enjoy playing with and sucking a nice dick,,,it was a time I’d meet a guy and be a good bottom for him and once we cum and it was over I would emeditly go and get some pussy and didn’t think about sex with a man for… Read more »
You’re too repressed to be emotionally available to men. You won’t even kiss them you’re so scared. You go fuck women to prove to yourself how much of a man you are and how straight you are.
I don’t need to fuck women to prove anything,,, I fully except who I am,, I fuck women afterwards because that’s what I feel like doing,,and I’m not into kissing guys,,, I’m only interested in sucking and getting fucked, having my sweet ass ate,,and l also enjoy the idea of being submissive behind closed doors.so you tell me what man that willingly and enjoy letting anutha man use his body as of he was a woman would consider his self straight,, maybe I don’t want everyone around me knowing I like to suck on tube steak and have my cheeks… Read more »
Honestly alot of married guys are in that boat.. A few married guys told me when he fucking his wife..he thinking about he can’t wait for a guy to fucked him nxt…That a married guys dilemma…well one of them at least…I think alot of bottoms love to be pleased by a man who makes em feel good but there alot of variables no doubt.
I agree with you Tez. I started out only having sex with women. The women reaction to me nailing them long, deep, and hard made me envious of the pleasure they were receiving. I often wondered how it would feel to be nailed by a dude. I wondered if I would endure the same sensation. I was in my late 30’s when I got the courage to try bottoming. I could never relax enough to enjoy it. It was like trying to survive, hoping they would hurry up, nut and let me the fuck up. Lol. I never learned to… Read more »
Yes you’re right,,but actually when I’m with a woman I’m very dominant,,so when I have sex with them, I fuck them the way I would want a top to fuck me and I talk to them while I’m fucking them,,,it turns me on when a dominant top talk to me while fuckin me,,now I am a very masculine and dominant black guy in my appearance and in public,,but behind closed doors with a dominant top,, I become very submissive and if he’s fuckn me good I can moan like a real bitch,, but once it over and the door opens,,I… Read more »
Pussy for me is second rate, my dick is long and I run into the hard cervix which is not nearly as good feeling as popping into the deeper involuntary sphincter, which both men and women have up their ass. But your dick has to be long enough to reach it. Lots of men love to fuck women in the ass, It even costs extra with sex workers. But a mans ass feel exactly the same and at a gay bath house, I have hot boys who will wait in a line to get some of my dick. Fucking men… Read more »
bisexual
I used to think I was straight but enjoyed the feeling of being penetrated. I couldn’t ask my gf at the time to peg me, because she wouldn’t be into that. So I eventually hooked up with a guy who made me suck him before he would top me. I kind of enjoyed sucking his cock and definitely liked him topping me, but I kept telling myself I was straight. However the more I met with guys to top me the more I wanted to suck their cock too, and I started to find them attractive. Eventually I just accepted… Read more »
You are 100% correct. Thanks for sharing your journey. Most guys don’t wake up at puberty and go “oh, I’m into guys!”
Kinda like myself,, I’ve excepted the fact that I’m bi,, well let’s just be honest,I’ve excepted the fact that I’m gay,, I’m a gay guy that happens to still love women and pussy,,, but I do enjoy being in a man’s bed getting fucked like a bitch and sucking his dick for him,, one guy even put me in panties a few times,, but once it’s over and I make it home I fuck the ole lady til she pass out,,but I must admit getting fucked is a wonderful feeling,,,so do I consider myself straight,,,, yes to all the people… Read more »
I am with you 100 percent. I enjoy being bi and having a guy penetrate and being inside of me fucking me like a bitch is a good feeling and sucking dick when he needs it. The hard part for me is finding a partner who is a top and wants me in his bed. Still enjoy pussy also.
Yes the right guy is hard to find,, buy I don’t play in my city,, I travel 90mile to play,,, that way it’ll be hard for someone to find out about me sucking dicks and letting real men fuck and treat me like a bitch,,witch I enjoy,,,now I have played in my city but I was paranoid that someone may walk in and catch me getting piped down,,, so I met a guy in another city ,,with a nice dick witch I had to learn to take,,, but it was easy cause I was able to relax and not worry… Read more »
I am exactly the same. Love gay sex. Kissing, cuddling, nip play, sucking, love to be on the bottom of a 69 with him deep in my throat. But especially enjoy getting fucked. It has been the most intense sex of anything I have enjoyed with men or women. I have also worn panties and it just made it hotter. And still have the desire to enjoy women sexually. Gay, Bi, straight? Whatever
I have spent a large part of my life thinking, and all of my life living in my body. I think it is really time for people to remember a popular phrase: “You do you.” Much of the unnecessary and annoying berating that some people do, is because of the distorted view of what sexuality means. Sexuality, as an erotic concept, involves intellectual, psychological, emotional, spiritual, essential, and physical aspects–both venereal (genital/carnal) and non-venereal (epidermal sensory). Sexual act, or carnal copulation, involves principally the physical acts, with no deep aspects. I think a large part of so society has made… Read more »
. If a man wants sex constantly 7, 8, 9 times a day I would say he’s a sexaholic but if he had sex once a week or twice a week I would say he’s not a sexaholic But if he has sex with a man every few weeks that might not discount that he is bisexual.. So what’s your point about alcoholics.,.. someone who enjoys a drink or two once every few week is not an alcoholic but may be a social drinker. To me it’s lies somewhere in what one accepts as the definition of bisexual. Some dictionary… Read more »
There’s also this belief in a chunk of society that long-term bi- people just don’t exist and it’s really just a halfway house to being gay. That keeps a lot of people from coming out as bi-, as they know some people will apply their own filters and hear it as “gay.” I’ve had experiences on both sides since 1996, including 2023. Porn? It’s like a 50-50 battle there. Am more picky on the M-M side than the M-F side, so that just means being dangerously close to the “greedy” stereotype.
my story too
this is me 100%
Yes it is simple. Straight men do not bottom for men. They have sex with women. Only. That sex could include anal performed by women using their fingers, fists, dildos or strap-ons. And that would be if everyone “in bed” was up for it. Men who have anal sex with men are not Straight. They may appear Straight because they do not exhibit the classic characteristics of being feminine or flamboyant, but they enjoy sex with men. These guys present themselves as Straight through their natural mannerisms and looks, letting only those they feel need to know that they are… Read more »
Thanks for keeping it real, dude. You’re 100% right. The internalized homophobia that a masculine guy is straight while a flamboyant guy is gay is so sick and it’s all over the media and the Internet.
I hope these “straight” men who like to suck and get penetrated weren’t the bullies calling people fags back in the day.
I’m not a betting man, but if I were I’d lay down odds that they did.
Ditto, it’s seemingly quite frequently, the ones that are so adamant, that are fighting their sexual urges; like looking in the mirror of which they’re in denial of. I’ve seen this of middle school guys I once knew.
And the gay “community” perpetuates it by calling them “straight”.
That’s always been the guilty one is what the word has always been,,, but I was never like that,,, I had always wondered what it was like to be a bottom,,, I never thought I’d act on it, but I did realize that I was a very freaky guy, and I think if you’re a freaky guy with woman you would probably lay with anutha man,,, just my opinion, and I know a lotta freaky guys that makes me wonder are they on the DL like myself,,, I found myself looking at some gay porn, and the way the bottoms… Read more »
All the “straight” guys I know like it and want up the shitpipe. so yes straight men can be bottoms.
Lots of married or single so called “straight” men, younger and older, hit me up to bottom for me. After they moan and scream fuck me harder and deeper, they always insist they are not gay. I agree with them and tell you them no, you can’t be gay because you have sex with a woman…..therefore you are bisexual. Don’t make it any more complicated than that. Cheers:)
I like when those married/gf/engaged guys cum hands free from getting fucked in the ass and then gay guys tell me that’s impossible. The former are uninhibited and tended to be very athletic and can go back to their pussy to feel like a man. The latter guard their sex like a woman. The irony is amazing.
I think it’s one of the best feeling ever to cum while getting fucked without touching your dick,,there was a time when I would cum I’d be done and ready to get dressed and go,, but this one guy wasn’t having that he kept on fuckin me,, but before I knew it I was cumn again,,so now I just lay there and enjoy it til he’s done,,,I’ve came many times while sucking dick without touching myself
A4A sure does seem to have a lot of bi-curious married straight guys with profiles with no pics and unable to host. Quite a few are at least in their 50s, maybe because they’re finally ready to branch out and throw caution to the wind because how much longer can they perform anyway, AND having to live the prime of their lives at a time when HIV could be a death sentence.
You just described me, as well as my group of FWBs. We all started that way. Guys who presented themselves as Straight to society because we (decades ago) knew being Gay was not positive OR because we didn’t know any Gays beyond the feminine, flamboyant, flaming, fairies (disruptive and annoying!) that were presented in the media. For sure, we were NOT them. But along came the Internet and with it sites like A4A where such men could safely connect with other men. From there it was a matter of society becoming more accepting of Gays (less risky) plus us meeting… Read more »
Years ago, the average str8 male or female did not have homosexuality on the tip of their tongues.
Hence, unless you were overtly obvious, you went either unnoticed or given the benefit of the doubt.
Not all of us suffered because of your sexual identities. It wasn’t on our shoulders, either, as the proverbial Albatross!
Very similar life journey. For me being picked on for being non-athletic and nerdy meant being called “gay” “queer” and “fag” since 3rd grade, then when puberty hit and I discovered a Playgirl magazine along side Playboys, I got very embarrassed to find they might have been correct. And in the 1980s, being a gay teen boy was not an easy road. So I tried to be SUPER STRAIGHT but still would jerk off to that old Playgirl as often as not. Then last year of college, I took the plunge and sucked a cock, I was nervous and scared,… Read more »
That is the saddest story I have ever heard. I grew up having both girlfriends and boyfriends (sexually) since high school, and almost got married to a girl at 20, but knew I couldn’t live with myself dragging her into my homosexuality so I have only had boyfriends since I was 21 and met my husband at 25 and we have been together for over 30 years! And I know I choose the right life and btw I was a top until my hubby got a hold of me… giggles…
Lol I guess he made you realize the bottom is so much better than the top,,It’s nuthin like being a bottom,,, I’ve never had a desire to top in fact the idea of topping turns me off,,,, I still love fuckin women sucking pussy , eating a woman ass,, I enjoy all of that,, but when I’m with a guy I strongly prefer a 100% verbal dominant top,,,when with a guy I don’t want my dick to be touched,, it is only use to cum and that is from the tops dick,, I love to have my ass ate,,, I… Read more »
That really gave me a chuckle, that last part, cute, lol.
You hit the nail on the head. If it weren’t social, religious, or family pressure, then it was the fear of certain death. “525,600 minutes” was pretty standard life expectancy for having AIDS.
Doesn’t this whole conversation kinda pull the rug out from under the whole sexual categories paradigm? Sexual orientations are cultural constructions rather than bioligical ones.
No sexual orientations really simple. This level of doublespeak and rationalization leads to the bullshit ideas that everything is a cultural construct. Men who get erections from the sight or smell or touch of another man have an involuntary biological response, whether they act on it or not. 30 years ago psychologists showed men porn and monitored their penises. Many of the “straight” men got hard watching men kiss and have sex. The point was they’re gay and lie to themselves about it. They knew they had monitors and obviously knew they got hard. (No one who identified as gay… Read more »
No one is making the claim that sexual orientations are biological constructions.
Seeing it differently: One’s biology in fact, actually does, determine one’s sexual orientation . . . It’s not chosen by anyone; culture’s, within ‘their’ religion/s on the other hand, are causing all the problems.
I’ve met many straight men who are bottoms. I asked my friend once why it was that way and she said they do all the fucking at home. I took that knowledge and ran with it.
They aren’t straight dude. They’re at least bisexual. But why don’t they cheat on their wives with women? Why do they need dick so much that they cheat with men?
“Cheating” isn’t always the case. I’ve met several guys who when their wives lost interest in sex, they knew/learned that they were attracted to men. For most, the marriage ended. For some others, the wives loved the guys and accepted it, but didn’t discuss it. For one, the wife accepted that the husband had an “FWB” even to the point of befriending him.
Mine falls into the second group.
Same here wife no interest and my interest is with guys so it works
Hello. I am exactly what you are describing here. I am a straight male. Love women, attracted to women, date women… But I absolutely love having sex with men. I do not find men, in an of themselves attractive. Nor would I date a man. What a man looks like plays virtually no role in whether I’ll have sex with him. I am attracted to big dick and the feeling my having a big one in my mouth and especially in my ass. Im only into receiving anal pleasure with men. No woman has ever played with me like that… Read more »
Trying to get to fifth base with twenty-something-year-old Thai women can sometimes be rebuffed with them saying that act is “gay” or that maybe you should try a ladyboy. Though maybe there’s less of that conservative view now with more porn available.
You are the embodiment of what I describe. You are repressed and emotionally unavailable to men. You would never date a man. You aren’t sexually attracted to men but you like how they stretch your hole. They’re not your proctologist dude. They’re having sex with you. That is by definition homosexual (gay) NOT heterosexual (straight.)
I think the issue is many, many guys separate lust and love and think as long as it is only lust, they aren’t “gay”
I used to be that way, but now admit, I’m gay, no matter if I still am romantically drawn to women for the emotional side of relationships but men for the sexual side.
I agree,, well put
How are people so stupid? If a guy is getting pegged or fisted by a woman it’s about submission and maybe some prostate stimulation. Anything sexual a man does consensually with another man is by definition homosexual. Why is this “straight” label accepted and even celebrated and sought after in the gay “community”? Like you’re so hot you turned him? He’s fucking gay. I have fucked thousands of married (to women) men with kids and fiancés and girlfriends. They were all repressed homosexuals. If they were even bisexual then they could be monogamous with a woman or a man. The… Read more »
So much of the 1970s bullying and homophobia I remember involved obsessing over identity. Does this or that mean I’m gay? Some people are still fighting those battles in their heads. And complaining that younger people don’t know how easy they have it.
yes. I totally remember first day of school in 1985, I had BEGGED my parents for an OP shirt, any OP shirt, but we were on a budget and it was more expensive than they wanted. But they bought one on sale…trouble is even being a boys OP shirt, the amount of pink in it lead to my being called gay the day I wore it. I blamed the shirt and never wore it again because I didn’t want to be gay, even though deep down I thought I might be.
Having a prostate orgasm, especially with something powerful like a multi-speed vib optimized for stimulation there, can be a transforming experience. You have heightened sensory awareness all up and down the chain and not just at the last link of it. You feel the internal muscles squeeze hard and eventually contract rhythmically in addition to the familiar external ones doing the same. Everything feels stronger and the buildup is longer. A couple of the more renowned (though now closed) STRAIGHT massage places in Thailand got a loyal following by ripping pages from the gay playbook. In one the standard course… Read more »
Straight/gay/bi is not the issue…. orientation is not a choice or can it be changed…Who/Whom you choose to have sex with and what you do….is always a choice. There are 100+++ of studies out there….ie 60%+ (or more) “straight” couples have anal sex… great birth control option, 78%+ male fantasy is a 3 way with another man and woman. A man who claims a “one way canal” only…just hasn’t experienced anything more. I’d bet… after 45…50 yrs old and the first ditital prostate exam…there is a lot of exploring going on. Man, woman, straight, gay… sex is a choice.
I absolutely love certain kinds of bi men, those who can admit that they are, less drama about sex, period. Just two guys, that at that time, can share something special, it’s ok, don’t make more of than it really is. Some just want masturbation, no kissing, ’cause that would be gay; some don’t want anal penetration; again, that would gay, although, they might want to fuck you, lol, no kissing though. It’s just so varied. A really handsome man, that you cannot kiss is sheer torture, though, lmao.
This is in essence a theological question: you can believe whatever you want, and cannot truly be proven ‘wrong’.
As a Straight-leaning BI guy who has only ever been romantically drawn to women, I enjoy sucking cock and getting fucked by other men (and fucking them & having them suck me as well). I’m in my 60s and have gotten with other men on and off since college, with zero regret.
It’s all part of the erotic menu available to any sexually aware adult, labels are pretty much beside the point.
Of course. I have met some into pegging.
I’m not gonna tell what they identify as, but honestly wish most guys can admit maybe they’re curious. I feel like some guys are too focused to still stick with the “I’m str8” label. There’s nothing wrong being curious to the same sex. Women can often have these same sex experience during some part of their life and can openly admit they’ve done it. But het males can never admit that. We still live in a homophobic society as a whole.
I can admit on here that I truly think I’m more gay than straight,,l still love my ole lady and pussy,, shit I love eating pussy also, but I think I’m more gay than straight because most bottoms love dildos or anything up their ass,,, but a dildo does nuthin for me,,, it’s the idea of being with a man, him using my body to satisfy his sexual desires,,me sucking his dick making him feel like a real man should and letting him fuck me til he’s satisfied,, I enjoy getting fucked,,,,, I’ve excepted the fact that I’m gay,,, I… Read more »
100% gay here. Hate using dildos. Does nothing for me. Having a guy top me and have him using my body for his pleasure a total turn on. The more he enjoys himself using my body for his pleasure the more pleasure I get. Kissing another due for me is far more Intimate. Can’t just kiss anyone. I can bottom and give head much more easily than kissing. Tend to keep kissing to guys I have an emotional connection.
Married “straight” man here, I enjoy bottoming then having intimate sex with my wife. My wife also uses a dildo on my ass while sucking my dick. Must be my prostate being massaged. The best sex with a woman is after getting pounded by another man. Call it what you want, I’m intimate with my wife and like getting off with another man.
Yes you’re right,, most of the time it’s last about 3mins with her,, but after I’ve been fucked hard and good, she gets it for about 20 to 30 mins,,, and if he ate my ass she gets her ass ate,,,,but I don’t think I could let a woman touch my man pussy,,, I don’t want here to even think that way about me,,and I’m sure it’ll be a turn off,,only a man can satisfy me in that way,,,and if he eat my ass,that bitch really comes out
I believe a straight guy should be able to do whatever they want with whomever they want and that includes them being able to call themselves ‘STRAIGHT’ Which is why I am a huge proponent of getting rid of fu#&@ing labels. I personally do not care what a straight guy should call themselves after taking a dick in the ass. Based on some of the comments I’ve just read, some of you (you know who you are) care a little bit too much. Having labels is nothing more than social classification. IT IS, I REPEAT, IT IS NO ONE’S BUSINESS… Read more »
As long as the person you’re thinking about topping you is a woman, yes, you can be a heterosexual male bottom.
Having played in rock bands off and on, I’ve known a few straight men who enjoy anal pleasure using dildos and vibrators. They still love pussy, but they enjoy having anal play to increase orgasmic sensation. Some have even been fucked by men as they fuck women or just jack off. I don’t think this makes them bi either since they’re not intimate with men other than receiving anal stimulation. Many men enjoy having their buttholes eaten by men and women as well. Kind of a gray area in terms of labeling.
NO……STRAIGHT………….MEN…………….ARE……………HAVING………..SEX……….WITH……ANOTHER……….MAN!!!!!!!!! GUYS PLEASE STOP THIS ABUSRD…DELUSIONAL THINKING! THIS SHOWS SOME ISSUES WITH SOME OF YOU…..AND MAKES US LOOK LIKE A DENTED GROUP OF PEOPLE……NO STRAIGHT MAN IS HAVING SEX WITH ANOTHER MAN……..PERIOD…
Are you somehow under the impression that you must be a gay to order to be a bottom? You should probably look up “pegging”.
Straightish men make the very best bottoms! 🙂 All of my fuck buddies are straigthish, DL men with a wife or a GF. Why? Because it’s only about sex. They’re not looking for a significant other; only interested in getting some dick. And then they’re gone. They have this energy that makes the interaction fun and satisfying; and they’re open to trying different things behind closed doors. Most (not all) gay men want an emotional attachment. Thanks, but not interested. Let’s enjoy the fuck and you’re gone. Works for me. 🙂
Absolutely love bottoming. A cock in my ass is my ultimate turn on. At the same time, I’ve never felt any romantic interest in a guy at all. It’s all about the cock for me.
We love labels, don’t we? We have to slap a label on people and things in order to classify and define, making it easier for us to process. Human emotions its degrees of intensity in feelings, desires, wants, likes and dislikes are unique to each one of us! I think the need to label is tribal, it tells us whether that person is part of “our tribe” or the “other tribe” and perhaps reinforce our own identity. Be nice to be who we are without the need for a category or a label.
Of course. Orientation has three components. The gender of the people to whom you are attracted physically, emotionally, and romantically. Behavior is separate from orientation. A straight man can choose to engage in Behavior that includes receiving anal sex. I am gay, but I have had sex with a woman. It was not when I was young and in the closet. It was just something that I chose to experience. It doesn’t change the fact that I am totally gay. Furthermore, for example the main thing I enjoy doing is giving head. It’s what I enjoy and honestly I can… Read more »
I know a guy that was wanting to top. The guy is sadly, straight. He always said that you’re not gay if you’re giving it to another guy.
I wanted him to give it to me (I know it works since he’s got 6 kids), but never wanted to come out to him.
I know a couple guys that is on the DL,, I’m not sure if they know about me,,one is a top,,I have a gay family member that told me,, and I’m sure my family member doesn’t kn about my DL life,,but like you I could never come out to any of them
Straight,gay,bi, curious,what ever you want to call it,, I know it plenty of openly gay, feminine guys out there,, but I think it’s a new day and time,,for all the use to be straight men the internet has made it very easy to act on all those fantasies and the forbidden acts,,, I think most men have had some kinda gay thought in their head,,,and have acted on it since the internet made it possible,,and I think more and more guys going to act on it,, it’s probably someone reading all these letters that’s never been with anutha man but… Read more »
Yes, “so called” straight men can bottom, I used to plow the hell out of my straight neighbor all the time, I wished he had fucked me more often since he had a big & hot cock! He also loved to get rimmed, he was so hot. I miss (Eric) since he got married and moved away.
If he cleans out and you rim his ass for a good long while he’ll be open to giving it an initial try. As for the comments about pain, if you are making the other guy experience pain then you aren’t being patient or considerate: it’s called approaching things gradually.
Straight boys like their prostate massaged, whether it is by a finger, dildo or cock…they just won’t tell their girl or friends 🙂
If they receive prostrate massages from men, they are not “Straight”.
Not only can they bottom, but when they do they are blown away with how good it feels to get fucked. A marine (who was as hot as Channing Tatum) I picked up in San Diego, was unprepared for how great my fat cock felt, in his tight little anal canal and kept jacking off and dropping his dick when he was close to cumming and kept saying over and over how great it felt and that he did not want it to end. He did this 4 separate times, till he finally blew his load with my raw dick… Read more »
All Marines are Straight? Who knew? You can learn something new every day!
It is strange how most bottoms do that same thing,, I’m willing to bet either it was his first time or he had not been hooking up with guys for long,, I myself use to be like that at the beginning,, I would meet a guy get fucked and when I would enjoy it but once I came I was done ready to go,, then I would be mad and embarrassed of what had just happened,, thinking to myself (I’ve just let anutha man fuck me),, I would go weeks or months before I thought about doing it again,, that… Read more »
If you bottom, you are not straight…if you are straight, you don’t bottom.
If you as a man bottom for a man, that is.
I feel like a man with no country I can’t get into cuddling or holding hands or kissing a man, but nothing is more return on sucking a cock or being fucked by a big cock but I don’t think I’m gay. I just think it is a kink I don’t even care if it’s by honestly it doesn’t matter to me. I just think it is what it is and I love it
enjoying anal penetration does not make you gay. society messed up that narrative.
“straight” “gay” WTF ?? it’s sex… we are sexual beings ! Labels and shit,,, nothing more than a construct, just to put us all into little boxes ! Just my opinion . 🙂
Wow..some interesting discussion. I’ve had ‘infrequent’ sex with men, and have enjoyed it…mostly mutual oral and cock play…I love cam, always get very hard and stimulated when watched by guys…and love to JO for them and love that they enjoy me…I love getting off with men while jacking off…and will solo on cam frequently. I love a mans erection, it always turns me on, and getting him hard, but have never been into an emotional or intimate relationship (although I’ve fallen for a couple, didn’t go anywhere). My sexual fantasies are not about women, as much as I’ve loved making… Read more »
I know several men who identify as being gay, who do not like to kiss, as it implies intimacy with the other people. I do not think the “act” of anal sex is something gay men can claim as their own. EVERYONE behind closed doors is their own version of a “freak show”, thus, if a straight man wants to have his ass played with and be fucked, I do not see a problem with that behavior. Let your pleasure flag fly. On a side note – there are straight men in gay porn who bottom. It’s a job. They… Read more »
I have no attraction to men. I don’t like to kiss men. I have no romantic feelings. But I do like the sex. It’s easier to find a male partner to play with tbh men give better blowjobs. I also enjoy being penetrated when I’m in the mood. I’ve had an 9” thick cock in me and I’ve never been in pain. If it hurts you’re doing something wrong.
Very straight acting kinda guy here. Love everything about a fine women and that delicious pussy that comes with it. Most men my age get turned on by the sight of a sweet ass lady, but me. I love to look at a hot hunk of a man with a big swinging dick and some tight but cheeks. Am I gay? No because I just love sex and love getting drilled by a man who knows how to use his tool. I also love the scent of a clean and well kept women. Am I bi? most likely but what… Read more »
I’m bi- and always have liked the concept of hetero muff diving, though it’s also often a game-time decision and it would be kinda funny to try to flowchart the decision-making process about whether to go down. Apparently in college I was in a minority on the muff diving and it could get you a reputation if your girlfriend bragged about it. There’s also a flowchart with sucking dick, though it would be a simpler one.
That was WELL PUT W-SIDE,,
I’ve met married straight guys curious about M2M and most of them wanted to try bottoming or was already a bottom and was excited to “get laid”. Also, a curiosity to me is the fact that straight men are getting “pegged” by the wife. You just KNOW they are wondering what the real thing feels like and I imagine some are out there looking for the real thing.
I don’t really think about the bi or straight idea do much any more. I think there are plenty of people with their own idea of where that criteria begins and ends. I very much enjoy gay sex but I just don’t see men as attractive or not. I am very turned on by women and free like I can fall in love with a woman but I just don’t have any of those romantic type of feelings for guys. I will see pics of guys and other than their cock it doesn’t do anything for me. I will look… Read more »
If a guy has any physical sexual activity with another man, he’s NOT straight.
Now if he “bottoms” while with a female, he can still be called straight.