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BB only!
How often do you read this on someone else’s dating profile and exactly how often do you encounter this request in real life, guys?
BB can mean a lot of things but in the gay community and online dating app sites like Adam4Adam, it’s an acronym for Bareback, which means having sexual intercourse without the use of a condom. The term is also popular in text messages and even on chat forums
Having said all that, we are asking because we often encounter questions along these lines: is it really rare to find gay men who use condoms during anal sex? Whereas, they would add, that those who want to have bareback sex are commonplace.
“No one wants to use condoms anymore,” says a man on askgaybros. “Does anyone else feel like this since the wonderful breakthrough that is PrEP?? Majority of hookups are strictly no-condoms which is not as nerve-racking anymore but I’m sick of walking around with gonorrhea and chlamydia all the time.”
The man later edited his post and added: “Sorry y’all, the last sentence was a dramatic exaggeration. I have gotten chlamydia 3 times and gonorrhea once, symptomless every time. I forget that my sense of humor is hard to pick up on through written text.”
How true is this for you, guys? Is it true that every guy out there just wants to have bareback sex? Are you one of those guys who prefer bareback sex? Why or why not?
As for the men who responded on the thread online, one of them said, “I wouldn’t say no one, but the number is dropping.” He then shared, “They’re still mandatory with me. Bareback is a relationship privilege.”
Meanwhile, another man said, “It definitely felt like this when I went to London, all the hot guys were like ‘No condom or no sex’ and I was like, ‘Well it seems I’ll have my pants on this whole trip.’”
Further, another gay man replied, “That`s why I don’t fuck random people. The whole worrying about diseases is such a turn-off. Making out and giving hand jobs is more fun than that condom bullshit.”
Anyway, do you agree with them, guys or are you personally cool with bareback sex? If not, under what circumstances would you have bareback sex? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.
Bareback is only for a relationship with someone who can *verify* their disease-free status. If a guy starts out with the “bareback only” line, and I don’t know him well enough to know if he’s clean or not… red flag!
Why do gay men use the term “clean?” What does that even mean? Of course, the subtext is that HIV positive men are “unclean.” Is someone who is HSV I and/or II positive also “unclean?” Is someone who had COVID-19 “unclean?” What a bunch of nonsense. So many gay men can’t reason and think for themselves and merely follow the crowd so I’m not surprised. (Do you see how many gay men incorrectly use the word “discrete?” Moronic.) You can overcome ignorance. You’re stupid forever.
sometimes it’s better to keep your mouth shut and appear to be igorant rather than open your mouth and remove all doubt
The word is discreet. Funny how you call people moronic and yet you incorrectly use the word yourself. Discrete means “separate” or “distinct.” It’s used especially in mathematical and research contexts as the opposite of “continuous.” Discreet is used to mean “inconspicuous,” “cautious,” or “discerning.” It’s used in less technical contexts, usually to describe people, actions, and things.
Umm…yeah I see why he would call someone moronic. You fit that bill. 🙂 He wrote incorrectly use the word ‘”discrete.” The morons incorrectly using “discrete” when they should correctly use “discreet.” Not that difficult. 🙂 Thank you for the definitions, tho.
Nothing I hate more than “clean” in a profile. Yes, dickhole, I took a shower. SMH. There’s nothing dirty about HIV and guys that say that, I will and have ripped apart. I’m with you, it’s ridiculous. U=U and guys don’t get it.
Indeed. But not all guys who are poz are undetectable. That seems to be a little detail people don’t like to include when they announce “U=U”.
Guys by now should be educated enough to know that those with HIV who take meds are very likely to be undetectable. The U=U applies to them only. They learn about that status through blood tests administered 3-4 times a year. Then there are guys who have HIV, knowingly or unknowingly, who don’t take meds and are not undetectable. That’s something to be aware of. And NotNelly, please stop using the insulting word “clean” to describe a negative status. I thought that word went out a long time ago.
I didn’t come here for a lecture. I already know all of this. And no one in their right mind is going to risk a possible HIV diagnosis on something being “very likely”. And your comment seems to willfully ignore that HIV is only one of a myriad of sexually transmitted diseases.
Pro tip: when want to respond to what SOMEONE ELSE has said, do it in another comment.
Or, don’t comment on a public forum if you can’t take the heat, get out of the fucking kitchen.
Guess I’m lucky: I’m 63, so I got to enjoy uninhibited BB sex in the late ’70s and early ’80s. I got married to my wife in the mid-80s, but after an initial decade-long ‘hiatus,’ I’ve been playing with guys discreetly & safely ever since. I know what I do is wrong, but I’d never go so far as to dare to bring home any sort of infections to my wife, so I’ve been all condoms all the time since. I’d consider Prep but it’s not 100% effective, so condoms will continue to be the only way I f*ck indefinitely.
You’re like thousands of guys. Many men born between say 1930 and 1970 found themselves in a quandary when it came to sexuality, They knew they were emotionally and/or physically attracted to men, but in those years acceptance was rare. Men who came out were most likely to lose their families, friends, jobs, or lives. So these guys buried their sexuality. They built careers, marriages, and families. Everyone assuming they were Straight. Acceptance of Gay men expanded after 1980. Many of these guys had become widowed, divorced, or found themselves in marriages that were “fine”, but sexless due to a… Read more »
Thanks for the very eloquently written response, Hunter. I’d say you summarized my life about 85% accurately. The coming out part was the only part you didn’t quite get accurate (as if you should’ve known?). But the rest you sized me up quite well. It’s just that the idea of coming out was, isn’t, and will never be in the cards for me not only for the family/friends/employment reasons you accurately laid out, but also because falling in love with guys (emotionally) and being part of any sort of gay community has never been in my DNA and never will… Read more »
And who made you the expert for 40 years worth of males? Must be some kind of BS studies major. How about people liked to get off and were ignorant of the consequences in a time before AIDS. And now anyone with an IQ above room temperature best know to use a rubber. It’s not the difficult Sonny
Maybe you can tell us the Meaning of Life, the Secrets of the Universe and teach your grandma to suck eggs while you’re at it.
To Hunter again: It’s unfortunate a’holes like “phuk” and “moron” have to write such rants. You never professed to be addressing every single individual in the world; you were only responding to my prior post and you did so quite accurately.
Sounds just like brother and law # 1’s story to a “T.” It’s no coincident either, the timing of everything involving the advent of HIV/Aids starting in the 80’s and the new political freedoms gays were winning. Watching ch2 before moving to NYC 93′; they said, “if you’re sexually active, you need to consider, that everyone you encounter, is HIV+”, I found that to be a dire warning, and it was! Fast forward, watching “David Letterman” ask Steven Segal, “what do you think of the Aids Epidemic?” He said, well, I’m a family man, so I can’t say much, but… Read more »
This is to phuk yooo and What a Maroon:
Hunter0500 is speaking from experience, and the way both of you responded I can only assume you are both young and have no idea what our generation had to deal with in the past. What you currently have was handed to you. Our generation made it possible for you to enjoy freely express. yourselves. We would have been jailed, beaten, imprisoned, murdered, publicly humiliated in the community and in church. Show a little respect and gratitude.
I’m sorry to break it to you, but nothing outside of abstinence (or possibly mutual masturbation) is “100% effective”. The best argument for condoms and against the “only PREP” strategy is that it only protects against one STD but leaves you vulnerable to all the others.
When a sexy black man wants to fuck me bareback with his hot BBC, my ass is his.
Being the STI and STD statistics when it comes to black men, which are on the CDC’S website, you’re and diagnoses waiting to happen.
Being a black man, after it was proven that CDC statistics for covid were way off. Some stats were inflated some under reported. I’m not convinced with everything on their website. So I’m not owning higher STI and STD cases being higher when it comes to black men. That comment just don’t sit well with me. I don’t believe everything i read. Hell naw!!!
Black men have a larger-than-average proportional of men who self-identify as straight but have sex with other men, and therefore statistically speaking, a higher proportion of men who engage in high-risk sex acts with people who might be positive. This isn’t something you have to take on faith. It’s shown in study after study.
“Momentary Sense of Spontaneity and Freedom”?
“Possible Lifetime” Of Pain, Anguish and
Medicinal Imprisonment”?.
Very well put, Kasper!
I was chatting the other day with a 19-year-old who’s positive. Imagine that? A whole lifetime ahead of “medicinal imprisonment,” possible “pain & anquish,” etc. and all because he wanted his spontaneity and freedom. For what, so his a** was able to feel perhaps a tiny bit of heat from the infected semen that came out of the older top guy’s ejac? Poor choice….
SAFEonly:
I took care of HIV+ and Drug Users while working for a Medical Diagnostic Laboratory in the
1980s, the 1990s and a good part of this century.
I’ve seen and hard the suffering far too many times to forget. I don’t harp on it but I do remember.
Kasper- I lived not far from St. Vincent’s Hospital in the West Village in the ’80s. I had one scare and got tested there in the ER, circa 1983 – I was fine thankfully. Not being part of the gay community, I was fortunate never to return there and never to know anyone who suffered there, especially in that AIDS dungeon they kept at that place. Seeing “Angels in America” and “The Normal Heart” among others later on made me realize the horrors I was somehow able to avoid.
That’s a sad story about the 19-year-old. We and he have to hope that a cure will emerge that saves him from “medicinal imprisonment” for the rest of his life.
Yes, very sad. He seemed like a nice lad. Claimed the guy who f*cked him didn’t realize it. Really unfortunate and makes me feel so lucky I’ve been careful and never slipped up. Sad thing is, it’s not only the younger ones who take safe sex lightly. Even guys 60-plus are eager to get plowed and have their holes filled. Just doesn’t make sense to me.
Bareback: Never on hookups. (I actually tossed a guy out of my hotel room during a hookup after we had discussed no anal and no bareback in the days prior to meeting, but he kept asking and asking and whining.) Never with a “new guy.” Never with a guy who has a long list of random partners, hookups and/or FWBs. Flexible with a couple of FWBs I’ve known for over 10 years who are also cautious about who they connect with and do anal with. Bareback would be 100% the way to go if I was in a monogamous LTR… Read more »
Hunter0500:
There is just too much empirical evidence supporting the dangers of “Barebacking”. It isn’t just
about Aids; It is also about HPV, CMV and The Herpes Zoster Family and their Octopi Tenacles
upon us!
Society already stacks enough against us; we needn’t match it!
“Here’s wisdom” that most choose not to heed, lmao, again!
I saw so many of my friends die from AIDS at the time I was exploring my sexuality. I am fortunate to have avoided being infected and in turn infecting others. With all the treatments and cocktails available to treat and prevent infections, and the cavalier attitudes some have about barebacking, what will happen when those meds no longer work?
Not worth the risk of STI outcome to go BB with randoms…a hand job n foreplay good enough
I do prefer raw. I do ask questions beforehand, although I know that’s not fail safe. One guy told me he was all clear, then the next day I came across him online and he had taken 26 loads that night. I felt slightly disgusted and turned on.
That’s hot as fuck. I would have asked for his address so I could be #27.
Random is always a risk. It’s about the momentary thrill of doing something forbidden. It’s about how it feels. In the moment it’s not about more then just sex. To be honest I’ve done both. With or without. I’d prefer a guy fucking me wear a raincoat unless it’s a very close “partner”/bud. Someone who isn’t a hoe. But on the other hand I’ve been in the moment when it’s just not a consideration, because it’s go time. If a guy asked that I wear one it wouldn’t be an issue(though it might take longer to finish, lol). I do… Read more »
Saturday was the first time in years that a bottom I met wanted me to use a condom. Invariably, the bottoms I meet in East Tennessee want or even demand bareback, especially the younger guys. I spoke with a guy recently who told me about his desire to take a charged load. I was shocked that some men are chasing HIV.
I prefer BB sex but I also don’t fuck around. My FBs and I choose to keep sex among ourselves
As attractive as that is to tell yourself, it’s almost certainly not the case.
I’ve never had anybody fuck me with a condom always been raw it’s the best hottest sex out there never any fears always getting the special prize dump deep in your hole everybody likes getting it and they love to give it to I’ve had guys with their condom off in the middle of sex thinking I didn’t realize but I did and I begged him to fuck me harder to give it to me to give me his demon seed
Recently got fucked raw for the first time. Now I’m hooked! Nothing better than feeling a hard throbbing cock filling me full of cum!!! Then sucking his cum covered cock!
Bareback only here please, so much more sensual, I love feeling a man’s raw cock in me!
Same here with me!
“Let who without sin among us, cast the first stone” We all have tried it and it feels so dayum good!!!! It’s nothing like the real thing!!! But we as educated men, must fully understand the risk factors that comes with the pleasure. Pick and chose your sex partners you decide to go raw with and don’t be offended if someone ask to see your sexual medical test results. Personal medical results can be posted on your personal medical records reporting page and can be displayed from your smart phone.
To be fair a person could get tested clean on Monday and have something by Tuesday.
I respectfully agree but I was leaning toward if 2 guys decide to start a serious relationship after dating exclusively for a period of time, they could share test results before they decide to have sex for the first time.
True. But there’s no such thing as risk-free, even when using a condom. It’s about managing your risk. Asking to see proof of being on PrEP, recent STI testing results, etc., might lower your risks for contracting an STD.
*tested negative. There, fixed it.
medical records are usless….. your record may be perfect… that big huge dick that fucked you the day after all your test were perfect may have had 25 different diseses…
How dare you make a bold statement like that and say “medical records are useless!!!!” I know this is only a blog where people on here expresses their viewpoints. But come on son!!!! I don’t blame you for identifying yourself as “no name ” lol.
Marcus in these comments u are always level headed and I always have mad respect for u..so proud to see your replies bro.
Thank you very much Brother Tez!!
. . . Really, well, it’s one way to thumb your nose; give life the ‘bird’, I have other ways; most certainly not, NEVER!
Fifty-four years old here and lost many friends and acquaintances over the years to HIV. I applaud the advances made in HIV prevention & care but if you read the fine print it says to continue to use a condom. There are other sexually transmitted diseases that can be transmitted by bareback fucking. None of them are fun. Additionally bb action can lead to urinary tract infections. Yes, lots of guys are into bareback but this Daddy is old fashioned & seeks guys who are Condom EVERY Time when anal action is involved. I respect guys who are honest about… Read more »
I’m just a few years older than you, Ty, and fully agree. The hard thing is, I go for the younger set and they’re the ones who don’t have the knowledge, experience and smarts we have to play safe.
That’s one reason I haven’t anything to do with the younger set. They haven’t the knowledge/firsthand experience of the horrors of HIV/Aids; how it ravages the body; like those of ‘us’ who had just come out (80′) as a 19yrs old, essentially, had to witness from the literally dozens of very young men. It’s like those old 50′-60’s films in Driver’s Ed class of the car accidents without seat belts, only this was real-time, in front of our eye’s, our best friends, etc. I simply cannot imagine, having to be on a pill, either, to stay alive, it’s just being… Read more »
Two of my buds are younger (30s). They both say they seek older guys because their peers are immature, selfish, entitled, etc. They much prefer older guys because they are thoughtful, considerate, and life experienced.
Yeah, I adore these types too, they remind me of myself; I had been attracted to handsomely older men since childhood.
I hate saying this, ’cause I really feel it; I think it may have been daddy issues . . . as there wasn’t in the home, missing what I never had, perhaps.
Time cures most things, though. I see an older handsome grey-haired man, still, the best fit, I don’t want to, feel like, I’m fathering anyone.
Finding the young ones who totally “get it” about being safe (as in, condoms ONLY) isn’t easy, but they are out there. I employ a fairly simple methodology for when I get into chats with them about hooking up: I casually ask “so do you ever fuck without condoms?” Any response other than an emphatic “no way!” or “never!” and I bid them adieu.
Anybody, for that matter, but yeah, agreed.
Yes, any age of course. I’ve been successfully using a4a for a good 20 years and the beauty of the site is how you can maintain an ongoing dialog with others. I feel like you can never ask enough very specific sexual questions; in fact, a number of guys on occasion have told me to f*ck off for asking too much. I write those off along with the ones who are not in the condom-or-forget it category, because they’re likely unwilling to reveal their unsafe activity.
In a word, narcissistic. I know just what you’re saying. One guy on here said, I was waiting to have sex with you before I told you my status: HIV+, he came really close to becoming seriously-maybe permantly injured, pure rage.
I’ve had several 100 bj’s with no rubbers. I’ve been topped once bare back and it felt so good. The guy never came at all. He can’t cum for some reason. He can’t cum from bj’s or jerking either. But his bare skin in my ass felt really good. He is the only one I’d trust. He’s clean and tests bi-yearly. And I do too. I’d love to feel a hot load to see what everyone is talking about, but can’t happen. Oh well.
Yeah I def enjoy the safety prep offers but I still prefer safe play with random hookups. Even for regulars I prefer . Tired at my age being in front of a physician getting treated for an sti and also with other things like genital warts don’t want my dick untouchable. But also i am big on a clean hole, yea hiccups happen but if you just don’t even take the time to prep then I’m not going in. I don’t hook up a lot now either because a larger amount of guys are like raw or nothing .
I still continue to believe in condom use. Yes, even with all the medical improvements i.e. prep it doesn’t matter. STD’s are still around.
One big YUP
Are you using condoms for oral? If not, your argument holds no water as those STI’s can also be spread through oral.
This is why I’m only into masturbation/frottage these days given my local, they’re just playing tag here, basically, now you’re it or “have it.”
With every decision you make, you engage in a *relative* risk assessment. You run a chance of dying in a crash every time you get in a car. The fact is that, under most circumstances, HIV is much more difficult to catch through just oral sex. The other STDs vary from organism to organism.
I rarely see a guy on A4A that will wear a condom. 5 years ago it seemed to be the reverse. I was strictly condom only until I tried BB. I haven’t had a condom in me in a couple of years.
I love all the false sense of security that a condom gives you guys, the first time I got chlamydia was during a condom encounter before I started PrEP. I have been taking PrEP for more than 5 years – love and prefer bareback – condoms chafe. But that said, due diligence must be exercised – I am tested for STDs monthly and have had chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis once each in the 5 years. If you are going to have sex – you need to get tested regularly – my experience has been those that don’t think they need… Read more »
I’v not had anal or oral sex, since leaving my ex’ and hometown of Minneapolis in 03′ for these reasons, masturbation/s only, a very ‘hardline’ action to take, but it’s essential for maintained good health, naturally.
I love giving my holes for guys to use raw … sometimes I take several loads a day… in the moment it’s hot and I like being used like a slut… but I’m nervous till I’m tested. … on prep but don’t want to catch other stuff
I actually completely agree. At one point I had syphilis, gonorrhea, and chlamydia at the same time. Since then I’ve been more cautious, but also more reckless considering I’ve gotten all three again, just not simultaneously
BB only for me. I hate the way condoms feel, as top and bottom. Although I am now about 99% bottom, in the days of topping, I would instantly go soft the moment I put a condom on. As a bottom, condoms feel funny in my hole, and are more apt to pull hair. I am aware of the risks. But let me tell you guys, unless you’re doing everything, including oral, with a condom, there’s always a chance. You can get STI’s from oral only. I’ve had guys tell me that’s not true, maybe because they are in denial… Read more »
That’s all everyone does these days. Granted I only Top one person currently.. and that’s all we do. I don’t sleep with anyone else but not sure if they are… Prep has made it easier to have bareback and not worry so much about HIV. I definitely wouldn’t recommend doing that with multiple people though.
Having been a teenager in the 80s, condom use was drilled into me. As a young man struggling to accept my sexuality in the early 90s, tops refusing condoms drove me deeper into the closet. As a middle aged man today, I am happy to have never had an STI, but also regret not having a chance to explore my homosexuality in my youth because of that fear. But a few years ago, I had a chance to let go and finally bottomed bareback and immediately understood why it is so popular. Since I don’t play around that much, I… Read more »
My ex’ was the last one I got to experience that with, it ‘was’ exceptional sex. Those days are long gone.
I’ve had thousands of hot fucks all over the planet. I’ve also had STI’s and don’t regret any of them. They were easy to cure. But for 20 years now I have avoided any STI’s, by using a straw and hydrogen peroxide to flush my dick slit out after sex. NEVER have gotten a STI by doing this. They actually are promoting antibiotics for STI avoidance now (taken right after sex). But I’m sold on my straw method.
You’ll never touch me with a condom which is why I won’t have intercourse with 99% of the men on here. I wouldn’t trust the lot of you to sit the right way on a toilet seat.
Lmao, you sound a lot like me in that respect, no way, not me.
With the understanding of the large trend towards BB, I think a more helpful article will inform of ways to maintain your health while practicing BB. Steps one should take.
Lived through and survived the 80s and 90s so bare backing flagrantly is anathema to me. We tried to spread the knowledge but you can lead a horse to water… anal cancer is deadly. Just saying.
well i do get tested every 6 months an love the feel of a unwraped cock
If I see BB in a profile, I block it. Probably why I don’t get much action, but just not worth it.
I Understand
When I see BB in a profile, I just move along quietly.
When I’m hit up by a guy with BB (or Depends*), I pass.
(*Depends … really? If it Depends, it’s going to be BB.)
Doxy PEP (post-exposure prophylactic using Doxycycline) is an option. I haven’t used it yet, but should I have condomless sex with a new partner, I have filled my prescription and will have a line of defense against STI’s.
Bareback only. I want all loads in my cumhole.
The delusion, lack of personal responsibility and accountability is really telling in these comments….Even if the cdc said if you bb you die, there would be some clown lined up ready to take loads and die right after. The “feeling” isn’t worth it, on top of no one should want crap on their cocks and cockhole. How is that hot? Bb guys love to fuck anything that walks and they’ll always tell you they’re “clean”. Play with fire and get burned, especially the married guys. Then your wives can get burned too. But who cares right? You had that great… Read more »
I get check ups with my doctor every 6 months…I refuse to suck a dick with a rubber on it….. fucking bareback is ok… but if he wants to use a rubber it’s ok…nothing feels better than a big huge raw dick sliding deep in my ass..
After 2 years of a pandemic, the idea that guys don’t understand how diseases and viruses spread and can mutate is annoying. And, there are strains of STIs that aren’t easily treatable and can have serious complications.
I’ll ask if you’re wearing mask today, because similar statements can be made about COVID. Gay men have on average 80+ partners every year. It’s sort of who we are. You can own that and deal with it, or be in denial. I’m not downplaying your statement. I’m not in a bathhouse bent over with a scorecard pen and a bottle of lube, either. This contrast is to help you understand that your safety is your responsibility and the risks can be cut mightily, even without condoms. Nonetheless, I respect your choice. Just keep your pants on while you’re around… Read more »
Only BB now but I’m already positive-undetectable. So there’s no need to wear a condom for HIV. Yes there are plenty of other STIs out there and most can be transmitted by oral. Most of those are somewhat easily treatable. So with HIV not on the table, and almost anything else is treatable, raw is the only way for me.
And U=U. Sadly, many guys do not understand this. Oh, and my favorite thing in a profile? Be clean. Um, fuck off, HIV is not dirty, it’s a disease. My ex of 16 years was PozU and I never contracted HIV. Why? Because it’s literally untransmittable if you’re undetectable.
I am a gay bottom and I love sex. I usually usually chose safe sex.. It’s a 6 hour drive from West Tn to Knoxville. I am a faithful foot ball fan and I usually try to go to a couple game every year…couple years back no one wanted to go so to save money I made arrangemens to ride the football bus to the game. There is no such thing as a cheap motel in Knoxville during foot ball season.. I made friends on the bus trip with 3 guys…we agreed to share a room and save money…it didn’t… Read more »
Very hot story showing the thrill and beauty of bareback sex.
Nah, as much as I want it to be, it’s NOT a perfect world out there. That said, for me recieving my guy, my exclusive guy… au natural, is a very profound and intimate thing, way more than just fulfilling our needs in a sexual way, thats fine of course, but when he and I orgasm together and he leaves his essence with me, it states and reinforces our bond, trust and commitment to each other in as much as our mutual decision to share that kind of intamacy. In my opinion, and only as this pertains to me personally,… Read more »
You have to be who you are. The scale of who’s actually taking raw loads and who are not is vast and wide. Male-male attraction and sex is one scale, where monogamy is another. I like to get guys off, Note that it’s guys, not just one. Group sex is my happy place, a place where not many of us like to go. I live there. Yes, I’m on PrEP and have been since it was in research. Yes, I’m tested frequently and remain STD-free through both mindfulness and luck. But the HIV part… had to be a fact, and… Read more »
You’re not covered for a vast array of diseases that are transmitted via skin-skin contact, some deadly.
Didn’t say I was. I’m tested frequently, as mentioned. I’m a promiscuous gay man. The average partners for people in my profile are 80+ every year. It’s who we are. You’re unlikely to be that way, and we each act according to our sense of responsibility.
I sucked a guy from NYC and ended up with throat cancer from the hpv that he obviously carried. Now I won’t even suck without a condom. So many guys are clueless about the STDs that are out there. Cancer is not fun.
I prefer to use condoms even being on prep. But I’m in the minority. I’m saving bb for a relationship or hook ups I really want only. It’s not for just anyone.
Am a total bottom, and I perfer guys BB me.. I do get tested every three months and on the blue pill. If a guy ask to use a condom, I reply, we are not a match.. and move on..before I hook up with any guy, he knows before we start playing that I only get f… BB
There are too many STDs out there and until I know a man’s status, it’s going to be condoms only. Prep doesn’t stop everything. As much as I enjoy feeling his hard meat skin to skin, bb is for bf only.
With BB, I need to know if the guy is telling me the truth regarding being tested, on prep and all the necessary questions if one is being sexually responsible. Many guys online do not tell me the truth. For me, getting gonnorhea is a huge deal, as is Chlamydia and all the other lovelies that come with f barebacking. I’m in Milwaukee where we had one of, if not the largest perecentage of infections for syphillis and a couple others. I hooked up with the wrong guy and tried fucking him but could tell he was lying. My dick… Read more »
My general experience with other men is condom free. Yes I’m familiar with AIDS, STD’s and STI’s. So far after many years of testing no diseases. One, I’m not promiscuous and rather selective in my friends and partners. Two, I ask prospective partners about their sexual histories and behaviours. That provides a clue to my decision making. I’ve turned down many men due to my perceptions and careful listening to what they tell me. Seems to have worked so far. Use sensible judgement rather than thinking purely with your horniness and sexual drive. My “Vulcan-like” approach has saved me from… Read more »
I’ve had the same FB for over 8 years. We both get tested every month. We are both versatile…so I BB him and he returns the favor. We are both on PrEP…and have no other partners. (He is divorced with 2 children). LOVE having his raw cock in me…skin on skin.
I can’t use a condom while having sex because my tool is big and when I use a condom I feel nothing. I have sex with trustful people only.
LOL – what does a big tool have to do with not being able to use a condom? I call BS. You can’t feel anything and don’t like it, be truthful as that is what is real, not due to your size (which I have doubts about anyway).
I LOVED BB and the intimacy of taking a guy’s load. I started out very carefully and generally limited myself to one guy, but last September I let my guard down and BBed with a guy who lied to me. I wasn’t going to let him BB me but he convinced me that he had just tested at work two weeks before. Well, the sex with him was terrible and to make matters worse, he gave me a double whammy… anal Chlymydia and HIV. The CT was easily taken care of with antibiotics, but now I’m stuck taking Biktarvy for… Read more »
Condoms worked in high school, college, graduate school, and beyond. While I love to fuck, having my dick sloshing around in some guys ass uncovered is not that interesting and not appealing. These days, if a guy says he only gets fucked bareback, I move on. No worries. We all make different choices for various and sundry reasons.
Nowadays boys start to do bareback orgy at around 13/14 years…