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Have you ever been called ‘daddy’ by a boyfriend, partner, or hookup, guys? If so, how did you react? Did you like it? And more importantly, how did you respond or call him back?
Perhaps you’ve been called ‘daddy’ too often that you don’t get surprised or feel awkward anymore when someone calls you this, unlike this guy who brought this matter on Reddit to ask readers for advice. He said, and we quote:
So, I have been seeing this guy, and from time to time, when we are texting or talking, he calls me daddy, and I have no idea how I am supposed to answer back. I normally answer like I didn’t hear it. 😅
I am kind of asocial, and sometimes, I don’t know how to communicate appropriately with others. I feel weird calling him baby since I only call that whoever is my partner.
Edit: I want to clarify. I personally don’t like or dislike it. It just confuses me because I don’t know what to actually say. And calling him “son” or any variation makes me feel uncomfortable.
One reader replied, “I call them ‘daddy’ back. There are no rules that say two daddies can’t date 😉 I’m a vers switch though. So, boy is also a possible answer.”
Another guy said, “If it makes you uncomfortable I’d ask that he not do that. I personally am not a fan of daddy/son or anything like that.” He added, “I’m not saying it’s bad or wrong but I think sometimes people do it because it’s sort of a trope that is hot.”
Further, one guy suggested, “I like to say ‘boy.’ But ‘boy’ can be problematic in certain situations. Just ask them ‘what do you want to be called?’ It really depends on the dynamic.”
Meanwhile, one guy explained:
You are not obligated to react to that on any level at all! How about you just accept the fact he sees a daddy side of you and let it be? I even called one of my bosses ‘daddy’ sometimes. He’s a heterosexual married man and I was constantly flirting with him (of course in a very sophisticated and creative way) for fun, even his wife enjoyed it…
People don’t say this because they expect something in return, but to express themselves.
Lastly, a man replied that for him, the term ‘daddy’ is nothing but a kind of cute pet name or some sort of a term of endearment that varies depending on his mood. He said, “These names have no other meaning to me than to be affectionate, I can call the same person daddy, baby, boy, honey, dick face, cum dump, slut, love, depending on how I’m feeling in that moment.” He added, “And I don’t mind being called any of that.”
Anyway, the term ‘daddy’ reportedly refers to “an attractive (usually dominant, often older, often masculine) person OR a dominant partner who provides discipline, caregiving, and/or mentorship in a BDSM context.”
There you go, guys! When a gay man calls you daddy, “it means that he finds you attractive and wants to have a sexual relationship with you.” However, it can also “be seen as a compliment or an insult, depending on the context and your relationship with the person,” according to this article.
Having said all that, what about you, guys? Do you love being called ‘daddy?’ Or maybe you’re the one who loves calling your significant other or hookup ‘daddy?’ Why or why not? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
One of my buds is half my age. He works a full time job in Supply Chain and a part time one in Law Enforcement. He’s independent in character. And he’s creative and reciprocal in bed, not tied to any notion of Top or Bottom, Dominant or Submissive. After we had played a few times, he started calling me “Daddy” when we texted or chatted online. Rarely to my face. I’m fine with it. He’s a great FWB and has never asked me for any support, especially financial. But when guys I don’t know have hit me up with “Hi,… Read more »
You would have made a fearsome President of “Panem!
You’re making me “hungry.”
Better “Hungry” than “Snowy.”
I wasn’t trying to give you a “Snow Job” either!
Live in an area that has received repeated bouts of significant snow over the past several weeks (most often falling over night) and own a snowblower. My local buds and I have discussed how we really wish great our morning 45-60 minute blow jobs would be in bed instead of behind our snowblowers.
If you look the wrong way you get a face full of the white stuff regardless of which kind you job blow job
For me it means that my beautiful youngish (35) lover, is going to make love to me. I must admit it was a little weird at first, but he is so good that I can deal with it.
I just explain
expeditiously & succinctly:
I already have a son
I am not looking…
I agree with the term Daddy being used in reference to the older, attractive, dominant man in the relationship or fuck session. I look at it as a compliment from the younger mate. I think it only pertains if the Daddy is dominant in bed. Total domination having his mate worship his sexual abilities.
I am someone who doesn’t like being called daddy especially from someone i have never met.
I’m 63, tall & married to my wife of many years, but fill my physical need for gay sex discreetly on the side. My ideal type is younger (20-plus). Some call me “daddy.” It makes me uncomfortable, but I know it’s a sex role they like to play so I go along with it. If there’s anything I find hot it’s when I’m making out with a a rather petite guy who likes playing the little “boi” role, with me playing the “big daddy” role. But it’s all purely sexual & otherwise I fully agree with Paul & Marcus.
I called my guy Daddy as a term of endearment even though he was only slightly older than me. Any title or name is fine as long as it’s used respectfully. One way to look at it is, a Daddy is more dominant and provides his boy with what he needs in bed. Don’t overthink things. Have fun.
I’ve been trying to figure it all out also. I’ve found that guys that like to be called “daddy” are guys that I find attractive, usually, Masculine , Hairy, Beefy , Hung Men. I don’t mind being a son to someone I feel could control me with his Sentential Kissing and grabbing me because I grab him and if , OOOOOh daddy whispers out of one of us, that’s just what it is. I did visit a friend with a sling and play room. I was really getting into him or him into me when I yelled , pound me… Read more »
“daddy, baby, boy, honey, dick face, cum dump, slut, love”? LOL! It seems that in the gay subcult, to called a slut is not necessarily an insult. Similarly, to be called a real lady is not necessarily a compliment. So… Context, my friends, context.
What tiresome shit. In general, you call a man “Daddy” because he’s your dominant sexual partner– he’s the one who calls the shots, in bed and frequently out of the sack.
If he’s a nelly fag, and uses the term without respect or common sense, it’s a red flag: dump this piece of garbage immediately. It is a term which *only* applies when a proper relationship has been cultured and defined, not a cute term of endearment. It is never to be used unless it has been established that a proper relationship exists (not within fifteen minutes of conversation) and is binding and durable… not a hookup. If someone calls me “Daddy” too soon, it’s a buzzkill, because I know he’s an idiot.
It’s a way to turn me on, it suggests affection.
I’m ok with it given my age, sz, masculinity; but from another man of my age group, it makes me wonder, daddy issues, possibly/ not resolved?
I will be seventy years old later this year, look fifty, am a 100% topman, and I shave twenty years off my age – until after I have sex with a partner. I am ten inches engorged and rise to the occasion as I did at twenty-five. I have never needed, or owned, a cockring. These days, I’m only interested in receptive cocksucking. Most of my lovers are half my age or younger – and many call me “Daddy”. Since they call me Daddy while they’re worshipping my massive hunk of ManMeat, I consider it to be a high compliment… Read more »
This is good
I don’t like to be called daddy i have a son don’t need another !!!!!!!!!!!!
Whether a spontaneous one time hookup, or a life long relationship: communication is key. It’s always ok to ask someone for clarification– where they’re coming from in terms of what they’re saying, as well as why they’re saying it in the precise way that they are. Communicating one’s likes, dislikes, and discussing any areas that might need clarification are both important to express for one’s self AND to take the time to find out about someone you plan to engage with (in conversation &/or in physical intimacy.) It’s ok to ask permission, when you’re unsure if how you’d like to… Read more »
There was a time if someone called me Mr (last name) it seemed awkward. Always thought that was my dad. After awhile is got used to it. When I hit my 50’s younger guys started calling me daddy once in awhile. Again, it felt awkward, as I didn’t identify with the word. I usually date guys younger than me and the word dynamic works. Daddy, boy and son tend to be used when meeting someone whether online or in person or during sex. However, at times it will pop up in everyday conversation or situations. Now at 57 I fully… Read more »
I am a man who enjoys and prefers having sex with other MEN. I am no man’s daddy. I have 3 men currently in My Service. They always and only address Me as SIR.
i guess i don’t mind, UNLESS the dude starts to ask for an iTunes gift card or other stuff that has to do with them dolla dolla billz .. then i gotta retract, hold back and say “ciao ciao honey, i ain’t yo shoogah daddy!”
When I was first called Daddy, it was somewhat disturbing and bothersome. Now after several younger FWBs calling me Daddy as a term of endearment and/or sexual excitement – I find that is has grown to be quite pleasing in most cases. I am fine as long as you don’t call me (Grand)Daddy – even if I am nearly 3 times your age as a couple of my FBs are. And as mentioned, I usually ask what they prefer– Son, Boy, Junior or… Although I take exception – not all Daddies are dominant or top!
I don’t understand the “dad/son” relationship dynamic … I’m not a dad…never wanted kids….can’t imagine a sexual relationship with my own dad or son for that matter. Daddy….Papi is not on the top of my list of dislikes…but …. Honey, Dear, sweetie etc especially from a guy (presumably) I have never met is an immediate turn off! I am attracted to younger guys…online, none of the “real” ones have referred to me as “daddy”. Though some are only interested if there is a ”real” dad/son relationship involved…sooooo confusing
I’ve never liked being called “daddy”. One guy that i met up with constantly called me daddy, even after i politely asked him not to. I literally had to blow up at him and walk out to get him to finally stop.
What is it with some guys? Before meeting with a new partner recently during a multi-day business trip, we had several discussions about what we were into and what we weren’t during sex. Told him anal was off the table. Sure enough, 20 minutes into play, he starts asking to top me. I reminded him twice over the next several minutes about our discussion. Within minutes he starts asking me to top him. I reminded him twice over the next several minutes about our discussion. I then took over, having my way with him sucking his nice cock a long… Read more »
If you call all your playmates Daddy you never have to worry about calling him by the wrong name!
ya got a point there LOL
Lmao, nice one, that’s actually funny.
What does it mean when he calls you “daddy? Duh. It means oh shit–I picked up yet another lazy total bottom who expects me to do all the work .
It touches my heart deeply everytime that my adored and deeply cherished slut calls me his Daddy. I see his sweet face cupped gently in my loving hands, his sparkling eyes in mine before he demurely casts his gaze respectfully slightly downward, offering his lips to his Daddy as I lower my lips to his to taste his sweetness. When he call me Daddy, I only feel his devotion and love. Bruce.
It depends, I’m not attracted to any immature male no matter the age. If a 17yo twinky wants in my pants and calls me “daddy” it is a definitive turn off. I have a couple FWB’s that are ten to 12 years younger and when they call me daddy I know they are gettin the dick they crave during the week.
The author of this article explained it very well nothing to be said or added. I like to be called daddy. I would also like to meet The right daddy❣️
I generally view it as a term of endearment from a much younger guy, and that’s who I find generally uses it. It becomes weird when there’s not an appropriate age difference. Much younger twink bottom seeking older top guys? Cool. Dude within 5-10 years of my age? Awkward.But like others, I struggle with the best response for it and generally don’t use a pet name until I know him more.
I LOVE being called “Daddy”..as it usually means I’m in charge of the situation…and they play by my rules.
Means you’re old… 🙂