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Hey, guys! Do you like men with long hair? Do you find men with long hair hot or not?
We scoured the internet to check what other gay men’s thoughts are on the matter and we discovered they’ve got divided opinions regarding the subject at hand. Others are not a fan of long hair on men at all while others find it hot. Here is what one of them said:
For me, it’s the texture. For straight hair, I think a shorter cut is better, but for guys with wavy/curly/coily hair, the longer the better for me. I think it’s because straight hair is kind of the same as it grows, but seeing the wavy coil patterns of textured hair as it grows is super-hot to me.
In addition, another guy said, “Sam Reid in Interview with a Vampire, compared to his role in the Australian TV show The Newsreader. Brings him up from an 8 to an 11.” Meanwhile, another guy responded, “I like it only if the guy is well-groomed. If I had run my hands through it while I’m on my back it’s a plus.” Read the thread in full here.
Personally, I think long hair doesn’t suit everyone but yes, with the right guy, I love it. I do find long-haired actor Ben Barnes sexy. I mean, did you watch him on Dorian Gray (2009)?
Off the top of my head, I also find 33-year-old South Korean actor Lee Jong-suk sexy with long hair. I watched some of his TV shows like Secret Garden (2010), Pinocchio (2014), and Romance Is a Bonus Book (2019) to name a few and I think that he’s also hot even with short hair.
There’s also Kim Woo Bin who I first noticed on his TV series Heirs (2013) and Uncontrollably Fond (2016). I love this actor so I’m planning to watch his other K-Dramas on Netflix, particularly Our Blues (2022) and Black Knight (2023).
What about you, guys? Do you prefer men with short hair or not? Do you find long hair in men sexy? How do you wear or style your own hair? Comment below!
For me, it mostly depends on the person. Some guys can pull it off and look hot, and some cannot. If you have long hair let it flow, the man bun isn’t a good look. If you need to control it wear a hat. Finally, keep it clean, but don’t spend all of your time prepping your hair. That is just annoying.
I don’t mind if a guy has long hair especially if he is a CD or T.V. or a trans that way when I’m fucking him from behind I have something to give a little pull on to make it more exciting
Just be sure to grab it tightly so you can wiggle the head at your command!
I have long blond hair, with a hint of grey. Being military I had short hair until I changed MOS to a more dynamic career path which allowed long hair when deployed. After several years of deployments I retired and kept my long hair. I think it’s sexy and apparently so do my lovers as they all seem to like running there fingers thru it during an intimate embrace or getting a handful of ponytail when taking me from behind. I’m tall, slender, athletic, swimmer physique so my hair accentuates my build and turquoise eyes. Whether I wear it up… Read more »
Absolutely not! Long hair on guys is feminizing, even if they are muscular. If they want to change gender, there are other ways.
Feminizing according to whom and by what standards are you measuring femininity? I’m Native American and long hair on men is the norm or is widely accepted. I think it depends on where you’re from and what your culture is. Your comment is very Eurocentric.
Agreed, Jamaican ancestry as well as Native American, here. Thanks for speaking up! Asians as well, have a history of sporting long hair, the Greeks had long hair as many Euro-types once wore their hair long.
I think all of the now “ancient people,” men, were much more masculine than in our present day, personally.
Thank you for correcting the ignorance! In many cultures, long hair on men is a sign of strength and masculinity.
I’m glad you jumped on that. I may not have been as nice. So if it’s “feminizing” when a man has long hair does that mean we men should have short tapered hair? I believe men with long hair are masculine and usually more handsome. I wonder is Dalida “butch”.
On this, handsome, exotic Mediterranean looking dude, hell yeah, lmao.
I’ve been sporting dreads for decades now, it’s a real blessing to have a good head of hair, why not enjoy it, flaunt it, like naturally hairy men, love that too.
I think it’s sacrilege; can’t stand completely head to toe hairless guys, I think facial hair even, accentuates a man’s mouth, his crotch area, legs arms, mmm, yeah, freshly shampooed hair smells so sexy, feels good to the touch, just adds more texture, period, guess I’m partial to darker hair though. And when they/we go grey, love it!!!!
LOVE LOVE LOVE a man with long hair. I enjoy running my hands through his hair as we cuddle and make out. Love to flowing down around his face as he’s lying on top of me.
what’s not to like?
Long hair (that’s well-maintained and styled) can be very hot on a guy.
Ben Barnes and Sam Reid are great examples. The Korean actor you posted has decent hair, but he’s just too androgynous to be appealing (IMO).
It depends on the guy and it depends on the hair. In general, no. It seems messy rather than sexy. It’s body hair that is really hot. But on a smooth guy, maybe it’s better.
Depends upon the man. Some men wear long hair and are very sexy. Others do not look good with long hair at all.
A big *NO* !
I am not a fan of long hair on guys. ESPECIALLY those ridiculous, silly looking man buns! Boner killer!
I LOVE long hair–anytime, anywhere!
Nope don’t find it attractive at all.
Just get a Buzz!
However, on the positive side…
a lot of hair can hide a lot of ugly face!
I find long hair extremely unattractive on a man.
I think long hair feminizes even the most masculine men. So I’m NOT a fan unless that is the goal … but he is NOT for me…
I agree 100% !
The guy in the photo in this Blog just doesn’t look feminine to me.
That is because he just took his daily dose of testosterone!
Nope. Medium length/shaggy cuts can be attractive, but long hair is just gross.
Another thing that’s unattractive: ‘woke’ culture. Things like preferred pronouns’, ‘gender fluid’, ‘nonbinary’, etc. are not only extremely unattractive and annoying, but also show a lack of sanity.
As with most stupid trends, the gay community is eating up this ‘woke’ nonsense with a spoon. It’s for that reason that I’ve only dated bisexual men since 2015.
It’s a given, people can be “gender fluid” or “non-binary.” Sexuality is a spectrum with male and female at each end and “neither” in the middle with blends on either sides. People having to announce their sexuality to everyone and everyone is not attractive or reasonable. No random person needs to know who anyone else is turned on by or who they bed with. Worse, is the expectation by some that they be referred to as “they” and who become offended if traditional male or female pronouns are used when they are “gender fluid” or “non-binary.” No one should expect… Read more »
Totally agree, none of that made up BS
It’s all about the guy. Can be ‘yes’ or ‘no’ depending on the overall look, even for the same dude at different times. For me, sex appeal is about much more than any one particular body part lol.
young guys ok…older guys…get Willie Nelson a scissors!
For Me it all depends on the man. I had a co-worker that looked hot as hell with long hair.He rocked the look. Then 1 day he cut it off and i dont know how it happened but he got even hotter with short hair. SO again it all depends on the man
When kept shampooed/clean, looks healthy, AND tied back tightly I like it. When unkept, knotted, and looks dirty, NO WAY!
If it’s clean and well groomed (and not in a man-bun!) then yes, it can be super sexy. Of course much depends on what the entire man looks like and how he caries himself.
I have thick wavy hair and I let it grow out during COVID, the ladies seemed to love it and it looks great, but it is too much work, same with a beard. I hate man buns they really look stupid. To pull off looking great with long hair you have to have strong bone structure otherwise you look like a wimp….
I like ass hair and hair on the crack and crotch hair and chest hair and don’t like long hair on head
It really depends upon the man and how he carries himself. Some guys look great with long or longer hair. Some look like women. Some look like Trog, the caveman. All good, however, because some other guy will find them attractive. As always, one physical characteristic doesn’t make or break a man.
Some of my best buds (I’d say myself as well) wouldn’t win any looks contests. But they “make my toes curl” when we get together because they great men, they’re fun to pleasure and are good at doing it to others.
Upon reading the aversions to long hair, I get it, honestly, we’re visual creatures.
But isn’t that like bald or shaven and hairy muscular men, that walk-talk-gesture femininely?
Being in SoFlo, for the last 20yrs’, I find it so deceptive and a “boner-killer” . . .
I make no snap judgements, but watch their demeanor and listen, first, how they carry themselves with their long hair, as well as their muscular hairy/bodies . . . do this first, then decide if there’s masculinity present.
I enjoy men of all types. Long hair is okay. Naked men are the best.
Long hair is fine. Some guys need it styled. Others are fine with it wild. Pony tails (low down in the back) are fine on guys exercising, lifting, working on their car or yard or home, etc. Man buns … no. Never. Especially not on top of the head. Whenever I see a great looking guy with a man bun I’m like “Dude, why?” Like tattoos. Ok, a couple in the right places is fine. But all over? Guys with tattoos all over look like their kids or nieces/nephews got a hold if them with their box of markers. But… Read more »
Long hair @ my age ANY hair a +
I have been longhaired since 16 ..its an equal reaction to , some go crazy for it and others not so much ..I think for alot its the same age old debate of a trope of either masc or fem..I have historical debates about it & alot dont know ..if we let go of the trope though we’d be better ..I’m still hoping for another longhair out there but time will tell ..I have never had trouble with work & I have always worn loose military fashion for work and its never been an issue ( over the brows, off… Read more »
Long, thick hair is ALWAYS super hot. I think it makes a man look far more masculine. Such always make me hot & moist.
Oh fuck off! That’s the problem with some of you so
fucking judgemental about every fucking thing it’s disgusting! You shouldn’t judge someone based on their hair length or even if they have hair at all! Get a fucking life!
Just a little angry don’t you think.
A valid point, but maybe just a hair judgmental.
There’s only ONE “Long thing” I find attractive on a man!!!!!
Long hair on men does not appeal to me but not because it looks feminine, because to me it looks dated and reminds me of ’80s stadium rock bands. Tina Turner once had a shirtless sax player who was hot as hell with long hair so yes, some men look good that way. The only look I really don’t like is “man buns”. That ain’t the kind of buns I like. To each his own; thank god we don’t all look alike!.
I HAVE NOTHING AGAINST DUDES WITH LONG HAIR or effeminate men just not my thing. EVERY guy I have ever dated has had, clean cut, short well kept hair, the same goes for facial hair. AGAIN THIS IS MY PERSONAL PREFERENCE. I do not care how masculine you are or act, long hair just does not do it for me. Now if it’s just for sex I really do not care.
I AM NOT JUDGING OR PUTTING ANYONE DOWN, AGAIN I AM JUST STATING MY PERSONAL PREFERENCE. WE ALL HAVE THOSE.
Agreed. For some reason A4A puts these binary choices out for us to discuss, and it’s inevitable that some of us are too over the top with responses. Chill out, gang!
Maybe instead of the gang having to chill out, A4A would recognize that in just about all things LGTBQ+ there’s very little binary. Blog topics here invariably focus on a skewed list of topics and push for an either/or response.
How about, in an effort to have Blog topics that are of a more broad interest and that aren’t either/or, A4A conducts a survey asking for Blog topic ideas from A4A members and guest Blog posters? End results would be more Blog traffic because of more appealing/important/interesting topics.
I somewhat agree that it does depend on the guy – some can wear it well – and others not so. If it clean – and it looks good on them then it’s hot and a huge turn on for me. I once saw this guy with gorgeous thick gray hair – long and below his shoulders – nice build – older – I was so hard!
lets get real. this guy could have hair any where he wants and he is still going to be gorgeous.
but not all men will look as good as he does, I agree buns look stupid, and straight hair not so nice either, but if you are sporting the hair do that this guy has and you have his looks, damn call me anytime
I’m in agreement with the “it depends” responders. Same goes for beards, baldness, race, muscularity, body hair, and most of the other subjective things that makes us all unique in our own ways. If you don’t like someone’s looks, look somewhere else. In the end it comes down to the fact that we’re all just people looking for something, whether it’s sex, love, companionship, money, or whatever else…or a combination of them.
No, I don’t like long hair on men. A turn off for sure. Also I like them to be clean shaven.
Not … long hair is awful.
Yes I love long hair on guys but it has to be well styled and groomed. Can be very sexy if it’s is styled properly and not too long. Crazy long hair rocker hair is not a good look
Men have been over feminized since they started putting estrogen in the chicken and make the brass bigger bigger. Now every guys got this man bun (YUCK‼️) and more than most have reported that they like it pulled when they’re being fu$^$d Bit&%
I personally don’t like long hair on guys. It’s a preference. Does that mean I wouldn’t hook up or date a guy with long hair? Not at all, it’s just something I don’t care for but I am not going to judge someone if they like having long hair.