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Hey, guys! Today—November 11—marks Singles’ Day. It’s an unofficial holiday that celebrates people who are, you know, single, not married, as in not in a relationship.
Also called Bachelors Day or Double 11, the celebration traces its origin back to Nanjing University in 1993 and the date November 11 (11/11) was reportedly said to have been chosen because it consists of four 1’s and it represents four singles.
The holiday has become popular not just in Southeast Asia but across the world as well. Specifically, it is celebrated in a number of European countries such as Germany, Belgium, and the United Kingdom. Great Britain reportedly celebrates Singles’ Day on a different date—March 11.
It is said that Singles’ Day “now serves as an occasion for single people to meet, with parties and other social gatherings organized; it’s a popular date for weddings, as well.” Read more here.
Anyway, are you an LTR (long-term relationship) oriented kind of guy, or do you prefer being single?
I personally think that being single has plenty of merits which is why we have a lot to celebrate for and clearly, I am not the only person who thinks so because there is such a thing as Singles’ Day. But at the same time, when a person is in love, you can’t help but want to be with that person forever. That’s love for you. However, if the relationship is just going to be toxic, and if being together means we’ll only both be miserable, then I’d rather be single.
Having said all that, which do you prefer, guys? Being single or being in a long-term relationship? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
I think both have their pros and cons. I have been in multiple 5+ year relationships and have had periods of being single between them. I love the sense of security a relationship brings me. I know that I have someone there that will be there for me when I need them. On the flip side of that, I’ve never really been able to be totally myself in any relationship. I tend to “lose” part of what makes me me in an effort to make my partner happy. So I’ve kind of fallen into an “in-between” where I have someone… Read more »
Totally agree with this!
Sounds much like me. I’m very independent; love living alone, but love to share me period, but only with someone special, I don’t want to live with anyone; even at my age presently. I’d rather take turns at each other’s home every other weekend or so. I don’t like the “Russian roulette” of “hooking-up” so, I love having the trust and love of actually feeling for- emotionally involved with someone and visa/versa. Hell, for me the sex is better even; dynamics of what ‘making love’ is made of, when can actually say and mean it from the heart, “I love… Read more »
The pandemic, its lockdowns, and its constraints on social life proved to me that I cherish being single, enjoy my own company, my books, my music, my PuppyGirl, my tropical houseplants, my tropical fish, and my relationship freedom. I enjoy the sexual talents of many dudes and can’t imagine life any other way. Each has his own strengths and I don’t have to deal with any of their whatever…. I was 100% str8 well into my thirties, divorced, the custodial parent of my son and daughter, and was always totally monogamous – until my early fifties. My great love died… Read more »
Absolutely no doubt – Single.
I’m from Bellevue ne. They all have isolated me and want me to die. I must be too ugly. I feel hopeless. 4028004189
I’ve seen worse but have had much better!
We all can’t be beautiful?
Stop being a horrible human being.
You must be a miserable person and wish to confer that state of being on others.
Come on man! Who is “they”?? Your worth more than that, don’t give up so easy. Your not ugly, and I want you…
Maybe you’re just looking in the wrong places. Most online “dating” sites are not “match.com” but pretty much limited to hookups (I’ve found anyway) That’s not to say finding a LTR isn’t possible, but a “relationship” or “dating” is not an online activity. IMHO. Good luck kiddo… maybe get away from Bellevue NE
well since at least 85%of gay guys dont know the meaning of monogomy and cant keep it in their pants why bother being in a relationship it comes down to most guys dont want to die alone just isnt worth it because someone is going to get hurt
Sorry, but “relationship” and “monogamy” should not be tied together. Of couse, I’m bias as I’ve never understood the antiquated idea of monogamy – it’s one of this wistful, outdated dreams. Gay men need to throw away the concept of monogamy and focus on trust, happiness, and how the other person should complement your life; not losing yourself into someone else. That’s just silly.
Monogamy is just to make sure you are miserable and the relationship will NEVER work….I have NEVER been monogamous, it’s for lesbians and straight people to eventually hate each other.
No doubts, single.
The question tries to make Gay relationships mirror images of Straight ones. They’re not. Yes, some Gay men seek long term monogamy, but they are the minority. A significant number seek only very short term relations or one time hookups. Those are common. Other guys seek friends with benefits where the relationships last for years. Sometimes with one main regular guy; often with several different men simultaneously. The last group is where the majority of Gay men I’ve gotten to know over two decades fall.
media plays a big role here too that has historically reinforced that “happiness” comes from being in a relationship plus puts heterosexual expectations into gay relationships which are very different dating worlds. singles are still not as socially accepted as you’d hope in 2022, I have heard many times “now that you have a partner we would love to invite you to more things with other couples” which creates many problems aside from diminishing your self worth and worthiness of being good enough with just who you are. It seems like when you’re in a relationship you always have competing… Read more »
Monogamous guy here. If you have an open relationship, why even be with that person?
For some guys, their emotional connection as a couple is separate from sex. They see sex as recreational. They may play with others together or separately.
Some see emotion and sex as inseparable. Monogamy in all aspects.
All’s good as long as everyone is in agreement about the rules of their relationships and act accordingly, being especially certain to not enter into or remain in relationships where they don’t.
Because you might love someone with whom you’re not sexually compatible? Is that really so impossible to imagine that you actually had to post this question for other people to answer?
If you only have sex in common, why even have a relationship? Just be fuck buddies.
I’m almost 60, still single and plan to stay that way. Was never in a “close” relationship, just a FWB type for almost 5+ yrs, in my 40’s till he and I decided to move on. He later dated and now is married to a wonderful man. I have always felt I would never be a good partner in a close relationship because of being single for all my life. Today, I look for the hit and miss of cum and go play, but that’s all I need. Enjoy the single life, cum and go and quiet times with out… Read more »
As an anecdote to singleness…
“Two Can Live As Cheaply As One.”
In any relationship you have to ask yourself if the fucking you’re getting is worth the fucking you’re getting…
So single it is.
If you’re with someone and you think you’re “getting fucked” (proverbially, not literally), then you’re in the wrong relationship. Believe it or not, there exists relationships where you can have the literal fucking without the metaphorical kind.
While being single is okay being that you can go wherever whenever for however long is nice…it sucks being alone on holidays & your birthday while seeing others have someone there for them.
Why in the world don you need to be with someone on a stupid holiday?!!! Makes zero sense to me. If you’re lonely, go voluteer. Certainly that’s possible on Thanksgiving and Christmas. Think less about yourself and celebrate the holiday with people outside of your middle class lifestyle. Volunteer at a soup kitchen, a hospital, etc. Jeez….
Soup kitchens are toxic, they just support and encourage death life styles for vagrants and meth addicts. San Francisco has been ruined by coddling miscreants for decades and thousands have died being trapped in the “progressive” leftist drug lifestyle.
I prefer single I would rather just hook up with someone that way there you don’t have to worry if they are cheating on you the only way I would be in a relationship is if they would have no problem play with others also
In a relationship but I think my time has passed.
Both, however, the most important thing is to be content with yourself
If one is not content before being in a relationship, chances are, the person will be dependent of it to be ok and be ok in their own skin.
First things first, figure out who this person is.
Single. Now and forever. 🙂 I had one partner post college and another post grad school; neither relationship was monogamous, which was fine. Each ended for different reasons and had nothing to do with sex. After the last one, I realized I’m better off single. I don’t need a lot of emotional support and frankly, I’m not good at providing it. I like peace and quiet; and coming home to a quiet house and the dog. Lonely? Not even. My siblings and their extended families keep the social and travel life acitve. Friends? A few straight couples and a few… Read more »
That’s why you pay escorts…. to go away.
i have been married 20 years, i am now single and have been for 15 years. i love it, i have time to do the things i enjoy, eat, watch any movie i choose and my dog gets a lot of attention. being in love is a wonderful thing. and being single is just as wonderful to me. to each their own.
Sooo tired of it all! Spent most my life looking for love, only to be lied to and cheated on. Now later in life, we are all looking on the dating or hook-up apps, where everyone there is either married, in a relationship, in an open relationship, in a polyamorous relationship, partnered, EVERYTHING BUT SINGLE. So screw it! I have learned the new norm is: if you meet anyone in the above mentioned categories? They are SINGLE, they just have a “live in fuck buddy”, they will never be happy with anyone they find, even though they have a man… Read more »
In any relationship, there is one who cares about the relationship more than the other. It matters which one you are. If you are the one who cares less, a relationship is the best. If you are the one who cares more, its debatable which is the best. I have been married to a wonderful man who cares more for 28 years and yet I can still do pretty much as I like, as if I were single. Having your cake and eating it too is wonderful. The world is full of cake and I never run out… In fact… Read more »
Being Single versus being in a relationship, which would I prefer? I believe its all about timing and what is manifesting in your life. If i m in a stage in my life where I must dedicate time to better my fiuture then I’m not getting myself put in that position and unfairly half ass someone’s emotions or mess with my own! I prefer I pick the right time,like theres a time to eat and time to play,so there also the right time to focus the necessary time that it must consist of ,to give someone my all,which is time… Read more »