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Are you fond of sending dick pics, guys? If so, at what point do you send dick pics and naked selfies? A month after regularly chatting or texting with the guy and you want to change the dynamics between the two of you? Or right after you guys exchanged hellos? Or is it when you two are already in a relationship? Most importantly, why do you send dick pics, and do you send one even if the other party has not requested it?
We also have a question for Adam4Adam blog readers who dislike sending dick pics: do you like receiving them instead? Do you request/ask for it? Moreover, do you consider receiving unsolicited dick pics a form of sexual harassment?
We are bringing this up because recently, California has unanimously passed Senate Bill 53, or the cyber flashing bill.
Cyber flashing is defined as “the act of someone using the internet to send an image of their naked body, especially the genitals (= sexual organs), to someone that they do not know and who has not asked them to do this.”
Simply put, those who receive unsolicited or unwelcome “obscene material” could sue its senders once the bill is signed into law by California Gov. Gavin Newsom. “Obscene material” means:
material, including, but not limited to, images depicting a person engaging in an act of sexual intercourse, sodomy, oral copulation, sexual penetration, or masturbation, or depicting the exposed genitals or anus of any person, taken as a whole, that to the average person, applying contemporary statewide standards, appeals to the prurient interest, that, taken as a whole, depicts or describes sexual conduct in a patently offensive way, and that, taken as a whole, lacks serious literary, artistic, political, or scientific value.
You can read the entire bill here.
According to Queerty, the “law wasn’t really meant to stop all sexytime flirting on hookup apps.” They added that the bill was “initially passed to stop two types of cyber flashers: those who use local networks to drop graphic sexual images onto the smart devices of everyone in close proximity, and those who send unwanted pictures of their junk as a form of online sexual harassment.” Read more about it here.
A report by Pew Research Center in 2017 said that more than half or 53% of women aged 18-29 received unsolicited explicit images, while 37% of men in the same age range were sent explicit images they did not ask for. Check their study in full here.
If you wish to learn more about cyber flashing and which states have passed or are preparing a similar bill, read here.
Not really such an issue as unsolicited smiley faces from fukkin Russian Twinks that don’t take no for an answer.
Same for repeated hits from numerous profiles supposedly from Kern county CA and Sedgwick county KS where the sender has for sure not read my profile.
The “APP Users” are a plague on this site and they are from Kanas, Manhattan, Civic Center, Africa, et el.
Their pics are “Manneristic,” and their profiles write of looking for the “Perfect Partner” with whom they can live a long, cherish life!
I get the smiley faces from those young Russians, some Texans, and Sedgewick, KS too. I don’t think any of them are real people and always delete and block them. Unfortunate they’re able to get on a4a at all.
You are spot on! And WHY Adam4Adam, with their sophisticated algorithms etc. cannot eliminate the SPAM originating from Kern County CA. and Sedgwick County KS. is completely BEYONE ME .Frankly I think they don’t want to eliminate it, but this is one of the reasons I switched to Grinder and rarely log on here.
Ever since the site was sold and revamped, the locator has been so far off. I’ve sent numerous messages to the powers that be, but nothing has been addressed.
I don’t reply at all to profiles that are less than a month old. The fakes are easy to spot – always far away in distance, always “upscale and honest”, with airbrushed photos stolen from instagram, facebook, twitter etc. Often there is a hillarious mismatch between the pic and the stated body weight and height. Sometimes I fuck with them and ask for more fake photos for my collection – guess I’m a “pic collector” LOL
HAHAHAHA!
. . . It happens, but I tend to get ass-pics that I never asked for, it’s like getting junk email/physical mail, I hate it, mostly. But sometimes, first thing to see in the morning a beautiful plump-firm hairy or smooth one; while in boxers can be better than my typical ‘first thing in the morning’ double-black espresso, lmao, but yeah, it’s pretty cheap, really. I must be on the conservative side, sexually, ‘if’ there is a good connection verbally; we’ve seen each other’s face pic-body shot/s somewhat dressed, read each other’s profiles (provided you even wrote one and read… Read more »
So this question is being asked on a page that has ads from sponsors of erect cocks wearing various playthings?
Get real. I’m happy to send mine out, my primary pic on A4A is my erect cock and I love receiving cock pics, especially twink cock pics. Ass pics once in a while are welcome, but my primary interests are penis oriented so send’m on. One’s with a drop of precum on the tip are particularly welcome.
“Get real” who the fuck are to tell me; of a classic age, who has seen much? I’m not looking for dick, yo, aight, got that, good! “Sex sells” I get that, but still find it cheap, catering to the lowest common denominator dick or ass in your face. I LOVE to see a man’s face, his eyes, reading them accordingly, sex is just too easy, still, for me to obtain. So, I’ve taught myself, go for something more elusive, not bloody obvious . . . this way, no buyer’s remorse, don’t be sold on dick alone, hell, might not… Read more »
Dude, I speak for myself, I like something left to the imagination; wear something sexy. I look for dates leading to relationship, I’m not serial sex’r, I think if that’s what you’re looking for, fine, but not me, how’s that for “getting real?”
I’m not lookin’ for a total bottom, nor a total top, either; these people seek each other out, again, fine . . . there’s too many dick-hounds; ass hounds, I want more than that.
can’t get enough. however, never send me your hole pic.
Of all the stupid bills our idiot state legislature has enacted! This one is even more stupid than the waterbed legislation it enacted decades ago. One hopes the governor has the sense to veto. Scarce public resources can better be spent on real problems. This sounds like something pushed by females who are not ready for their own feminist rhetoric and need “help” to deal with the masculine world. Puritanical hysteria. And some gay guys are also objecting to dick pics? Hello? Better turn in your gay card: Ever hear about the “Don’t look” technique?
Unfortunately, your governor doesn’t have the sense God gave little green apples.
I always get asked for my pictures if /our asking yeah I am sending.if more people would take time to read profiles .we all might learn something about someone
When a guy hits me here, I check his profile. All too often his is weakly filled out or has information that makes it CLEAR we don’t match. I’ve taken to just not responding. Responding and nicely saying “we’re not a match” usually went badly.
I’m glad that over the years I’ve met some truly wonderful guys here that are still part of my life.
So does this mean that the countless times I’ve sent dick pix unsolicited on adam4adam I’ve broken the law? Wow, I must have 35 years to life in the pokey awaiting me! And what about the many dick pix that reside visibly on mine and many others’ profile pages? Isn’t the facilitator (a4a) guilty of something here?
It’s unsettling, to a point. It’s also highly irritating. I don’t want to see your dick, and if that’s what you consider a personality trait, move on. Those big dicks are connected to even BIGGER dicks, and they don’t make for very interesting sex or chat partners. “Hey, everyone; my dick is huge! I’m going to send you five pics of it, even though you never asked for them, and then get pissed when you ask me why I sent them to you, because I’m a gigantic douchebag who doesn’t give two shits about others!”
California, the State of “feel good”, “look! 🙂 we did something” laws that have little reach, are next to impossible to prosecute, that are low enforcement’s priorities, and for which law enforcement has no time or staff to even think about working on.
This is the State that just said “electric vehicles only (can be sold) as of 2035”, but also announced at the same time “electric vehicle owners should limit recharging because the State’s power grid is insufficient.”
Unsolicited Dick Shots are sent out as an enticements to offset the – inevitable – unattractive face/body realities. We gays always seem to think that only a dick and or an ass matters, when the reality is: most of us need to be attracted to what both the dick and ass are attached. Most of the unattractive fetch their pics from outside sources – never – from inside sources. It’s all a game and anyone who suppresses intellect for unsolicited dick or ass shots, deserves to be disillusioned or grossed-out upon the fateful encounter! You play – sans logic –… Read more »
Once you’ve seen your first 25 Cock shots or Ass shots, the 26th cock or ass shot looks about the same?
It is all relative: the move you see – the more the familiar?
Great Post!!!!
I was being realistic about the efficacy of Genital shots.
Porn is predictable and predictability renders the evitable: boredom.
Familiarity breeds contempt!
I’m an old school top, I can’t get into today’s porn. They have no skills, too much one stroke only. I agree it gets boring real fast.
Dick pics with obvious warts.. Can’t unsee that.
I would rather see a dick pic rather than an Ass pic
The GAPING HOLE (wide open dark tunnel) is a total turnoff for me. Enjoy if you like it.
What I can’t stand is profiles (mostly on Grindr) that complain about such pics before you even send one, and they’re usually trannies.
Hypersensitive, woke, are you kidding, snowflake, bullshit, be more sex positive and less sex shaming, it’s the 21st century and we have WAY WORSE PROBLEMS that need dealt with other than cyber nudity, take a breath church ladies. if u have to couch your pearls to be online, maybe ya shouldn’t be online
I always welcome dick pics; I wish would get more. I love dicks (and balls) – I like looking at them, sucking them, tasting them, rubbing them, smelling them, making them cum and feeling them in my mouth and up in my butt. My favorite thing is to pull down a man’s underpants and seeing his dick for the first time. Can’t get enough!
I get sent a fair amount of dick pics sent to me and I don’t mind at all; in fact, it helps cut to the chase for me–I’m a DL bottom and cock is ultimately all I’m really interested in when it comes to hooking up, so it makes a big difference to me what it looks like…sure it’s great if they’re a cool dude, and I suppose it’s a bonus if they’re good looking, but a cool, nice-looking dude with a cock that’s not appealing to me is still a pass; just like someone who may not be super… Read more »
I think the operative word here is “unsolicited”. If I want to see ANY photos, of ANY of your parts (face/dick/ass included), I’ll ask. Otherwise do not presume that you know what I want to see. Today I kindly asked a guy I’ve been chatting with for a week for a photo in casual clothes, because the only one I’d seen of him was in a suit. He promptly sent one that was so cute I wanted to hug the monitor, lol. So, be considerate, read the room, do not impose. EDIT: By the way, HE asked for a photo… Read more »
Love big photo big dick big had big balls
Send ’em to me! I’m not going to complain about seeing cock. Bonus points for big and uncut, and if it’s a softy uncut that shows the foreskin completely covering the head, I’m going to drool like who knows what.
When I like it,I like it. What I don’t like is when it’s a profile photo, or an asshole. But I want to see what I might play with. It certainly doesn’t bother me, because I dismiss it. If I can’t take it, I shouldn’t be on a raunchy site.
what’s next? putting clothes on all animals with exposed genitals so weak-hearted humans won’t pass out if they catch a glimpse of a horses phallic or a female dogs vagina etc… I think it only becomes a problem if a person doesn’t take no for an answer and they keep on sending illicit pics.
To me it depends on if the picture is sent via text or an app/site. Text, I don’t appreciate as they’ll flash on my locked screen (not so good in the workplace). Any other method and I’m fine if not great with it. If I’m not liking the message, I’m judicious with the delete key.
Dunno….I sort of like getting the dick pics in an app. I can delete the ones I don’t like, and save/file the ones I do like (for later viewing ) Especially love the small chubbies. On a few occasions, they’ve turned into nice little anon snacks
While the ICAC (Internet Crimes Against Children) is legit… ICAC – Internet Crimes Against Children Task Force Program (icactaskforce.org)… there are also scams around sites like adam… Be VERY careful with who you share dick pic’s with… especially on your phone text. ”It involves someone posing as an officer from the Internet Crimes Against Children Task Force known as ICAC, and asking for money. The Utah Attorney General’s office said they’ve received several reports about this task force scam, described as disturbing by a task force official.” Sadly this is happening in all states.
I think its an integral part of any dating or pick up site.
“Unsolicited” nothing says “I’m just out for who/what I can get” like a dick or ass pic, unsolicited. I still think, actually going out to your locale watering hole (no pun here, honestly) was is/tops, honestly. I’ve seen, purchased items online; (looking at the pics) with buyer’s remorse. True story on this site: a heavy-set Latin dude open his pic without even a hello; big fat pimpled ass, his profile says his is HIV+. I said to this man, “I didn’t ask to see your ass, man” he tells me “I’m really into blk dudes” – “that’s you’re intro, really,… Read more »
They lack communicative skills… this is their way of say hello. Now what???
Exactly, non-articulating types.
Gavin Newsom is my measuring unit for insane “democrat” stupidity. If you don’t like the dick pic, simply ignore it and/or block. Playing the victim card has become trite already! Meanwhile, real problems such as war, inflation, gas prices, homeless, crime do not get addressed by Newsom …
I like looking at dick pic only thing better is sucking on them
I dont like the infinate song n dance some on the date site play. We are all men on the site to join with another man. I want to cut the needless corespondance and see if we are intrested in one another. Pics, yes, lets get to the point of the message.
So… What is Adam4Adam then? The whole site is nothing but ‘unsolicited’ dick pictures in the form of ADVERTISING. And every time I move to a new page, a second page automatically opens up with either a advertisement for porn or an invitation to interact with someone in “Live Chat” (who is probably either masturbating or showing off his dick.) Hell, even the ads for Prep show guys actively fucking–and this is ALL UNSOLICITED. Really guys–we are all here on a Gay SEX HOOK-UP SITE ultimately cruising for sex (lets be honest about it.) What a waste of energy to… Read more »
I rarely send a dic pic out of the blue to somebody I haven’t already been chatting with. I don’t mind receiving one either. A4A is a hook up site and “marketing” strategies help in the numbers game that is cruising. I especially like it if there is a follow up get together. Some guys want the all the effort to date or enjoy romance. I will admit that if a hook up led to a friendship I would go with it. There is something nice about being able to simply go over to a guy’s house without making an… Read more »
A bad idea to send a dick pic unsolicited by the other guy. Now the right wing pols are threatening to make sending a dick pic via the Net a crime unless the other person requests one. So be careful if you live in a Red State like Texas or Florida. The other problem with sending a pic is that you could be making that the major focus of the conversation, which is fine if you’re just looking for quick sex, but not if you’re looking for something more. I’d prefer, even if I’m just looking for sex, to unbuckle… Read more »
I feel strange when someone has no pic and barely anything written in their profile, yet they want to ask and expect me to answer their questions. I want to see a guy’s face pic. If we can’t start there I lose interest super fast. It’s cool if guys ask first before sending naked pics. I don’t ask for them if I plan to hook up with a guy. Getting naked with him is an appealing part of hooking up. I have learned one thing. The more pics I get from someone and the more they request of me, the… Read more »
I’d much more like to see a guy’s dick than a closeup picture of an asshole or someone’s foot.
I just got slammed by some prude wanting to get dp’ed for opening my pics. What a fucking hypocrite. You’re in a fuckin goddamn gay hook-up site, half the profile pics are dick pics. These guys looking for true love and that magic of falling in love after dating for months just need to go to pay sites designed for whatever delusional fantasy they want to believe in. The white picket fence crowd should just stay the fuck out of sites like adam or grindr if nudity offends them.
personally it makes that person seem desperate. But that is just my opinion
I dont mind dic pics… if someone ask for mine i dont mind sending… if they ask me not to send them a dic pic I wouldnt.. its all out there anyways you will see their dicks on some site they forgot they put it on.. This is 2022 really, they have to have a law such as a dic pic law.. I can understand it if i were in high school or grammar then yeah i would have a problem but being an adult i dont see the problem.. Politicans needs to get real and clean up after their… Read more »
Dick is dick…so what!
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Both, but so long as the butt pic is of someone standing up. I have both types in my profile, because I know how to use both.
I have no problem showing my face but I show my cock pic cause a lot of guys don’t like uncut cock so to keep the B/S down I am upfront from the beginning