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Hey, guys! Is there such a thing as blowjob etiquette that every guy should follow when giving or receiving head? I encountered a question online that is somewhat similar to this, which admittedly made me curious, hence, my reason for bringing this up to you.
If you do a quick Google search on blowjob etiquette, you will get 82,700,000 results. Yep, that many, so we will try to summarize and delve into what both the magazines and the gay men on Reddit say about the topic at hand, and tips that we agree with. Check out some of them below:
If you are on the receiving end of the blowjob, one guy reckons (and some of the magazines I’ve read agree with this), that you should inform your partner when you are about to come. One Reddit user, named sergeantorourke, advised, “Relax and enjoy it. Tell him what you like as he goes and by all means tell him when you’re close to cumming so he can avoid a mouthful or be ready for one ;)”
Another one is consent. Is it something that you both want to do? Because, you know, a blowjob shouldn’t be a chore; it’s an act that you both should enjoy doing. This point is also kind of related to communication. A Redditor named pacsatonifil said (and we agree immensely with him), “Talk to him and ask what he wants. Both of you should be communicating.”
Most importantly, if you are the one receiving head, you should keep your hands active, but most certainly please do not fiddle with your phone and browse your social media accounts while your partner is blowing you. User frankyfudder advised that you and we quote:
- Gently caress his face/hair
- Rub his shoulders gently
- Gently wrap your hands around his neck
- Hold his head and guide him
This particular user actually has many other useful tips including making use of our voice by moaning, telling him it feels good, etc., and making use of our eyes by staring at our partner. Read the thread in full here.
What about you, guys? What do you think are the rules one must follow when giving or receiving head? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
I tent to hold his head. If we’re in a 69 then I let my hands explore his entire body, paying particular attention to his lower back and ass.
I’m not sure if this pertains, but while I’m getting head I don’t like to be standing. Sometimes while I’m standing, guys will drop to their knees and start giving me head. After a few seconds, I tell them that I have to sit or lay down. I feel more relaxed sitting or laying on my back receiving head. I see guys in porn standing receiving head all the time.
Maybe the porn guys don’t really care for it either, but they normally end up sitting or fucking so it might just be to prolong the action
I don’t know M.J. They usually end up busting a nut standing so I’m thinking some guys really enjoy it that way.
I totally agree with you. I can’t relax standing up. Cheers to the guys who can.
I feel similarly. I think this is biological. When standing, your legs need blood flow to stand, so some of that blood stays in your legs, instead of “all” going to your hard cock. I do like to start off standing while a guy blows me, because it is very dominant. Then after a few minutes, I’ll lead the guy to my bed so that I’m laying down while he sucks me off.
I would love to service you just like that.
When I am giving head I tell the guy to grab my head and hold me or shove it down my thought. i only go down on guys when I want to swallow them.
Um…that actually for me I do prefer that the guy actually ignores me by going on to browse the net on his phone, or reading the paper, or otherwise pay attention to something other than me. There’s something hot about enjoying the cock without being scrutinized or judged. In fact I asked the guy to actually try to ignore me because the hottest part is when my mouth feels so good to him he can no longer ignore me!
I totally understand,, I’m a DL bottom and I have a top who loves for me to suck him while he watches TV,the game,, he like forme to slow suck him but he doesn’t allow me to use my hands at all. Just keep his dick in my mouth the best way I can,sometime he’ll hold my chin and feed me his dick while I look up at him then sometimes he’ll beat it against my lips,,,,when with women I love to lay on my back and get sucked,,, when with men I’m a total bottom and I don’t allow… Read more »
Tell him what he’s doing wrong or right. Caress his hair, but don’t pull it or grab and hold his head or ears or cheeks.
I leave my hair long just so he can grab it with both hands and pull all he wants.
Definitely, don’t hold my head and guide, force and physical manipulation with your hands.
I love just the opposite.
I’m with you Stormguy
I comment on what’s feeling good. If I’m giving I don’t like to be forced and gagged. Telling the person you are about to come is courtesy unless you are into surprises.
I’m generally on the giving side of the head equation 99.99% of the time, and for the most part I don’t mind what they say or do while I’m sucking them off as long as they are enjoying themselves and it’s not tooooo uncomfortable for me…the one thing I do appreciate though, and that I DO think is “proper etiquette”, is telling me they’re going to cum; I enjoy swallowing, but only for guys I’ve sucked off with some frequency–or at least a few times…never generally the first time or two…most of the time I can pretty much tell when… Read more »
That’s good info JoeB !!
I like it while on my back, I like being on top, I like 69ing; I tend to vocalize/sound, period. Some men don’t like being touched, but depending on the position, I’m touching, caressing or I like something in my mouth; like to taste/touch some part of his anatomy. I think it’s courteous to let them know I’m about to nut; letting me know, too as I do not swallow.
Lay back and enjoy it of course.
The guy I most recently sucked let me know I was sucking him good, let me know he was cumming and encouraged me to swallow his load.
Most guys do a decent job at cock sucking. By nature, I give them positive feedback and encouragement by moans and soft talk when they’re doing a good job. Rare times I’ll need to let them know if they should go faster/slower or harder/softer.
It depends on the mood. If I’m getting head from a sissy queer I prefer to stand with him on his knees and his back to the wall so that he can’t escape as I forcefully take what is mine. On the other hand, if he’s a Vers bttm and enjoys sucking cock I prefer to lay back and let him worship my cock as he sees fit. Getting a blow job is like having a birthday, You are center stage, so enjoy it however you like.
If my cock is being sucked, I am verbal and moan. If he is into being called a cock sucker I’ll do that. I gently hold his head and caress his head or face. I like to be edged and I’ll let him know when I am close so he lets me recover a moment. My moans and breath lets him know when my orgasm is building. If I am the sucker, I appreciate some feedback. I know a couple of guys that just lay there and not until they are close will they make a sound: not appealing. I… Read more »
I prefer to be controlled. Grab my head and throat and make me gag
My last suck was a guy I’ve only been with a couple of times. Once we got horizontal, I took my time kissing him and then kissing and licking his neck, chest, nipples and belly. At that point, I came up, kissed him again and asked “is there anything else you might like?” His reply, “please keep on going!” I then briefly revisited the spots I had touched before and moved down toward his cock. I started bristling it with my facial hair lengthwise starting around the tip and then down both sides to his ball sack and finally taking… Read more »
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I think it’s really important to establish from the onset whether the bj is going to be an appetizer or the main entree. This will set a baseline of what’s to be expected and what’s to come, so to speak. For me, unless the person giving is in the top 1 percent of blow job givers i am generally not interested in getting one..Call it a case of having a partner of 14yrs who only wanted to do that and over supply..I get more offers for BJ’s than I can shake a stick at..I am sure it’s a race thing… Read more »
Absolutely the BJ is the appetizer or dessert Never the main course. If the guy only wants a BJ that is fine, as long as get to swallow his nut.
When I’m giving head, I want his hands on my head, guiding my lips where he wants them. This is all about his carnal pleasure. I want him to moan and thrust and shove his cock in as far as I can take it. He doesn’t have to tell me he’s cumming, I can always tell by the way he’s fucking my mouth and breathing. I can feel his cock pulsing and bulging. If I want him to last longer, I’ll back out and do other things while he cools off a bit. I like to make it last forty-five… Read more »
I usually am giving head and like the guy to comment on how it feels and what he might want me to suck, lick, or tongue. If he talks dirty, that’s also a turn on for me, especially since some like using my Glory Hole and it gives me an indication of whether I’m satisfying them the way they would like.
At 5’3″ love guiding a gent head up and down making sure I’m well pleased with his head-skills, i tend 2 gyrat my hips as I slide in and out of his wet drenched throat. 9″ and bragging!!!!!
Wow, a short with a big cock! That is a great combination. I would love to edge you then pick you up and make love to you against the wall!!
I would enjoy the guy putting his cock in my mouth.. like in the massage table videos…
I have to be laying down on a bed most of the time. If I’m getting head expert he’s getting head too. Nothing better feeling a man’s mouth on your cock while his cock is in your mouth .
I like to give and receive!! If giving I like him to be standing or sitting. I like to be face fucked so him gently holding my head and guiding my mouth so he gets maximum pleasure is my objective!! I will use my hands to rub his body and ass. I will also finger him if he wants. I like for him to give me verbal feedback with moans, groans. And talking to me. I like to be informed as to when he is going to cum so I am ready and do not lose any! I love to… Read more »
I am 55 and have never had a blow job to completion. I am uncut and if my foreskin gets peeled back, I cannot cum.
As with anything sex-related (and beyond), my top rule is that communication is key. I usually like it rough, verbal, intense so important to find a partner who’s into that too. Same for other ‘styles’ or ‘moods’. It’s all about the match so no universal set of rules work.
I yawn, sigh & start filling my nails.
How do I act? Disinterested. I’m in the 1% of men who dislikes blow jobs with a passion. Some guy slobbering over my dick and (usually) biting it at the same time is NOT sexy or erotic. Most guys think they’re great at giving head but they’re not. I’ve never understand the fascination of a dick, but men like them, gay, straight, and in-between. A round ass? Great calves? Big forearms? Count me in! 🙂 I like to fuck. I have zero interest in another man’s dick. Rhetorical question: Why do most men have to use their hands when giving… Read more »
I enjoy it! How else should I act?
When I’m Giving Head, I enjoy being on my knees…as he stands. It gives him a sense of power and I enjoy verbal encouragement from him as well..I also enjoy reaching up to tweak his nipples…I love to have a man feel powerful over me…
i usually just run my fingers thru his hair or gently touch his head if he’s bald, of course, i gotta moan too, and if i really feel excited, i give it a good thrust or two into his mouth .. i’m only 5 and 1/2 anyway so i won’t harm his throat or anything, deepthroating doesn’t apply to me anyway .. 😉 which is good so i don’t choke him at all
If I find a guy attractive enough to blow, I swallow(at least since AIDS concerns have abated…so many handsome guys’ loads wasted). I’ve cum handsfree many a time sucking down some blond god’s load. I like a surprise every so often, I’m ready or your load the moment my lips lock onto your cock. At that point I’m on a mission to drain your essense. Love those quick cummers that can cum more than once, bore easily of guys that are drunk or so high that attaching their dicks to a paint can shaker wouldn’t get them off. I don’t… Read more »
I hate to admit it, but I really do not enjoy receiving oral. And the worst thing about that is, I don’t want to disappoint a partner, so I let them suck me if they want to, but that will cause my dick to go soft.
Usually driving or sitting in the back of a theatre. Occasionally having a meal at a restaurant with table cloths. In the past would be sitting at desk, but with work at home that isn’t necessary
It depends on the skills of the giver… some have that toe curling head… then others I just pull my dick out and dismiss them… nothing worse than an unskilled dick sicker.
I know I’m in the minority when I say this, but…I DESPISE getting head. Hate it; instant turn-off. Having my foreskin intact is an instant double whammy. Both times in the last five years when a guy has tried to give me head, he’s bitten the skin, hard enough to cause bleeding and pain. Rule of thumb: If you’re about to give head to an uncut guy, bear in mind his foreskin is NOT, in fact, a chew toy. So unless he digs pain or is really freaky (different strokes for different folks; I ain’t here to judge) be extremely… Read more »
Damn you have somehow found the wrong guys. Who would be stupid enough to bite foreskin or nipplies. I am cut but love to play with a natural intact man, roll the foreskin back and expose the prize inside and lick and gently suck like a ice cream cone.
Most guys don’t understand that uncut dick is super sensitive either. I like my dick swallowed when i cum…. sad too many want latch on to just the head. OPEN THAT THROAT UP…
Grateful
When a guy is sucking me, I will caress his head and shoulders and arms, moan, give him encouragement, tell him how good it feels. I will also spread my legs wide, offering my ass to be played with. Love to have a finger (or cock) in my ass when I am being sucked. And yes I will issue a warning before feeding him.
Whatever you do, do try to acknowledge the act is somewhat pleasurable or tell your partner what you would enjoy. Mindreading can be so tedious at times.
Unaroused. Oral does nothing for me.
I’ve had more BJs than gave them (and I love giving them). I’ve learned over the many years I’ve received them, that many are not good at it. Those that are, can send you to the moon and back. I also have learned, there is a way to give a good BJ, but also a way to receive one. Lying on my back, legs apart for good access to nut sack. Be totally relaxed. Relax the Kegel muscle like your going to release a urine stream (of course you don’t). Eyes closed and expressing pleasure in moans and groans. This… Read more »