Hey, guys! Is it safe to say that most of us here have been in a relationship or two already? If so, how did they end up for you? Were all your breakups amicable or did it end badly? Or maybe you’re thinking, is there such a thing as an amicable breakup?
More importantly, have you ever regretted breaking up with someone, and is it normal to feel this regret?
Well, we’re bringing this up because we stumbled upon a thread on Reddit but their answers to this question vary. Some of the gay men on Reddit feel that you should think many times before breaking up with your significant other lest you regret it, while others say that the breakup was the best thing that ever happened to them.
Meanwhile, one guy asked the original poster (OP) of the thread to reevaluate and ask himself: “Why don’t you think you have a future with him as a lover? Has anything changed? What about the relationship makes you think it won’t last?”
Personally, I think that the answer to this question is relative to our relationship experiences. But no worries, if you ever did end up regretting the break up with your ex-boyfriend, studies show that it’s perfectly normal to do so even if we were the ones who initiated the breakup. In fact, therapist Dennis Nguyen, LCSW, thought that it is to be expected. He told Mind Body Green (MBG) in an interview:
All change comes with some grief. When we break up with someone, many folks may see that person less, have to change their living situation, or figure out how to navigate any shared friendships. Humans love routine and patterns—even when they’re not helpful—and to disrupt this can lead to anxiety and fear about a new and unknown future.
Having said all that, have you ever regretted breaking up with an ex-boyfriend, guys? Why or why not? If you did, what did you do with that regret? Did you get back together with him? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!