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Hey, guys! Is it safe to say that most of us here have been in a relationship or two already? If so, how did they end up for you? Were all your breakups amicable or did it end badly? Or maybe you’re thinking, is there such a thing as an amicable breakup?
More importantly, have you ever regretted breaking up with someone, and is it normal to feel this regret?
Well, we’re bringing this up because we stumbled upon a thread on Reddit but their answers to this question vary. Some of the gay men on Reddit feel that you should think many times before breaking up with your significant other lest you regret it, while others say that the breakup was the best thing that ever happened to them.
Meanwhile, one guy asked the original poster (OP) of the thread to reevaluate and ask himself: “Why don’t you think you have a future with him as a lover? Has anything changed? What about the relationship makes you think it won’t last?”
Personally, I think that the answer to this question is relative to our relationship experiences. But no worries, if you ever did end up regretting the break up with your ex-boyfriend, studies show that it’s perfectly normal to do so even if we were the ones who initiated the breakup. In fact, therapist Dennis Nguyen, LCSW, thought that it is to be expected. He told Mind Body Green (MBG) in an interview:
All change comes with some grief. When we break up with someone, many folks may see that person less, have to change their living situation, or figure out how to navigate any shared friendships. Humans love routine and patterns—even when they’re not helpful—and to disrupt this can lead to anxiety and fear about a new and unknown future.
Having said all that, have you ever regretted breaking up with an ex-boyfriend, guys? Why or why not? If you did, what did you do with that regret? Did you get back together with him? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
Not 1 bit. I’ve only dumped 1 guy & it was he broke a promise to me about not using drugs. We only lasted a few months.
YES, I dated a guy by the name of Darrell, extremely smart,kind, articulate, successful and the most giving kind person. He was also very successful and lived in a two story home in a very wealthy neighborhood. I enjoyed being around him he kept me calm and focused on things however I was no where near as successful as him . My father had become very sick and I had to move back home to help my Mom care for him. I walked away from my life,my friends,my job and him. I just didn’t want him to be the guy… Read more »
That’s a really tough horse to get back on, wish you luck!
Life is unfair, and you certainly got a bad deal being the only sibling to get stuck with the job of caring for parents, but it was the honorable thing to do. You probably should have placed your situation up front to the boy friend the first go-round with your father. After all, it is ALSO **HIS** life, and he may have loved you enough to take on your situation, and that would be HIS decision, not YOURS. One should probably make decisions so one does not have regrets: better to act and risk a “no” than not to act… Read more »
There’s a few; people, friend and a lover, but I had to move on, stand on “my own two feet”, sanity/principles/self-respect. I honestly wished them well.
The question here puts gays in the same social experience as heterosexuals, “dating to find that one and only/forever person”. Poster after poster on A4A has indicated few are interested in the heterosexual norm. Many have said they’re single forever, finding sexual partners as they can, but not interested in an LTR. Others have said they have Friends With Benefits, often several concurrently. Some have indicated a desire for an LTR with that one special guy, but most of them admit it’s not a realistic expectation. Social norms, regardless of sexual orientation, seem to expect that individuals will date, quickly… Read more »
yes i had just came to terms with being gay and we hadnt been seeing each other that only a few months and he wanted to go on the road with me in my truck and i thought it was to soon.then he moved to San diego and ive regretted it every since.
No regrets. If I reach a point where it’s no longer working for me then it’s done.
I was 32 and he was 18. He was a good kid. I should have stayed with him but someone else wanted him worse. We broke up and he enlisted and fought in Afghanistan and came back with PTSD. He eventually shot himself. I miss him to this day and know I could have led him in a better direction. I reallybdid love him.