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Hey, guys! Why are you on Adam4Adam and by that we mean, what are you looking for right now? Are you looking for a regular fuck buddy, a friend, are you here to network, perhaps you are looking for someone with whom you can have a long-term relationship with, or maybe you are looking for a one-night stand?
We are bringing this up because we stumbled upon a thread on AskGayMen wherein a young teenage guy wanted to ask Redditors for dating advice. He said he is “scared that gay dating is just hookups and one nighters.” Further, he asks, “Is this true or is it more common for gay guys to get into long loving relationships?”
One user told him, “So how many of your dating straight peers do you think will be in relationships with each other in 2 years?” He also pointed out that, “It’s neither gay nor straight to have a phase in life where hook ups are common. To the point of your question, there are plenty of gay guys in relationships later in life just like there are straight ones.”
Meanwhile, a teacher said that he noticed most of the kids in his school are “dating in pretty ‘traditional’ relationships.” He observed how teenagers aren’t hooking up like the adults are. He guesses, “It’s one of the privileges of being able to be out in school. But even the adults – there are those that hook up and those that don’t. It’s just like with straight people. Before I was married, I hooked up often but my husband never had a hookup.”
Most of the respondents on the other hand, simply reminded the teen to be clear about what he is looking for. A college guy shared that he had no “trouble finding plenty of people who wanted to go on dates.” He added, “As long as you make it clear what you’re looking for, people can do a decent job sorting themselves out. Obviously, that’s not going to be true of everyone, but generally, I think you can find it if you put in the effort (for the right reasons).”
loveBy the way, here on Adam4Adam, you can specify what you are looking for, whether you are looking for a date, or friendship, love, or relationship, etc. You can set it on your profile. You may click here for tips on what to put on your A4A dating profile.
All that being said, who are you looking for here on Adam4Adam, guys? Do you think dating is still a thing in this day and age? And what dating advice would you give this young man who’s anxious about the future of his love life? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
“Is dating still a thing?” This is what passes for journalism? Who writes this bullshit drivel? This ranks up there with the genius of Willow Smith’s faceyuck crap “They like sun is really hot, but has anyone really touched it”?
no dating…. just fucking… either right now or fuck buddies
Dating gay lifestyle sex is important not all want to date for 90 days and then find out that the sex wasn’t good or waste a season. All my lovers we turned a corner bump into easy other. wow yours hottie took him home as he stayed for 13 years. ” someone has to do the first move so let it be you” Tips dating: some play house and accept that rule book. others build a household the two of you becoming Mr perfect for each other. its a bond so accept the things he does that you don’t like… Read more »
I would eventually like to find one person to be in a committed relationship with, but until he comes along, I will (safely) play around with whomever wants to play with me.
Is dating still a thing? Apparently not, I don’t have any luck finding dates. I put it out there that I’m only interested in dating and meaningful connections, I’m very clear about this, and most guys just want to hookup, many are just pushy about wanting sex from me and nothing more. It’s beyond frustrating! I’m 39 now, which is just an awkward age to say the least for dating. Guys around my age just want to hookup or are always too busy to do anything. Guys in their 20’s don’t seem to want anyone my age. I still get… Read more »
Dating is alive and kicking online! More so with the younger generation than the older generation these days.
Life is what you make it.
Dating?!?!? HA!!!! People need to be friendly to date and there doesn’t seem to be such a thing as a friendly gay guy in the 21st century.
I think dating is still a thing? If it went out of style I wouldn’t be surprised. I’m just glad I’m not in an open relationship with anyone. Why should one put out so much effort to date? A guy shouldn’t haft to go through so much work to find someone. I also don’t always believe it’s millennials causing this to happen because some of these issues have been happening way before the millennials hit the scene. Here’s my motto if you like what you see say hi but if your to shy or your weighing out your options with… Read more »
No comments? Really?
I think the answer is almost certainly yes: All of of those “same sex marriages” have to have begun some place; it’s not like they met at the altar!
Possibly A4A is just the wrong audience for the question; in my experience, members here aren’t looking for a date.
You’re correct, the idiots here just want to get laid and are rude as shit when you say “not interested”.
For me, I am relationship oriented and was in 2 ltr starting at a young age. I’ve been in relationships most of my adult life, and single for 6 years now. At 64, most of the time I get hit up from guys wanting a hook up. I have, but not really what I want in the long term. I think it was easier to get in a relationship at a younger age because we always had friends that were as well.
Of course dating is still a thing, everyone has not thrown in the towel; given-up on it. I still go out on dates, rare but I do.
nowadays it’s called SEXXX, honey! (and spelled with THREE X’s, btw, one X was SOOOO yesterday!)
if you still plan on dating, you boring, and you ain’t got no bed available, so hence, what good are you?!?!