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Hey, guys! One of our A4A blog readers, the one who wrote the article titled, “Do You Count Your Sexual Conquests?” has another question for you. He asked, and we quote:
You comb Adam4Adam somewhat regularly looking for nice guys to meet. You routinely go through the profiles here and there and some stand out. You’ve found one. His profile information sounds appealing. His pix look hot. You want to meet him. So you reach out with an A4A message to him. What is your pick-up line (or general approach) and how effective has it been for you?
And there you go, guys! Please share with us how you start up a conversation on Adam4Adam in the comments section below.
Anyway, according to Wikipedia, a pick-up line or chat-up line is “a conversation opener with the intent of engaging a person for romance or dating. Overt and sometimes humorous displays of romantic interest, pick-up lines advertise the wit of their speakers to their target listeners.”
If you want to send a mail to a particular A4A member and you don’t know what to say to them, fear not, we have written an article in the past titled, “A New Approach Other than Saying ‘Hey.'” This particular article gives you tips and ideas on how to start a conversation with a fellow A4A member so you will have another line or two to help you approach them apart from, you know, the usual “hey” greeting.
That being said, Adam4Adam blog readers who wish to submit an article for consideration, please email it to [email protected].
I’ve had good results with commenting on something guys post in the text of their profiles. That assumes, of course, that they’ve been considerate enough to write a few lines about who they are and what they’re seeking. Also, that our profiles line up. “Like how you say x in your profile.”
I look back over the past and I realize that my first line usually relates to his profile. Often, I will say something like, “I’m not there, but you were too cute for me not to say something.” If he has a really profound saying in his profile, I might react to it in my first message: “Man, that line about life was perfect. I thought that but never put it so well.” If he’s just all around heart-melting, I will admit,”I’m jealous of your neighbors.” I used to write long greetings with a question in them, but I quit… Read more »
We must be twins (or, at least, raised with manners). I approach profiles in the same way.
No real pick up line, an honest hey there nice profile usually breaks the ice. have connected and have made many friends.
Nice guys on Adam4Adam . . . HA ! !
If I may quote Myra Breckenridge…?
Darling, you’ve most marvelously hung!
I am under the firm impression that the OFFICIAL A4A pick-up line is…”Are you generous?” That is the line I see most.
Greg:
Tell them…what I tell them…
I’m generous with my dick not my cash!
They disappear even quicker than they arrived. It turns their definition of “Generous” back into their empty brains and it demonstrated that those whom they target are smarter than those whom do the targeting.
Then, if you want to target their faces, remind them of the infamous words of Forrest Gump: “Stupid Is As Stupid Does.”
Then, they block you! And you’ve won!
Seems like the honest/respectful approach might be effective. If the profile has something that leads you to contact the guy, perhaps mentioning it as part of the short greeting. For example, “Hey, I like your profile; you look and sound interesting. We have similar interests in travel and in getting to know someone more seriously… Would you be interested in continuing a conversation to see where it goes?” Obviously, this honesty has some limitations. Starting with “… you are not really my cup of tea, but if you are horny, you’ll do…” may not get you very far. Similarly, starting… Read more »
Most guys on here don’t have a pickup line. They call a conversation: sup, pic, wyd, etc. It’s been a huge turn off for me attempting to engage in a discussion with someone who’s unwilling to use their words.
most message like 12 year old girls texting and expect everyone to know the code
Exactly. Sometimes, I ask them what the codes mean and they block me. Because if I don’t know the codes, I am too old for them.
Wesley:
What you described is what happened to those who continued to use “AOL” as their email carrier.
If you emailed and that person saw “AOL” they automatically considered you “Too Old” for continued communication.
Generally, those who dismiss because not everyone is interested in what passes for technology, are the ones who are confined by the “Newest” and become very old rapidly.
Here are my top three pick-up lines on A4A:
1. Nice dick
2. I want to suck your cock.
3. Hi, you have a hot profile—wanna play?
One of these usually works
Do you have any German in you ? Would you like some ?
Replace “German” with your ethic background… if you are a mix like most of us, treat it like an eclectic meal.
I read their profile and pick out an interest or comment. Then I reference that in my first hello
My favorite line for a guy who has a pic of a hot cock : nice cock! I would love to put my lips on your cock and feel you cum in my mouth!
I’m sorry, I guess you are just looking for fake answers?
consider the source
“Wanna service these lowhangers, boy?” That usually works.
“Pick up line”??? SERIOUSLY? How cheesy can you get? Guys fucking HATE clever pick up lines. Instant block. “Hello” or “like to chat?” might get you ignored, but at least they don’t make the other guy cringe or make you look like a fool… And while “Those pants would look really good on my floor” might seem ‘clever’ in the moment, trust me… like most pick up lines it ain’t gonna fly. (And I’m sorry, but these blog questions just get more and more lame… what’s next? “Are ugly sheets a deal-breaker…?” “Would you date a man who didn’t own… Read more »
If I find someone whose profile turns me on and he’s within reasonable range of me, and I think I want to have sex with him, I’ll tell him two key things: “I find your profile to my liking and might you have any potential interest?” And I unlock my pix. I’ve had mixed to positive success with this approach.
Are you interested in getting a nice relaxing massage? Nothing expected in return.
Wanna fuck?
Ben, that was the pick-up line I received from the first-ever guy I had sex with at age 18. We were in a mens room on campus at my college and I was jerking off in a stall. He saw my hard-on through the crack in the door and then muttered “wanna fuck.” I was unsure at first, but then quickly enough realized “at last, my chance!” so I said yes. He took me to his place off campus and 69’d then he fucked me, then I fucked him back. But I guess the virginity-losing experience was a previous blog… Read more »
Direct can be good… but it works better on Grinder. lol
It all depends on their profile. I say hi and reference something in their profile and then unlock my pics. Most dont due to my age (agist bigots) and position (80% are bottoms like me so the competition is fierce) or do not do interracial (my personal preference but also a bigotry), you’d be surprised how many guys respond rudely about what you said. They apparently they do not even remember what their profile says. My favorites are those you develop chat with and, when you suggest meeting in public like their profile says, abruptly tell you they want sex,… Read more »
Because of my profile info., statements and age requirements I don’t have a pick-up line, I go with what they’ve written, giving him a compliment on it, or additionally his pics, I like the ones where you cans see his eye’s and physique, without all the very private pics that are already open.
Most aren’t here looking to look into eyes. The few that are typically ask after I respond with an email based on their profile. They have enough patience, insight, and groundedness, as opposed to “above it all” judgemental hypocrisy, to appreciate what is being looked at or for. As for those with the “let me tell you what is wrong about you” tonal comments that are little more than a pathetic power play, well, I will survive the rejection coming from a de trop source.
Ok zebra, too much is just simply put, too much. As ‘we’ see much ass/dick on these dating-apps, it actually, mostly bores me, “the eye’s have it” for me as much as anything said in their profile that would be interesting. I am, “so above it.”
On these apps “looking” or “wanna f*ck” usually does the trick
Hey did you wash those pants in Windex, I can see myself in them
hey, sup? (lol)
Depends really on a lot of things. i find that the ones that I respond to are the ones that are honest and/or funny(pick up lines) rarely do i ever respond to guys whos profile says they are looking for something im not when they hit me up. (still wanna know what all american guy looks like.)