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What, for you, are the things that a person or a guy has or does that make them look attractive in your eyes, guys?
Is it their smile? Maybe it is the way they laugh? Perhaps it’s the way their eyes sparkle when they tease you or when they are happy about something? When you see them reading a book, that’s quite a huge turn on or at least these are the non-sexual things a guy does that make them more attractive in my eyes.
We have scoured the internet and here, among many others, are some of the popular answers among gay men on askgaybros and we quote:
- When a guy says their name/call them by their name when they didn’t have to.
- When a guy calls them “my man”
- A guy’s voice
- When a guy wears “regular shorts” not “booty shorts”
- Shared interests – like when the guy likes the same movies or music or shows as them
- Prominent veins on a guy’s arms
- Hairy forearms
- When a guy is intelligent and speaks other languages, i.e. Spanish or when they talk nerdy
- Stable guys who have “real jobs that have consistent schedules, where they have a significant degree of responsibility over others.”
- “When someone is original and doesn’t speak in memes or movie quotes or very new slang. When they can speak respectfully.”
- When a guy has self-awareness; someone who’s not afraid to admit: “Yeah, I realized I have this problem, but I’ve been reading about it/going to therapy and I’m trying to get better.”
What about you, guys? What are the non-sexual things that turn you on to a guy or a person? Please feel free to share with us your answers and stories in the comments section below.
The nonsexual thing that turns me on is a guy that’s smart, neat, fit, clean and well groomed. He takes pride in the way he looks and smell; clothes always ironed and pressed even his gym clothes, jeans and shorts. I want to see him in the gym working his azz off staying in shape for good health as well as appearance.
I love this one. I tend to notice the shape, size, set of a man’s head, secondly; Mark Walberg has this way of saying words that have the letter ‘s’ that makes him sound so, I don’t know but it does something to me, lol. I really quirky this way about just the little things about men that turn me on A- LOT. I’ve always noticed guys hands, big-thick, hairiness period, guys that look the opposite of me mostly unfortunately I’m afraid. I also notice a man’s mouth; the ones that look like they could eat you, lol, large big… Read more »
Sense of humour! If you can make me laugh….
Good Night & Goodbye…
No need to do this again!
A gentle touch to my shoulder or leg gets me everytime.
A one – two week old beard, trimmed or scraggly gets my attention quickly
I am aroused by : –masculine healthy beautiful feet –compassion for humanity –celebrates human diversity –patient, confidence and courageous but humble –good listener –insightful and seeks wisdom –owns his personal clarity and is his own guru –ability to incorporate compassion, passion and sensuality into every aspect of personal and professional life –creative mentally, intellectually and spiritually as well as sexually –lives and loves passionately and compassionately with everything and everyone around him to make a better world to live and love in –is out to bond sincere friendships and brotherhoods that are not possessive and demanding –respects and encourages freedom… Read more »
A guy who is able to hold a meaningful conversation where we learn about each other by asking questions and paying attention to the answers.
A guy who’s good in his own skin. Not concerned with what’s popular. One who’s more interested in others than himself.
Slapping a trick upside the head always gets me going.
Might I suggest an additional “non-sexual” turn-on…”
how about a good beating with a paddle across the arse? It accomplishes two things: first, it sets the tone of who is in charge and two, it gets the blood flowing and increases circulation to the buttocks…
thus, rendering increased mass and muscle tone!
The nonsexual thing I enjoy is a man’s foot cover in a knee high black sock in an expensive loafer as he takes it off…and I see the arch of his foot. Drives me to my knees.
Knowledge of the difference between ‘discreet’ and ‘discrete’, or your/you’re, or there/their/they’re, or here/hear all “turn me on.” Correct and appropriate use of the adjective “professional” also “turns me on.” Likewise, correct syntactical placement of the adverb “only” sometimes “turns me on.” The meticulous avoidance of slang, including the slang phrase “turns me on,” “turns me on”!
Confidence. Not arrogance, but confidence. That’s sexy.
Also, make me laugh and you’ve got me hooked.
The attributes that endeared me to my guy were his masculinity, his ability to fix anything, his sense of humor (and that he “gets” my sense of humor). I adore him and feel like the luckiest man in the world that we found each other and share the deepest love and respect I’ve ever known.
Seeing a phat booty in some church slacks does it for me
I think a great smile and conversation, as well as a confident personality.
A guy in dress socks and shoes. The look, feel and aroma a big turn on NOT turnoff.