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It’s as the title says, guys, what are the things about gay sex that people think are facts but are, in reality, actually myths? We’ve listed five below but please feel free to jump in the comments section and tell us about anything that we might have missed.
- Gay sex = anal sex. No, we don’t have anal sex all the time and no, penetration isn’t all there is to gay sex. And no, not every gay man loves anal sex.
- That the bigger or taller guy is top and the smaller or shorter guy is bottom. It can be the opposite as there are no rules for it, you know.
- The bigger the top’s dick is, the better the sex. As aforementioned in our previous article, and as cited by GMFA (the Gay Men’s Health Project), “studies show that to satisfy men during penetrative sex you need only 2.5 inches.” The reason being that the “male ‘G’ spot is located just at the top of the anal canal which is roughly 2 inches long. So you don’t need a big penis to hit his ‘G’ spot.”
- That we must either be a “top” and our partner a “bottom” or vice versa or else the relationship won’t work. This is a derivative of item #1 and again, yes, there are many ways in which we can feel pleasure apart from anal sex . There’s frotting, use of sex toys, mutual masturbation, intercrural sex, erotic massage, footjob, blow job to name a few. Bottom line, do whatever works best for you and your partner.
- That we have sex all the time, 24 hours a day, seven days a week, and 365 days a year. We eat, sleep, go to school, socialize, and go to work as well like, you know, everyone else.
6) We don’t all think crossdressing is hilarious fun or have desires to make out with effeminate passable cd’s
7) The notion that tough guys are all tops and fems are all bottoms just isn’t the case. The bigger dick doesn’t determine preference either.
8) That somehow we are all in search of a relationship and just have fidelity issues. I’ve never tried finding “the one”. Couldn’t care less.
Here here! for item 6.
The most ferocious 8.5″ top to ever invade me was a passable Mexican tranny with full hormone tits. That gurrrrrl could BRING it, three or four times a day! Never judge a book by its cover…no matter how odd the cover may be.
# 6 is spot on. I am an older muscular masculine total bottom who loves to be taken by the young feminine guy who is hung like a donkey
9) Which goes for the next point, not all gay dudes are whores..Some are able to maintain healthy relationships.
10) Not all gay dudes live in gay clubs and gay sex apps. Some of us live real lives beyond the mirrored balls, and live quite normal existence.
You should have your own Stonewall and not benefit from any of the gay liberation work done by crossdressing men and CDs.
to Mat – YOU GO GIRL! i say to those too embarrassed to be seen with those a little more flamboyant than they are comfortable with…….Don’t complain out outrageous, fabulous, Drag Queens, Butch Dykes, Leather Boys – those public faces are the ones that have Fought, been Jailed and an entire generation died so that you can hold your boyfriends (sorry, your partner’s) hand walking down the street, legally get married and can’t be legally fired for being queer……all we ask is A SIMPLE THANK YOU WILL DO………
Drag queens are obnoxious they also remind me of clowns so not a fan.
My cliches
Gay means queeny
Gay means that you swear by the rainbow flag.
Gay means you automatically care for LBTQ
I tease my partner by telling him he misrepresented being gay because he doesn’t like cleaning the house and he knows nothing about fashion. . .and I want my money back!!
I want my money back on any dollar I spent supporting gay rights organizations that helped you come out of the closet.
Or that we all want to be women.
This is ridiculous. Also, everyone knows you’re a queen, gurl.
“Gay means you automatically care for LBTQ” HUH? Why wouldn’t you support others like you?
Because most gays are shallow, superficial, hypersexual, catty, rude, and obsessed with things that are stupid or don’t matter cough cough lady gaga and Rupaul.
Agreed
All 5 is true
That all gay guys want to have sex with straight or straight adjacent men
I mean doing it with a straight guy is pretty hot. Most of the time they end up coming back for more too.
That just because we are gay we want to suck your dick or it doesn’t mean your gay if I suck your dick your just a horny heterosexual.. Do you think the latter is a lie or the truth, I don’t believe it’s a myth?
We are all sex and no affection! I am 6′ 3″ at 215 lbs. I am a “Big Boy.” Yet, put a nice pair of arms around me and I melt like butter. Big Boy here…loves affection and lots of it! Nibble my ears; bite my neck; bite into my ass cheeks…all make this Big Boy quiver like a bow. Give me a good rubdown; tickle my tummy, toes, scrotum, nipples and shower me with multiple hugs & kiss…all make this Big Boy as lovable and affectionate as a new newborn pup! Give me a mam about 5′ 5″ –… Read more »
Oh, I so know what you’re saying! I LOVE affection, I’m a huge teddy-bear that way, all the playing that leads up to incredible sex-love-making. It’s like having a multi-course meal, one course at a time, enjoyed slowly, head to toe, papa’s more blackberry jam for ya’ baby, lmao! I really have no choice but to love someone much smaller in sz., at 6’9-260lbs, but it’s all good!
LAMAR:
Truly, you are a big boy!
We would, of course, not be sexually compatible but, I suspect, we would get along otherwise?
So I guess you’re type would be 6’9, 8pac abs, 13 inch penis? And he’s 6’9 (if that’s really his height) he’s not even consider thick. Y’all dudes think just because someone isn’t >200 he’s consider fat. Smh
Lamar and N.Z.H: as a 5′ 3″, 145 lbs chaser dad, I am thankful for, and salivate for “big boys” like you guys, and like NZH, I melt when I have so much bear flesh that I can’t even wrap my arms completely around it. It’s not all about just sex, it’s playing, and nibbling, and kissing, and caressing, and if intercourse happens, great, and if it doesn’t, who cares as long as you had fun
Damn now that’s someone I would cuddle with and never let go…
Omg yes that’s the type of men I like…husky and tall. I’m 6’0 and all the other guys taller than me I have to literally look up at. That’s what’s even sexier. What I do not like is guys (preferably meatheads) considering your height and weight as “fat” which is not. Thick in the right place especially tall and this long arms for holding (sorry for alittle riled up for a second lol). I rather have a husky beefy men than a muscular dude. Yea they’re nice to loook at but get bored too quickly. I like them bear husky… Read more »
I’m not out but I do have a man I regularly go away with for a weekend, we do a lot of fun weekend things and sometimes we don’t even have sex for an entire weekend. When we first went away and we didn’t have sex the first night = Mind Blown, I was under the impression that gay men just do it all night long lol
I’m a bottom who loves anal sex , but my tops needs to be hung 8” or more!! Need to get in me deep to penetrate that 2nd hole that’s my hot spot . So size does matter
You forgot the church nutters’ favorite, promulgated by church creeps like Mike Pence and Franklinstein Graham: all gay men are pedophiles. Another annoying one…all gay men love drag shows. After DJing for a ton of them in the ’70s, I don’t care to EVER see another one. Curse you, RuPaul!
As a Christian and a constitutional conservative, I proudly contribute to Samaritan’s Purse, Franklin Graham’s humanitarian aid organization, and I respect Vice President Pence. I have never heard either one of them defame gays, especially as pedophiles. Neither one of them agrees with the despotic Supreme Court decree which undefined marriage, and neither do I. I was enjoying this topic. Must the left politicize everything?
Ever checked out a “Drag Queen Library Read Hour’ article & all the haters comments?
“You forgot the church nutters’ favorite, promulgated by church creeps like Mike Pence and Franklinstein Graham: all gay men are pedophiles”
This is so funny because MOST/MAJORITY of pedophiles are STRAIGHT MEN!!! *ROTFLAMO*
I always bring it up on those “Drag Queen Reading @ Libraries” articles. Drives the haters crazy!!! <;-)
Man! It’s tough out here, being an enigma to most; being broad-minded, creative, being myself: neither hyper-masc., nor fem, not into leather-yet, turned-on by kinky, raunch, I’m just really passionate; not into the whole top/btm-thing, nothing assigned. It’s not always about anal-sex for me, long ago, I got Intouch with my fetishes as it refers to “unconventional or alternative sex,” good thing, too, considering. Hell, I don’t need to live in an ‘all-gay hood’ either, I prefer, LOVE a mixed community, a ghetto, is still a ghetto no matter how affluent, again, considering what they consist of…
This was about hooking up; not a venue for bitter queens to brag about how “not gay acting” they are.
Thank you for saying this.
I like this blog because I really dislike when I may ask a potential hook-up “when did you last have sex?” and he responds, “ohhh, not in months,” only to tell me he did some oral or other stuff just last week and in his mind it’s only “sex” if there’s fucking involved. I love to fuck, but I’ve had many great non-fucking experiences! Or even worse: I ask a guy at what age he lost his virginity. He answers “23 – it took me awhile to get up the nerve to fuck.” Then I ask “so that was the… Read more »
I’m surprise that you didn’t put the drug use or that we all dress & want to do drag…
No one wants to see your #SkippedLegDay lower body in a dress, dude.
Stereotypes are just that and not useful for discussion.
And this one subject seems to come up over and again, and has been discussed ad nauseum. It seems that there are no other subjects in the gay community.
The biggest myth is size don’t matter because he truly does. More fun sucking average to big cocks.
Running around in chaps, jockstraps and various undergarments at Gay Pride Parades surly help the image.
Before gay men came out as flamboyant, they would march around in circles wearing suits and carrying picket signs. It didn’t really change much, but a bunch of drag queens throwing parking meters did. Please go back in the closet.
You are one bitter individual, all your comments are just as bitter as crabapples, so bite my hairy ass.
I agree, I will never go to a gay pride event for this reason. If you want to be taken seriously don’t engage in bad taste, over the top, hyper sexualized, behavior.
Now for the whores commentary!
“Oral is acceptable as a substitute for anal.” WRONG. If you’re too much of a a pussy to give up your ass for the man you love, or if you can’t bring yourself to fuck ass like a man, you’re a useless eunuch, not worthy of the time of day. A man wants to fuck. A gay man accepts that it might be anal. Grow the hell up and learn to do it right!
And don’t give him any shit about you don’t kiss men. You’re a fucking homo….you better kiss your man. Or someone else will
Well heres a few 6) That we ‘re into hairstyling, 7) We sound like like we’re on estrogen when we talk, 8) Just because we ‘re not into “coochi” doesn’t mean we don’t appreciate and respect the female company or feel affection for them.
But many gay men are into hairstyling, and they enjoy having a high-pitched voice… there’s nothing wrong with either.
One big myth is that black guys all have big cocks. Yes, hereditary has endowed many of them with big cocks, but not all black men do. I have also seen many white guys with big cocks as well. Also some seem to think gay guys act feminine which isn’t true at all. Many think being gay is all about sex, which is far from the truth. It’s about the love and care for each other, and sex is just part of it. Matter of fact you don’t even have to have sex to be gay (although most do), it’s… Read more »
I think that every gay man who agrees with #6, thinks it’s bad to be “queeny” or celebrate the rainbow flag or says WTF “Matt” said about LBTQ (I guess he means he doesn’t care about Lesbians, Bisexuals, Trans, and Queers?)… anyway… anyone who thinks this stuff should have to go back in the closet and fight for their own liberation without the help of anyone queeny, waving a flag, or the slightest bit queer. I really hate self-hating gay men. Footnote: No one thinks you’re straight or all that masc, bro.
[…] when you’re that tall, people expect you to top which, of course, we know is one of the myths in gay sex. […]
Who’s to say what is a myth and what is fact? We all have our preferences. When it comes to sucking a man’s cock, I prefer 6″ or less. When I’m getting fucked, I prefer 7″ to 8″. If he’s under 6.5″, I just don’t enjoy it as much. I like to feel him stretch me a little.
We sleep with anybody & everybody!