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For many gay men, the first gay kiss is a milestone they never forget. Some remember every detail, while others barely remember it at all. Was your first kiss exciting, awkward, disappointing, or exactly what you hoped it would be? How old were you, and did it help you better understand your sexuality?
We are bringing this up because a gay man online asked, “What’s the story of your first gay kiss? Did you love it?”
The question inspired gay men to reflect on a moment that can be funny, emotional, awkward, and for some, life-changing. One man, for example, shared a memorable story from a pre-college trip abroad. He wrote, “My college had this thing where they would send a few incoming students to Beijing or Paris for 2 weeks during the summer before. I was in Beijing with a bunch of other soon-to-be freshmen and we were at this nightclub called Propaganda.” He added, “We were pretty trashed but this guy on the trip was getting a little flirty and we ended up making out on the dance floor and then in the taxi cab on the way back to the dorm. It was honestly pretty mid, but I was excited to have my first kiss. He threw up when we got out of the car but I like to think that was the alcohol and not me.”
On the other hand, others described their first kiss as a turning point. One gay man recalled meeting a coworker while home from college break and spending time together near a lake. He wrote, “Immensely satisfying. He and I both worked at a supermarket together, home from college break. He asked my friend if I was gay. I was in the closet, so she said no. She then told me, but I decided to correct him toward the end of our shift.
Living in a remote area, we agreed to meet up. We drove up to a lake near my house and found a nice overlook to sit and chat. One thing led to another and we inevitably kissed.
It was sweet and hot and full of the sort of tension that one can expect from two young lads our age, but it was the start of a wonderful summer dalliance ripe with sexual exploration.”
Meanwhile, some responses were less dramatic. One man joked, “Musta not been great cos I don’t remember it at all hahaha.”
However, not everyone has had that experience yet. One commenter revealed that coming out later in life changed his timeline. He said, “Honestly, I haven’t had one yet. [I] was deeeeep in the closet most of my life, and didn’t come out until after my first kid was born. Still married in a hetero marriage and unpacking what it all means to me/us.”
But not every story was positive. One gay man shared a difficult memory: “My first gay kiss was with an older guy I met on the internet who lied about his age and the fact that he was married, but I just wanted to get it over with, so I did it. It was awful, and I regret it.”
Every gay man has a different story, and that is what makes these memories so interesting. What about you, Adam4Adam blog readers, was your first gay kiss romantic, spontaneous, funny, or disappointing? Do you still think about it today? Did your first gay kiss live up to your expectations? Or was reality very different from what you imagined? Share your stories in the comments section down below.
My first was okay he was kinda ruff but it was my second kiss with a guy that was great he had more passion it was with more feelings than just trying to get it in a over with and that’s the kiss I remember the most
Mine was amazing and heart racing,it was in a era that homosexuality was still taboo to speak of(1980’s).I lived in a small town in the south,not the deep south,but still the southern USA.I was a teenage coming to age,lol!Much love to my yesterday!
Terrifying, nervous, exciting, overwhelming, and amazing. Honestly I couldn’t believe if I was doing it, but it just felt so wondrous. Kissing is always an essential act and I’ve done it with men and women but there is an emotional and sensual dynamic with men that is explosive. And that first kiss made me understand exactly what my sexuality was. I just remember after the first kiss nervously laughing, and then we kissed again and this time it was longer, and then we looked at each other and did it again and closed our eyes and wrapped our arms around… Read more »
I’ll never forget that day. September 2001, not too far after 9-11… my friend from school, James… we were hanging out after school over at my home… listening to music and chatting… for some reason he mentioned about hos friends playing truth and dare and that he was dared to kiss a boy from his previous school… upon hearing that I was kinda taken back. Same sex kissing was frowned upon in my family and society at large back then, I certainly had no intentions of ever getting involved on something so forbidden! He begin to explain it was just… Read more »
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When I first started having gay hook ups the thought of another guy kissing me did not appeal to me. Several of the guys I first met tried to kiss and I resisted. A little after that I met a really hot guy that I was really into. While we were into it we started kissing. I did not resist and let him lead the way. He was a passionate kisser and then he put his tongue to work in my mouth. His tongue and my tongue were going to work in each others mouth. We had such an air… Read more »
I think i sucked cock and was fucked before my first kiss
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Stale cigarette breathe, over powering with his tougue, rough, sharp whisker hairs pricked my chin. Lol.
I was 11 abd a neighborhood boy ,sane age kissed ne,tongue and all, I liked it,I knew I was gay ,but nothing else ever came of it
My first gay sex experience was at 18 with a guy I didn’t find terribly attractive, but I went for it because I was dying to try it – ALL of it. He was probably in his late 20s and just not at all my type, but still we 69’d, then he fucked me, then I fucked him back. But kissing wasn’t at all a consideration. I had barely kissed any girls yet (and then and now at 66 I remain completely hidden in the closet, married, family, etc.). One day at 22, I hooked up with an attractive guy… Read more »
Doing some volunteer work, another guy and I seemed to click. We didn’t do anything other than the volunteer work, joking and some discussions. Eventually, he invited me to his place. There, he let me know he was attracted to me, hesitatingly. When he reached out to hug, I didn’t refuse. After some hugging, he looked me in the eye. The kiss was next. Gentle and easy at first, but soon enough we into it deeply. I didn’t want it to end.
My first kiss was surreal. I grew up thinking I was straight, but eventually found myself online talking to older men near my university. When I finally met my first FWB and got into his bedroom, I remember that first kiss being such a relief that someone found me attractive and wanted me naked with them. He knew what he wanted because our first kiss seems like it went straight to tounge on tounge action.
I’ll never forget it! He picked me up in the middle of Dog Days of Summer. Asked me if I had some place we could be alone together. We walked the few blocks to where I was staying. Fetched a blanket that I dropped onto a hardwood floor and asked “How’s this?” He pulled his shirt off, pulled me tight to him and made his pass crystal clear, he wanted to seduce me…! And I wanted him to passionately as well. So actually I never needed to announce “Coming Out” because I recognized this embrace, French kisses, naked together on… Read more »
My first kiss with a man was a surprise. I was hooking up with an older guy for the first time when he kissed me I wasn’t expecting it, but he was a great kisser. We enjoyed many years of great sex before he passed. I’ve yet to meet another guy who kisses as well as he did. Many guys I meet a t like they learned to kiss by watching porn(trying to suck my tongue out of my mouth).
My 1st gay kiss was my 1st kiss ever. It’s hard to describe the feelings. It was like I was finally noticed the 1st time in my life & somebody wanted to chose me over everybody else.
I remember meeting a Dude in a Club, chatting and he asked Me to dance and then we went to get another drink at the bar. As we were waiting he leaned into Me and planted a kiss on my neck and was testing my response. He must have sensed I didn’t object and got right in my ear and said “You are driving me crazy and you have no idea what I want to do to you”. At first I thought WHATEVER but realized he was getting aroused by the hardness in his pants that he was doing everything… Read more »