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Hey, guys! I’ve read online that boyfriend dick is the ideal dick. But what, pray tell, is a boyfriend dick?
When it comes to sex, gay men have their own tastes in the kind of partner—and equipment—they enjoy. Some might prioritize compatibility, others, adventure. But one curious comparison has sparked a lively debate, especially within the gay community online: Boyfriend Dick versus Vacation Cock.
So, what’s the deal with these terms? And which one is truly better for you? Before you decide, let’s break them down.
Boyfriend dick refers to a penis that’s of reasonable size, comfortable enough for regular, day-to-day use. The emphasis is on compatibility and ease. It’s the kind of dick that’s satisfying without being overwhelming—something you could enjoy consistently without much hassle. It’s reliable, versatile, and a good fit for long-term relationships.
Vacation cock, on the other hand, is of such large size that it’s more suited for occasional use—just like a vacation. It’s exciting, memorable, and possibly even a bit wild, but it can also be a lot of work to handle. Many can’t take it frequently due to its size and the extra preparation needed to avoid discomfort or pain. It’s fun for short bursts but not necessarily something you want to encounter every day.
Now, think about your preferences: Would you rather have a boyfriend dick or a vacation cock?
Interestingly, this debate was sparked on Reddit by a gay man who asked the question, “I had a friend who is a size queen tell me I have boyfriend cock and not ‘vacation cock.’ Should I take this as an insult?” Curious for answers, he turned to the r/askgaybros community, where the responses were quite insightful.
Many in the community chose boyfriend dick. Here’s a look at some of the most popular responses:
1. Boyfriend dick is less work, more fun
– “I wouldn’t want to have a vacation dick. Too much work to fuck every time. Boyfriend dick is easier to work with,” one commenter shared. The sentiment here emphasizes that sex doesn’t need to be exhausting every single time. It’s about ease, enjoyment, and comfort.
2. All-purpose dick
– Another contributor even suggested a rebranding: “I prefer the term ‘all-purpose dick’ instead of ‘boyfriend dick.’ A vacation dick is fun for a weekend… but they’re tough to take for regular sex. Trust me, I dated a guy with one.” He further explained that despite his love for sucking cock, his ex’s large size made it uncomfortable, resulting in more bottoming than he wanted. Extra cleaning became a chore, making him feel physically unwell at times.
3. Compliment or criticism?
– For some, boyfriend dick sounds ideal. One commenter with a self-identified “vacation dick” noted, “As a guy with vacation dick (at least, a lot of guys can’t take it or won’t let me bottom out), boyfriend dick sounds great. It sounds like he’s saying you have an above average but not crazy cock.”
4. Boyfriend dick = long-term appeal
– “Boyfriend dick is the one you keep around!” said another, emphasizing how this size is perfectly suited for regular, enjoyable sex. It’s not the size that strains a relationship, but one that enhances intimacy and keeps partners coming back.
5. Longevity and variety
– One person proudly declared that they had boyfriend dick and highlighted the benefits: “Several of my BFs and FWB love it because we can go two-three hours and multiple rounds without any pain, and I can try different positions and tend to be more adventurous.”
The consensus from the r/askgaybros community? Boyfriend dick is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, it’s often seen as more practical, comfortable, and, well, perfect for regular enjoyment. While vacation cock may have its moments of glory, it’s just that—a fleeting experience.
So, where do you stand? Would you prefer the reliability and daily pleasure of a boyfriend dick, or do you lean towards the wild, once-in-a-while thrill of a vacation cock? The choice, ultimately, is yours.
I prefer the boyfriend dick. I’m comfortable with 7.5 to 8 inch medium thick one. I want it straight with a normal size dick head. Big mushroom head dicks tend to hurt going in. I find bent/curved and banana dicks uncomfortable as well. I must admit, it’s sometime fun to ride a 8.5 to 9 inch dick controlling things, positioned on top.
That’s not boyfriend dick. That’s vacation boyfriend dick.
Lol My thoughts as well.
I’ve had many buds tell me I have the “prefect” cock. 7” thick (but not too thick haha) cut and perfectly straight when rock hard. Bottoms feel super full when I’m balls deep without pain. Another gift I got was heavy loads. Buds report then placed just at the right spot “deepish” inside so they cleanly leak out for hours.
Sounds so amazing and glorious
Well since I am a bottom small cocks or medium cocks are good but I would love to see a 8 or 9 inch cock I had two 9 inches up in me both took my breath away but liked them felt awesome open me up nice and I am tight I like it when see small cocks it’s like ok but big cocks WOW
I am not a size queen or worried if its cut or uncut as long as they know how to use and make love with it
I tend to agree with you, Bill. The ability of the operator can make all the difference in the world.
This Facts , No better way to put this
As a bottom I like the small to medium dicks but give me a 8 to 9 and man o man i know it’s going to hurt but dang it’s just nice to ride one or get one up there since I am tight
One that’s attached to a nice guy.
Exactly!.
Doesn’t matter if it’s cut or uncut
Or curved or straight.
Hairy or trimmed.
Mushroom head or not.
Veined or smooth.
Small or large.
Definitely the all-purpose bf dick is best – one that’s around 7 but not much bigger, and moderately thick in order to ride easily on a daily basis. My first bf had the perfect tool but I didn’t have the experience to appreciate it. It had a gentile upward curve that evidently reached my prostate at a great angle. When I sat on that dick, took a minute to relax and stretch, I could ride that dick to ecstasy, and the harder I banged down on it the better it felt til I squealed and shot my (first) load over… Read more »
The ideal dick is the one that can pull out just in time to cum in my mouth.
Never pull out.
Boyfriend dick is good,,but when you’ve been with a person for a while with a 9″dick you become accustomed to it, not to thin but semi thick, just right to suck, I can take him pretty good,, sometimes after a few drinks he may get a little aggressive and I may feel it a few days afterwards but that seldom and sometimes I enjoy a little power trip, witch I’m sure most bottom enjoy as well
one pulsating!
Yes a good 6 to 7 inch cock is good but give me a 8 or 9 and I and like wow I love to feel that in my butt and give me a good stretch
I’m a bottom and I must say I prefer them large 8 to 10 inches long and six to seven inches in circumference. I do prefer cut but I will not pass up a nice uncut cock
I agree, I’m use to a bigger dick,, getting fucked regularly by a man with nice slab of meat, once you get use to it ,it feels amazing when he gives you those long strokes,,I like those long strokes, especially when he stand still and let you slide back and forth while he stands still, I was with a few smaller guys and their dick kept coming out during their strokes, couldn’t enjoy it, now some are good for riding and even then if you move to much it may slip out, I kinda like to have that been fucked… Read more »
As long as it feels good going in and I can enjoy the feeling a LONG time. All is good.
How about boyfriend dick in the ass and vacation cock in the mouth? I was with a vacation cock for 7 years (8.5″ x 7″) and he never suffered for a blowjob, but butt was less frequent. As for specific sizes, I can’t improve on Matt’s description (I have his boyfriend dick) except to say foreskin and an unruly bush are always welcome.
My kinda guy
Congratulations to people who need to label everything? Another new set of them. And as always, they don’t tell us anything new. It’s like when people brag they “discovered a new hack!”: And turns out to be nothing more than which way they put toilet paper in the holder. Or they found out how to not have their windshields fog up so much. And it turns out the just pressed the button in their car that doesn’t make inside air recycle. Or that you can make a quick meal by adding tuna (or hotdogs or chicken or sausage or others… Read more »
A good 8.5 -9″is what I prefer,,
I can find enjoyment in any sized dick as long as it’s nicely cut.
Long, thick, straight out dicks stir my id. That goes without saying, . . . while 95% of the small guys have a hair-trigger that I love to tease with forceful oral only.
We’d definitely get along well in the bed
Ultimately i prefer “boyfriend “ dick 5.5 to 6.5. Average girth. Dont like small cock or pencil dick. Both get too hard and i feel like im being stabbed! 7 or more with proportional girth – what you call vacation dick is nice as it doesnt get rock hard so it a nice fuck, but a bit too much to handle on the throat. I hate when i gag on dick. So all said and done, boyfriend dick is best. My boyfriend can go 2 to 3 times with his and i never tire of it
I would prefer boyfriend dick. Since I have never been penetrated yet. I need someone to be gentle for the first time not just ram it in.Love to be able to enjoy it on a daily basis.
as a bottom, I’ll adjust to any cock – just be gentle to start and we’ll be rockin’ before too long .. I’ll take 6” up to ten” (maybe more ) once we really get going – after I’m really gaped, I’ll be insatiable.. does this sound like any of you fellas? – if so, reach out
As the owner of a “vacation dick” , I find this discussion, kind of insulting! I’ve never had a problem with people being lined up for a turn, actually to take a ride! My lover of many years wanted to fall asleep every night with it firmly embedded in his guts! In case you’re curious I think 9 inches is kind of on the smaller side of vacation dick ! I guess it’s easy to Be happy, settling for boyfriend dick if you don’t qualify to be in the other line!
Lucky number ‘7’ preferably cut, kind of thick, with a sweetheart of mature man, attached to it.
I have been with vacation cock past 15 years. He’s 9.5X7.5. I bottom for him daily… up to three times a day. I’ve had bf cock on the side, just not as fulfilling anymore
I tend to like about 7 in or so but I really love girth. I’m a total bottom and I just love feeling filled up. I can come multiple times without touching myself if a guy’s got a good nice thick cock. I love guys who are heavy comers and have a thick cock to me that’s the perfect combination
This might be the stupidest fucking article written. Who comes up with these idiotic terms? Big, fat, and uncut with a lot of foreskin is my favorite, but if I am horny and ready to bottom, I’m open to about any except super small cut cock. Guys that are small and cut tend to feel more pokey and they have to jab the fuck out of you to feel anything, and that makes sex miserable.
Im gonna say boyfriend dick is awesome for a lot of reasons … not one to complain about any dick actually thr 5 to 7 inchers do relieve some stress that vacation dicks csn cause
6 to 8.5″ or so, thick enough to know he’s inside me, not so thick that I need stiches after. But really, for me it’s much more about the intamacy and knowing i’m doing everything I can to max out his pleasure and the experience overall.
Okay, so what am I missing here. Every other comment is referring to a 6 to 7 incher as fine, but guys love 8 to 9 inches. I’ve been with enough men over the course of my rather long lifetime and from personal experience always seem to be with what medical professionals consider average, a 5 to 6 inch dick. There have been the exceptions, a 7 -7 1/2 incher now and then, but that’s the exception to the rule, not the norm. I’m really beginning to think that a good portion of the posters here haven’t got a clue… Read more »
I love boyfriend dick. For me, its between 6 and 8. For me, any thing bigger tends to hurt, even when I’m “relaxed”. The last guy I was with was about a 7. The dick was soooo good. I can’t stop thinking about him… lol
I prefer an 8-10 in BBC.
Big hairy and ripe uncut cock (Manly) does it for me but unfortunately there are only queens or princesses in my region given you sift your way well through the bots and catfishes. Definitely need to be in a part of the world where they exist!
This is the kind of shallow nonsense I look forward to reading multiple times a week
probably a dick that’s not attached to an asshole. IYKYK
Boyfriend dick is always the max. No matter how large or small, nothng bigger than your boyfriend goes in. You need to be strong for him… no sluts need apply.
7-8″ is the perfect length for me, but I’d never turn down one longer. I prefer a girthy one inside me, but a bit thinner for throating.
This is interesting to me as a bi man who is only with a man every couple of weeks to a month or so. For me, due to the relative infrequency I always want the “vacation cock.” I deepthroat and love the feeling of my throat being stretched and even the soreness the next day when I’m with a massive cock turns me on (I’ve been balls deep throatfucked hard by 10+ inches before and loved every second and every inch). On the flip side, I’m fairly new to anal and though I have taken a very big cock in… Read more »
The dick is tool to be worked for pleasure. There is no perfect size for every setting. A 5-6 for warm ups, 7-8 for the main course, with a thick 8-10 should the top have the ability to work it with the sensitivity so as not to cause damage. Getting pounded is fine for 7 thin. 10 thick and we are into the colon bruising, prolapse scene. Like fisting, it’s not a good idea to tear up that part of the anatomy. Future lovers are not likely to be charmed with the sweet smell of drippy Depends
#1 is a thick shaft, about 7″ long, with a “torpedo” head that goes in easily, making way for the thicker cock. Especially with large, low hanging balls to accompany.
#2 comes (came) from the best pounding ever, a rather thin cock that was about 8″ long with an average head. Man, could he jackhammer my ass!
for DP I like them long and thin, for single (at a time) action, 7 to 8 and thick. Teeny Peenies? Not thanks I’m not Barbie, I want the real thing
A Boyfriend cock is enjoyable and I wish I had a boyfriend. A vacation cock with a nice large mushroom head and thick feels so good.
As a bottom guy, I prefer my top be bigger than me. I’m 6″ cut so a 7″ top would be just great.
Big!