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Did you ever sexually experiment with your friends or best friend? If so, how did that go for you, guys?
More importantly, are they straight? For those whose answer is yes, did you guys regret doing the deed in the aftermath? If so, how did you guys handle the consequence and regret? Are you still friends with them? Did you have a falling out?
Or maybe you ended up together? Whatever the case is, we’d love to hear your thoughts and stories regarding this topic as a gay Redditor brought it up online. He shared that he had drunken sex with his straight friend and that they both regretted it afterward. They both just came out of their respective relationships, their first ones at that. Ten months prior, his friend broke up with his first girlfriend, so the two of them hung up for a bit to cheer him up. And then a few weeks ago, the original poster (OP) of the thread’s first boyfriend dumped him, so they hung out and drank.
They are, of course, not the first people who got drunk with their friends after a breakup.
With my first breakup, I wasn’t too heartbroken, probably because the spark was long gone? Also, I didn’t get to tell many friends about our relationship because we were only out to a select few. And anyway, I think we were too young (college), so I guess it was only puppy love of sorts.
When I truly, really got my heart broken though, I realized I had plenty of friends. Some of them took me out of town and brought me to the beach, some of them stayed at my place overnight, some of them stayed over the weekend to console me, and one of them even helped me move out of my old apartment into a new one. Others took me to parties and bars, not only did some of my friends drink with me, but some of them also took me to lunch or dinner and watched movies with me. Some friends who were based overseas called occasionally to ask how I was, and there was even one who lived locally who called me every night for weeks, or was it months?
But I never did kiss, let alone sleep, with any of them – be it with my gay, lesbian, bisexual, or straight friends – and yes, even with alcohol involved. For me, friends are friends, and coworkers are coworkers. But that’s just me, of course, and I’m pretty sure that he wasn’t the first one to sleep with a straight friend either. Read here.
In fact, some of the respondents on the thread admitted to doing the same thing and they advised OP to give it time, put it behind him and move forward, and most importantly, to forgive themselves. He was also told that it will be awkward at first but that will pass and there will come a time when they’d both be able to just laugh about it. Read the aforementioned thread in full here.
Having said all that, what advice would you give gay and bisexual men who have had sex with their straight friends like OP and are regretting it? Moreover, did this happen to you as well? Did it ruin your friendship? What did you do to restore it? Comment down below!
I was having a few beers with a friend when I was in my early 20’s. He mentioned one thing he wanted to do in his life was to parachute out of an airplane. I was probably feeling the beers and told him I wanted to suck a dick to see what it was like. He just laughed it off. A few days later I was at his place and he brought the subject back up and asked if I was serious. I told him I was. He unzipped on the spot and said I could try it on him.… Read more »
I’ve had sex with a number of “Straight” men. Guys who present themselves as Straight. Guys who are married to women. Guys who are fathers. Guys who are divorced or widowers. Reality is, none are or have been Straight. If your Straight friend sleeps with you (even without sex) without clothes, he’s not Straight. He is just comfortable with you and maybe willing to explore that part of him that is attracted to men. Having sex with him and then one or both of you regretting is most likely the result of the two of you not discussing what you… Read more »
Bosexual
“Straight”?
Definitely Not!
“Heteroflexible”?
Definitely Possible”!
As already ascertained by “The Intelligentsia”…
Straight males are not bi-sexual…unless imprisoned (?) or – otherwise – deprived of the opposite sex – indefinitely…?
Generally, a straight male will choose to jerk-off rather than engage in homosexual sex. Gay males will jerk off instead of having sex with the opposite sex.
Why the double standard? If one has creditability why not the other?
All look the same on they belly. And all give it up after a good ass kickin
“Lick it before you stick it”!
“Heteroflexible”? No, Bisexual, enough with the hipster labels.
I was being satirically not realistically!
I see, cool then.
As a frustrated teen, I spent many hours enjoying printed porn. My childhood best friend would frequently spend the night, and was always interested in my porn collection. One evening while drooling our way through Hustler, Cherry, or some other rag, the question of jerking off came up. I don’t remember who brought it up, but we soon both admitted to the near daily deed. At some point we both declared we were horny enough to jerk off right then, and proceeded to watch each other jerk off and cum. Many times over the coming months we repeated this ritual,… Read more »
Used to frequently hook up with my former bud. We would be smoking weed and he would ask if I wanted to blow him, which led to him fucking me. He never blew me or took dick or kissed. He was just using me to nut and I was ok with it as I liked it. The first time he asked if I wanted to I said no(but I did want to). A few nights later he got me really high after work and the convo turned to sex. He pulled the ” it’s just us. No one will know”… Read more »
I’m not naive!! I think guys that have sex with guys are not straight. I am closeted and have plenty of straight friends. I go to the gym 5 days a week and met plenty of straight guys in my gym. We hang out in sports bars. The straight guys i know like women. The stories I read so far are very hot and sexy. Bisexual guys have sex with guys and girls as we all know so the stories I read depicts bisexuality. So called straight guys rarely have sex with a guy once in their lives. They always… Read more »
I had one of my long time friends over to my place for drinks. He was married and his wife was out of town at the time so he drank more and stayed later than he normally would. As we talked he brought up the fact that he and his wife hadn’t fucked in about a year. Now it had been about a month since I had any so I was horny, if I had been sober I probably wouldn’t have done this but being horny and drunk I couldn’t help myself. As he was complaining about how long it… Read more »
At least you got your ride in the end…………..
My experience with “straight” men is that we usually hookup after drinking a bit too much, most the time they have a sap story about how there girlfriend or wife isn’t putting out or they just got out of a relationship. You then hook up and the next morning they blame it on the drinking and say we can’t do it again and they are still straight, but then a few months later they come back wanting to do it again. From here I have had a few different things happen. One is the guy is usually in a relationship… Read more »
I’ve had sex with straight guys who were both married and single now they aren’t very straight if they enjoy sex with other men .
So this was some years ago my best friend and his wife had asked me would I be down for a threesome the first time I said nah not interested the second once I got a good buzz I agreed and it was hot!! I did them both orally and deep kissed my friend, yes the next day was very awkward, we had another bout then it just stopped. Over time were back to normal just we never bring it up.
I had sex with a so called straight man. He actually started it. This was one Christmas night. We had been flirting for years, never thought it would happen. He called me and asked if I would fuck him. I didn’t believe him, until he came to my house. Took of all his clothes, got on his knees. and I ate his ass than fucked him. Happened a couple nights later too. Eventually, I learned he was into getting spanked and fucked.
Too many Gay guys love to brag that they “got a straight guy to have sex with them.” Somehow they “turned” him. Truth is, it’s they themselves who have been taken. The guy they had sex with just wasn’t advertising he enjoys sex with men and found them an easy/comfortable target. Who’s the fool?
Let’s just say he thought he was straight
I’ve had sex multiple times, with “straight men.” The first time was with a roommate’s best friend, they were both about 10yrs., my senior; I knew he liked me; he must have known I was attracted to him. When we’d party after work/wk-end, he would sit really close to me, then once he flashed me his tiny dick, lol, he was so cute though; one night he stayed over in the living room on the sofa. Once everyone went to their rooms, he actually crept into my room, smiling, he said couldn’t sleep, so I let him into my bed,… Read more »
Seriously? Wasn’t this subject posted a year or so ago?
Good memory, yeah.
Once again, the A4A blog has demonstrated it’s tired obsession with so-called “straight” males. This is really old stuff, experimentation happens in high school and sometimes college campuses. Nothing really new. I came out early in the 1990s, and I WAS their experiment, everyone was pretty much bi-curious back then, but I was also a senior in high school. By the time you are in your mid-twenties you are TOO OLD to not know who are into sexually and what you like, although there are exceptions, but this is a small ratio. Let’s not forget also that being “gay” is… Read more »
Wow, younger people, have indeed come a long way, about homosexuality, then!
“90’s everyone was pretty much bi-curious back then.”
Like I said, one day none of human sexuality will be surprising/big deal anymore, which is the business of the “Christian/Catholic” to see that doesn’t happen. Having read this, I have hope that the coming generations will squash that oppressive rhetoric, as it’s clearly normal within nature.
Well, I’m not gonna make it sound like coming out during those days, where I was was all perfect, peaches ‘n cream, blah blah.
Yeah there were homophobes and prude people around of course, moreso then. It depends on who you chose as your friends/who you surround yourself with. It was art school in NYC and we were an alternative bunch, so there will be naturally open-mindedness, but yeah society is going that direction, as long as we can get past the stereotypes, marketing which plays into the hatred and exclusion of others, etc.
Yes, but all that happened was I performed oral on him. He enjoyed it and came back for more when he needed. Actually, I had one friend who would stop by regularly. He getting oral and his wife did not like to do it for him, so (lucky me) he would let me do it for him. They were a pretty modern couple, and she knew and as long is that was all he did with me, she was off the hook. LOL (I actually prefer giving oral to straight men).
LOL all men are str8, until their first cock, was started early by cousin, I ejoyed it, then a few experiments with friends in High School, couple into early 20s, All acted str8 in public, but was after lights out on stayovers or out booze cruising later years, would happen then next day all str8 again, Honesty hard for many to be.Stayed str8 in actions, always had fetish/desire, for 27 years after married, then one day, decided to ty what was missing, been several over the last 12 years,
66 If they are straight the possibility of having sex with them wouldn’t exist. I have some friends that appeal to me but I would never approach them simply because I don’t know whether they are or are not.
No I haven’t. & if a guy has sex with another guy, he (technically) ain’t straight.