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Dr. Joe Kort says the anus has no sexual orientation. He says it doesn’t know whether it’s gay, straight, or bi. Do you agree with him, guys?
Sex therapist Dr. Joe Kort, known for his work on sexuality and relationships, argues in one of his recent videos that pleasure and orientation are not always connected the way people assume. One topic often brought into this conversation is pegging, which usually means a man receiving anal penetration from their wife or girlfriend using a strap-on. Do you think enjoying that experience changes someone’s sexuality? And do you personally know a straight man who enjoys it?
Anyway, in his video, Dr. Kort said:
Listen up, everybody, your anus doesn’t have a sexual orientation. It doesn’t know whether it’s gay, straight, or bi.
It’s an anus. And so, you can be a gay man like myself, a side, who only enjoys everything other than anything anus play. And you can be a straight guy that loves to bottom, loves getting pegged, loves experiencing anus penetration.
But has no interest in being hooking up with another man. But he loves that part of himself completely played with. Just like you can be a gay guy who does not really love that whole side of himself played with.
Just because I’m a side and I don’t like any anus play, doesn’t make me any less gay. Just because he’s straight and he loves getting pegged and being a bottom and liking the anus play, doesn’t make him any less straight. It’s not a gay thing, it’s a guy thing. We all have a prostate. Every male has a prostate.
And so, because of that, you either enjoy it or you don’t.
That statement from Dr. Joe Kort has sparked plenty of reactions online because it pushes back against assumptions many people still hold. Within gay communities, labels like top, bottom, verse, and side help describe preferences, but they do not necessarily define someone’s sexuality. A gay man who identifies as a side may enjoy intimacy, romance, oral sex, mutual pleasure, and connection without wanting anal play at all.
At the same time, some straight men openly discuss enjoying pegging or prostate stimulation while maintaining that their attraction remains exclusively toward women. For them, the experience is about physical pleasure rather than orientation. Supporters of Dr. Kort’s argument say that enjoying pegging or anal sex does not automatically change who someone is attracted to.
One viewer commented, “It’s not even a guy thing… It’s a human thing.” On the other hand, someone shared, “Dr. Joe Kort, I was totally confused about this subject. I appreciate you clarifying it. I have been watching adult films for 50 + years. The first time I saw ‘Pegging Niche,’ I was shocked to see Hetero-men engaging with female partners.”
The conversation also shines a light on how much pressure people can feel to fit expectations. Gay men who do not enjoy anal play sometimes face questions about whether they are “really” gay. Meanwhile, straight men interested in pegging may hesitate to discuss it because of stigma or fear of judgment.
Maybe the bigger question is whether pleasure should come with labels at all.
What do you think, Adam4Adam blog readers? Do you agree with Dr. Kort that anal pleasure and sexual orientation are separate things? If you identify as a side, have you ever felt misunderstood because of it? And have you ever met a straight man who openly talked about enjoying pegging or prostate play? Share your thoughts and stories in the comments section down below!
Anal pleasure and sexual orientation are definitely separate things, but straight folks don’t see it that way. Anything sexual that’s related to the male anus and prostate are immediately viewed, by many, many straights, as something gay. They deny themselves that pleasure and those that do partake are very closeted about it. You never hear a guy bragging in the locker room about how his wife pegged him with a dildo last night.
When i was married to a woman she use to peg me and it was just something we did to be more kinky in are sexual time but the more we did it the more I wanted to have the real thing I never had the chance until we got divorced then I went after what I wanted and now i don’t have any problem being pegged are having the real thing if he can’t get hard for awhile then I’m up for being pegged but that’s just my opinion everyone has there own thing they like
I never had the balls to ask my wife to do it to me.
She might have some to spare for ya buddy!!! Lololol
a Bitch with Cojones?
LOL! LOL! LOL!
a cunt with Cojones? LOL! LOL! LOL!
Will the next question be: “… a woman receiving anal penetration from their husband or boyfriend …” does that make her Gay?
Perhaps not? But it does make her versitile!
Not equivalent.
I’m sure I’m straight, just am. But I have been plagued by urges to be penetrated all of my life. My wife has encouraged it a few times in our long marriage. But it always throws her off balance I think because of how much I enjoy it. She thinks it makes me gay and I will leave her. But there is zero chance I want a relationship with a man. It just wouldn’t work and I’m not at all attracted to the idea of it. I did let a man fuck me a few times. The desire is just… Read more »
You need to place a suction cup dildo on the wall behind you, while you fuck her and yourself at the same time.
Do it dude!! If she’s too afraid, don’t let her FEAR stop your PLEASURE!!!
I believe that you’re a bit confused. Are you sure you’re straight? It’s not a relationship with another man that makes a guy gay or bi, it’s having sexual relations (ie. letting a man fuck you), with another man that makes you gay or bi. Obviously it’s more than just the sensation that turns you on, as then you’d simply be using a dildo or some object, other than another man’s penis, to be penetrated by. Just saying.
Dildo doesn’t build the intensity. Perhaps I am gay. Guess it depends on who sets the label.
And yet you are on this site???
No, not necessarily. I lived in a boarding house-renting a room, it was very nice well-kept maintained old huge house very long ago, my house mates were of all backgrounds, male and female occupants, ages varied.
Anyway, one of my house mates and I would party beer-pot hang out and socialize. One day his co-worker hung out with us, and sex came up, the one visiting guy told us how his girlfriend inserted a finger in his ass while he was fucking her and how he came so hard and good he nearly cried.
I was in a sex shop in NYC’s village 30 years ago ( not that when matters ) and we saw a hetero couple looking at dildoes!! After they left we asked the sales help ! He said over half of his dildoes are sold to heteros.
my first time being fucked, I was pegged by a gal. the second time was also a gal. a couple years later was a guy I was doing some work for. he was tender and caring, not wanting to rush. I loved it. been getting real cock ever since. a real cock beats a strap-on any day
Hella YEAH!!! BET!! 🙂
We may like to think so, but if they can only enjoy a woman mutilating their butt, they’re not. But some are. A penis is certainly less hurtful than an uncontrolled dildo. Nor do I think it’s a healthy man-woman relationship. I think they should bring in a man to do a man’s job on the man.
Does pegging make you gay? Only if you are male and getting buttfucked by another man.
Oh, and for the record my anus is really gay. As is the rest of me.
I was first pegged by a gal. then got fucked by a guy. been taking cock since. definitely better than a strap on
I love guys who love to get fucked…but I want to eat that ass first.
Oh yeah. Gotta lick it b4 you dick it.
70% of male sexual pleasure comes from the prostate, only 30% from the penis/crown of the penis. The correlation to why so many gay men are bottoms is obvious when you know the science. Therefore it is not out of the norm that straight men seek to have/increase pleasure—statistically it’s 30 to 50% of hetero men, Joe Kort came to Columbia and I brought my men’s group and we did wonderful relationship exercises; he’s great/funny and very knowledgeable. Sex—one of the 21 biological possibilities, Sexuality—one of the 60+ variations that is self determined; Gender the imposition of degrees of masculinity… Read more »
Add to it that men’s nipples are 10X more sensitive than women’s nipples are.
That is totally untrue.
several years ago I hooked up with a Married Dude that was in a horrible Marriage but he was convinced he really couldn’t afford to get out because Her Family would do everything to destroy him Professionally. Totally screwed up relationship but he was looking for sex, found Me and we ended up being together almost four years. Dude was a good Guy, not really experienced with M2M but willing to learn. He was a Bigger, Athletic Guy that definitely leaned to the Top bunk but he was adventuous. He did like the use of toys (on me) and one… Read more »
Gotta have a tee shirt that says: An anus knows no gender!
OR, a hole by any other name is still a hole!
I have always said that when I meet God I will ask “Why did you have to put my G spot up my ass?”. I’m a well-hung top who has tried the bottom enough to know it’s not for me. I have had a couple of prostate orgasms over the years and the felt incredible. Been chasing that sensation again but it’s quite elusive with only toys. I love giving other men prostate massages and marveling at how intensely the orgasm and how much cum they shoot! Wife and I are a bi couple so I should probably just teach… Read more »
SIMPLE ANSWER —- NO!!!
No, but it might make him available. I had a straight friend into it. He was so into it with his girlfriend, the last time I saw him, he couldn’t walk straight. But I could tell he was leaning toward being with a guy instead, and it was driving her crazy.
I don’t see what else I could do to make me any more gay than I already am.
Keep trying tho hot baby boi!!! 🙂
I loved getting pegged by the gf when I was 100% straight… now that I’m bi, I’d love it even more, but I’m not getting anyone interested. Dildo ok, cock, better; still virgin… HMU
Pegging absolutely does NOT mean a guy is gay. Only being attracted to me does. People are too hung up on labels. It’s time we all grow up.