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Fisting is one of those topics that always sparks strong reactions. Some gay men love it, others are confused, curious, or completely turned off. What do you think, and what shaped that opinion?

Anyway, we’re bringing this up because a curious gay man asked online, “Is fisting even good?” He added:

“I know everyone is entitled to their own sexual kinks and fantasies, but is overstretching your hole worth it? Like people be putting their hands elbow deep in someone’s asshole, what lost treasure or pleasure are you seeking in the colon? And bottoms who do this, like how do you go on with your life after that, like when you go out, you just put in a plug or wear diapers. Also, there are others who do double, I saw a post here three or four days ago about a guy doing double-fisted, elbow deep. I had to check if it’s possible and if people do that. Literally, this is turning asses to ruins in my opinion. In general, my questions are: Is fisting even good in a sexual way? Tops who fist, what’s the pleasure in there, and bottoms too, what’s the pleasure?? Bottoms who are regularly fisted, how are your daily lives, especially when it comes to poop? The bottoms in fisting, how long do you prepare yourself, like people here for normal dick sex sometimes not fully well done, do they use a hose or something for more deep cleaning?”

But first, what is fisting? Urban Dictionary defines fisting as “The act of inserting one’s fist into either a vagina or rectum. It requires patience and excessive lubrication. It is a popular practice among gay men.”

Anyway, many gay men responded by pointing out a simple truth: people wouldn’t keep doing something if it didn’t bring pleasure. One commenter summed it up plainly: “People wouldn’t be doing it if it didn’t feel good LOL.” To them, the continued popularity of the kink is evidence enough.

Others offered firsthand insight, emphasizing consent. One gay man shared, “I have done some fisting (as the giver, not at the receiving end) to a few people (one of them is this pocket-lean muscled guy, and he enjoys my whole lower arm as it is very ‘slim’) Each one of them have their own prep and the time that I fisted them, they seem to enjoy it (taking it elbow deep).

Some replies focused on reframing the fear around physical damage. One commenter explained, “Yes, it’s good. The anus is a muscle and can be trained like any other muscle. Although the words wrecking and destruction get thrown around a lot in the fisting world, it’s really just lots of slow, gradual training to be able to relax more and more.” He added, “You don’t lose the ability to use the anus as normal, just like bodybuilders don’t automatically crush delicate things just cos they can lift heavy. It adds to what you can do with it rather than taking away from it.”

On the opposite end, a few men were unapologetically clear that the practice isn’t for them. One simply said, “I love it when I get a fist, it feels so good to me,” while another guy took a more cautionary stance. He said, “Doctor here, just be aware excess can lead to prolapse, I’ve had plenty of patients come to the hospital with horrible cases of prolapse due to anal fisting, it’s not often, I know plenty of people that have that kink and haven’t suffered from it but usually if it’s a frequent activity it might lead to some damage. If it leads to the hospital, it’s surgery time, gotta put it back together.”

There were also voices echoing the original poster’s disbelief, like this guy who said, “Bro, I’ve been wondering the same thing lol. I saw a video of this dude who got mid-bicep deep, like how it is even possible, and how long does it take to stretch and rearrange your guts like that?” To which OP replied, “And the pain for the stretching.”

Having said all that, what about you, Adam4Adam blog readers? Have you ever been curious about fisting, tried it, or is it a hard no for you? Do you see it as a kink, a risky practice, or simply something that isn’t for you? And what are your honest thoughts on fisting, and what questions do you still have? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section down below.

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