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There’s something undeniably intimate about the way sex brings two men together, and for many, that connection deepens at the exact moment of climax. A gay man online recently shared his candid confession that sparked quite a discussion among other gay men in the thread. He asked, “Do you let your partner cum inside?”
He went on to explain, “I love the feeling of my partner cumming inside my butt, I specially enjoy seeing him going into climax and feeling his throbbing cock shooting inside while I make my hole feel more tight for him to enjoy. Is it just me? His pleasure gives me pleasure.”
This raw and honest question quickly drew passionate responses from men who know exactly what he meant—and others who wanted to weigh in on the sensations, meanings, and boundaries around letting a partner finish inside.
One gay man revealed that once he and his “fuck buddy” made the decision to go raw after testing, there was no turning back. He admitted, “My current fuck buddy recently got the joy of fucking raw after we got tested and talked about ditching the condoms. He didn’t pull out the first time he rawed me and I think his pullout game is ruined now because he always cums inside.” For many, that first time without a condom is a point of no return.
Another respondent asked rhetorically if there’s even anything to debate. “I mean, can we (do we want to) blame him? That silky sensation is something really special. Good thing we can’t get pregnant.” For some, it’s less about preference and more about inevitability—for them, the experience is simply too good to give up.
Meanwhile, others emphasized that bottoming almost feels incomplete without it. As one man bluntly shared, “What’s the point of bottoming if not to be filled with his cum? I love when we’re done and he lays there and I have to make the walk to the bathroom while his cum drips out of me.” That messy, physical aftermath is part of the thrill, a reminder of the connection that just happened.
Of course, humor found its way into the discussion too. A married man described his husband’s love for finishing inside with a cheeky analogy: “My hubby likes to feel like a cream filled donut.” Playful, yes, but it shows just how entwined pleasure and intimacy can be.
Trust came up as a vital factor as well. One man explained that for him, it wasn’t just about the act, but about the bond. He shared, “When I trusted him, abso-fucking-lutely! I LOVE getting bred. Makes me so horny just thinking about it.” That sense of being safe with someone amplifies the erotic charge.
Others echoed that sentiment even more strongly. For one man, taking loads wasn’t optional—it was the very point of sex itself. He confessed, “A hundred percent of the time. It’s not even ‘let,’ it’s ‘want.’ Being cummed in is literally the main reason I even want sex to begin with. If it isn’t in me, it’s a waste of a load. Frankly, if I don’t get a load in me, it doesn’t feel like I’ve properly had sex.”
Another man laughed at the intensity of the original poster’s words, but still admitted agreement. “The description is wild and vulgar, but yes… yes I do.” Even when the words are raw, the feeling is relatable.
Yet, not all experiences have been positive. Some shared cautionary tales that served as reminders of how important consent and protection are. One man wrote, “I love it too and strongly prefer it, but only when it is my choice and we have been tested and/or he is on prep and has recent test results. But there is nothing hotter than a top finishing me… well, except for multiple tops finishing in me. I have had threesomes with some couples, and we were safe to play raw and having both guys shoot their loads inside of me was fucking hot!! Loved it!!” He added, “Unfortunately, one guy took away that choice from me and stealthed me. Now I have to take a pill every day to stay healthy and alive and have been U+ for over 2.5 years.” His story underlines the importance of safety and choice, reminding everyone that pleasure should never come at the expense of health.
As this thread revealed, the original poster’s (OP) question taps into something deeper than just preference. For some, it’s about physical sensation; for others, about trust and intimacy; and for others still, about control, boundaries, and responsibility. It’s raw, it’s personal, and it’s part of what makes sex between men such a layered and nuanced experience.
So Adam4Adam blog readers, what about you? Do you let your partner finish inside, or is that a hard limit for you? Is it about the feeling, the intimacy, or the trust? Have your boundaries changed over time? We want to hear your experiences and what “taking a load” really means to you.
And while we’re on the subject, remember that as hot and erotic as bareback sex can feel, it does come with risks. Make sure you and your partner are tested, communicate openly, and consider using PrEP or other prevention methods if you choose to play raw. Sex should be thrilling, pleasurable, and safe—because nothing kills a good orgasm like worry.
I love to be bred!!! Bury that cock and let me feel the pulse as he fills me up!! Its so hot when we can cum together
The question ask do YOU? Huge no thanks you for me!!! I have safe sex 100% of the time because I am not in a committed relationship. I have FWB, but I still have to protect myself. I love porn. Huge and I mean huge turnon for me to see and hear the reactions of the top and bottom guys, when the bottom guy is getting bred, but like I said it’s not for me at the present time.
No, as previously said. I agree with you.
I think you are both very wise in this regard. It is my practice as well to have safe sex until we both get tested and agree to only fuck each other and to inform the other if one has had sex with somebody else. I suppose one could look at it as a mutual defense pact of a sort. It is possibly noteworthy to mention that this kind of arrangement usually only occurs if there is a mutual emotional connection though I have had such an agreement with a FWB. The absence of concern makes it all the more… Read more »
And that’s point, well said. Even with the two monogamous relationships I’ve had, with regard to “being bred” I always used condoms 100%. There is no anal sex, with the far and few “hookups” I’ve taken that off the table until another monogamous relationship becomes reality.
God yes, love it raw in my ass and feeling that cock pulsating deep inside as it fills me with a huge load of cum.
I’m an older well-hung top man at 62 and as I have aged, I no longer stay erect in condoms so I fuck strictly bare by necessity. I am married and half of a bi couple so I screen my partners very carefully and take a home HIV test every 3 months and my Dr tests us for everything twice a year. Never had any STD issues. Bare play can be safe if you take appropriate screening measures and let’s face it: it certainly feels much better for both side going bare!
You are sure to have an STD issue sooner or later, and may give it to your wife. So, unacceptable behavior.
yo, typical married dude’s perception
To each, their own but given I have been doing what I am doing for almost 20 years, I disagree.
Yes, twice a year is far longer than it takes for an STD to incubate and create an infectious condition. Better late than never I suppose but by then it could be too late.
Yep, I’m addicted. The emotional rush i get when the top is exploding inside me takes me to another level.
I totally agree!! Feeling the pulsation and hearing them moans groan and roar. I felt claimed after!! I do like being bred!
I love it raw and the feeling of continuing to have sex afterwards is so enjoyable
I love being bred because i turn my top partner into an animal by telling him to cum in me like he wants to get me pregnant . Love feeling him go into overdrive thrusting harder as i tighten an clamp up around his cock . I can definitely feel when he cums cause that cock is throbbing .
Like cum dripping out of me
LOL…..agree. My current BF often times says that to Me about ‘knocking me up’ and he is very aggressive with anal if he feels I am daring him To Breed. Nothing like RAW but I am pretty careful with who I do it with. Current BF likes to go multiple rounds, several positions and isn’t satisfied until it is dripping out of Me and running down my leg. The price I pay for dating a Divorced Dude that came out Late and is trying to make up for lost time.
Honestly, there is absolutely nothing like it. If you’re with someone and you decide to play raw, as a bottom, the intensity of having him cumming inside me is overwhelming. It’s not just the physical sensation, (the warmth inside me that feels like it’s spreading, the way some of it leaks out and down my balls) But it’s the whole emotional connection and explosion of feelings. Feeling a raw cock inside me, feeling a man. Take pleasure in fucking me bare, as a bottom there is nothing like it in the world. If I don’t know someone, I use condoms,… Read more »
I am alive today because of the consistent use of condoms for anal sex. Fantasy is one thing, reality is another.
PREP and DoxyPep keep plenty of people alive on their own.
It’s a balance of how much someone has sex, what type of sex, what role one plays in sex, whether or not to take pills versus using a condom, etc. For me, condoms have been the right choice.
You are to be commended. It’s only a shame that you haven’t yet found a committed partner that you would feel safe enough with to go bareback.
Two responses. First, not everyone is seeking a “committed partner.” Second, “committed partners” are sometimes not so committed, with the person you trust the most being the person who can be the most harmful. For me, condoms are a must, even when there is a steady boyfriend or fuck buddy.
Totally agree!!!! Treat everyone as if they have STD. Condoms are plentiful and easily accessible.
One of the things I like about married partners – they usually know how to fuck me like they’re trying to get me pregnant. Love the feel … and their determination.
This is so irresponsible and thoughtless. Particularly when so many of your members had to survive the AIDS epidemic. No Prep is 100% effective. Breeding is selfish and irresponsible. Shame on you.
Only if you are having unprotected sex with an uncommitted partner.
It’s a complete head trip for the bottom (any maybe the top?) As a top, fucking with or without a condom is of no difference to me. When I’m banging back there, the bottom doesn’t know whether it’s bare or not. Believe me, I’d done many experiments to prove that the bottom is clueless. Unless he reaches around to confirm or not the condom, he doesn’t know and there is no different “feeling” when I come in the condom or bare, in his ass. He thinks he was bred when, in fact, it never happened. It was an all act… Read more »
So you have participated in stealthing. Bravo. Maybe the right people will track down who you are based upon your IP Address and arrest your ass.
I’m guessing you’re full of it. I can definitely feel the difference.
Nothing hotter than watching my partners face while hes thrusting deep in me. Knowing that Im giving him pleasure. And when hes close and then cums in me its the ultimate pleasure for us both
Love it? And love doing it to who I’m fucking? Oh, yeah. But do I have to do it every time? Nope. Breeding and getting bred is hot. But doing it as safely as possible is important. When I was 33, I hooked up with a guy who was 20 or so and still in college. We clicked so hooking up became a regular thing. Each time we got together, I made sure to talk to him during foreplay about safe sex and STDs and using condoms. It was fun and sexy working up to the point where we put… Read more »
no. and the word “bred” in this context is repulsive to me.
No one cares.
What would you call it?
Let’s face facts, breed is something people do with two animals so they procreate a specific result. Two guys can fuck their brains out and pop countless loads in each others asses, but neither of them will ever get bred.
Hince the question: WHAT would you call it?
& what about those that biologically CAN’T “procreate a specific result” (such as age, vasectomy, tubes tied, etc.)?
Basically the argument over the word “marriage”.
You have the right to feel that way, Cory. Some guys like to be bred. Some like to breed. Some both.
When it comes the the wide variation of sex acts, some are found attractive and some repulsive. Thank God for variety!
And no one guy has a right to care or care not about what other guys do.
It was the word bred he felt repulsive, He didn’t say anything about the word.
Understandable, but it’s just sex talk.
Being bred is the most intimate and satisfying thing between guys. A bottom wants his man’s seed. A top wants to mark his bottom in full LUST!!
Absolutely agree with you!!
Being married myself I try to be very careful, I have been in a few relationships with men where each of them were married also, we built trust in each other, they all were 100 %. Tops and I all bottom, and I allowed them to breed me, I not the one to have sex with a man on the spur of the moment, and it only after we build trust I let a man hit it raw, Im like if I can’t swallow a mans cum, then he has no business fuckin me, I’m afraid to stick my dick… Read more »
I was in a committed relationship with a friend for 5 years. We’re still best of friends, but no sex anymore due to medical problems in his life (another story for another day). After total testing for both of us we decided condoms would not be a part of our love life. Swallowing and getting bred were part of our regular routine. I was the bottom. Getting “bred”, for me, and I really despise that term, was not so much about him unloading inside of me as it was watching the expression on his face as he did it. The… Read more »
Being Top Verse is the best world for me. Love to bury my fat cock deep in a good man’s butt and load him up with my nut. Love taking hard long cock in my tight hairy ass and feeling a good man nut deep inside me. Nothing more intimate that breeding!
This blog and commentary is very disturbing to say the least. As a longtime loyal a4a user, I’m disappointed that a4a would post a convo piece that more or less “legitimatizes” UNsafe sex. It’s bad enough that I have a harder and harder time finding guys who use condoms anymore, but to glorify it like this? Shame…
I understand what you are saying. However, the truth being swept under the rug isn’t going to stop the activity. Is it like ‘shoot ’em up video games’ that children are allowed to play? No- we are mature men seeking sexual gratification. Somewhere I heard, SEX IS IN THE MIND. For the top, that certainly is elevated by giving sensation to the penis by removing the barrier. And then there are the bottoms who enjoy playing with fire, or want to become part of the fire. I am amazed at the requests for me to dump my load in the… Read more »
You favor censorship?
Both of you “Daves” make good points. I’m not quite as passionate as I come across in my post but I’m definitely terrified of ever getting an HIV+ test result, so it struck a nerve. Perhaps I wouldn’t have responded the way I did if the blogger had opened the piece by making a firm statement (or sort of a disclaimer) reminding everyone of the dangers of unprotected sex.
In the beginning or where it was at the end. What difference does it make? None.
The article does say, “…remember that as hot and erotic as bareback sex can feel, it does come with risks.” A4A has gotten good at including such statements when topics such as this one are discussed. Guys are going to have sex. Some as safe as possible. Some wide open to infections as possible. Some take calculated risks. Prohibition of alcohol didn’t work. Prohibition of unsafe sex won’t either.
I absolutely love being cummed in. Mouth, ass, belly, back, whatever, but NEVER in or around the eyes.
I am mostly a top, and as I always say…by default. However, I don’t mind and I do bareback. I have used condoms when I first had sex with my ex because he knew I was promiscuous before we got together. I can say it does feel just as good as it does w/o a condom, but I didn’t feel that closeness or intimacy I wanted to feel and I couldn’t keep a strong erection. Several years ago, I contracted std’s, and took a long break, but eventually risked it all over again. So far, I’ve been fortunate, but doesn’t… Read more »
When I was younger, bottoming was experimental, and I decided I enjoyed it.I found I had a better time with some tops than others. Fast forward, I’m older in my 60’s it less important to me. Oh, don’t get me wrong I still enjoy sex but more selective with the top. I like smaller dick size to have a more pleasurable experience. At this point bigger is just bigger, not better. -)
I’m in total agreement with you. The entire size thing is extremely overrated. C’mon, let’s face facts, that sweet spot inside is easily reached with a finger.
No way. Gay men carry too many diseases willingly. Even if i was with a guy, it would be a long time before I trust him that much.
Complete nonsense! I have been on PrEP and DoxyPEP for 10 years. I started ONLY barebacking after being on PrEP for 6 months. I regularly go to bathhouses, nude beaches, and large orgies (100+ guys), and have group sex with my partner weekly. I will have sex with a dozen or more guys at one event. Two dozen when bottoming. My partner does the same and has the same STI rate. And in these 10 years, I have caught gonorrhea 3 times (once in the throat, once in the dick and once in the ass) and chlamydia in the throat… Read more »
Goddamn! Nothing better than getting fucked raw from behind!! Looking back over my shoulder I flicker my tongue out hoping he’ll lean into it and French kiss me as he’s plowing my pussyhole!! And after he cums inside me, I immediately take his cum covered cock down my throat for an added treat!!
I used to make adult films, and was always the bottom despite not being built for it. Studios like guys with big dongs, and I wasn’t one of them, so I trained myself to bottom. It was … just okay. Sure got lots of practice without cameras, and those tops bred me, certainly. But I never got the “jizz joy” that so many bottoms swear by. I couldn’t feel his spunk inside me, and it was planted so deep that I couldn’t creampie, either. He may as well have faked it. My ex made a lousy top, and caused me… Read more »
I enjoy a load inside me and I also enjoy it when he pulls out and cums in my mouth and face. Then I clean that dick off. that really gets my guy as the dick is still really sensitive. I’m kind of a pain in the ass slut because I will be wanting to get fucked again in an hour or so.
While I am by far more a bottom, I must say when I DO top I love doing it raw. Condoms dull it too much, and I love when a bottom wants nmy cum
I definitely agree with you condoms do dull it out I love getting fucked raw
I was taught early to accommodate a man’s physical need to ejaculate occasionally, and that my hole offered them not only exceptional pleasure but a convenient ‘no mess’ way to accommodate it. Being used this way made (and still makes) feel both useful and ‘complete’ – if that’s the right word – so I’ve always enjoyed freely offering my hole when I can be of service to men …
I will share this with you. I have been breeded by a good friend I trusted many times. I have personally breeded 3 men who trusted me. We had good trusted sex in our young days. But now as an older man, I don’t have any trusted man to breed me or I breeding them. It’s hard to start over with a new guy and you just can’t say “please put your dick in me and cum” on the first date. I have always felt that my ass is an area of trust. The only way someone’s going to fuck… Read more »
Being a vers guy I love to breed just as much as I love to get bred…..the feeling of a guys cock swelling and throbbing right before it shoots feeling the warm cum fill my hole is one of the best feelings I have ever felt….and I do love having a guy cum in my open mouth as well
a date hook up is wrap it please a committed relationship I luv feeling him bust it…Now please dont pull out lets lay together and enjoy
Judging by the comments, only a few seem to read beyond the title—as the author actually reminded readers about sexual health and safety in the article.
For many people now days unfortunately anything beyond two or three sentences is too long to read.
For me, condoms are a dealbreaker. I hate how they pull my hair, and no matter how much lube is used, they always feel dry. There is no better feeling that taking raw cock, and when the top is finished, rewarding you with a big sticky load balls deep inside.
A hard cock throbbing deep in my hole or in my mouth is soooo erotic. A dripping booty is extremely erotic.
I LOVE raw sex and being bred! The anticipation of holding another guy’s cum in your body for hours after, is a turn on. Each guy’s ejaculation is different. Each cock is different in its shape, girth, and where it touches. Sometimes I’ve actually felt the pulsing and squirts of his ejaculation. My favorite part is post-orgasm when his penis head is resting in your body, lying in it’s own cum, while both of you are coming down; kissing, smiling, and connecting emotionally. Breeding is a beautiful and consumating thing.
I want to, but haven’t made that step yet.
Haven’t yet, but thinking about it.
If I’m in a committed relationship, I’ll let him breed me. I love the feel of his cock head popping into my hole. Sometimes he’ll pull out and back in repeatedly just because he knows I love it. And then there’s that pulsing as he’s cumming in me…it pushes me over the edge!
With my first bf for five years it was bareback breeding. He took my virginity too. We were exclusive and vers. It was very intimate to cum like that inside each other.
With all future bf I had no desire to have condom less sex. It would be a miracle if I go bare in future. Only a deep emotional connection and probably a Scorpio/Scorpio nutting