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Sexuality isnāt always a straight line. For many gay men, the road to self-acceptance included moments of experimentation, denial, confusion, or simple curiosity just like this guy who asked online, “To any gay guys that have had sex with girls beforeā¦ā¦how did it feel?” The responses from men reflecting on experiences that either confirmed their truth, left them uneasy, or made them laugh in hindsight were raw and unfiltered. These stories arenāt about shame, theyāre about understanding the path that led men to fully embrace who they are.
One gay man for example, reflected on how context and comparison shaped his experience. Before he ever slept with another man, sex with a woman felt passable, even normal. But once he experienced raw, uninhibited passion with another man, everything changed. āPussy was fine when I had nothing to compare it to but my right handā¦ but once I fucked a guyās ass raw with not even a thought of pregnancyā¦ well – I was d-o-n-e ! I am gay! I love M2M sex. I love his body, his ass, his dick and his balls. Never went back.ā
Another response was more about physical preference and emotional disconnect. He had no animosity toward women, simply an honest lack of attraction. āI know I really don’t know how people find boobs appealing. Like I would never tell a woman that but the thought of sleeping with a woman and having her boobs against me is the last thing I’d ever want.ā This points to how feelings of guilt or politeness can mask true desires, even when the body knows the difference.
For some gay men, the experience was deeply uncomfortable and even anxiety-inducing. One man recalled trying to be straight as a teen and feeling not himself. āI did back in high school and was so uncomfortable and out of my element. In my early 20s I went through this phase that I had convinced myself I was straight and attempted to have sex with a girl and as we are making out I like had a panic attack and told her I had to go. A few years laterā¦ itās dick for life nowadays and I have zero plans to ever hookup with a woman ever again.ā In this case, the physical response was a mental and emotional alarm bell.
Some kept it short and honest. One blunt admission revealed a clear disconnect between mind and body. āI couldnāt get it up lol. And it felt like pretend.ā That single sentence says more than a paragraph ever could.
Meanwhile, another man treated his experience like a badge that was lost and accepted the outcome with humor. āDid not enjoy. Lost the distinction of being a gold-star gay. Stick to dick.ā While playful, it echoes a familiar theme of trying something once and never needing to try it again.
Moreover, not all men were feeling aversed with sleeping with women. He confessed, āAs a Bi male, I like both, I’m greedy.ā
Finally, a hard no came through with zero ambiguity. āNever going to happen.ā No explanation necessary. We gay men understand you.
Having said all that, Adam4Adam readers, what about you? Have you ever had sex with a woman? Was it before you came out, out of curiosity, pressure, love, confusion, or experimentation? Did it confirm who you are, or did it complicate things? And for those who never have, do you ever wonder what it would be like, or is it a solid no forever? Share your experiences, your realizations, and your honest thoughts with the A4A community in the comments sections down below.
Nope. and never will. I love dick and guys.
When I think of a vagina, I can only think of predator with his mouth open.
No thanks lmao
a Venus Fly Trap with a toupee
It’s always on the Menu under Perils-of-the-Deep: “Snapper” “Baccala'” “Calamari” “Sungeal” and “Cat Fish”. I always prefer “Grass-Fed”, “Free-Range”!
LOL Way back when I was in Junjior High School, my older brother and his friend showed me a very close up picture of a Vagina. They asked what I thought it was. I said, it looks like some kind of wound…and that’s the way I still think of it today, 60 years later.
Vagina Dentata!!!
A Bearded Clam!
They have teeth and latch on and never let go lol.
Simple, I learned while in middle school. Why sit at home on the weekends just because your friends are not available? So, I branched out to the opposite sex. I discovered that I was never home doing nothing on any weekend anymore. As I progressed on to high school, I found that double dating was a blast, and so were orgies! A lot older now, but still not staying in on the weekends.
Why is staying home on weekends bad? How old are you, 22?
You had orgies in middle school? With girls even? What a bizarre school you went to. Was it an unsupervised boarding school? Were the orgies bisexual? Do tell.
Welcome to Las Vegas. Screw Mom too. Have to pet the cow first
I had experienced sex with men early on but thought I was supposed to be with a woman. I slept with many but never felt fulfilled. I love men and only want men.
Had a 3 way twice with my boyfriend in my early 20’s. Couldn’t get my dick hard to fuck her unless his dick was in my mouth. Started to full around with a girl when I was 17 and literally got sick in my tummy. Felt like i was going to throw up. I think woman can be pretty but hell no as far as sex. The first time I even touch another guy in that way it was exciting. That never happened with a girl. So I was definitely born gay.
Did you throw up into her vagina?
I havent yet but wished I have for the experience… possibly may change next year… im curious
I have tried to do it with a woman twice and I could not get my dick hard, I tried but just could not do it, but when I am with a man I stay rock hard, give me men
Serf & Turf was never on the menu! Carnivorous not omnivorous!
I meant to write Surf & Turf
A few times. I wasn’t really there. Just my body. Going through motions. Had to tell one of them to please stop screeching her fake orgasm into my ear.
I have slept with tens of women. I did not touch another male until I was thirty-two years old. I was married for seven years and have my two Preciouses, whom I raised alone as a divorced, custodial parent. I am a graduate of the third coed class of a college that was all-women for over a century; men were outnumbered by women 11:1. I have been happily and exclusively gay for decades now, though.
THANK your LUCKY STARS and God above!!!!!!! š
Thanx, Jeff.
I’m bi, so yes, I’ve fucked dozens of women. With men I like the bottom position. Giving up control over the situation is part of the turn on for me. That and playing with a dick bigger than mine.
I am also bi, married as well, I’m a full submissive bottom myself, I still enjoy sex with women, but I to like to give up full control to a top, and like you it’s a huge turn on for me to be a submissive bottom
“Have you ever had sex with a woman?” “Ever”. Comes across like somehow you’ve failed at being Gay. You’re Second Class. Tainted somehow. A put down. A division. I knew I was attracted to men early on. But it was in the 1960s and 1970s. Being Gay then meant being fem, flamboyant, fairy-ish. Not who I was, first of all. And being Gay then did not come with the freedom and reduced fears as it does today. If you Came Out, you lost much of your family, friends, jobs, and life. Much has happened in 50 years, fortunately.. As a… Read more »
I grew up in a very small town in the late 1960’s. I dated a lot in high school. When I was a senior, I was at a friends house and his mom asked me if I walked my dates to their door and gave them a good night kiss. It never even ocurred to me that I was supposed to do that. That’s when I realized I was “supposed” to be touching and kissing and “trying to get some”. I never went on another date. At age 70, I’ve had lots of female friends and co-workers, some even made… Read more »
Iāve had sex with lots of women > 10, mostly men, no count available & close to 10 trans men. I donāt share that a lot because so many folks have issues with any of the above.
only if they count with their fingers!
I find the gold star gay business really offensive. How is that not being just as judgmental or superior as some straight people?
Agreed. What makes any Gay guy so special … superior! … just because he’s only had sex with men? Other Gay guys had to actually work to figure out where they landed when it comes to their sexuality and sex. And they actually found a woman/women who would found them sexually attractive along the way. Whether they came in with a Gay Silver Spoon or had to work … there’s no difference.
Sounds like SOMEONE has a COMPLEX š LOLOLOLOL
WHATEVER dude!!! I don’t RULE OUT sex with Bi dudes, in FACT most of my FBs are married buddies that NEVER get any attention at home anymore, IF they ever did!!! š No Judgement or prejudice ~~ just ATTRACTION and a FUN HOT time š
Hell yes! I didnt come out of the womb punking! I am a Top man and I have most definitely fucked PLENTY of women and I proudly have 5 beautiful kids to show for it. Now I have a partner that I have been with for 20 years now who I fuck daily and my kids call him their bonus Dad. It’s good to know that my cum works, can do moee than make jelly babies, and that I’m not shooting blanks! I haven’t slept with a woman in quite a while but I would again in a heartbeat then… Read more »
Yes, very say question. my man have 5 childrenās and he still fine time to buss me out! Even tho I occasionally wrecks his bussy, I am sure he can lay down with a woman again.
I think the defining characteristic here is impotence when faced with a naked woman and being hard with a naked man. I’d say that makes a man a confirmed gay man. I feel very fortunate to be bisexual and married to a lovely bi wife almost 40 years now. I like the freedom and variety of intimacy with both sexes. I have even felt honest to goodness in love with some of the men I have had but I wouldn’t leave my wife for one.
I’m with you except for “impotence”. How about “guys who just don’t get sexually excited”? If they were impotent, they couldn’t get it up over the hottest man of their dreams.
I’m 64″ years old…. the ONLY Vagina I have ever experienced is the one I came out of lmbao!
I realized most Gay men I know friends or lovers have been with women sexually at some point in their past, it’s just never been my experience. I love women but NEVER found them sexually interesting or a turn on…. I have been attracted to men and masculinity from the day I realized there were TWO sexes…I was truly born this way…;-))
No TEA to SPILL here Mr ADAM – I’m a GOLD STAR GAY and GONNA stay that way until the END of TIME ~~~~ THANK GOD š
I was only in one of those things once but I was just “passin’ through”!!
Yuck. The only thing that matters is that you came over to men. And the thought of fucking a woman just because she pretends to be a gay man is disgusting.
To be honest.. I was bi-sexual 43 years ago. My parents just had the birds and bees talk to me finally. My dad was too worried that a girl might use me to knock her up and start a family early. My dad said that would have a fatal link to his legacy “Don’t fuck a girl until you have a job.”. It was in that moment, I knew that having sex with guys would be the safe place to be. 30 years ago, before my dad died, He told me and said “I should have NEVER told you not… Read more »
When your father busted you having sex, were you topping or bottoming?
I’ve had sex with a number of women, and many men. While I enjoy sex with women, it always felt vaguely mechanical and not quite organic for me. Just didn’t. Feel” natural”. But being a bottom with men feels 100% right for me. Like it’s absolutely the way I was supposed to be. I’ve had good sex with women, but never ever as explosive or organic or fulfilling to me is sex with men. Just last week I was in a sex swing with a guy at a club and all I could think of was how absolutely perfect it… Read more »
To each their own, and whatever makes you happy. š
Men make me happy.
I tried to fuck one of my female friends at work. It just went bad. The good things is that we are still friends. I think she really wanted it cause I have an huge dick . I started crying while trying to enter her, it was crazy.
I get that, I cried when I realized and knew, I wasn’t going to “outgrow” this, but rather, this urge-hunger would grow as I matured.
yo, yo went with the flow!
I have not had sex with a woman… although I did date a girl back in High School… The truth is she and I were just friends. I posed her off as my GF…. she posed me off as her bf… Later we both found out about the other as back in HS we were both closeted…
All the same on they bellies. Women are less likely to pack fudge with. Much more likely to have a clean asshole too. Don’t have to slap them around because of pulling out a fudgesicle. And married ho’s have they husbands money to spend. Too bad they talk to much about stupid shit.
Yes, I’ve had sex with multiple women. None of them like the same thing and they are all overly complicated. I find them to be very demanding and overly sensitive. Touch me here, don’t do that. Play with my left breast, but not the right one. I had one woman inform me after 45 minutes that she had never had an orgasm and couldn’t even get herself off. Men are much simpler. They know what they want pure and simple.
Women: I like the hardware & plumbing, the software is crazy complicated and too much work-confusion.
The first few times I kissed a few girls, nothing at all; the first time I kissed another guy, though, I had precummed in my underwear, the most incredible feeling. Life would be very different than what I was hoping for/imagined; ’cause I knew at a very young age, about 5-8 years old, I was already fetishizing about men and boys I liked.
Yes,i am Bi,i knew i was from childhood.I have fuck lick kiss pussy,I have done a 3’s with a married couple and enjoy both of them,one of the best experiences in my life!There is nothing like laying on a guy’s back,dicking his asshole,I am grateful I like both sexes!
I prefer women , most of the time, until I get cock hungry, then nothing else will do. It makes hookups difficult because I won’t mislead anyone about intentions.
I have been married for 37 years. I love women, bodies, personalities the entire thing. When I was young the challenge of supporting one financially and emotionally along with the kids that come along. I am not at all resentful of any of that.
However the physical pleasure and satisfaction I have find having sex with a man is not even comparable. It is so different and to me just so natural. If I became not married Iād be 100% gay. Until then, Iām not one to walk away in my commitments.
One of the hottest times I ever had was with a woman. She was about 6ā3ā and had an 11ā very thick dick. I rode that thing over and over again, straddling her and watching her huge tits bounce. It was very hot!
“… was with a woman. She was about 6ā3ā and had an 11ā very thick dick.”
Gave your post a + vote. Glad it was great.
But … I got nothin’.
It’s all very confusing to me. I’m bi, and I love women and the female body, but the mind is a challenge. Guys are much simpler. Well, some of them not all of them. My Bi is fluid and swings
between 50-50 and 80-20 both ways depending on mood and the person I’m with. Quite complicated. Wish it wasn’t.
“Confused, complicated” is not a comfortable feeling. I had to laugh, reading “guys are much simpler,” yeah, that part, lol, they are actually disappointing, but they’re definitely predatorial-tunnel visionists, flesh wise; emotionally, “fuhgeddaboudit!”
However, in as much as we Gay Boys vile Vagina, it was the insertion of a pole into a hole that created us. Thus, we are indebted, through method and creation, to both the Vagina & the Penis?
I resisted writing something or even reading this, but then I read the entries and figured (if anyone cares) I’d dole out this very deep personal confession: I’m in my mid-60s, been happily married to my wife since my mid-20s. I had had a short fling with another girl when I was 21 before I met her. Then and now, my wife and I have loved one another dearly, have a happy family, etc., but our love life has never been great – take a guess why? Fast forward to the present. My so-called “sex scorecard” now reads “number of… Read more »
BEING GAY never PUT anyone in HELL if it even EXISTS!!! Being an asshole and sociopath will SURE do it tho and there are PLENTY of those out there NOW a DAYS š
You obviously didn’t read my whole thing to come to such a stupid conclusion.
Then again, I’m writing to an idiot like you who thinks “nowadays” is three words.
BITE me dude – I was COMMENTING in GENERAL and NOT about what YOU wrote ~ SO please report me to the GRAMMER POLICE for my MISTAKES and let them TAKE my BIRTHDAY away ~~~~~ What a LOSER!!!! š
ANYONE that thinks that HELL is the PUNISHMENT that GAYS deserve needs to FIND a TIME machine and GO BACK to the DARK AGES ~~~~ Did I spell that RIGHT, Mr English Grammar MAN?!?!?!? LOLOLOLOL š
Proof is the ones who DON’T agree!!!!!!! LOLOLOL š
Wow that is me i have the same thing happening here
I can’t tell what your response is in reference to – my confession or this Jeff guy’s rants?
PLEASE me FATHER for I have “SINNED” – Maybe you WON’T go to HELL now Mr Married!!!!!!!!! lolololol š
SHOULD SAY Bless me – AUTO correct wants to PLEASE me tho, I guess š LOLOL
I accidentally received oral sex from a woman once, many years ago. I was at a bookstore in a glory hole booth and after the deed was done and we emerged, that is when I realized it had been a woman and I didn’t go back for a long time as I was traumatized. Now I make sure i know who is on the other side if ti is a co-ed location.
That doesn’t COUNT good buddy!!! You can STILL consider yourself a GOLD STAR GAY and no one will TAKE your MEDAL AWAY š LOLOL š
I’m SURE you weren’t thinking about a NASTY chick anyway – that’s WHY it DOESN’T count against your record DUDE!!!!!! š LOLOLOL š
OOPS – I spelled GRAMMAR wrong in ONE of my REPLIES!!! š Guess no XMAS presents for ME this YEAR!!!!!!!!! LOLOLOL as if that’s the KIND of THING a NORMAL person would CARE ABOUT!!!
I like both, Iām greedy. Do both all of the time, looking forward to having a 3 way with a guy and girl again. Had one a long time ago, need to find the right pair a the MFM 3 way again.
Pussy feels amazing but women don’t.
I still love pussy, but I tend to fuck women the way I be wanting to be fucked, I also talk to them while I’m fucking them the way I be wanting guys to talk to me while fucking me, I like submissive women because I’m very submissive,like I stated in a previous comment, the idea of pleasing anutha man letting him use me for his sexual desires is what turns me on , me not being in control gets me off as well
Must be TALKING about CATS aka pussy!!!! LOLOL š