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We all have those moments—where lust sneaks up, whether you’re in bed, at the gym, or just minding your business on a sunny afternoon. One gay man recently opened up about his own patterns, asking: “When do you think you are your horniest? What factors come into play?” He added:
“A few times, I’ve noticed I get a little more horned up than normal.
Mornings are the first obvious ones. I get so fucking horny when I wake up (which makes sense because the testosterone is being reset). I feel like it’s gotten stronger as I’ve gotten older. When I was younger, I could ignore my morning wood and go about my day. Now, when I wake up, I’m throbbing so hard I gotta blow it.
After the gym I am super horny. Usually, it happens after a good leg or chest day. The pump gets me horny. As soon as I’m back home with my smoothie, I just start to get that feeling.
I would also say that a factor that affects these two also depends on how long I’ve waited. If I’ve waited more than 3 days I reach the horny agitated stage.
Something no that might sound stupid but also affects my horny levels is the season. During the summer and spring, I am a hornball. During the summer it’s so hot and seeing all the naked bodies oranges me horny.”
Naturally, he’s far from alone. Gay men joined in the conversation with their own peak-horny times, and their answers might just make you nod in agreement. One man for example, confessed that exercise is the ultimate turn-on for him and his partner, “After a workout. We work out at home, together with my partner. Sometimes, we don’t exactly finish the workout.”
No cooldown needed when you’ve got post-pump heat and a partner nearby.
Another common time: right when you’re trying not to think about it just like this guy who shared, “Whenever I’m trying to sleep. It’s fucking annoying.”
For some, it’s the quiet, still moments that seem to spark the loudest urges.
Hungover? You’re not alone. “Not sure why but I get insanely horny when I’m slightly hungover.” This response may seem surprising, but many men say their body reacts to dehydration, fatigue, or hormonal swings with a surge in desire.
Another pattern: rhythm and routine. At least for this guy who confessed, “Morning definitely. And for some reason, a lot of times in the late afternoon. I’m not sure why. But that’s when thoughts get in my head. And always if I go for long walks or hiking walks.”
Apparently, nature walks aren’t just good for the mind.
Meanwhile, others linked it directly to emotional triggers. “For me, it’s at any stress moment! And at night.” Stress relief in the form of a solo or partnered session? Very relatable.
Then there’s the man who has a built-in schedule with his partner: “Evening before bed, then in the middle of the night, and in the morning. If I wake up hard in the middle of the night and touch my partner’s dick, and if it’s hard (which it is nearly every time it happens) I climb onto it, and ride it till I cum.” Let’s just say some couples don’t need a set alarm to get things started.
And that original comment about summer heat? It resonated with other gay men as well: “So very true about your comment about the summer and working out definitely gets one going.”
There’s something about sweat, skin, and sunshine that fuels desire. Do you agree?
Having said all that, what about you, Adam4Adam blog readers, when are you your horniest? Does your sex drive follow a daily rhythm—or is it tied to mood, seasons, workouts, or even boredom? Have you found any surprising triggers over the years? Share your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
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gay males are not subject to the ramifications of the potentialities of the Vagina.
On those rare days that I feel healthy, I want to get a lot done, so I don’t really have time to focus on being horny, though sometimes I do. So I feel more horny when I’m more idle, and want something to get excited by.
Now let’s have a serious discussion about how chronically ill gay men who do not have AIDS are totally neglected by the community.
AIDS can be marketed with the plethora of anti-viral drugs; treatment centers; social groups and the weird inclusion of having AIDS? AIDS has a definite and exclusive commonality with Gays. Thus, whenever you mention AIDS, what particular entity comes immediately to mind…?
Love and need to do it 3 times a day with my BF – first thing in the morning, then before bed to help us SLEEP, then the middle of the night when we’re BOTH HARD as a ROCK and need total stress relief to get back to sleep until we do it again in a FEW HOURS 🙂 “NEVER ENOUGH” as the old song used to say 🙂