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A gay man on r/askgaybros recently posed a question that sparked a lively discussion: “What are some turn offs in gay porn for you?” He added:
“When the top pulls out before the bottom is about to ejaculate.
Too near-shots of their ass.
Probably the most common and annoying one: When they’re fucking really hot but the scene suddenly shifts and ends off to them doing a really lame solo jerk off scene.”
This question resonated with many viewers who had their own frustrations about the gay porn industry. See below:
Fake Rimming. One commenter didn’t hold back: “Fake rimming. Either do it or don’t bother. When it’s obviously fake, it’s a turn off.” For many, authenticity is key. When a scene relies on poorly executed illusions, it can ruin the mood entirely.
Women in Gay Porn: Another popular complaint was about the inclusion of women in gay porn. “At the risk of sounding misogynistic, I hate when women appear in gay porn. Whether it’s the girlfriend walking in on her boyfriend cheating, or a woman just watching the sex happen on the side. Or that ‘right in front of my salad’ video. Instant turn off.” While some may find these scenarios humorous or creative, others see them as unnecessary distractions in a genre meant to focus on male intimacy.
Campy or Misleading Performances: “Guys that are camper than Christmas pretending to be straight. Also, anything that claims to be ‘straight.'” The authenticity of performers often makes or breaks a scene. When actors fail to convincingly embody their roles, it can come across as disingenuous or overly theatrical.
Over-the-Top Lies: Many viewers expressed annoyance at exaggerated or blatantly false premises. One comment highlighted this: *”Lies like: ‘It’s my first time’ gets double penetrated, or ‘I’ve never tried anything with a guy before’ slurps down dick with exactly 00 gag reflex.” While some enjoy the fantasy aspect, others prefer more believable setups.
Bad Acting and Performance Issues: “Bad acting. Tops who seem to have trouble getting their dick hard.” A lack of chemistry or visible struggles with arousal can make a scene feel awkward or unappealing.
For many gay men, porn isn’t just entertainment—it’s a way to explore and affirm their sexuality. When certain elements detract from the viewing experience, it can feel disappointing or even alienating. Authenticity, chemistry, and attention to detail are crucial in creating content that resonates with viewers.
Adam4Adam blog readers,do you agree with these common turn-offs, or do you have your own pet peeves when it comes to gay porn? Are there specific elements that make or break a scene for you? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
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I believe that almost every gay guy can agree, is hating to see vagina or vaginal sex within gay pornography. Like that one porn star guy that tops almost exclusively, having sex with a woman in one room then starts to have sex with the guy in the other before everyone finally joins in for a threesome. I get that bisexuality does exist and it’s no disrespect when I say this, but seeing guys penetrating vaginas or engaging in any sexual activity involving women within the gay porn genre and promoting it for the gay audience to see, feels like… Read more »
YES INDEED!!! Worse yet is when the women have to be vocal while being fucked. Nothing makes me soft faster than a woman turning into a whiny baby to confirm that she’s cumming.
You sound like an absolute transphobe. FTM guys are men, and there is a place for them in gay porn for sure. I am gay, but I do like MMF porn at times and have fantasized about being in a MMF or MMMF group sex situation.
Like all the mmf you want. But ftm are NOT men. The F stands for female period
As much as I personally don’t have an issue with transgendered men and women and have made a few friendships with them, I have to agree with you, for a few gay guys in my hometown would argue tooth and nail about this and say similar things like Eric here. The ironic thing about all of this, is that the transgendered men and women aren’t that offended by my personal beliefs on the matter even if they feel otherwise. So I’m not understanding why some gay guys take it so personal. My straight friends are fully aware that I’m a… Read more »
Funny, I find them to be the most intolerant people on earth. If you don’t swallow their b.s., you don’t exist. It’s impossible to have a conversation about it. It all started with the APA de-classifying the syndrome, and that decision was polluted by having trans people on the committee instead of having objective thought.
I agree with you. I was chatting with a guy on A4A. We were arranging to meet when he then springs on me that “he” is FTM. Was a total boner killer for me and I nicely let him know that it wasn’t going to work between us as we were not a match. “He” then said I was transphobic and proceeding to call me all sorts of names. Ridiculous!
Did “he” also report you and get you banned? That has happened to me a few times, or I was banned by totally intolerant Grokio scum.
Is that what I said? Nope. I didn’t say anyone had to watch porn with a vag. I said they do belong in gay porn, because our trans brothers are men. Period.
It’s humorous to see how intolerant gay people are towards trans people. We’ve had to fight for our rights along the way, and they’ve been taken away in the last 2 days, but gays are so dismissive. The gay community is lacking in love and compassion, and we’ll never get anywhere until we accept them.
People are free to be into whatever they are into. No judgement. But to proclaim FTM is a real man or MTF is a real woman is False. No judgement just facts.
That’s all fine and dandy, but like I’ve said my post was originally about women in general that was in harmony with what was already listed within the a4a article. You brought trans (ftm) in particular, and decided to call me a transphobe out of the blue simply because I stated what is actually true, that most gay men hates to see vaginal sex and women heavily involved in them. So if you consider them men as you say, then my post shouldn’t even be a factor to you that you’ve felt the need to call me a transphobe when… Read more »
From what I’ve got out of reading all of this, is that you seem to have an issue with guys that are repulsed or uncomfortable with the idea of watching guys having sex with a FTM. Or even the very fact that they’re not ok with having sex with a FTM in real life. So to you, they’re transphobic. Transphobia, homophobia, etc is a fear that results in hurtful slurs, bullying, assaults, and in some cases murder in which has not been displayed in anyone’s posts here. Having a sexual preference DOES NOT make a person transphobic simply because some… Read more »
Reminds me when I told a Black person that I was not into Black Men sexuality, but have slept with Asian, Latins and brown skinned people and they then proceeded to call me a racist which is far from the truth. The person is like 19-22 and it happened on another site. We all have preferences of what we like or don’t like.
When a great top is having intimate sex with an FTM guy, I’ve actually enjoyed it when there is respect, mutual satisfaction and intimacy. It’s a turn on. A whole new dimension to “gay” for me. I don’t enjoy straight porn.
THEY ARE NOT OUR “BROTHERS” NOR ARE THEY MEN! THEY ARE INTRUDERS! Moreover, they are hijacking our organizations and resources for their own exclusive use. They are worse than lesbians! This has nothing to do with love and acceptance. They are their own animal, their own community. They were forced on us without approval, by radical gay organizations with no mandate to do so.
Don’t assume ALL gays are this way. Most of us are tolerant and needing a bit of education, as our lived experiences have not been with many trans people. Give us an opportunity to grow in this area. I do agree that the gay community can be shallow, judgmental and appearance-only oriented. Because of this, many gay men suffer from feeling unseen as well. Most of us are supportive of trans people and their rights. I marvel at how many straight people are now understanding and supportive of gay people. But it’s taken a few decades.
In my experience, they are aggressively offended. Perhaps because they are taking testosterone. What happens when they can’t get it anymore? It’s amazing how they make me actually miss the days of “diesel dykes.”
Interesting for you to say since I actually do have have trans friends irl, so you sound like an absolute idiot. Noticed I’ve never mentioned trans in general in my original post for I was talking about women in general within the gay porn realm. But since you’ve brought it up, let’s be clear, not every gay man on this earth is into what you’re into sexually or find it sexually fulfilling as you do. And I’m quite sure not everyone wants to see vaginal sex regardless of one’s gender for vagina is still a female anatomy and likewise with… Read more »
The heck they are. They are women pretending to be men, which they can never be. A man CANNOT HAVE A VAGINA! Or big scars from having breasts removed. Supporting their sad insanity is criminal. They have no place in anything gay, particularly as they are heterosexual to begin with and remain so. They invade the gay community and take away from it. And calling someone a “transphobe” for seeing and saying the truth about it is criminal. And gay men who have sex with their vaginas are betraying our community, and our hard-won rights that they are threatening. The… Read more »
Right, If you have a dick, you are not female, and if you don’t have a dick you are not male.
For a gay man wanting understanding and acceptance from the world at large, it’s odd to me to read your judgments here. As a gay man I don’t agree with your position that trans people are ‘invading the gay community’. I can’t imagine what it would be like as a small boy or girl to feel out of place in your own skin and assigned gender. Something that gays cannot fully understand, while at the same time we want acceptance and understanding to be “gay”. Be kinder and more open to enlightenment as you age. These people do not threaten… Read more »
Eric, please go back and read the post. He was specific in saying women, in Gay Men porn. Not women in Lesbian porn, not Trans in gay porn. He is obviously NOT transphobe.
A man dressed up as a woman is not a woman. HE is a man in women’s clothes
Like hell they are! They are women who have a delusion that they are men. They have no idea what it is to be a man, so how could they think they are one? A man HAS NO VAGINA! EVER! It’s fraud, and an intrusion into gay space by HETEROSEXUAL WOMEN!
Go tell a straight person this same logic, asking for understanding you as a gay man. We’ll wait……….
100% agree. It does not matter what gender one prefers to call themselves, I am not attracted to any human being that possesses or was born with a vagina. The state of your genitals does not matter to me in any way shape or form, unless there is to be sex involved.
I am not transphobic because I am unwilling to have a physical relationship with a human being that has vagina. I just have personal sexual preferences, and that is perfectly okay.
Yes What you call yourself doesn’t make it so. I admire Black men but i am a small dick whiteboi. I’ll never be Black no matter if I call myself Black. I am still a whiteboi with a tiny dick.
It would be fine if they kicked her out of bed and went at it with each other only. That I could enjoy.
I’ve become limp a few times by group scenes, I’d say with 8+ guys, it’s bad camera operators & editing!! Just when they focus on a hot duo or 3some in the group….BAM!! Cut to a not so hot duo still making out or sucking cock…Ohhhh whyyyy?!?!?!
Their ideas of who and what are hot are totally out of step with what I think is hot, and always has been, certainly with any porn made in LA. New York porn is much more ethnic.
I agree with most of the above, but I’ll add PA piercings. I had one done, deeply regret having it done. Have had literal nightmares of it being ripped out, so I don’t wear it at all and I hate seeing another man’s dick with one.
I’ve been fucked by two guys who had PA’s. I was always afraid the rubber would break. (pre-Prep days). And I always had a difficult time blowing a guy with a PA. Part of it was imagining the urine that had been part of that piercing. Weird, I know. But a turnoff. I like natural, clean dicks of any color, shape, length.
I agree with what has already been said and would add spitting and the use of fake cum.
I agree with you Eric with the spitting. Watching black guys top white dudes isn’t a turn-off for me, but I would like to see more black guys bottoming for white dudes in porn. Huge turn-on for me!!!
Lmao, I third that sentiment, I hate the spitting shit.
What next, wiping snot on someone? How about using urination as the beginning of a scene, sex in toilets?
Love when a guy spits into the bottom’s mouth
And it’s interesting to me about the spitting thing. I never like it, as it seems dominant, disrespectful and demeaning. I guess we each have a different idea of what sex is. For me, it is about an equal pairing that is mutually satisfying and respectful. I dunno.
While porn does tend to use more Black guys as tops, there are plenty of videos of white guys topping Black guys. I’ve even seen some that show some of the Black bottoms in piggish type of scenes, taking multiple cocks… and it’s hot AF.
Ok. Thanks Eric. I have to look a little harder my friend. Yep, hot AF.
nah, the place for whites in B&W porn is always to be the bottom. Black Men are Kings and literally and figuratively should always be on top.
I don’t want to be disrespectful, but you seem like a very prejudiced guy who would be difficult to have a meaningful and long lasting relationship with. Just been reading your posts.
Spitting on someone’s face or in their mouth 100% turn off. Fake cum 100% turn off. When moaning or groans are dubbed into a scene that are.not from the guys fucking
THE DISGUSTING “SPITTING” THING!………..
WHAT THE HELL IS THAT? WHY DO MEN THINK IT IS CUTE TO SPIT ON SOMEONE’S ASS OR DICK IN THE MIDDLE OF SEX ???
THE “STARING AT YOUR FACE” THING…………
WHEN MEN CAN BARELY SUCK YOUR DICK PROPERLY CAUSE THEY ARE TOO BUSY TRYING TO STARE IN YOUR FACE….THAT SHIT IS CREEPY AS HELL AND EXTREME TURN OFF……….
I HAVE to agree. NEVER spit on me or in my mouth it is NO where near the same as a guy cumming in my mouth. He can spit on my hole while he’s rimming me to lube up my hole for his cock, and using that for lube. NOT MY FACE, CHEST OR ESPICIALLY MY MOUTH.
I also totally agree, but I have a question for any of you: I assume Shannon and Michael are referring to a top guy who spits in the bottom guy’s ass just before he’s to fuck him BB, right? As totally disgusting I find that, doesn’t the spit have a functional purpose to serve as the lube if you want to dry hump BB? Sorry if I sound so naive.
LET ME CLEAR THE CONFUSION……
WHEN A GUY IS SUCKING ME OFF……AND HAULS OFF AND “SPITS” ON MY DICK……..
OR RIMMING MY ASS AND HAULS OFF AND “SPITS” ON MY ASS……..
IT DOES MATTER WHERE ONE SPITS……
IT IS ON >>ME….MY PHYSICAL BODY……
I DID NOT ASK YOU TO DO THIS……
I AM NOT A TOILET NOR A GARBAGE CAN………
Nope. You sound like a #metoo. Like unless you’re deeply involved with this person, you are just a hole them. Learn your place
It’s far away from anyone like you…User.
How is spit sufficient to be lube?
Spit is great lube. Try it.
Poor editing! I enjoy the “foreplay” in gay porn so it’s a huge let down to go from clothes being seductively removed to both (all) guys naked with one dumb cut in the video.
Foot play.
I hate when the bottom keeps his cock and balls covered with his hand when getting plowed. I don’t care if it’s big or small, watching a guys manhood flop around when he is getting drilled is HOT. In a lot of these scenes, the bottom isn’t even playing with himself, it’s literally a hand covering his crotch. LAME AS FUCK.
I don’t mind a bottom holding himself, to keep his dick from flopping around, but a jock strap would do the job. But a bottom should NEVER be playing with his dick while sucking or getting fucked. His focus should be pleasing the top.
And a guy wearing a jock strap the whole time he is getting fucked is a turn off for me. I guess we’re all different. Naked is the most beautiful thing.
Pulling out for the camera. Watching a guy pound a hole for 20 minutes and then pull out to cum on his ass for the camera is incredibly disappointing (much like it would be in real life). I don’t need to see it on camera to know if he actually came. I want to know that the top is that having the best fucking feeling possible when he’s having his orgasm on camera, and he’s not getting that when he has to pull out and 99 times out of 100, that bottom died a little bit inside when he pulled… Read more »
I couldn’t agree with you more! Drives me crazy to see that. Why do I need to see a guy j/o when anyone can do that? Pound, then show me the top’s face as he ejaculates inside the bottom and hear him moaning (for real), then he pulls out once complete and let me see that cum ooze out of there.
better yet show the balls and dick pulsating as they unload in the ass or mouth.
As a top, seeing porn actors doing this right when I’m on the edge of cumming, turns me off greatly. I mean, if they’re going to bareback, might as well cum inside him. My boyfriend would probably punch me in the face if I were to pull out of him just to cum on him lol.
I know it’s personal, but it’s a total turn to me to watch a guy get fucked and filled up. Getting his top off. I understand that in the porn acting business there is a sliding scale of compensation, based on different techniques performed. Is pulling out and watching a cock squirt extra money? Curious?
Rimming and FISTING don’t do it at ALL for me/Spitting in another guys face or mouth also!!! Yuck ~ being a Medical Worker I cringe at that crap, no matter how “clean” and freshly showered they are!!! 🙁
Ass eating does nothing for me.
As long as they don’t spit on it. Makes me want to vomit.
Fake, overexaggerated moaning. We all moan and make various noises during sex but the fake screaming and moaning is a real turn off for me.
Especially high-pitched, constant moaning and squealing. We’re not heterosexuals. And the videos where guys are doing it while straight porn is playing and we have to hear the girls squealing. Totally ruins it. Or the Bait Buddies where they’re both “straight,” only one is obviously gay.
Wow! I actually agree with you on str8 porn in the background. Totally boner killer!
Your comment had me laughing out loud and I wholeheartedly agree with you.
How about that tiny latino with the high-pitched tenor voice, who gets paired up with big butch guys?
As good as the “big butch guys” who lisp with the overly enunciated voices of the really bad 1970’s porn. It is difficult to maintain a chub when you’re howling with laughter!
And speaking of BAD 70’s porn, what is with the resurrection of the porn ‘stache? I, for one, was pleased when those finally went away. Too much like kissing my grandfather!
Aside from agreeing with several of these, here’s another frustration I have: It seems like 99% of BJs that result in the one getting the BJ cuming have the one giving it backing off and getting the cum in his face as the one getting it jerks his load. I wish more of them suck on through to completion so you can see the cum oozing out of the sides of the sucker’s mouth.
Like 90%+ of porn from Europe the guys suck in air through their teeth. Its so annoying. And mislabeled porn. If it says its a breeding video then that cock better not leave that hole till after its shot its load not pulling out and shooting on the hole.
How about the fluttery tongue kisses? Who does that?? My biggest turn-off is foreskin, especially when someone starts pulling it and playing with it.
You’re a turn OFF to every gay man… hell, to fucking EVERYONE.
Acting like and moaning like a woman, pretending getting fucked is anything like what a woman feels. And then there’s displaying hideous tattoos, pimples. But worst of all is when they do some actually good acting and then betray their talent by actually having sex.
I hate the fisting and the ones with very hot older actors being paired with young men who are supposed to be their step sons or some almost version of incest.
As a formerly sell-proclaimed straight guy I love a scenarios where a “straight” guy goes gay for the first time. (It is kinda what happened to me). It only works if the guy is convincing! Usually, they are not. Bait Buddies is one that does it well. I’m convinced those are real straight guys (or at least somewhat new to m2m). Don’t you dare bust my bubble and tell me I’m wrong!
when there’s NO KISSING! ya gotta have kissing to get more heated, more passion, more intimacy when ya watch a porn, gets me even more hard! .. some gay or bi porn actors don’t do that .. not sure why, but i guess it depends on how the actors feel about kissing other guys, if they feel comfortable about it .. but alas, there’s gotta be them kissing scenes, please!
Nothing better than aggressive kissing during passionate sex. It’s strange that I love to have a man’s tongue wet kissing me deep, sucking his tongue, him sucking mine and I think spitting in the mouth is yucky. During breeding scenes I mostly agree to cum inside and watch it ooze out but sometimes it’s fun to see him pull out for that first squirt, then shove it deep to finish. Then you see it dripping out as he pounds away finishing inside.
Women in gay porn absolutely (stick to BI Porn please).
Performance issues – I can agree with that one – the guy is getting paid to do that.
not into guys kissing, not into prolapse, not into watching cum ooze back out of an asshole
are you gay? just asking for friends………
The guys that moans or yells like they’re being stabbed when they cum then dribbles out a tiny spurt always me laugh and turn down the volume. Also the deniers, they’re gay as a picnic basket but claim to be straight but just this once so long as you don’t tell then deep throats long fat one then takes it up the shitpipe like their hole is a vagina.
My main frustration is when you can tell the guys have incredible hairy muscled bodies and they keep their shirts on—-get those shirts off guys
i’m turned off by the videos where all of the guys are wearing those ski masks looking like they just robbed a convenience store and then decided to go home to fuck!
my other turn-offs are (1) when there is no kissing (which is understandably hard to do in a ski mask!), (2) when they wear their underwear for the whole scene, and (3) when the scene opens with them fully engaged in fucking without any foreplay and all you can see is dick in ass for 20 minutes. UGH!
i obviously gave this ALOT of thought! LOL!
perfectly manicured and sculpted bodies…
Yes. I like the real bodies best. Have a little bit of a belly? Yes please!
Condoms lol complete mood killer. Raw sex is so hot and I love a good breeding scene
I’ve been with two men in my life. Both topped me and I loved it. They both pulled out as I asked them to, but would happily have a guy cum in me if I wasn’t afraid to catch a disease. I want to be bred but worried. How can I get over this?
I have too many to name. But one of my biggest pet peeves is watching porn where the faces are blurred or not on camera. I understand some people want to be private and anonymous, but I am most attracted to a face than a body, cock, ass. So I avoid faceless porn. Secondly, I tend to skip the anal penetration scenes. Those are my two biggest turnoffs in porn.
I actually like the campy acting. It’s almost like watching a parody of porn
Fisting
Pulling all the way out & reinserting
Loud groans/grunts
Wearing women’s clothes
Ski masks covering the head
Spitting
Cum in mouth
Bad camera placement where people are off screen or too far from the camera
Dumb “story lines” (ex. plumber to fix kitchen sink, so I’m going to stand there in my uw playing with myself; or maintenance people are same age as client – right out of high school)
Claiming certain sexual acts in video that don’t happen
Not listing performers names
Fisting
Hmmm…. Here’s one that didn’t seem to get mentioned: The HUGE proliferation of films with themes of incest and statutory rape. I realize that these kids are vetted out to make SURE that they are of legal age, but they are also vetted out because they look like they’re 11 or 12 years old. Absolutely cringe-worthy! But really folks, don’t you think that this is playing right into the hands of haters who claim that we are all pedophiles. Are we? I know that I am not. I’m waiting for one of these studios to make a mistake and hire… Read more »
Condoms and men who fuck raw and pull out to shoot
The fake moaning and groaningis my #1 turn off, especially when referring to their “pussy” or “cunt”. As in turn off the video disinterested.
#2 is guys that look like Joan Crawford with sculpted eyebrows and makeup (NOT into JD Vance or Hegseth either). If I wanted Tammy Faye I wouldn’t be here.
Turn offs for me are: group scenes, I prefer one-on-one with some connection, verbal abuse and verbal assault, single camera angle without some POV, stupid scripting with dialogue by bad actors.
Definitely vaginas of any kind, shrieking and moaning like a woman. Pretending getting fucked or fucking is a great experience. Overacting. Labeling everything as incest. Pretending orgies are healthy fun. Underage boys. TATTOOES AND PIERCINGS!
Spitting in mouth, on the dick
Punching and slapping in the face
Scat
Fist fucking.. Just to name a few
Effeminate, campy or swishy men do absolutely nothing for me so, seeing them on screen is a turn off. Calling as ass a pussy, bussy, or cunt – likewise.
The best sex I’ve had is usually better than porn because there is pre-sex, sex, and post-sex with intimate connection. The porn movies I love are when two guys are really into each other with kissing, making out, some verbal, nipples, penetration and BJ’s that are respectful. And cuddling afterwards. The slam bam stuff doesn’t do it for me. Also orgies are never a turn on. For me, the 1 on 1 stuff is great if it has good relational situations. Actors like Lane Colton, Cade Maddox, British Twunk, Cody Seiya, Sean Xavier, Ryheim Shabbaz, and few others are good… Read more »