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Sexiness is a state of mind—but sometimes, the right outfit helps get you there faster. Do you agree?
Anyway, we’re bringing this up because a gay man online sparked a playful and revealing conversation when he asked, “When you want to feel sexy, what do you wear?” That one question led to an avalanche of answers—some steamy, some stylish, all personal. Whether it’s a favorite pair of briefs, a statement harness, or something as bold as a buttplug, gay men are clearly in tune with what makes them feel confident and sexy. The variety of responses proves that sexiness is not one-size-fits-all—it’s about owning your look and attitude.
One man for example, kept it simple but daring: “Buttplug.” Nothing more, nothing less. Sometimes, sexy is a secret you keep to yourself—and sometimes, that’s what makes it hotter.
Another favorite? “Jockstrap, especially under my work uniform,” says one guy. There’s something thrilling about wearing something risqué underneath something buttoned-up—like a little secret you carry all day long.
Fashion-forward guys chimed in, too. One gay man said, “I am usually someone who loves wearing Polos or Crewneck. If I wanna go slutty, booty shorts with a loose tank top.” Casual by day, show-off by night. Versatility is sexy.
Another guy added, “Short shorts and black tank top. Because I love my calves and I have big arms so why not show off.” And honestly, when you’ve got it, why not flaunt it.
Then there was this nostalgic pick: “Tighty whities, every single day.” Something about the retro vibe of tighty whities still has a stronghold on gay sexy style—and for good reason.
One of the most detailed answers came from a guy with full-on aesthetic commitment:
“My go-to outfit is usually a pair of tight briefs, combat boots, 5.11 cargo pants, and a tank top or t-shirt. Occasionally a crop top. I have a ton of graphic tees with homoerotic prints, like Tom of Finland or a demon with a dick coming out of its mouth. I also have a chain collar that I’ll wear, and I’ll swap out my septum ring for a giant stainless steel one.” Clearly, for some men, sexy isn’t just about a look—it’s a full-blown mood.
Then there was the gearhead: “I normally feel sexy anyhow, but my bike leathers or motox pants and boots adds a bit.” A man in leather or motocross gear? Instant heat.
So what does this all tell us? Feeling sexy is personal. It’s not always about showing the most skin, but about showing your skin—what makes you feel powerful, confident, and ready to turn heads or turn someone on.
What about you, Adam4Adam blog readers? What’s your go-to sexy outfit—or sexy accessory? Is there something you wear under your clothes that gives you that extra boost and help you go through a busy day? Do you lean toward classic jocks, tight briefs, leathers, or a simple tank top? Share your looks, secrets, and sexy rituals in the comments section down below.
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