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A gay man on r/askgaybros recently asked, “Do you guys ever fake it?” He then proceeded to share his own experience:
I met up with a guy the other day, he was cute and all that, had a nice, natural cock, about 7”, which I couldn’t stop staring at… so we’re on his bed and I start sucking him off, and he starts loudly moaning basically right away and continues to moan as I’m blowing him. And in the back of my head I’m thinking ‘there’s no way I’m sucking you off that good’ LOL. Are some guys really that sensitive or enjoy blowjobs that much, or do you think he was putting on a show to encourage me to keep going? Do you guys ever fake it for the benefit of the other guy?
This sparked an interesting conversation about whether moaning and reactions during sex are always genuine or sometimes just a performance. Here are some perspectives from other gay men online:
One commenter noted, “I think some guys are just super verbal and others are silent and everywhere in between.” Some gay men are naturally expressive, while others keep their pleasure more contained. Just because someone is vocal doesn’t necessarily mean they are faking it.
Another gay man shared, “I’ve definitely had a few guys look at me very confused when I crack a joke in the middle of sex. But generally, they relax more afterward.” Humor in intimate moments can be unexpected but also a way to ease tension and create a more comfortable experience.
A common theory was that some gay men might have been influenced by pornography. “Maybe he’s watched too much porn and thinks he needs to copy it. Or maybe he’s just a verbal guy,” one redditor speculated. In an era where exaggerated pleasure is often displayed in adult films, some people might mimic what they believe is expected of them.
Meanwhile, some gay men admitted to faking it themselves. “I’ve faked a few that I wanted to be done and over with,” one commenter confessed. Whether it was boredom, discomfort, or a lack of connection, sometimes pretending is just the easiest way out of a situation.
Physical sensitivity was also brought up. “Was he uncut? He wasn’t faking it if he is,” one guy claimed, implying that being cut or uncut can impact sensitivity and pleasure during oral sex.
On the other end of the spectrum, some men admitted to always putting on a bit of a performance. “I always fake it for the benefit of the other guy,” one guy confessed. For some, making a partner feel desired and successful is more important than their own authenticity in the moment.
What about you, Adam4Adam blog readers? Have you ever faked it in bed? Why or why not? Do you think guys moan more for effect, or is it due to genuine pleasure? Share with us your thoughts and experiences in the comments section below!
It depends on the individual and who you’re with. I never really considered faking. If it feels good, my sensitive nature takes over. When I’m with someone I’m really compassionate with, I’m very vocal. Every touch, every kiss, every hold excites me to be vocal unscripted.
^compatible not compassionate.
sometimes, it is simply one person is a bit horned up while the other not quite so much equality does not compute with a sex drive.
I can be very verbal when being fucked! And yes there are time when Im hoping for him to be done so ill get very lousy and verbal to encourage him to think he should climax with me. But i have this one buddy that we just go at each other, and enjoy each other so much and both get very verbal in the process because we feel that comfortable with each other ! If you were in another room and heard us youd think someone was being murdered! But after climax the 2 of us just lay there laughing
I have never faked sex in bed. I never will. I live honestly.
But I can tell if a guy is going to fake me, and if he does,
it’s most likely going to be on him rather than me.
Living honestly means to show real sex.
If you are going to fake it? Don’ t bother hurting others because it’ll get well known how you treat men.
As a long-time bi-married-discreet guy whose had many M-M experiences over the years, I will fry in hell for saying this: I’ve faked it a couple of times with my wife, but NEVER with any of the many guys I’ve been with. God save my soul!
I understand that. Whenever I have been with a woman I always found it hard to climax unless I was thinking about guys. When I was younger and more bisexual I would play with women and it was usually fine the first couple times because of the newness, but after that the only way I can get off was closing my eyes and thinking about getting fucked. That’s how I really started understanding that I was not really bi…but gay
Yup – same exact. Gay sex thoughts to get hard enough for her.
I’m a bottom and love to get fucked. I always want my man to feel special, so truth be told, the one thing I fake is when the guy initially enters me. As he pushes through the inner sphincter, I put out a light body tremble, a little gasp, an OMG movement with my lips, a flutter of my eyelids and I roll my eyes to the back of my head. It doesn’t matter if the guy is hung like a horse or a thimble, when he’s done he struts around like a rooster in the hen house.
Haha!
Yes I have faked it with men and women to get it over with. Not the end of the world. Things were just not great, so I acted like I came.
Fake it? Why lie?
Many men don’t realize that we’re not always up to “perform” 24/7/365. Many factors can affect that: fatigue, biological cycles, and yes we just may not be “into” the guy we’ve gotten in bed with.
While it doesn’t happen often, I’ll be honest that “it’s just not my day” and will treat the partner to a full slate of pleasure. This drives most guys crazy to have another round at a later date.
sometimes, it is simply one person is a bit horned up while the other not quite so much equality does not compute with a sex drive.
As a bottom, things are kind of “hard” to fake. It would be the top that would have to fake. Sperm leaks would be a givaway
I have never had to fake it. It’s hard to fake a cumshot! LOL
All the time. Never met a top that wasn’t selfish.
Faking it ain’t my thing, neither is role playing, especially with a stranger, which feels like fakeness forced into a fantasy game. I could never get into role play with hookups. It’s all too fake to me with the fake moaning and submission.
I’m a very passionate lover. While being fucked or giving head I’m very very into it. No loud moaning and screeching but passionate breathing and light sexy moans. It’s never faked on my part. Even when giving a quicky blowjob during a lunch break, I’ll show the same passion. In my past I’ve had a few screamers, kinda like it even though it may have been faked.