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Hey, guys! Do you love a good cuddle?
Moreover, do gay and bisexual men love cuddling in general? Whether it’s after sex, during a lazy Sunday morning, or just a way to feel close to someone or their boyfriend, cuddling can be an intimate and comforting experience. Some guys crave that skin-to-skin connection, while others might not be as into it. Is cuddling a must-have in your relationships and hookups, or do you prefer to keep things more casual?
Anyway, we’re bringing this up because of a heartfelt question from a gay man posted online recently. He said:
“Cuddling. Anyone else here just wondering how does it feel to have a boyfriend, hug, cuddle, fall asleep in his arms. Just being cute and sweet. IDK, I’ve been feeling really lonely lately and I have no idea why. Just hoping I’ll be able to experience all of this once.”
The simple desire for physical closeness sparked an outpouring of responses from gay men online revealing the deeply human need for intimacy and connection.
A gay man replied, “Honestly that is what I miss the most about being a part of a couple… cuddling and falling asleep in someone’s arms and someone falling asleep in mine… I am not even all that obsessed with sex I mean I want it but it is not central. Do I get cuddles after okay… yeah let’s do it!”
Many echoed this sentiment, emphasizing how cuddling often surpasses even sex in importance. As another guy chimed in, “Spending a lazy Sunday in bed, kissing and cuddling and talking is the best thing ever. It’s probably the thing I miss the most since I’m single.” The emotional security that comes from simple touch can be the most cherished part of a relationship.
Another guy shared, “It’s honestly the best feeling especially when he crimps you.”
‘Crimping’—or curling up close with your partner—captures that snug, intimate sensation of being perfectly intertwined. For many, it’s these quiet, affectionate moments that define the joy of companionship.
On the other hand, someone said, “Loneliness sometimes just happens. Men don’t really have the ability to show or experience platonic intimacy, which makes having romantic or sexual intimacy feel like something completely out of reach or alien. It also makes not being or feeling cared for feel so awful. I know you’ll find someone to hold you and truly care for you, sometimes it takes time and at other times you have to get out of your element. I wish you the best and I send you a strong short-person hug.” This thoughtful response touches on a broader issue—how societal norms often discourage men from expressing platonic affection. This lack of everyday intimacy can make the absence of romantic closeness feel even more isolating.
Meanwhile, someone responded, “I’ve only experienced this once and he ended up cheating on me four times before I broke up with him.” Clearly, not all cuddling stories are warm and fuzzy. Some, like this one, serve as reminders that physical closeness doesn’t always guarantee emotional honesty. Yet, even painful experiences don’t diminish our longing for genuine connection.
Lastly, someone replied, “We humans are made to touch. There is actually a thing called touch starvation.” Touch starvation—the deprivation of physical contact—is a real phenomenon that can affect mental health and well-being. In a world increasingly dominated by digital interactions, the simple act of holding someone can become a powerful antidote to loneliness.
Whether it’s the warmth of falling asleep in someone’s arms or the sting of missing that closeness, cuddling holds a special place in many people’s hearts. The responses from gay men online highlight just how universal this desire for touch and connection truly is.
What about you, Adam4Adam blog readers? Have you ever experienced the comfort of cuddling, or do you find yourself missing that kind of intimacy? How do you cope with loneliness when physical closeness isn’t an option? Share your stories and thoughts in the comments section below—we’d love to hear from you!
we cuddle with our pets so why not with our fellow humans
I will admit that there are times when I am too tired, or my partner is too tired, to really get into play and cuddling is a better option. We enjoy foreplay a lot, and cuddling is often a part of that, but it normally doesn’t replace the main event.
but, it is there and it serves a distinct purpose a liaison between the physical and the emotional.
True, and there are times when we simply aren’t prepared for anal sex and cuddling under a blanket while watching tv is a better option.
We boys do get a bit older and so, peak performance is no longer instantaneous so cuddling comes into place and takes the stress off of performance. It is compensation.
Sometimes – cuddling is better than Sex However; Sex plus cuddling before/after is Amazing!!
I enjoy cuddling only before sex. Once I nutt, I’m completely done!!! My entire sexual desire is gone. I’m ready to leave immediately or escort the guy to the door if it’s at my place.
Some gay men don’t want sex but want intimacy…
humans in general sometimes do not want sex; intimacy works wonders and gives an alternative
YES!!! Absolutely more emotionally and physically satisfying. I very much look forward to being able to hold my partner in my arms, cuddle and even spoon sleep with him. Not that i can complain about the great sex but this intimacy goes way beyond.
It’s not just gay and bi men. Straight guys, especially Gen Zers have also discovered cuddling. Men are just catching up. Women have known this for centuries
I think that’s where some real intimacy happens, yeah, love it!
Cuddling is my favorite intimacy. I prefer it to sex.
Cuddling for sure. Especially after an intense session of sex, one where we pushed ourselves hard, and after we have both orgasmed we just lay wrapped up in each other until we get out breath, brains and ability to stand up back.
Usually cuddling will turn into sex, if I’m cuddling and spooning with a man and I’m in the front, he usually ends up putting it in, At irst it starts off by him putting it in and just laying there, then he slowly starts to slow grind before it turns into a full sexcapaid, and if I’m cuddling and spooning with the ole lady I usually end up putting it in her, then she’ll start pushing back on my dick and then it’s on from there, So yes I love cuddling
As a single person I can’t remember the last time I cuddled with anybody, besides my ex. When I cuddled with him, usually it turned into full fledged love making and occasionally sex. Outside of that, I don’t really cuddle with my hookups.