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Recently, one of our Adam4Adam blog readers commented:
GREAT TOPIC! The next follow up should be. What makes a blow job really exciting and pleasurable. Then, how do you give a really good BLOW JOB. For an example, I was taught to practice swallowing to relax my throat muscles when I had a COCK in my mouth, to eliminate gag reflex. IT WORKS and with a little practice everyone will be giving deep throat blow jobs.
This brings as to our topic for today. As we all know, when it comes to sex, everyone has their own preferences and desires. But one act that consistently tops the list for many is the blow job. It can be incredibly exciting and pleasurable, but what exactly makes it so? Adam4Adam readers, we want to hear from you! What, in your experience, takes a blow job from “good” to “mind-blowing?” Is it all about the technique, the connection, or maybe a mix of both?
Some say that variety is the spice of life, and this couldn’t be more true when it comes to oral pleasure. A blow job that incorporates different techniques—switching between light licks, deep throats, gentle sucking, and a little bit of teasing—can elevate the experience to new heights. It’s not just about one specific movement; it’s about creating a symphony of sensations that keep things unpredictable and thrilling. Do you agree that mixing it up is the key, or do you have a go-to move that always does the trick?
Of course, technique is only one part of the equation. The mental aspect of a blow job can be just as crucial, if not more so. The anticipation, the teasing, the eye contact—it’s all part of the experience. A well-timed pause, a playful grin, or even a whispered word can add layers of excitement and pleasure. For some, it’s about the connection with their partner and how it feels to be fully engaged in the moment. How important is the mental and emotional connection for you when receiving or giving a blow job?
And let’s not forget the power of feedback and communication. Nothing makes an intimate moment better than being attuned to your partner’s needs and desires. Do you believe that checking in with your partner and responding to their cues makes a big difference in creating a truly memorable experience?
So, Adam4Adam readers, we’re curious: What do you think makes a blow job exciting and pleasurable? Is it the physical technique, the emotional connection, the buildup of anticipation, or something else entirely? Most importantly, how do you give a greatblow job? Share your thoughts, tips, and experiences, and let’s dive deeper into what turns this intimate act into an unforgettable one.
It’s all in the tongue action and deepthroat. Then you have to change up your sucking motion cause dick is a muscle so there muscle memory. Also alternating from deep throat to focusing on the head plus throw in some licks up and down the shaft will definetely make them cum.
The penis is not a muscle. It CONTAINS muscles, but it itself is not one.
off the cuff, it is referred to as “the love-muscle”
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Exactly. I want one(muscle) or some(muscles) as a long hard cylindrical object in my mouth heading to the back of my throat and beyond.
I can deepthroat with little to no gag reflexes so most bi guys have said that I gave the best blowjobs and that my mouth feels like a woman’s tight pussy and other gay guys said my mouth and throat and tongue feels like a wet silky tight flesh that spasms around their cock. So I believe anyone who can deepthroat and use their tongues well tends to give the best blowjob experiences giving to the numerous praises I’ve recieved and the many times I’ve had guys cum deep inside my throat. I know I’m gonna come across as a… Read more »
There is never a need to apologize for sucking dick. Sucking dick is very important work that must be performed at any time the need and ability to serve arises. Swallowing the cum is also important unless the guy says he wants you to do something else with it. But, getting back to the subject at hand… Guys are different in how they like their dick sucked. While I believe Silva’s methodology is quite acceptable, there are times when a guy might want something different. A good cocksucker will stay attuned to how a guy responds to what he’s doing… Read more »
Slut is just a mindless value judgement from jealous bitches. I like to get verbal with guys I plow in my sling and talk about how pretty much nothing else on this planet, beats great man to man sex. Screw the narrow minded religious cult victims. “Life is a banquet and most poor suckers are starving”! That line was written by a gay man…
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My secret is first. Remove my dentures. Then let my toothless mouth drive a man insane with pleasure.
Using soft, wet, loose lips sliding around on the head of a penis always gets a huge response for me.
I always read my partners cues. Feed off his moans and sighs. I use lots of lips and tongue from the base to the tip. I love to run my fingers through the hair on his cock. I flick my finger over that sensitive spot between his balls and hole. Sometimes lube a finger and massage his hole as I suck. If I sense he likes that I slowly insert my finger in his hole, find his prostate and gently massage it as I suck. Reading his cues allows me to edge him several times before I get him off.… Read more »
Charles how right you are. Knowing what the cock owner is enjoying is vital. Once I realize what’s turning him on, I’ll give it too him good then take it away and tease him. Giving him more of what he likes when I want him to moan. Playing with that hole on a beautiful athletic ass while giving it your best BJ can nearly make me cum!
Just as long as ‘we’ can take each other’s whole dick, in each other’s mouths, love to 69.
deep throating and when he cums, you swallow too.
Love to get in a 69 you on top I love to eat a nice hairy ass while you taking in my cock and your tongue getting under my loose skin around my cock
hearing him moan so i know he is enjoying my efforts
You got to spit on that thing
I find a number of factors that increase the pleasure such as sucking deep and then tonguing his balls, fingering his prostate while sucking and using wet fingers to sliding up and down his cock as I am sucking. I also love how going deep throat early on makes you produce a very thick saliva that is wonderful lube. Prostate rubbing produces a powerful, extended orgasm and a bigger load of cum that normal and I love that!
I save the fingering to give him a second climax.
Guys who suck with pressure do it best. The soft blowjobs are pointless, as are the up and down motion. You gotta worship it and suck it hard with various motions, not just up and down.
Sounds like you’ve had some pressure suckers. I’ve noticed my mouth becomes clamped on a cock so tight if I give one more sucking motion it might be uncomfortable. So I lighten up on the cock a little and continue on my mission to the depth of my throat
It is the best because tightness is felt and enjoy it completely more
Pressure is one thing, but too much vaccuuming causes irritation to the urethra.
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Different strokes for different folks. ASK how HE likes it. What’s the point if he’s not into it. My oddest bj ever given was to an older uncut man. He enjoyed having his foreskin bitten. Totally what you try to avoid doing to a guy! But the more I bit and chewed on his skin the hotter he got and eventually he rewarded me with a load. Whatever it takes, but I’d much prefer to deepthroat.
Some say it comes naturally or you lick the head and lick the shaft or just start sucking and you will see how the guy feels about it and you have to suck the balls and some tops like you to deep throat it guys tell me I am a natural when it comes to sucking
Michael, I get those same compliments. It must be our name. lol. I accept the praise but I’ve also wondered am I a cock sucking slut. Once I accepted that sucking cock is an art then I must be an artist. Picaso of the Penis!
Balls and the ball sack.
I enjoy having my sack fingered. Doesn’t take much. Just circling around its edges while a bud has my cock in his mouth.
Helps to if after saying hello to my cock with kisses, licking and some sucking, he takes my sack in his mouth (ball-less) and then gently also takes my balls into his mouth.
Of course, if it’s a blow job, he should move up to my cock and have his “evil way” with it.
I notice most guys try to focus on the head, mine is not very sensative, so I love slow deep swallows with tugs on my balls
I prefer a firm mouth that grips my cock, massages my entire cock, I reward with a good load at the conclusion. I don’t like the bobbing up and down style.
There is one advantage to age. Although age has tried to deter my sexual appetite,my GUM Jobs keep me in demand.
I’m not big on sucking dick. Not really my thing with most guys I hook up with, but my ex fucking loved it when I sucked him off. The way he bucked and swerm and moan kept me going even when I was ready to stop. He said I sucked like a wet warm cushioned vacuum. He was really good too. I am not sure if I really have certain techniques or not, but when I did suck off a few guys, they enjoyed it, while a handful of gay guys wasn’t impressed. Haha. I can say there guys out… Read more »
I keep getting repeat customers so my deep throat must do a great job. Nothing better than a guy skull fucking me until he shoots while I open up my throat to receive his beautiful cock. And the longer the dick the better my throat gives it to him.
I love to cup his balls and suck on the head looking up at him. When he starts to buck his hips take him all the way in then whisper to him to fuck my mouth. When he’s in my throat, contract me mucsles like Im swallowing which will massage hos cock and get him tp blow so hard
I have had sex with 8,000 beautiful men. Every place I went, men wanted to be my “friend”, so I’m very experienced. Very few guys can suck well enough to get me to come, but most guys I fuck, can get me to blow a load balls deep in them. So most guys really want to suck my dick, because it’s just so perfect and desirable, but then I plow them balls deep and they are in really in love. But I’ve been married to my perfect husband for 30 years now, so I’m not available for more than fabulous… Read more »
I just request you make it sloppy wet. Lick and suck for awhile, then I want you to suck and follow with that hand over the head of my dick. That action will get you a creamy treat that you can swallow! No deepthroat required, for most don’t make it comfortable!
There are lots of options others have discussed and good technique is certainly a big plus, but … assuming you are doing the basics effectively, I think the two most important elements are (1) demonstrating and letting the guy you are blowing know how much you are enjoying giving him a blow job; and (2) you must demonstrate that you want to receive and will swallow his cum. If you need a brief break from enthusiastic sucking and licking his cock and balls, take a couple minutes to rim him while you use your hands to play with his cock.… Read more »
Everyone seems to agree a great blow job includes a variety of lip, tongue, jaw and throat techniques. The emotional and chemical state of the recipient, as well as his level of arousal, affects the outcome as well. For me, a great blowjob is more than just those. It also includes some pre- and post- factors. On the pre- side, I like to start with us face-to-face with the recipient on his back under me. Small kisses growing to larger ones. After a while, I’ll begin to explore his shoulders, chest and arms with my fingertips, followed by an exploration… Read more »
I can only speak for myself but I do enjoy giving blowjobs. I believe most men are different in bringing them to orgasm. So my technique varies. Mostly I ask “what do you like?” i.e. fast, slow ect. I prefer a guy to guide my movements and the satisfaction for me is derived from his continued pleasure. I also start caressing his balls gently, and make sure his testicles are a titillating part of the blowjob. I can’t deny the harder a man gets the more turned-on I become. I’m a swallower so I decided whether to take it deep… Read more »
my secret is using mentos hard mints while sucking, it creates a cool sensation and the guys go wild when i suck them off.
VERY SURPRISED. I was the one that suggested this topic and they listed all most word for word. I like that their has been some GREAT ideas submitted. I’ll add one of my extras that I use to try and make the whole experience more exciting. When I think my partner is going to CUM. I grab the cheeks of his ASS and pull in really hard so He knows, I have all of His COCK down my throat when He explodes.
I have been a cocksucker for years. Many repeat bj’s. I find its a technique. I like alot of foreplay, enjoying the shaft and sucking the balls. Usually half way I will rim him good and long, then go back and wait for him to say the magic words. Its all yours baby.
I’m no spring chicken, but it wasn’t until just 2 years ago I let a guy cum in my mouth for the first time. I spit it out immediately. It tasted foul and I don’t know that it was the right situation yet for me. But I continue to fantasize doing it what I believe to be The Right Way: Find the perfect situation/guy, most delicious cock, and at the right moment to suck till he cums as I continue sucking and I swallow it all down so that by the time I stop sucking, his cock is completely dry.
There are various things that can affect the taste of a man’s load; but when I read “foul” in the above comment, my immediate thought was “smoker”! HATE that taste!
Save it for last, get me thoroughly revved up with tons of kissing, nipple sucking, massaging and cuddling first.
I put BJs in two categories; active and passive. Passive seems to be more prevalent where the guy is reclining, lying or sitting, and the partner is doing the work. This gives the guy the fun of relaxing and getting his pole waxed and the partner has a stiff dick to play with. (Oh boy!) The drawbacks of this style is that the partner’s neck and shoulders can get uncomfortable unless the guy is more vertical, and the guy may have difficulty climaxing in such a passive position. (I do) The other style is active, where the guy is working… Read more »
Teeth! Keep them off the cock. A guy with dentures is a good friend to have.
Just like any other job _ you’ve got to love your work
Intention. Show him how hungry you are. Tell him how hungry you are. When a man sees how passionate you are to bring him to completion, he will respond in kind, at least that’s my experience. Tug on his balls a little here and there. Run your finger around his taint and hole. Grab his ass from time to time and pull him into your throat. When he starts to cum, press and rub the taint area (unless you have a finger or two inserted by then,) really vigorously. He is sure to deliver and be forever grateful! Lol!