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Oral sex is a common part of gay sex, but opinions on it can vary widely. Adam4Adam readers, we want to hear from you: Do you genuinely enjoy giving head? Or is blow job off the table? Why or why not?
For some, giving head is a deeply intimate and enjoyable act, bringing pleasure to their partner and feeling a sense of satisfaction and connection. However, it can also come with its challenges, such as jaw pain and the gag reflex. The question is: do these affect your enjoyment?
1. Jaw Pain: Prolonged oral sex can lead to jaw discomfort or pain, making the experience less enjoyable. Do you find this to be a significant issue, or have you developed techniques to minimize or avoid it?
2. Gag Reflex: The gag reflex is another common challenge. Some find ways to suppress it, while others may struggle. Does the potential for gagging interfere with your enjoyment, or is it something you’ve learned to manage or embrace?
Here are 5 reasons why some men love giving blow jobs:
- Intimacy and connection: For many gay men, giving a blow job is a deeply intimate act that fosters a strong connection with their partner. It’s a way of expressing desire and affection, often making both partners feel closer and more connected emotionally.
- Pleasure and enjoyment: Some men find giving oral sex to be an enjoyable experience in itself. The act can be pleasurable not only because it turns their partner on but also because of the physical sensations and the control it gives them over their partner’s pleasure.
- Arousal: Seeing their partner aroused and enjoying the experience can be a huge turn-on. The visual and tactile feedback during oral sex can intensify their own arousal, making the experience gratifying.
- Empowerment: For some, giving a blow job is about feeling empowered. Being able to control their partner’s pleasure and bring them to orgasm can provide a sense of dominance or mastery.
- Reciprocity: Many gay men enjoy giving blow jobs because they expect or enjoy receiving oral sex in return. This mutual exchange can enhance the sexual experience, leading to greater satisfaction for both partners.
Meanwhile, here are 5 reasons why some men hate giving blow jobs:
- Physical discomfort: Some men experience discomfort or even pain while giving oral sex. Jaw pain, gag reflexes, or the feeling of suffocation can make the experience unpleasant.
- Hygiene concerns: Concerns about cleanliness or taste can make the experience less enjoyable. Some may feel uncomfortable or disgusted by bodily fluids, which can detract from the experience.
- Lack of arousal: If a person isn’t particularly aroused by giving blow jobs, the act can feel like a chore rather than something they genuinely enjoy. This lack of personal gratification can lead to resentment or disinterest.
- Pressure to perform: The expectation to perform well can be stressful. Some men may feel anxious about whether they are pleasing their partner, leading to a less enjoyable experience.
- Emotional discomfort: For some, the act of giving a blow job may feel degrading or submissive, leading to negative feelings during the experience. This discomfort can stem from personal insecurities or societal stigmas associated with oral sex.
It’s important to distinguish between enjoying the act and feeling obligated to perform it. Do you feel pressure to give head, or is it something you look forward to as part of your sexual repertoire?
Many people develop their own techniques to enhance their experience and minimize discomfort. Share your tips and tricks in the comments section below.
Adam4Adam blog readers, we want to hear your experiences and opinions. Do you genuinely enjoy giving head? If so, what makes the experience pleasurable for you?
YES……………
Uhhh… WTF? Yes, we do!!! All for the suspense of not knowing how long it will take to enjoy the gushing reward of hot cum down my throat. OR, to get that monster ready for a hot pounding. Also like to feed… And the ultimate is to fuck or be fucked and the top sucks the bottom’s cock during…til we both cum at the same time.
Well said.
My sentiment exactly. Luv it!!
unpopular opinion: NO.
If you don’t want to suck cock, please feel free to dump them on me.
Not all Gay guys like oral.
Not all Gay guys like anal.
Not all Gay guys like kissing.
Not all Gay guys are Liberal/Democratic/Progressives.
Not all Gay guys are non-religious.
Not all Gay guys are the same.
THANK GOD!
All Gay guys are Homosexual
gay and republican/conservative/ regressive,….. you must enjoy pain.
These days, the “gay community” needs to be way more conservative. Everything is exaggerated, over-the-top, ridiculous, overdone, no restraint, no taste, no class, just trashy.
heh, you’re right! I seem to be the only one on the negative side though.
It’s not an ice cream cone, after all, though awfully similar…
I really enjoy giving oral. It is also nice to feel a guy shoot his load down my throat.
I agree totally. I enjoy knowing that I am giving him an orgasm. If he is into it, I also enjoy sharing some of his cum in a kiss too.
Me too
A kiss after and sharing CUM, is always special and it’d letting Him know it was FUN!!
I love giving head and couldn’t care less if the favor is reciprocated. It has been surprising just how many married men who aren’t getting it at home reach out for help in this area. And I am more than happy to oblige. To me it’s a public service, and I will take as long as it takes to complete the job. So far I haven’t had any complaints, but a lot of compliments, call backs and repeat performances. Someone has to do it. I’m here to help.
if you get too busy please send them my way.
I totally agree with everything you said. I enjoy it tremendously. Not only is it gratifying being able to bring a man to an orgasm but I just enjoy sucking on another man’s cock and balls….oh and the warm tasty man juice that is the reward. No recip needed
do a 69 and get it over with or kneel and let someone fill your mouth with it
I love being on my knees sucking a hot BBC.
once I was on my knees sucking a BBC in front of a full length mirror, loved watching myself….
Yes, kneeling is the most submissive way to perform fellatio. In front of a mirror, makes it that much better!!!!
Yes I really enjoy sucking cock. Put my mouth on it and watch it grow. Feel it swell in my mouth. The pleasure it brings me to hear that person moan and squirm with pleasure. The power it gives me knowing I’m in control of their fuck toy, me deciding if they will cum or not. There’s nothing like sucking a nice hard cock and getting the prize afterwords, or sliding that hot piece of meat into my tight hole.. very hot!!
I love giving head, but it’s more that there’s no reciprocation involved
My only complaint is detecting signs of bad personal hygiene when I’m giving head!!! Fellows don’t drop your drawers unless you are freshly showered. That makes the experience so much better. My tougue like to wander and I love to lick all around the genital areas, so be clean and fresh down there guys. Self- sniff yourself and go from there!!
This is something that has taken me awhile. When I started, I disliked it. Now, I love it and don’t mind at all if they cum down my throat. I’ve taken plenty of loads that way. Now, if the top guy isn’t clean down there and it smells…then I’m not going anywhere near it.
I love both giving and receiving a blow job. I enjoy it when your partner cums in your mouth and their expert when you swallow it
To me, there is nothing better than worshipping a man’s cock. I love to take my time licking, kissing and sucking the entire package. If I can get him moaning, so much the better. In fact, there have been a few times that his pleasure made ME cum!
I love giving head to a guy. I don’t have much of a gag reflex, either. I really get off knowing he is enjoying my mouth and throat, and love when he cums in my mouth! It’s such a turn on knowing that a guy has fed me his sperm…
I love it, especially with poppers. If the dick is not hard, then it can be tedious, but there is nothing like feeling the pubes around my lips and a throbbing rod down my throat. I laugh at some porn where the guy giving oral looks like a open container with a rod been pushed in and out. The sucker needs to be in control and savor the pleasure of a engorged cock gliding through your mouth and down your throat.
Love it.
Poppers .. no.
Read up on them. Not good for your body, especially your brain. If you don’t care, your choice, go for them.
I love sucking cock and swallowing cum. I occasionally get a little gag, but it passes. I think you have to work up to getting the large cocks down your throat though.
This has to be the weakest, least-thought-out Hot or Not in months or years. Of course! Everyone Gay or Bi does/doesn’t like giving blowjobs. They’ll be as divided as everyone else is about everything these days.
Better question…What Makes a Great Blow Job? For Givers and Receivers.
Best question…how fast and how much can you swallow?
Based my comment on many profiles stating “not into oral. Giving or receiving” and “I’m a Top only looking for an eager Bottom. Nothing else” (or vice versa.)
Best reply so far?
I always enjoy giving head multiple times a day
PS: I mean what’s not to like about sucking a guys cock. I have teeny tiny cocks to 8 inchers. ALL are good.
Can’t believe sucking a teeny tiny cock is good!!! Anything less than 5 inches to me, would be a waste of time.
Have found most guys with less average sized cocks to be highly eager sex partners happy to respond creatively. reciprocally and very pleasurably.
The fwbs I link with loving giving me head. They comment that it’s pretty, thick and taste good. ♂️
i will sometimes cum just from sucking cock
Sure do love sucking dick watching it shoot a load or getting it ready for my hole.
Heh, the author only needed to post articles such as this, and all the gays will come flying to read it or flood the comments with various opinions on the matter lol.
Yet here you are
Of course because I am gay. Gee when I made that comment, I’m literally referring that it’s an article we as gays/bis can relate to give our thoughts on the matter. Don’t know why some of you would take it the wrong way. I’m so glad I’m not a femboy or flamboyant in general and still act and talk manly because some of you gay guys needs to man up and stop being so sensitive towards everything.
YES! something is very much missing without the ORAL, honey! gotta have that ORAL when having some hot seXXX!
I love giving blow jobs. I derive great pleasure from the way a guy sounds as I suck his cock. I have never disappointed the guy I am sucking. The better your oral skills are the more pleasure the guy experiences and the more pleasure I get. The reward at the end is amazing.
I love to give my Lengthy Deep Throat Sessions!!!! Having a Big Dick Down your Throat is a very Pleasurable feeling for me!! I also have taught myself to not Gag unless I produce the Gagging sensation myself which is not painful, or difficult at all. I have a number of different Sucking methods I can use to change things up.I have been giving these Sessions from my mid twenties, and can nowadays turn any Top who lets me Suck them into a pile of Mush while their Brains Explode in Stars!! It always takes them at least five minutes… Read more »
I only like BB anal cum inside me
Depends who it is
I love every aspect of sucking my man’s cock – from the taste and feel of his shaft and balls in my mouth, to the high of hearing and seeing his pleasured reactions, to the sensation of his cum bursting in my mouth – there is nothing better!!
I totally agree with you!!!
Sucking a man’s cock is probably my favorite sexual activity. With that said, I enjoy sucking some cock’s more than others.
I saw my uncles dick while he was sleeping and knew instinctively I wanted to put my mouth on it… even though I was young and had never knew anything about sex… it was the beginning of a life long joy of sucking dick
I had been curious for decades – finally met another curious mm who was on A4A about 4 years ago – and once i gave my first blow job – sucking cock is all i think about now. There are lots of men who are bi/gay and are repressed from expressing their feelings – but once the opportunity presents itself, there is no turning back. I took his cock – he knew it was my first time – and when he was close he asked me if i wanted him to cum on my chest – i was so aroused… Read more »
I AGREE 100%. It is so exciting, to feel him explode deep down my throat. I LOVE IT!!! I only wish I could do it every day.
I absolutely love sucking cock and swallowing a nice load!!! There is nothing better than having someone’s cock in my mouth and throat!!! Love the taste of precum and especially cum!!!
I love to hear the other person telling me what he likes and wants me to do! Love being on my knees worshipping his cock while he is sitting in a chair. Another favorite position is when I lay on my back with my head hanging over the edge and he stands and fucks my mouth and throat. Love it when he leans over and sucks me too!!!
I am Bi and enjoy providing pleasure to my partners. Pleasing him with my mouth is so rewarding. Gives me a lot of satisfaction knowing I took him to climax. If he is big, I limit myself to the first 3 or 4 inches to avoid gagging. Gagging me may provide him with his self satisfaction with his endowment but it is an unpleasant sensation to the provider. When he cums, I enjoy tasting the different flavors of semen. Semen tells you that you have pleased him and that what it is all about, pleasing him to completion!!!
Absolutely love it!! The feel, the taste, the entire act of bringing a man to orgasm. And he can make his deposit wherever he likes…mouth, throat, face, body, anywhere. I love it so much, I’d do a dozen guys at once if given the opportunity (or more…lol!)
GREAT TOPIC! The next follow up should be. What makes a blow job really exciting and pleasurable. Then, how do you give a really good BLOW JOB.. For an example, I was taught to practice swallowing to relax my throat muscles when I had a COCK in my mouth,to eliminate gag reflex. IT WORKS and with a little practice everyone will be giving deep throat blow jobs.
When you say practice swallowing do you mean practice with the cock in your mouth? I want to deep throat a hard cock sooo bad and need to know how to do it.
As a bi guy, I will say that having a nice hard throbbing cock in my mouth sets off all sorts of sensations in my body that are unparalleled. I’m oral by nature, so a hot make out session, mouth on mouth, mouth on nipples, mouth on balls, mouth all over his body brings an explosion of endorphins and makes me feel electrified. One of my regular guys asked me “if I could only choose one of these for the rest of time, would I choose to get my cock sucked by another guy, or suck the other guy?” Hands… Read more »
I love sucking a nice clean cock. It turns me on to give a guy pleasure. Especially if they have a foreskin.
I’m sure some do and some don’t. As a bi male I for one love sucking cock.
I LUV getting naked on my knees and sucking a hard throbbing cock, even more so if it’s a THICK BLACK COCK!! I’d LUV to feel the cock head in my throat when he cums but haven’t been able to yet. Is it possible to stretch my throat if I practice?
Yes and no. When it turns into a “job,” not so much. As my female friend said, “why do you think they call it a JOB?” Licking, sucking, handling, is pure delight. Sweet pre-cum is the reward. But an explosion in your mouth of what could be nasty or overly salty or choking, not so much.
As I bi man I love exploring a cock with my hands and my mouth. I wasn’t sure about swallowing but I want it now. I love to kiss my partner after talking his load. I can clearly remember my first cock sucking, it was so surprising how much heft there was to a big cock, the weight was really surprising. I think it increases the power and masculinity of my partner and turns me on. I also love the texture of a big cock, especially one with a big head. I once sucked a very big, thick cock for… Read more »
If it is clean and smells good and at least 6 inches, I do very much enjoy giving a blowjob.
HELL yes being a submissive bttm sucking cock id huge for me.On my knees for the first time or 100th still same pleasure Now if he’s verbal and adds a firm hand in to play luv those words I’m going to cum
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