Hey, guys! How long should a normal hookup take and more importantly, do you see your hookups/FWBs again or is it just a one-time thing?
Anyway, whether a hookup lasts for a few minutes or a few hours, we might only be in each other’s company for a short period, we may or may not see them again depending on the arrangement, but that doesn’t mean there are no unwritten rules. For this guy on Reddit, there are a few things one must remember specially when they’re the ones hosting their hookups. See below:
A love note to hosting 20something guys
First of all, you’re killing it ok. To be able to host in this economy…bravo.
But can I please offer some pointers; this is done out of love.
- Have a clean hand towel, or any other small towel, by the bed. This is your designated sex towel, don’t use it to Windex the countertop. Bonus if you have wet/baby wipes.
- Please offer me a glass of water.
- Please have a clean surface where I can put my clothing. I don’t want to have them on the floor.
- Not having lube is fine as I carry a small packet with me. But you should have some as well.
- It’s a good idea to remove your duvet/comforter from your bed before we fuck.
- If you have Spotify on to drown out any noise, it doesn’t have to be so loud. I still want to hear you moan.
- You should have hand soap and hand towel in your bathroom. We are 3.5 years into COVID now. Body wash and paper towels will do the job, but I’m just saying.
- You should offer me to shower at your place and offer me a clean towel as well. I drive so it’s not a big deal to shower at home. But it’s polite to offer.
Remember…killing it. xoxo, traveling top.
Do you agree with the rules that he suggested, guys? If not, what do you think are the rules that must be included in that list? What about the ones listed below?
- Consent is Key: Always ensure that all parties involved are consenting and comfortable with the situation. Communicate openly about boundaries and intentions.
- Communication: Be clear about your expectations and desires. Discuss any preferences, limits, or specific activities beforehand to avoid misunderstandings.
- Respect Boundaries: Respect the boundaries set by everyone involved. If someone expresses discomfort or changes their mind, be responsive and respectful.
- Safe Practices: Prioritize safe sex by using protection to prevent sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
- Honesty: Be honest about your intentions and avoid leading anyone on. If it’s a one-time encounter, communicate that clearly.
- Hygiene: Take care of personal hygiene to ensure a comfortable and enjoyable experience for all parties.
- Privacy: Respect the privacy of others involved. Avoid sharing personal information or details about the encounter without consent.
- Aftercare: Check in with your partner(s) afterward, especially if it was an intense encounter. Ensure everyone is comfortable and on the same page.
As for other gay men on the thread, the comments section was a riot. Some think that OP is too demanding for coming up with the list, One of them even said, “You sound like hard work. You’re going round to fuck and leave. It’s not your hotel.”
However, one guy underscored the importance of said rules, he shared, “To all the people concerned with the ‘have a clean spot for me to put my clothes’ point, let me just say, my last hookup didn’t have a clean spot, and so I left my clothes on the floor.” He added, “Where his dog pissed all over them while we were doing our business.”
In conclusion, navigating the realm of hooking up involves a delicate balance of communication, respect, and consent. Establishing clear boundaries and expectations upfront ensures that both parties feel comfortable and can enjoy the experience. Remember, open communication and mutual respect form the foundation of a positive and consensual hookup, creating a more enjoyable and fulfilling encounter for everyone involved.