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A curious gay man posed this question online: “How common is fingering as prep for anal sex?” He then explained, “I’ve read some explicit gay fan fiction and most of the time they have the top inserting one, two, even three fingers inside the bottom as preparation for anal sex, even scissoring. Is this common practice when having male to male sex?”
One man responded, “I used to make guys finger me to warm me up, but now I just do it myself. I prefer doing it myself beforehand and I think most guys prefer it that way as well. Fingers aren’t really the most comfortable, I find.”
In addition, another man replied, “It’s very common. The issue I hear about is that a number of guys want to jackhammer their fingers. Then they think ‘good enough’ and try to go right to banging when that’s not necessarily what a guy wants or needs to get relaxed enough for it. For the love of god- Foreplay! Tease and kiss and eat that booty (if that’s on the table).”
Meanwhile, a guy confessed, “I prefer getting rimmed. I hate fingers in my ass as I am afraid nails will tear something.” He added, “That said, before rimming was a thing (I’m older), I did a lot of gentle finger play down there. I often marveled at the things I could feel — the prostate, the intestine, rectal muscles… I did fisting twice and could feel a lot more and my main interest wasn’t sexual but medical curiosity. So yes, fingering can be a thing if you like it, if the guy knows what he is doing, but I prefer a tongue now…”
If you are new to anal sex or anal play like the OP above, you might want to consider reading these tips here and here. Among many other things, they advised readers to make sure to clean down there, prepare some lubes and condoms, and make sure that your sex toys are safe for anal sex.
This brings us to our question, how do you prepare for anal sex, guys? Do you enjoy anal fingering? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
“fingering as prep for anal sex” Fingering is anal sex. Anal sex does not need to be restricted to either inserting your penis in someone or having someone insert theirs in you. Some partners of mine enjoy having their ass cracks massaged, either by fingers or a penis or a tongue. Some guys enjoy having their anus exterior massaged with a penis tip or fingers or tongue. I do as well. But like those partners, I do not generally find pleasure in penile penetration (giving or receiving). There are plentiful options for pleasurable sex! Anal, is not limited to penetration.… Read more »
Hunter0500:
As always, we can depend on you to “Set-The-Record-Straight”!
However, we must digress the disclosure of your friends parlaying the pleasures of “Taking-A-Good-
Shit!”
Since we are “Carbon Atom Creatures- in the form of – Homo Sapiens Sapiens,” we do produce
waste, either
liquid or solid.
However, it is not necessary to remind us Creatures of the “Joys-And-Pains” of fecal eliminations
and all the sordid but “Perverted Pleasures of Expanding & Contracting the Inner & Outer Sphincter
Muscles in the due process of Cleansing”!
PS.:
Creative ways of using “Shit”:
AA Degree = A Shit;
BA Degree = Bullshit;
MA Degree = More Shit;
Ph.D = Piled Higher & Deeper:
Post Ph.D = Piled even Higher & even more Deeply
Post Ph.D = Piled The Highest & The Deepest
I couldn’t agree more that anal penetration by cock is not the only goal.
On the rare occasions I bottom, I absolutely hate being fingered. Much rather have either a tongue or cock in there. Not only can I do fingering myself, but it just feels way too weird, almost like the days when my mom would take my temperature up the butt – not my thing. That said, I realize I’m probably in the minority.
Your mom took your temperature with her finger?
Haha – she’d slide a thermometer up my butt. Felt gross.
As a well-hung top man, I always have to carefully and gently dilate my bottoms so they can take me comfortable. If I just think I am hurting him, I lose my erection. I always wear disposable gloves to avoid any ragged nails injuring him internally. I usually start by caressing lube around and into his ass with my gloved fingers. Then I slowly in sort a smaller dildo and work him with that a bit before switching to a larger toy near my size. Once he’s relaxed and open, I give him my cock. Once my big mushrooms makes… Read more »
The very rare and truly caring top guy ! Nice to know there are some out there !!!
Thanks! Part of it is that I am a medical professional, so sensitive to causing pain. The other side of it is my personal experience trying the bottom role with and inexperienced top who just plowed his cock straight in. That was a very painful and not at all enjoyable experience!!!
It’s good that you’re considerate like that.
omg, you’re like a Unicorn
I love anal fingering as long as my partner keeps his nails trimmed. Hate sharp nails. Get’s me going before he either rims me or tops me.
How about “Sharp Cuticles?”
Ever since I accidentally scratched a lover with a sharp cuticle, I wear disposable gloves to guard against just that. They are easily purchased by the box and have multiple household uses.
When I first started playing with men, I accidently scratched a guy while fingering him during a robust round of sex. He was well-experienced in Gay sex; he knew I was early in it. My nails had been trimmed a couple of days earlier. He went absolutely ballistic, accusing me of purposely hurting him and told me to leave.
Needless to say, I shied away from fingering for a while until I got comfortable enough with another guy to give it a go.
I like all things penetrating my ass. Fingers and hands with or without gloves. Just be respectful and trim your nails and lube the glove, Then when all opened and relaxed your manhood should be inserted all the way, And I like it bareback,
I love it when a man fingers me, even though I do not have anal sex. It’s the perfect substitution for anal sex. I also like to finger another man if the vibe is right.
Fingering is okay as long as it leads to his whole hand being in my ass
I have successfully made guys come a second time by inserting my finger about five minutes after and pressing a little.
I am a married (to a female) top that craves anal play to explore my bottom journey. I want to reach the nirvana of a prostate orgasm with someone who knows what they are doing. I want to be kissed as my partner gently lubes and rubs my crack with ever so slow entry while asking if i feel okay. Perhaps a dildo to open me up and explore. I want to be overcome by desire and ride my partners cock. This is how I view the joy of an anal experience. Please tell me more!!
This issue is a toss up for me.. Every once and a while i meet a guy who understands what it means to sexually stimulate a man anally.. He is the sort who keeps his nails trimmed and clean and knows the idea behind fingering ia not necessarily to jam a finger or two or three up another man’s butt. I think generally these guys are just as much into making sure their partners are enjoying the sex and for some that may even be the turn on… I am finding fewer and fewer of these types of guys.. i… Read more »
I absolutely love being fingered while being blown!!! I have never been topped, but do love fingers.
I like being fingered or the tongue action, just penile entry.
That’s hot too!!@
Thanks, lol, I meant to say, just NOT penile entry.
Guys if you want to *really* up your fingering game learn to give digital prostate massages! I think we all know about the “P spot” and it feels incredible when done properly and the orgasm and loads it produces when combined with oral sex or JO is something every man should experience at least once. The techniques are not difficult so, if you are going to put fingers in their ass, make it the best thing he’s ever felt!
Is that the spot where when massaged I suddenly need to take a raging piss?
That’s your prostate pressing against your bladder so a big yes. I prefer to massage the perineum, just at the base of the hole, and apply a decent pressure to it. Hits all those nerves.
Bravo! I wondered when someone would get around to prostate massage. It is important to know a little about what you’re doing. Most men love it…especially straight men… I can’t count how many straight guys have said to me “you won’t believe what she did to me….OMG!!!!”
Massage of the prostate does not generally cause a urgent need to take a pee… google prostate massage…and watch a few videos. Prostate massage is also included in tantric massage techniques.
Finger, no. Tongue, yes.
Finger me, tongue me love it
I’m a total top who doesn’t like anything on, around, nor in my butt.
So, obviously, this is a “NO!”.