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Are you single guys? Moreover, are you from the United States?
We are asking because according to a recent study conducted by Pew Research Center, the number of young, single men in the US is on the rise. In general, their study revealed that three out of 10 adults regardless of age, gender, and sexuality are single, which means that the respondents are “not married, living with a partner or in a committed romantic relationship.”
However, this number is significantly higher for men ages 18 to 29 wherein 63% or roughly six out of ten young men are reportedly single. In contrast, only 34% of the female respondents of the same age are single. Meanwhile, the same study found that 62% of men who identify as LGB reported being single compared to 37% of LGB women.
More importantly, the study revealed that the majority of single adults or 57% are currently not looking for a relationship or casual dates. Read the survey in full here.
Experts weighed in on the matter. Niobe Way, a developmental psychology professor and founder of the Project for the Advancement of Our Common Humanity (PACH) at New York University told The Hill in an interview, “We’re in a crisis of connection.” Way added, “Disconnection from ourselves and disconnection from each other. And it’s getting worse.”
Meanwhile, Fred Rabinowitz, a psychologist and professor at the University of Redlands who studies the impact of the masculine role in men’s lives and the expression of depression in men, among many others, said: “You have to think that the pandemic had an impact on some of those numbers.”
Rabinowitz added, “Young men are watching a lot of social media, they’re watching a lot of porn, and I think they’re getting a lot of their needs met without having to go out. And I think that’s starting to be a habit.” Read the article in full here.
Having said all that, would you say that this study is true for you, guys? Do you agree that porn and social media are the culprit as to why many men are single? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
No, I think guys being in open relationships mean there are few single men to pick from. In Chicago, for instance, open relationships are rampant. I can chat with someone only to find out at the of a day long chat that he is married. Almost everyone on Grindr is in a relationship. The numbers are higher for women since straight men and women are likely monogamous. Single gay men are not desirable to me if they don’t believe in monogamy. Many also practice what they call ethical non-monogamy. In summary, there a few single monogamous gay men these days.
Agreed. I’m not sharing a man with anyone. The rise in STIs is why I’m not interested. I do believe in the use of condoms and lube
Monogamy is just to try and make sure that baby your wife popped out, is really yours. Gay men have no such issues, so monogamy for gay men is really pointless. Well, actually it’s a good way to make your significant other miserable and make sure you resent each other in about 7 years. My Husband of 29 years, with a PhD and a 500K income, flew a porn star boy from Japan for me to fuck. THAT’S TRUE LOVE! (He watched and participated)
The blanket statements on either side are amusing. If you want monogamy, go for it. If you want polygamy, same. If it works for everyone involved, it’s a success. And time will show who reports higher happiness. Limited data so far suggest “open marriages” (caveat: “marriage” and straight couples) are a massive failure, at 8% success rate. But I am open-minded. And we all know gays are different 😉
& who was the star?
I’ll still join those that don’t understand open relationships. That sounds like an oxymoron.
Ohhh BOY!!!
The real question is why does it matter? Who cares if a person stays single? Is it anyone’s business? If humans focused as much thought on science and education as they do on BS like other people’s personal life, gossip, pop culture, and sports, our species would be out among the stars by now. Stop wasting time, there’s a universe out there!
What no one ever remembers or considers?:
We enter this world – singularly – from between our mother’s two legs…
and
we get put into a box – singularly – and put into singular grave.
Hence –
It is what we do – in the interim – “Single or Plural”…
Thus…
for many…
being single…
or
remaining single…
is either a choice or an eventual outcome!
There’s nothing wrong with being single, but there is something wrong with not experiencing real love. Why do gay men find it so hard to open their hearts? Because all they want to do is open their pants?
What a crock! Solve the man-made BS already here, before spreading it throughout the universe!
BEST TO YOU! Have a great life!
“You’ve lost that lovin’ feelin'” lyrics from a song of the 60’s-70’s era. Politics, capitalism, in that order, bottom line, it’s become and becoming a self-cursed country. When I think, of all this country has done, to others; it really is no wonder, at all, from a certain viewpoint, of which again, they’re wishing/working to eliminate (black hist., Indigenous = American hist.) All the control over other people’s lives, liberties, etc., from those who have no control, over themselves (greed-hate) are destroying who/what good or psychologically-spiritually healthy humans are naturally. All the aspects of life in general are being extinguished,… Read more »
You need to visit Haiti to see what “cursed” really is….
Please explain what Lamar said to make you say he need to visit Haiti? Why Haiti? I can’t wait to hear Lamar response to you.
Marcus:
The reference to :”Haiti” is its cruel Regime and the injustices inflicted upon Haitians. Also, the abject poverty, disease and other such social plagues heaped upon the people of the Regime.
Kasper, Clyde Benke, Haiti in Greek, its translation means “Hell.” So, that’s just what it was turned into, by the Europeans, if, they were Europeans, this wouldn’t be.
What else you got?
Because little Lamar has no idea what cursed really is and he needs to experience real CURSED, to see the actual difference, between reality and his brain dead delusions.
I’m in FT. Lauderdale, in So. Florida, one need not go there, they’re here! They’re curse is the contact the Europeans made with them in Nigeria. Further, they have been left out of the ability to compete in terms of imports, doing business with the world at large; because they freed themselves from France (1804) Napolean lost that war . . . Are you aware of this history or ignorant of it? Ok, then, but let me explain further. Subsequently, they were forced to pay “restitution” millions which would translate to billions today, to their prior owner’s/oppressors. They were very… Read more »
I’m sure the Clinton Foundation will help…….
Too bad they did not stay part of France like Martinique, they would be a decent place now, rather than a hell hole.
Haiti, was designed to be aalll about slavery, the “rock quarries” not to be exotic, just like the south, as far as the north was concerned.
“The north is no sandbox for the Negro.”
It was actually said. So, you’re the small minded one, you don’t know your country, man, like I do, just sayin’.
The median income in Martinique is 3,010.00 euros, in Haiti it’s 416.00 euros. You don’t know reality, just your ignorant woke ideology. Should have stayed with the French…
At my previous job a trainer gave us 1 of those tests. I was the only INFJ in our class.
Over the past couple of decades, US school systems and parents have created a generation of individuals who have been told they are “unique” and “special”. Overall, they are entitled, self-centered, and selfish. They have not been taught to be part of a team. They have not been taught how to work together. They have not been taught how to agree and disagree politely and productively. “My views are the only ‘right; ones.” “Contrary views must be protested against, fought against, censored, and eradicated.” So, of course, more and more individuals are single. They are incapable of functioning in relationships.… Read more »
I agree with your last paragraph Hunter. You’re absolutely right!!!
Awe shit, man, from me personally, you get 5 stars for that most, eloquently, said truth. You can really get-down when you want to!
Hunter- 100% true. It’s the participation trophy generation. The one where they break up with someone via text. Besides social media, masturbation, porn, the prevalence of video games taking up time and attention.
Of course, I masturbate plenty and spend some time on social media. Not a big fan of video games or porn, but spend a little time with them …
Making sure to always keep up in contact with buds and schedule play time when our schedules align! This week, in particular, has been a sudden workout. Must be preparing for Spring!
As the old saying goes, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free.
In a more morally restrictive era, marriage offered a greater likelihood of unlimited access to sex, being that we currently live in a “anything goes” culture one must really ask themselves why would l want to get married?
The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, so why would I want to be locked into this side of the fence?
While often worth the expense, Divorces are often expensive, while break ups are free.
Totally true! And having a partner with a penis as well as a hole is a bonus!
Thats the selling point of being gay. WTF wants to be with someone for the rest of their lives. YUCK. Thats for psychotics. When a dude says ‘loving’ things to me…he’s ELIMINATED the next day. I fuck men. A man ( or at least the dudes i like) don’t say wussy shit like that. Being single tells me he’s man enough to fuck the establishment and traditions of others. Also in the gay community, everyones single , even if they have a marriage certificate. Do you really think gays can respect marriage or even the person they’re married to? Hell,… Read more »
My husband flys me all over the planet to any place I want to go, in business class and luxury suite comfort. He cooks and peels crab for me, I just have to eat the delicious piles of cracked crab. He bakes the best cinnamon rolls and cheese cake. He gave me a Mercedes ML 63 AMG for Christmas. (I already had a ML 550 I use for my beater now) We fuck 3-4 times a week. My married life is wonderful…..
Would you still be with him if he were broke?
I would, but really smart, capable people rarely go broke. My first boyfriend was totally broke and rather a criminal. But after 7 years together we had our first million. He knew how to make money.
I agree! Men can fuck and be fucked and enjoy without the bullshit!
It’s well known that the number of Gay men seeking long term relationships is in the minority of Gay men overall. And longevity of Gay relationships is fleeting. Long term Gay relationships can and do happen, but they are not the norm. Gay men seem most comfortable with hookups or Friends With Benefits relationships. Many of the latter can endure for years, if not decades. Another Blog topic trying to equate Gay relationships to Straight ones. Or bemoaning how “poor Gay men” just can’t find their Forever After Prince. We need to discuss Gay relationships for what they are in… Read more »
Porn is great – can’t give you STD like “dating”. The planet is overcrowded anyways so fewer babies is a good thing.
Dude…WTF are you talking about??? …… NO MATTER HOW MANY TIMES YOU FUCK HIM HE’ NOT GOING TO GET PREGNANT…. we aren’t making any babies and near as I can tell we came from straight parents…
I had one relationship which lasted 6 years (1975-1981) and have been single ever since. I am now in my 70’s will only consider dating friendships.
For me, a 60 year old gay man it is easier to stay single, I’m getting up there and I do not want to be burdens din my golden years taking care of a sickly partner, I have my own health issues (nothing serious) to deal with let alone someone else’s on top of that. And also I don’t a nag,where ya goin”? , why u ya going there? who ya goin’ with?
There is a rather sobering study out there on social invisibility, which shows when you get into your older years, the less you are noticed anymore. While a bit rougher on women over men, gay men take a bigger brunt. It also showed that if you don’t find a partner by 46, your chances of having a long term, meaningful relationship significantly dwindles. I know so many people over 50 that are alone, lonely and very few that made it past the 10 year mark. My suggestion to the younger guys out there, find that special someone. Stick with it, make great memories together, even… Read more »
Older men for sure get noticed! But not by the younger men The Community is infatuated with. Many older men get noticed by similarly aged men and have ridiculous amounts of sex. There are dating sites that focus on older men They’re full of members.
You completely missed my point. It isn’t about the sex, it’s about building something.
They get noticed for their portfolios, cha, ching! And sometimes daddy-dick, too.
If you got money, you won’t be lonely even in your 80’s LOL
The very reason for the overturning of “Roe vs. Wade” gotta make more babies for the war machine, no offense, but gotta keep up the # number of Caucasian babies, too. That’s what this is really about, the info., as they’re definitely worried about China, I think their populous out numbers ours, just thinking pragmatically. Another census is what this is really about, the info., that can be used for other purposes. I don’t think anyone’s having babies the way we used too, “women aren’t needing husbands to have babies,” nor are they so gong-ho to have them, especially “white women”… Read more »
Roe vs Wade was overturned because we finally had Justices who correctly understood and applied the Constitution. The Supreme Court does not have the Constitutional authority to create nationwide laws on such issues. The Constitution puts that authority in the hands of the States and Congress. The Supreme Court has returned the legality of abortion to the States and Congress.
. . . These are just words, ok, it’s the outcome, dude, essentially, pushing back against the freedom of women, to choose the direction of their own lives; you really cannot see that!
I had a conversation with a Caucasian woman regarding this, we both knew what this really is an attempt to do.
“Remember Germany; abortions as a means to death as punishment, don’t be so damn tone-deaf, yo, connect the dots!” As a “white women, even she did not make that connection, I pointed that out to her, she got it! This is what’s coming to be.
The States and Congress have been free for months to address abortion. States where it was illegal before Roe v. Wade have for the most part filled the void with their former laws. States with no laws, however, have yet to act to legalize it or make it illegal. Congress has also stayed away from it, While I personally have issues with abortion, I firmly believe that if someone believes it, that’s their right. And they should take it to the State Governors and Legislatures as well as Congress. Let the People speak and let the laws land where they… Read more »
Like usual, blah, blah, blah, the people are being ignored, alright, ok. The polls show, overwhelmingly, they’d have abortion rights, but as pointed-out, there’s a mission here, not unlike “The Bund”. . . Amer., nazis, via Germany.
I grew-up in and studied on my own, the hist of the Germans . . . abroad, obviously, and in the midst of the Midwest, the bottom line here . . .
“What’s old is what’s new.”
Not to get political, but I don’t understand how states have say on some things (where they may contradict their neighbor(s) on an issue).
In this instance, deciding about YOUR OWN body/health.
I laughed when I read it was a “crisis” men were single. That’s total bullshit. Men are single because relationships suck most the time. I’ve been single years, love my life and my time, and don’t want other peoples fucked up problems being handed to me when I meet someone. I’ll casually go out with someone but life is too good to be tied to some person who seems like a good person at first and then has more problems than the trumps.
I don’t think people staying single longer is a bad thing. I believe the pandemic certainly had something to do with staying single longer. Pandemics and major societal upheavals change the culture of how we do things. During the pandemic, people were essentially forced to be single and limit their social interactions. For many, it gave them time to focus more on themselves such as getting in better physical shape while others started to look at themselves a little deeper. I think some people started to understand what motivates them and, for some, discovered needing to be in a relationship isn’t… Read more »
Remember when everyone’s hair was on fire over gay marriage? Why? A hypocritical mockery and the narcissists prove my point that it was all a joke.
After reading some of these posts…I see now why we have 20 yr olds mass shooting up the place and killing people… They cant get laid.. so all they do is watch porn and jack go out buy an AR-15 or get one from the closet and have gun will travel.. what a fucked up country !!
It’s more cases of them believing they haven’t gotten what they feel they’re entitled to or that they’ve finally had someone discipline them or that a number of people have let them know, first hand or passively, that their behavior is not acceptable. Because the schools and parents have always taught them “they’re special and unique and deserving, etc,” with no behavioral boundaries, they lash out seeking to make anyone and everyone pay for their frustration, sadness and loneliness.
Consider the cost of divorce, painful from so many perspectives. Partnering in a crappy economy is financially viable, but merging so many things like family, friends, assets– it’s not easy and much tougher to pull apart an ending. We’re just out of a pandemic, where that was a multiplying factor, now waning. If straight/bi guys want to go the children route, great, that’s a serious lifestyle binder. The models for unpartnered gay men amount to FWB. I have many, and none of them are ready to merge lives with me, or vice-versa, yet we enjoy outings, lots of sex, and… Read more »
Who the hell said relationships were easy? But, you’re absolutely right, it is a cultural shift, a shift to the disposable society. Oh, I think this guy feels like old leftovers now, never mind, I’ll whip out my phone and get some new takeout Dick to Go.
I myself am 56, tried for 25 years to find someone special and only got a bunch of “special friends” in the end, whom I loved, but wasnt loved back. To be honest, being single isnt god-awful (just a pain when you need to move heavy stuff) and I prefer the freedom and peace and quiet. If you are driven to have a family, you will have one. If it just isnt a priority and no wife (male or female) is pushing you to do it, why bother?
I read about this study, and what is it comparing the results to? I have never known the majority of young gay men to be in relationships. Few are mature enough, and most are too concerned with appearances. Or they get into relationships based on mutual admiration/ego gratification/looks and lifestyle, and after several years it devolves into an “open relationship” or a break-up. This is why it is so important to have healthy long-term relationship examples for young men to learn from. But they won’t learn anything if they won’t even be friends with older men. The most-successful relationships seem… Read more »
I agree with this story and facts. As a older gay single 59 yr old man I see this in myself. I watch more porn and social media when I am at home on my downtime after my day job in the last 3 yrs. Gym time has been my outlet to being around others outside of work, but I don’t chit chat with those at the gym either, I workout and home. I’ve had this mental barrier too as being HIV poz undetectable, has a lot to do with connecting with anyone as well, most guys are still hesitant… Read more »
I think the change is men now have other socially acceptable outlets for sex then girls and getting married. I love to be with both men and women but men are much more open about sharing sex and loving than girls are. Women are much more demanding and play games. I can ask a guy if he wants sex on Adam and get an answer without the “do you love me” attitude women still demand. A vagina is nice, but so is a man’s mouth and ass!. And the bonus of having a man use me. Why data girls and… Read more »
The way this community in Soflo, is, it’s more like the vampire movie “The Damned” a wasteland of victims, looking for other victims; subsequently, they’re running out of bodies’ cause that’s all they are, every fucking where you look. I buy my meat at Fresh Foods. Not to mention “Zombies” soulless, mindless bodies anyone? Nah, I’m so much better, than that, above it; can’t make love with someone I love, who loves me back, I don’t need it. What you’re all witnessing, is really the apocalypse of a great many things, you just can’t face it, when the idea of… Read more »
How about we are sick & tired of needy lil leeches that do nothing but lay around the house makin a mess and contributing nothing?
happy to be single, don’t need to get tied down to one man and one man only when life is too short .. really, it is, i mean life only got FOUR motherfucking letters in IT, honey! play all you want, but remember to do so responsibly, stay safe, etc. etc.
Online dating plays a major factor in this. We have turned dating into a catalog of options based primarily on physical features.
I think it is a question of mindset and knowing that being in a relationship is the art of compromise. I find that this younger generation has a mindset of “It’s my way only”, ‘I want what I want”. It rings as untrue to the function of society. You have to work with people. Their is no escaping that humans function better when we understand that we are in some way depend upon each other to bring value and worth to what is a hard state of objective reality.
I am a 60ish year old man who has lived alone for 35 years. I have had 1 serious relationship of 5 years. After ii ended I decided to take a 6 month break. January was month 310. Social Media the cause–Hell no, I avoid that noise. Porn does the trick for the most part. Even at almost 60 I can still score some when I want it with another human. A date? I was on one in August of 2018. I did not realize I had been on the date until 6 months later, so I don’t think I… Read more »