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Hey, guys! Are you single right now? Are you currently feeling alone and lonely during this holiday season? If so, you are not the only one who feels like this.
Reportedly, and we quote, “the holidays can sometimes contain nasty triggers for feelings of loneliness and despair… reminders of feelings experienced when dealing with sexual identity.”
Some of these triggers that caused these feelings to resurface are the “movies, television shows and even commercials share stories that can highlight the ‘different-ness’ of those not coupled,” said Mental Help.
But the media is just one thing, there are also invitations to parties, invitations that extend to our significant other or spouse, and if we don’t have one, that could potentially make us lonely. Attending alone at a party full of people that have spouses can do that, and if the holiday season has anything of abundance, that’s parties. Suddenly, there are plenty of parties that we need to attend: at home with families, at work with officemates, with friends, and there are also Christmas parties with our peers at our community and professional organizations and clubs. Then there’s even a reunion with former school friends who are home for the holidays, or with classmates if we are still at school.
However, there are a lot of things that we can do to navigate these feelings of loneliness. For starters, Mental Health advice we start doing so by accepting the fact that we truly are single and to look at the silver lining for being one.
And hey, the year is ending, what better time to reflect than now? Whether we had just survived the worst year of our life, or if we’d just had the best year, this is the perfect time to be thankful.
We can also do something for others, you know, by getting involved or donating to an LGBTQ charity we can help a fellow human being today. If you wish to do so, you may check the list of LGBTQ organizations that you can donate to here and here.
Anyway, these are just some of the things that we can do in order to combat these feelings of holiday isolation and loneliness. If you want more tips, you can read the full article here, and please remember that the Christmas holiday is just a few days out of a whole, which means that this, too, will come to pass.
Having said all that, does being gay and single during the holidays stress you out or make you feel lonely? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
Wow, I find this very interesting!!!! Some people that are married or in relationships are lonely too. Probably more lonely than single people. Going to a office party or any gathering alone can be more fun. My thinking is that this is a individual thing and strongly depends on what’s going on in a person’s specific life. I know a lot of single people, great people who decided not to get married or be in a relationship. Everyone get lonely sometimes but to me it has nothing to do with being alone during the holidays or any other time.
A “Divine Revelation.”
Misery is 365 days a year.
There is no escape.
you seek the ultimate escape?… .
A call to the “Grim Reaper”!
Happy Holidays from the ultimate…
“Happy Holidays” to you as well.
May your Christmas Stocking be stuffed to the brim!
We apologize for him and his seemingly random, meaningless non sequiturs on virtually every blog post Adam4Adam publishes.
This is a Blog and as such, I am free to exercise “Editorial License.”
Splinters like you, bounce off the nearest woodwork, to add your condescending verbosity – most of which – reflect your lack of inner humor or kindness?
I understand how many people may feel lonely for the holidays, but I’m not going to sign on to this victim mentality of being lonely. If a person is truly at peace with himself a few things are going to happen. First, you will have real friends and family who are happy to see just YOU! You’ll go to events where you feel connected, not being the “other”. You also have the confidence to realize you are enough on your own. Lastly, you might attract someone worth your time to enjoy going forward into the new year. Of course, the… Read more »
Many posters here have said for long long time they are perfectly happy being single. They either like doing random hookups are have “Friends with Benefits”. But they’re not interested in a forever “Prince Charming” partner who must show up with them at social functions. And once again, here goes A4A and “The Community” pushing the notion that Gay guys who are not partnered are somehow sad victims of a cruel society bent on taking every chance to make them miserable, especially during holidays. Gay guys should be as partnered as Straights? No. Smart singles know there are plenty of… Read more »
Yeah, I love this! I’m not always in agreement with you, as you well know, lol, but this input, I’m in agreement a thousand percent! STOP with the pity party, you’re still alive and you can do something about it, excellent suggestions, btw!
Honey, I just have sex with randoms during the holidays or so called Holidays. I call them HELLIDAYS. because they all feel like the Gates of Hell have expanded and sucked us all in because of the Promiscuous behavior we engage in during the rest of the year. Don’t nobody want us. So i just open my legs like yall might open the turkey or ham on that table I do it in the bedroom and honey while im on my back im never lonely honey, lol
Ok..I laughed so hard reading this that I almost had Sunkist flying out of my nostrils.
For those who can, drink. Mulled wine. Sangria. Manischewitz. Anything. I can’t. Fate is not kind to us.
I gave that up, too. I refuse to ‘feel’ lonely, as I am alone, single and ready to mingle, however, I keep a lot of troublesome types away, with all their bad energies. I do occasionally meet-up with a few actual friends and that one “fwb” in which to safely engage in safe sex and party together; truly enjoying each other’s company. I’m gotten to the point of, enjoying my solitude, considering what’s out there, hell, what’s on here for that matter, lmao! I pay attention to what the holiday/s ‘really’ mean; aside from what’s being marketed. I do send… Read more »
Hello, new to the country and the culture and new to a college where you are invisible and seen as a mascot at times. There are good people here and everywhere I just hardly bump into them when shopping. Even if you do, the issue is they are usually with a family or in a relationship – You may get invited to a reception, but it leaves you feeling like the third wheel-shaped square. It’s one of those situations where you cannot do much. It takes two (or three) to form a good relationship, but nobody has the time. maybe… Read more »
Nicely summed up…LOL
How was your Holiday experience?
Since My Mom & Grandma passed the Holidays are not the same I wonder if I can ever get the spirit. I would love to find someone to love again.
Hey guy-you are the spirit. Your grandma and mother have moved on to a better place- so should you.
Loneliness is a global epidemic particularly in the western world with men around from 19 to 50 who are gay or straight. Being single isn’t what it used to be. I believe you can be lonely in a relationship, in a crowd, and with a family but in a heteronormative society, a man with a family may be distracted more easily. With all the WOKE and advocacy, are gay and straight men more open? Are men nicer to men, and is society nicer to a man over the cuteness of being a teen? Whatever happened to friendship and working on… Read more »