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Hey, guys! Do you have tips and techniques for more enjoyable and better sex? Can you make sex more satisfying and more pleasurable?
Often, we read threads about this topic such as this one wherein the original poster (OP) reveals that “penetrative sex hurts and is uncomfortable” for him and how could he and his partner make anal sex feel better?
First and foremost, anal sex requires lubrication because, well, the anus does not self-lubricate. Therefore, you and your partner need to ensure that the bottom is well-lubricated by using lubes.
As we all know, there are mainly three types of lubes namely: silicone-based lubes, water-based lubes, and oil-based lubes. We scoured the internet for other gay men’s favorite lubes and some of the brands mentioned were Tenga Hole Lotion, Passion Lube Maximum Strength, and Astroglide. What about you Adam4Adam blog readers, what are your favorite lubes for backdoor fun and why?
Secondly, you also need to communicate. Does it hurt, does it feel good? You have to tell each other what you feel for you and your partner to enjoy sex more.
And I know we already said it, but if it hurts, the top needs to stop and listen to his bottom. Apply more lube. Relax. Maybe consider other positions.
Anyway, what do other gay men on the aforementioned thread think about the topic?
Well, one guy replied:
It takes some getting used to and it’s quite possible it’s (anal sex) not for you.
That being said, always start slow even if you’ve had proper preparation. And one thing to keep in mind is where the prostate is. It’s on the ‘front wall’ of the anus and only a few inches in. That’s the male G-spot.
Meanwhile, another guy responded, “Sometimes, changing position alleviates the pain, i.e. pillows under your butt to elevate it, missionary, doggie, side, etc.”
Having said all that, what about you, guys? How do you make sex more pleasurable for bottoms? Please don’t forget to comment below and share with us your thoughts and stories!
Gay guys are not only Bottoms. Some are Tops. Some have no interest in anal sex at all. How about a more liberal, progressive, enlightened, accepting, tolerant, and diverse question? “What are some tricks and treats you bring to please sexual partners? And what are some pleasant surprises partners you initially thought were not a match brought to you.?”
This would be regardless of the labels and boxes A4A and “The Community” wish to force gay men into. Beneficial to many instead of just some.
As usual, when you hit-the-mark, you hit it well! The usual consensus is: if you are Gay, you are either ” a hole-for-a-boy’s-pole” or “a pole-for-a-boy’s hole. There never seems to be an instance when “anal sex” isn’t mentioned? Not each and all are interested in either being a “hole” or a “pole,” Many of us want it “in-between- the-lips! Some of us, choose to savor-the-cream and enjoy the nutritional benefits…such as pearly white teeth; peaches and cream complexion; hair full-bodied and shinny and last but not least, the pleasure of invoking… “The Puritan Work Effort” where you “Huff &… Read more »
Oh shut up, spoken like a true internalized homophobe who can’t himself tolerate the idea that some folks like to get fucked in the ass. Men and women, you moron.
Spoken so “eloquently” and so politely, like a true hater of gay men who don’t walk their stereotypical requirements of who gay men somehow “should” be.
“Gay guys are not only Bottoms. Some are Tops. Some have no interest in anal sex at all” is homophobe how? Not.
The next time you look in a mirror, you’ll see who “you moron” is.
It’s still you. It’s always been you. You’re consistently one of the most embarrassing posters on this thread.
Haha – *you’re right
I get what you’re trying to convey, but the title & topic are pretty clear in what this post is particularly talking about. It talks of both not just (bottoms) nor does it suggest “all gay men are bottoms.” Hence the title which you obviously need to re-read & then comprehend. I think where you’ve taken it is on a whole other level it wasn’t intended to be at.
There’s no pleasing the PC crowd. Everything is an offence.
Good points but too many here won’t hear you.
UM…..did you read the article? Its about making anal sex better for bottoms. Not vers or top guys. Don’t be so reactionary and/or drama queenish.
Cue all the creepy, delusional guys who are going to tell us that “they don’t need to make it more pleasurable” because “they have 14 inch dicks and can last 4 hours” and the none of the boatload of 18 year olds they’re fucking have any complaints. Please, Mary. Inflict your fan fiction on someone else who asked for it.
Hey here ya go, I have plowed 8,000 beautiful men, even had lines of 3-4 hot guys waiting to get some of my dick at bathhouses, boys pushing and shoving to bend over for me in back rooms and offers of cash (2.5K being the highest, I never took, I always had way more money than I needed) to fuck others. But the best thing about my dick is I attracted and married a whole different level of husband who is not only hot, but has a PhD and banks millions. I just got back from Santorini and a luxurious… Read more »
…said anonymous, pictureless man on the Internet.
Banking millions in Monopoly money does not make you successful. What a silly post.
Passionate tops who consciously “fucks” the way that pleases bottoms’ holes are the best
I have a bit of a problem: if I just think I am hurting a partner I go limp. As a top with a rather large cock, I have had to learn to be very careful with my bottoms and make the experience as comfortable as possible. After making sure they have cleaned internally, I start by using a lube shooters to get them well lubed with a water-based lube and then slowly introduce a slim toy or butt plugs into them. I then use progressively larger toys/plugs until they are dilated and ready for entry. My method seems to… Read more »
I am a total bottom and I can take a huge dick. length is not a problem, girth can get pretty painful.. the secret to taking a big thick dick is join in the fucking . don’t just lay there and take it…the more I work my tight little ass hole on the monster dick the better it feels.. I do love a big dick.. I have had 6 inhc dicks to hurt more than the 10 inchy dick…the best fuck I ever had was a big thick 10 inch uncut dick… he gave it to me slow and easy…HE… Read more »
If you’re the top, you must: 1. Be patient- every ass can open up to the cock it craves. 2. Love ass. If you won’t rim or eat out a clean ass, then you’ll need to go even slower with fingering… with 3. Lots of lube! There’s never a chance of too much moisture if the bottom is inexperienced or has pain issues with fucking 4. Remember not to pump until the ass has relaxed enough to take your whole cock, balls deep if possible. It’s easy to wear out the anal opening before the bttm has relaxed yet. Do… Read more »
Slow with just about anything is the way, also reading your partner is key especially when it comes to picking up the pace. Plenty of lube & the type of condom that is used or not all play a part in making sure the bottom is as comfortable & at ease as possible. I think it also depends on the bottom’s preferred position can also make it more pleasurable for them as well. Aside from things like nipple, play, making out, or stroking their dick especially in pace of how you’re fucking them can really intensify the sex.
I do all of the above with my partner. We try different positions quite often. I can tell he gets more pleasure out of some (riding and missionary) and seems to like others less (doggie). We use LOTS of lube, some digital foreplay and then PATIENCE. We may eventually get to “faster, harder” but we don’t start there. I also think there is a lot to be said for changing it up throughout the entire encounter. Slow, fast, slow, missionary, doggie, side, face down, fast and hard, and finish! Haha. Finally, don’t forget he has a dick too! Just because… Read more »
It can be an acquired taste! The first time I was penetrated, the initial thrust did hurt. But then as the penis glides past the prostate, the feeling is incredible. Greatly overpowers the pain. For me anyway, it’s the feeling we get just as we are climaxing with regular intercourse. Only not for that brief moment, I feel that intensity the entire time my lover is thrusting. So it is infinitely more enjoyable than regular intercourse with either men or women.
It all depends on the top and if he can take it slow and easy for a few strokes
As a bottom never had too much trouble with pain in anal sex. I’ve had very well endowed partners in the past and as long as there is some lube and he starts slow and easy I can take it as hard and deep as he wants to go. I find it very pleasurable only once did I ever have to stop for pain and that’s after a very long session.
The appropriate question here should be, “How Do You Make Sex More Pleasurable For Each Other?” Having said that, there are a number of things that need to be considered. Positions can be personal to all of us. I’m a total top, and I prefer to be on my back with my partner facing me while he rides my dick. The bottom guy can be in control of how deep and fast the stroke is, and I think penetration is better for the top guy. Everyone has a favorite position that works for them. Some think a lube is a… Read more »
I found that some guys are good at penetration and some are just not. I found patience is the key, rushing in a tight spot isn’t run. So, if you’re I’m pushing it in, it won’t be a great experience for the bottom guy.So, if you’re an impatient top the results won’t be good. Yes, definite lube, it’s crazy for people to think spit works…
As a top you definitely have to take care of your bottoms. Every bottom isn’t the same. I like to perform well for my bottom but make sure they’re comfortable. I’m very much into eating their ass- my #1 it has to be cleaned out well but will put my face, tongue, beard to open them up and pleasure them before penetrating. I want them to be pleasure as I’m pleasuring them. You can’t ram it in and think they’re not in pain…always go nice n’ slow
This should be interesting. I see too many CAVEMAN type tops who think ripping the bottoms guts out if fun. Sadly too many bottoms like that. I’m an old school top. I like explore every spot within the butt. Taking time to communicate before, during and after the act. Cuddling, intimacy, kissing, passion mutual pleasure, ect are a few thing to be employed. I get nothing out of trying the hurt my partner… no pleasure there. Maybe in this fuck and go society the top is into to satisfy only himself…not a good move unless you just want a nut.
Just slide in slow to stretch out the hole and keep going until your dick head works into the inner sphincter. Then increase the speed of plowing until you drive the bottom into nirvana….plunging in and out of that fuck tube with the sphincter sucking and massaging your dick head at the end. Nothing on this planet feels better.
It calls for an “open mind” for sure, shake it up a little, make it hurt, but just a bit, use some foreplay, bring your inner freak out. Sometimes you have to introduce other methods, toy with ’em a bit, making them really want it. Some are gonna light-up, nut like firecrackers, some need a little bit more time and effort, when hitting that prostate. However, it’s not just the physical with gay men either, I find that many times it’s emotional/psychological, anybody can tell when you as a top are just downright selfish; as that’s a turn-off, as it’s… Read more »
As someone who is a total bottom, I think just taking your time at first and lots of lube is the most important thing. I absolutely love bottoming and am a huge fan of girth. But you got to give me a few minutes to fully relax, and then… you can plow away your heart’s content and as hard as you like. For me absolutely nothing in this world is as pleasurable as being fucked, and seeing a top …or tops take pleasure in fucking me.
Again, must clarify the question being asked. It is solely asking if anyone has tips on how to make anal penetration less invasive for those individuals who like anal sex. If one is not into it, then simply move on to another question which you may have some insight on. Not complicated for sure! Personally I have always had a very tight butt… don’t we all….lol, but for better or worse I still do. I have found that if the top and the bottom work together to read each others body language and through mutual communication / guidance, after the… Read more »
As someone who is mostly a bottom I am looking to know how to take more than 7.5″ without pain. Girth doesn’t seem to be a problem but length is. I have a lover that is well endowed and I would like nothing more than to be able to take him balls deep. Yes love is more than just physical sex, but that doesn’t mean sex is unimportant. He is very patient, and we have tried different lubes, positions, pillows etc, but it seems like I have a built in wall that prevents me from taking more.
Use good lube (silicone preferred, especially Swiss Navy) and lots of it.
Call somebody to tap me out
I love top man who know how to use his cock in both of my holes. Love a man with a big cock and loads of cum.
I am a total bottom. I love getting fucked. I read these articles who talk about a huge dick 7 or 8 inches…my lover has a huge thick 12 inch dick….it didn’t happen overnight but I learned to take it all… honestly.. it’s 12×7…looks more like a horse dick than a human dick… some weekeds he will fuck me 5 or 6 times. his limit was 8 times in one night… His body is a cum making machine.. even his 8th load is still huge
I don’t understand the pain issue. yes, I do have a tight little ass hole.. but I can take a big huge thick 10 inch dick with no problems. as long as he takes it slow and easy there is not such thing as too big. I do hate a little dick.. the bigger the better. there is no such thing as too big
To begin with… For a long time i didn’t know that tops thought about whether the bottom was enjoying anal. So few tops have verbalized that they think about it until it becomes a steady relationship. And by that time their pattern has often become set .
Simple: ask what they like. They enjoy it more knowing you care about their interests.
No one will see this response because it’s two years behind, so I don’t care if it’s unpopular but as a top, the majority of the bottoms I’ve been with just want me to get hard and go right in. Their legs or ass go right up to my face. The dick is the pleasure they want as far as I am concerned. So, we both mostly want to please oneself. I do have those instances when it feels so good I want the bottom to feel the exact same way and he usually does, especially when they beg for… Read more »