Was there ever a time in your life when you’ve been celibate, guys? If so, what’s the longest period you’ve gone without sex? Moreover, what’s the reason why you decided to practice celibacy? Was it “involuntary?” And when you say you’ve been celibate, did you stay away from sexual contacts of all kinds, kissing and holding hands included, or did you only stop having sexual intercourse?
Anyway, we’re asking because we stumbled upon this thread on Reddit where the original poster (OP) was asking readers this question:
It’s been 8 months for me and I don’t know if it is depression or just my standards that got abnormally high, I don’t enjoy hookups anymore, they’re not rewarding to me, I am seeking real connection and that shit is so hard to find but I am still hopeful.
One guy revealed, “Almost five years.” A lot of men said something close to it, like this one response: “Five years and then another seven months.”
In addition, another guy said:
I don’t know. 6 months? 8 months? 13? Not really interested in hookups anymore either, and I don’t think its depression. I’ve just had enough, they all are more or less the same and generally kind of disappointing, and it’s just not worth my time. Sex is fine but there are so many other things I also like doing that I don’t need someone else for. So I’ll probably wait until I’m dating again at this point.
But what do experts say about celibacy? Reportedly, a recent study about the hookup culture revealed that celibacy has been on the rise since the year 2000, and it means “no partner sex at all,” not to mention it’s happening “in all age groups,” too.
Of course, there is another side to it says Psychology Today, and it’s that a separate study found that “the group most likely to hook up with strangers” was the young gay men. In addition, it revealed that among the gay respondents, “two-thirds of hookups involved oral or anal intercourse.”
But overall, there’s been an increase of 31% on celibacy from 2016 to 2018, clearly it’s before the pandemic, and we all know what happened during these past two years.
Having said all that, how true is this study for you, guys? Are you, like some of the gay men on Reddit, also abstaining from sex? Why or why not? Or are you more like the gay men on the study about the hook up culture today? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!