How do you find dirty talk, guys? Do you like it? Do you, perhaps, hate it? Do you or don’t you want your partner to talk dirty during sex?
Some people find it a huge turn off, just like this guy who posted a question on askgaybros asking if there’s anyone else who hate dirty talk like him. He said, “I don’t understand how people get turned on by it at all, I don’t like being called a slut, whore, cumdump, toy, etc… Nothing turns me off more.” The original poster (OP) added, “It’s sickeningly prevalent, people complain about incest-roleplay in porn but for me this is the biggest issue, I don’t get why you would insult your partner.”
A commenter named gouplesblog, however, explained:
Dirty talk isn’t the problem here – degradation is. You don’t like being degraded, even in a role-play environment – that’s totally fine. I’m similar – it’s off-putting at best and I wouldn’t enjoy calling hub those names – if he asked though I would.
Just tell your partners that degrading words in dirty talk is a no-go. It is a perfectly valid kink though, so be careful about kink-shaming – no one likes their yums being yuk’d.
Another respondent named BelCantoTenor said, that he “only like dirty talk if it’s sincere.” He added, “I don’t like the disgusting, name calling, degrading porn-style rubbish like you just described. That shit is nasty.” It’s a sentiment that was shared by another user named Btd030914 who said, “Yeah if it’s authentic in the moment it’s hot af. Otherwise, totally cringey.”
Nonetheless, there are also many others who dislike dirty talk like speaking_silence_god, he confessed, “I find it cringey, but my bottoms love it, so I live to serve.”
Why do many people love dirty talk though? Why does it fuel our sexual arousal? Well, science has an answer.
Sex, according to Medical Daily, “begins in the mind” as sex drive comes from the brain and as a result, the brain is therefore, “considered a more powerful sexual organ than even male and female genitalia.”
Meanwhile, Dr. Daryl Cioffi Appleton—owner of Polaris Counseling & Consulting and a professor of neuropsychology and a psychotherapist—explained to Medical Daily, “People very much enjoy dirty talking because it activates all regions of your brain while your body is also getting stimulated.” Further, she said, “Similar areas of the brain are touched upon during dirty talk as when we curse. So, very often as your brain sees it, the dirtier the better.”
Having said all that, what for you is a great example of dirty talk? Ones that would, without fail, turn you on? Drop us a line or two in the comments section below and of course, please don’t forget to share your stories with us!