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Size has always been one of the hottest (and most divisive) topics in gay spaces. From porn to dating apps to locker-room talk, big dicks get a lot of hype. But how many guys out there actually genuinely enjoy “massive” dongs?
One gay man online recently sparked the debate when he asked:
Most of everywhere I go, I always see just that very large group of gay guys expressing how much they love men who are absolutely hung, and I’ve never bottomed and personally don’t ever want to bottom, but at some point, doesn’t that just hurt or at least feel uncomfortable?
His question opened the floodgates to a range of perspectives, from men who can’t get enough of big ones to others who find average size much more satisfying.
Some gay men admitted that while oversized members may look good, the actual experience isn’t always as pleasurable. “Personally, I think they’re nice to look at (I mean most are), but in terms of enjoying them, I’d much rather have 5–6,” one man said. Another agreed, noting that the average size hits the sweet spot. In other words, aesthetics and practicality don’t always line up.
In addition, several men emphasized that context and mood matter as much as inches. One guy confessed, “It does feel uncomfortable, but it’s quite enjoyable too. It depends on the day and how my ass feels personally. Sometimes I don’t want to bottom but still love sucking a big dick. I’m easy, though and don’t care for just big ones. Some thicker but smaller ones are hot too.” For him, the pleasure comes not just from size but from variety, balance, and being in the right headspace.
On the other hand, some gay men admit they love the intensity only a big one can bring. “I do. They make me feel so fulfilled. But definitely have to take it slow and train up to them,” shared one respondent. Another echoed that thought, saying he loved the feeling of being completely full, describing the build-up as challenging but ultimately heavenly once his body adjusted.
Moreover, not all the fascination with size is about bottoming. Oral enthusiasts chimed in as well, pointing out that shape matters just as much as size. One man explained, “The thing is, some dicks are too thick and too straight to deepthroat successfully, so for me it’s like—can I do all my favorite most expert moves with it? Can I deepthroat it? If so, then I’m happy. Some guys are bigger but have the perfect curve to go down my throat, and the same dick size, but straight might be a problem. TLDR: very much depends on the specific meat.” For him, it wasn’t just about being big—it was about whether it worked for his body and skills.
Meanwhile, others admitted their enjoyment of massive cocks stays in the realm of fantasy. One gay man said, “I enjoy looking at them in pics and vids, and when I’ve been lucky enough to find one in the wild, I enjoy sucking them. That’s it for me, though, as I don’t enjoy bottoming for them.” Another took it even further, saying, “I LOOOOOVE huge penises BUT only for watching in porn. In real life, I want 6 or 7 inches—that’s the perfect size to fit very comfortably & feel very good in my mouth & ass.” For many, what excites in porn doesn’t always translate into what feels good in bed.
What’s clear is that size preferences vary wildly among gay men. Some crave the fullness and intensity of massive dongs, others admire them from a distance but prefer a more comfortable fit, and still others insist that shape, girth, and curve play as much of a role as inches. Moreover, even among size queens, there’s acknowledgment that handling something so big requires patience, practice, and sometimes, the right lube and toys to prepare.
So what does this all mean for the size debate? Perhaps the obsession with “massive” cocks is just one part of a much more nuanced conversation about desire, fantasy, and pleasure. Not everyone wants to ride a “monster,” and not everyone needs to. At the end of the day, whether you’re into five inches, seven inches, or double digits, the real key is honesty, communication, and taking care of your body.
Adam4Adam blog readers, what’s your take—does size matter more than connection, chemistry, or skill in bed? Do you feel more turned on by a big cock, or by a partner who knows exactly what to do with whatever they’ve got? Share your thoughts with us in the comments section down below. And no matter your answer, remember that the sexiest thing you can bring to bed is safe play.
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Size does matters but for me, it depends on the person to a certain extent. Anything less than 4 inches, I’ll pass. When a rumor is spread, that a guy has a big long dick it gets everyone attention, men and women. Not just gay men but straight men too. It’s almost like a badge of honor. If the guy is hung and attractive, it’s even more appealing. I remember the pole vaulter in the last Olympic, dick was so big, it grazed the bar during his jump and knocked it over. He made national news. I also noticed that… Read more »
yo, it ain’t length, it’s width
I asked my mom about a previous boyfriend of hers. She said it was a pony can. It was too short and too wide to satisfy.
I knew what she meant. It was about like backing up to a door knob.
Yes, we had these conversations about our lives.
Like I pointed out in my post: say he has a larger penis, but bad hygiene, very confrontational personality, etc..
Does 1 only focus on the manhood?
that pole vaulter was most likely uncut. does that bother you like most people when they realize that ?
I think it’s more of a personal issue; short guys wish they were taller, heavy set wish they were thinner, hair, attractiveness, confidence, etc..
It’s easy to see manhoods also being compared.
But, does only 1 element make a man? Say all he has going for him is penis size…would that make you happy?
As they say, “there can be too much of a good thing.” I’m good with guys with lengths up to about 7-1/2″ and girths less than 5″. Not being avid about anal and not being gifted with a wide throat, anything beyond those figures becomes problematic. I don’t contact “hung” guys if their being so is evident in their profiles for that reason. When I’ve been contacted by guys who are such, they’ve tended to be Dominate Tops seeking their next hole to plow. Neither of those are what I seek, so I’ll reply “thanks, but we’re not seeking the… Read more »
This Gay guy doesn’t love or not love a Gay guy based upon his penis. Size, hung or not, by itself doesn’t make him lovable or not. Objectification over one attribute (especially a physical one none of us had a say in about receiving) does little good for all of us.
A guy is attractive or not and lovable or not based on a number of factors which will vary from guy to guy.
I’m a moderately well-hung (7.5 inches and thick) top man who is often complimented for my cock but personally, I like smaller cocks for giving oral sex to. I’m had 2 bouts of head and neck cancer that required a jaw reconstruction that left me unable to open very wide. I can’t fit to stacked fingers between my upper and lower teeth so I appreciate smaller cocks since they are all I can suck.
This isn’t really a debate. There are people that love hung guys and the rest are liars.
I want the whole package and won’t make a decision just on the size of a guy’s cock. That said, I absolutely love a larger cock, especially width. I’m not someone who exclusively wants to fuck a guy with a big cock but if he has one … especially nice thick one, That’s an awesome bonus!.
Yes
I love a big 8″ cock, but it is nothing if attached to the wrong guy. A hung man is a turnoff if he’s arrogant, mean, unhygienic, or lacks personality. Conversely, an average sized man is a huge turn on if he has skills, fun, hygienic or easy to be with. A big cock is a plus, but not a requirement. A lot of “influencers” show off their big cock on social media, but their narcissistic ways are a complete turnoff. If he’s a kind person, yes, I will be instantly on my knees sucking that monster cock to completion.