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When life gets heavy, a little humor can go a long way. A gay man on Reddit sparked a playful and lighthearted conversation when he asked, “Tell me you are gay without telling me.” He added, “Seen many serious and controversial topics lately so here is a fun and light one if you want topic speaks itself (No you can’t say I love men).”
The conversation exploded with witty, touching, and deeply personal stories, as gay men found creative ways to express their truth without ever saying “I’m gay.”
One of the first replies captured the subtle signs perfectly: “Underwear aisles.” Sometimes, nothing feels more magnetic than walking past a Calvin Klein display at the mall and finding yourself admiring the models more than the products.
Another gay man shared something many can probably relate to: “I walk fast.” It’s a running joke (pun intended) in the community that gays can outpace anyone in a crowded city street without breaking a sweat.
Porn revelations were another popular theme. One guy confessed, “Watching porn in my 20s I was fascinated with women giving head. Then it hit me. I was focusing on the Cock.” Someone else had a similar awakening: “When I started watching porn, I came across NextDoor Hookups and thought it was super-hot. Turns out this was straight porn for gay men where the focus is on the guy.” For many, realizing where their attention naturally went was a huge lightbulb moment.
Another gay man offered a wry observation: “Straight people confuse me.” It’s a small but telling comment about how certain heteronormative expectations don’t make sense to everyone.
Meanwhile, a nurse recalled a hilarious moment at work: “One time my co-workers were astonished that I didn’t notice the new intern’s gigantic boobs.” It’s the little moments that often reveal the truth more clearly than any big coming out moments.
Crushes at work also made the list, like the guy who said: “Every morning I wake up and my very first thought is about my very cute guy co-worker.” There’s something sweet about how effortlessly attraction can slide into our everyday thoughts.
And, of course, some things are just universal. One guy put it plainly and powerfully: “Man ass.” Indeed, what could be more telling than that?
Having said all that, what about you, Adam4Adam blog readers? Have you ever had a moment when you realized you were “telling” people you were gay without having to say it out loud? What’s the funniest or most telling way you could answer this question? Maybe it was a celebrity crush, a favorite childhood TV show, or the way you felt about a certain colleague. Share your thoughts and experiences with us in the comments section down below—we’d love to hear your story!
work-on-the-lisp! work-on-the-limp-wrist…both are undeniably gay
might want to work-on-the-walk, too?
LOL!!! LOL!!! LOL!!!
tweezed and contoured eyebrows are a dead give-a-way, too nails and cuticles contoured, shaped and refined, don’t help the situation either.
LOL!!! LOL!!! LOL!!!
Lmao, I just thought of a crush, I mean, I crushed hard on my mgr. (Steve), at my first job at a burger joint, in the Target Mall in Mpls., when I was a sophomore (77′), he knew it too, but much to his sweet nature he would just smile with that mustache like Tom Selleck’s. But the other time, was a fellow student, who went to the same middle school. Well, starting senior high, we were seated next to each other in homeroom! Oh, was I happy, lmao, when he got up, my hand went immediately to where he… Read more »
Sucking a dick.
Going back to the recent blog “What Are the Things Straight People Will Never Understand About Being Gay?“, this is for sure it. No one needs to “Say You’re Gay”? If anyone is at work or at a social gathering, why? Would they say, “I’m David and my family emigrated from Lithuania and Brazil 100 years ago, I’m Jewish and Asian”? No. So why does anyone need to overtly let everyone else know “I’m Gay”. They don’t. Just talk about life. If people are discussing weekend or vacation plans, just say what you’re doing, “Zach/Mike/Juan (whoever) and I going camping/to… Read more »
Nah, some people ‘want’ you to lie, like you’re ashamed. If, asked, YES, what of it? But hey, that’s just me.
Actions, nowadays, speak louder than words. Mannerism (speach inflection) and/or body language can express your sexuality a great deal without admitting what you are sexually. Wearing outfits like you’re a contestant on RuPaul’s Drag Race show helps also. Just kidding.
unless, you undergo “Dragulation”?
Sooo, most of the responses are “I’m into dudes”.
I’ve never heard of the fast walking trope.
I have a t-shirt with this saying:
“Sorry, I don’t do girls!”
I rarely say I’m gay. I tell people that I’m a homosexual. Gay is old and tired. Homosexual more accurately says what I am. I’m sexually attracted to men, and I have sex with men only. And God forbid, I never say I’m “LGBTQXYZ” – That’s absurd and inaccurately describes me.
Yes Homosexual we are. Gay is Lifestyle. not all homosexuals are gay but all gays are homosexuals.
Stop puffing yourself up. You’re like everyone else in this comment thread: a faggot.
yes, and one faggot knows another faggot!
The word “homosexual” is literally an older word for expressing same-sex attraction than the word “gay” is, so suggesting the word gay is “old-fashioned” is bizarre.
I sent out a group message with a pic of me and my partner wearing our rings and said … “We’re engaged”
Well, through interactions with friends, co-worker and daily interpersonal interactions.The conversations and interactions never involve the usual heterosexual stereotype.
What does that even mean?
you never mention Chicks? by default, you need not mention Dicks?
Talking to a bunch of women about Golden girls, quoting lines from the show all the time…