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A gay man on r/askgaybros recently posed a question that sparked a lively discussion: “What are some turn offs in gay porn for you?” He added:
“When the top pulls out before the bottom is about to ejaculate.
Too near-shots of their ass.
Probably the most common and annoying one: When they’re fucking really hot but the scene suddenly shifts and ends off to them doing a really lame solo jerk off scene.”
This question resonated with many viewers who had their own frustrations about the gay porn industry. See below:
Fake Rimming. One commenter didn’t hold back: “Fake rimming. Either do it or don’t bother. When it’s obviously fake, it’s a turn off.” For many, authenticity is key. When a scene relies on poorly executed illusions, it can ruin the mood entirely.
Women in Gay Porn: Another popular complaint was about the inclusion of women in gay porn. “At the risk of sounding misogynistic, I hate when women appear in gay porn. Whether it’s the girlfriend walking in on her boyfriend cheating, or a woman just watching the sex happen on the side. Or that ‘right in front of my salad’ video. Instant turn off.” While some may find these scenarios humorous or creative, others see them as unnecessary distractions in a genre meant to focus on male intimacy.
Campy or Misleading Performances: “Guys that are camper than Christmas pretending to be straight. Also, anything that claims to be ‘straight.'” The authenticity of performers often makes or breaks a scene. When actors fail to convincingly embody their roles, it can come across as disingenuous or overly theatrical.
Over-the-Top Lies: Many viewers expressed annoyance at exaggerated or blatantly false premises. One comment highlighted this: *”Lies like: ‘It’s my first time’ gets double penetrated, or ‘I’ve never tried anything with a guy before’ slurps down dick with exactly 00 gag reflex.” While some enjoy the fantasy aspect, others prefer more believable setups.
Bad Acting and Performance Issues: “Bad acting. Tops who seem to have trouble getting their dick hard.” A lack of chemistry or visible struggles with arousal can make a scene feel awkward or unappealing.
For many gay men, porn isn’t just entertainment—it’s a way to explore and affirm their sexuality. When certain elements detract from the viewing experience, it can feel disappointing or even alienating. Authenticity, chemistry, and attention to detail are crucial in creating content that resonates with viewers.
Adam4Adam blog readers,do you agree with these common turn-offs, or do you have your own pet peeves when it comes to gay porn? Are there specific elements that make or break a scene for you? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
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I believe that almost every gay guy can agree, is hating to see vagina or vaginal sex within gay pornography. Like that one porn star guy that tops almost exclusively, having sex with a woman in one room then starts to have sex with the guy in the other before everyone finally joins in for a threesome. I get that bisexuality does exist and it’s no disrespect when I say this, but seeing guys penetrating vaginas or engaging in any sexual activity involving women within the gay porn genre and promoting it for the gay audience to see, feels like… Read more »
YES INDEED!!! Worse yet is when the women have to be vocal while being fucked. Nothing makes me soft faster than a woman turning into a whiny baby to confirm that she’s cumming.
You sound like an absolute transphobe. FTM guys are men, and there is a place for them in gay porn for sure. I am gay, but I do like MMF porn at times and have fantasized about being in a MMF or MMMF group sex situation.
Like all the mmf you want. But ftm are NOT men. The F stands for female period
As much as I personally don’t have an issue with transgendered men and women and have made a few friendships with them, I have to agree with you, for a few gay guys in my hometown would argue tooth and nail about this and say similar things like Eric here. The ironic thing about all of this, is that the transgendered men and women aren’t that offended by my personal beliefs on the matter even if they feel otherwise. So I’m not understanding why some gay guys take it so personal. My straight friends are fully aware that I’m a… Read more »
Interesting for you to say since I actually do have have trans friends irl, so you sound like an absolute idiot. Noticed I’ve never mentioned trans in general in my original post for I was talking about women in general within the gay porn realm. But since you’ve brought it up, let’s be clear, not every gay man on this earth is into what you’re into sexually or find it sexually fulfilling as you do. And I’m quite sure not everyone wants to see vaginal sex regardless of one’s gender for vagina is still a female anatomy and likewise with… Read more »
I’ve become limp a few times by group scenes, I’d say with 8+ guys, it’s bad camera operators & editing!! Just when they focus on a hot duo or 3some in the group….BAM!! Cut to a not so hot duo still making out or sucking cock…Ohhhh whyyyy?!?!?!
I agree with most of the above, but I’ll add PA piercings. I had one done, deeply regret having it done. Have had literal nightmares of it being ripped out, so I don’t wear it at all and I hate seeing another man’s dick with one.
I agree with what has already been said and would add spitting and the use of fake cum.
I agree with you Eric with the spitting. Watching black guys top white dudes isn’t a turn-off for me, but I would like to see more black guys bottoming for white dudes in porn. Huge turn-on for me!!!
Lmao, I third that sentiment, I hate the spitting shit.
THE DISGUSTING “SPITTING” THING!………..
WHAT THE HELL IS THAT? WHY DO MEN THINK IT IS CUTE TO SPIT ON SOMEONE’S ASS OR DICK IN THE MIDDLE OF SEX ???
THE “STARING AT YOUR FACE” THING…………
WHEN MEN CAN BARELY SUCK YOUR DICK PROPERLY CAUSE THEY ARE TOO BUSY TRYING TO STARE IN YOUR FACE….THAT SHIT IS CREEPY AS HELL AND EXTREME TURN OFF……….
I HAVE to agree. NEVER spit on me or in my mouth it is NO where near the same as a guy cumming in my mouth. He can spit on my hole while he’s rimming me to lube up my hole for his cock, and using that for lube. NOT MY FACE, CHEST OR ESPICIALLY MY MOUTH.
I also totally agree, but I have a question for any of you: I assume Shannon and Michael are referring to a top guy who spits in the bottom guy’s ass just before he’s to fuck him BB, right? As totally disgusting I find that, doesn’t the spit have a functional purpose to serve as the lube if you want to dry hump BB? Sorry if I sound so naive.
LET ME CLEAR THE CONFUSION……
WHEN A GUY IS SUCKING ME OFF……AND HAULS OFF AND “SPITS” ON MY DICK……..
OR RIMMING MY ASS AND HAULS OFF AND “SPITS” ON MY ASS……..
IT DOES MATTER WHERE ONE SPITS……
IT IS ON >>ME….MY PHYSICAL BODY……
I DID NOT ASK YOU TO DO THIS……
I AM NOT A TOILET NOR A GARBAGE CAN………
Poor editing! I enjoy the “foreplay” in gay porn so it’s a huge let down to go from clothes being seductively removed to both (all) guys naked with one dumb cut in the video.
Foot play.
I hate when the bottom keeps his cock and balls covered with his hand when getting plowed. I don’t care if it’s big or small, watching a guys manhood flop around when he is getting drilled is HOT. In a lot of these scenes, the bottom isn’t even playing with himself, it’s literally a hand covering his crotch. LAME AS FUCK.
Pulling out for the camera. Watching a guy pound a hole for 20 minutes and then pull out to cum on his ass for the camera is incredibly disappointing (much like it would be in real life). I don’t need to see it on camera to know if he actually came. I want to know that the top is that having the best fucking feeling possible when he’s having his orgasm on camera, and he’s not getting that when he has to pull out and 99 times out of 100, that bottom died a little bit inside when he pulled… Read more »
I couldn’t agree with you more! Drives me crazy to see that. Why do I need to see a guy j/o when anyone can do that? Pound, then show me the top’s face as he ejaculates inside the bottom and hear him moaning (for real), then he pulls out once complete and let me see that cum ooze out of there.
As a top, seeing porn actors doing this right when I’m on the edge of cumming, turns me off greatly. I mean, if they’re going to bareback, might as well cum inside him. My boyfriend would probably punch me in the face if I were to pull out of him just to cum on him lol.
Rimming and FISTING don’t do it at ALL for me/Spitting in another guys face or mouth also!!! Yuck ~ being a Medical Worker I cringe at that crap, no matter how “clean” and freshly showered they are!!! 🙁
Ass eating does nothing for me.
Fake, overexaggerated moaning. We all moan and make various noises during sex but the fake screaming and moaning is a real turn off for me.
Your comment had me laughing out loud and I wholeheartedly agree with you.
Aside from agreeing with several of these, here’s another frustration I have: It seems like 99% of BJs that result in the one getting the BJ cuming have the one giving it backing off and getting the cum in his face as the one getting it jerks his load. I wish more of them suck on through to completion so you can see the cum oozing out of the sides of the sucker’s mouth.
Like 90%+ of porn from Europe the guys suck in air through their teeth. Its so annoying. And mislabeled porn. If it says its a breeding video then that cock better not leave that hole till after its shot its load not pulling out and shooting on the hole.