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When it comes to men and sex, everyone has their own tastes and preferences. For some, size matters, but what happens when it matters a little too much? Have you ever found yourself saying no to a guy because his penis was just too big? For many gay men, this can be an interesting dilemma — one that raises the question: Is a big penis a deal breaker for you?
It’s easy to assume that bigger is always better, but that’s not always the case. While some men love the idea of a larger-than-average partner, others may feel intimidated or worried about discomfort. Let’s be honest: sex should be enjoyable for both partners, and sometimes size can make things a little more complicated than anticipated. So, where do you stand on the issue?
We’ve heard stories from guys who have had to say “no” when faced with a particularly well-endowed partner. Maybe they were afraid it would hurt, or perhaps they were simply uncomfortable with the idea of taking on that much. As one user on Reddit’s r/askgaybros said, he tried to go for it, but halfway through he realized it just wasn’t going to work for him. Because of this experience, he is now asking gay and bisexual men online, “Have you ever said no to a guy because his penis was too big?” Further, he shared:
I had sex with this guy recently. We did everything from blowing each other, to him fingering me, to me topping him. The last thing he wanted to do was top me which I was really reluctant to do because he had a very thick penis which I wasn’t sure my ass could handle. I let him fuck me and tried to endure the pain and destruction of my hole but it was too much and I told him to stop after a minute.
I wonder how common this problem is. Has anyone here said no because he was too large for you to handle?
On the flip side, other gay men view a big penis as a challenge they’re more than willing to accept. For some, it’s about the excitement, the intensity, or the feeling of taking things to the next level. But even those who are enthusiastic about size know that it can come with some tricky situations. Proper communication, preparation, and comfort are key to making it work.
We’re curious to hear your take. Have you ever had to turn someone down because they were packing more than you were comfortable with? Or, maybe you’re one of those guys who welcomes the challenge. Do you see a big penis as something you’d avoid, or is it something you might be willing to work with if your connection with the other guy is strong enough?
At the end of the day, it’s about what makes you feel good and comfortable in the moment. Share your thoughts and experiences — have you ever said no to a guy because his penis was too big? Is having sex with someone well-endowed something that would make you reconsider, or is it not an issue at all? Let’s hear from you in the comments section below, Adam4Adam readers!
DaFuq? I have yet to find a cock I could’t take. I prefer bigger than average to large. The biggest I have taken was 12″ and fat as a doorknob. I had a regular weekend fuck buddy that would spend 2-3 hours breeding me and it was 8 1/2″ and girthy. I also dated a guy and we still fuck when we see each other (don’t live in the same state) and he is 9 1/2″, fat, and lots of foreskin. Last time he visited, he left his load balls deep and I was so very satisfied.
In my 20’s I encountered a man who was everything I was ever attracted to and loved about a male. Except he was a total top and had a 9″inch long cock that was as big around as my wrist. The length wasn’t the problem for me. Try as I might, I could not unhinge my jaw, let along open my ass to take that beast. I still think about his beautiful face and body to this day with a longing sigh. Yes, friends, there is such a thing as too big.
Dinosaur Dick is not meant for human consumption
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A man that hung is meant to top you don’t need to be sucking on that money cuz your ass will open up and take anything a good bottom should be able to get any huge hung man off without sucking it
Well once you go big it hard to go back small, especially if you’re not going to fuck me for hours..
I love getting fucked by large cocks! I like feeling well fucked for days afterwards!!
I have never been afraid of length it has been girth. I have known 2 guys with thick bigger than my wrist. But these days after watch fisting videos. If a hole can be stretched for a fist, I think I could eventually take them completely. As long as they take their time to loosen and stretch me properly.
Big ones are pretty to look at, fun to lick and jerk off; but an average one is perfect for full mutual pleasure
Yea dude, they are rather cool to come across and mess with!
The bigger the better. In my experience ive found small to average size cocks can ge more painful that big cocks . Might have something to do with blood flow. I always feel like im being stabbed by smaller dicks.
I have a “regular” that i see every now and then. He is 10 or so inches, thick, and HARD. I am not going to see him again till I can get a dildo or buttplug that gets me ready for him. I can take him, but he is so hard, and fucks really hard, and fucks for 20+ minutes before he cums. Its the only dick I have had a problem with.
Who the fuck are you kidding? Of course not. Next question?
LMAO! That was my first thought.
. . . I sure have, and I’m just not built for that kind of man, orally or otherwise especially.
Guys who weren’t born with a Holland Tunnel for an ass often just don’t get it when they come across a guy who’s the opposite. Good for them. Bigger is better. The sky’s the limit!
As a top guy with a thick 7.5 inch cock with a large mushroom head, I have found that with enough lube and preparing my bottoms with dildos, the majority of guys can take me well and without much pain once I am inside them. I’m a medical professional so I have a deep aversion t hurting my lovers to the point I go soft. a good top is compassionate and makes sure his bottoms are enjoying the experience and will want more in the future!
yum… yes sir..Im all yours
So tell us more about those dildos
BUT……7.5 IS NOT HUGE AT ALL……………
Shouldn’t you be at the center of the galaxy?
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7.5 is nice, actually. I’m big at 9, it’s the length of my hands; I was astonished, seeing huge ones and their girth, omg, astonished!
I enjoy getting fucked,, and I enjoy a nice dick,, but my wife goes with me to have my colonoscopy every few yrs, and once the doctor is done I’m still out from the meds and he has to talk to her and let her know how it went,, I don’t want him looking at her wondering if she knows I’m out here getting fucked,, cause my asshole is all loose and tore up,, so I reframe for getting fucked a couple months before my appointment so it’s tighten up some, but if you’re taking those horse dicks that hole… Read more »
I found out that doing squats, dead lifts, lunges as well as bridges helps the joke tighten up again
Most times walk around and hold it tight everytime I think about it,, that usually does it,, I use to have a side chick that would eat my ass sometime but when I started getting fucked regular I stop letting her do it because I didn’t want her to notice the looseness of it
I never had that problem since most are avg size and width. I think it could be a problem if they did not take time to get you ready.
it’s not the size it’s the technique fore play and are you a god lover rather its big are small and what other ways you can please if its small are after you cum
It ain’t the size of the sea, but the motion of the ocean.
It personally doesn’t matter much if your a top like me. But I do get a certain “thing” seeing their’s flopping around while doing him knowing it’s really not going to be “used” because he likes having one in him,and having it reminding me I’m with a guy(why else would he have a dick huh!). An finally see it squirt his “seed” he’s never going to plant ’cause he like partners like me.
My master always said it was only good to piss with (as he squeezed my balls n made me drop to the floor crying)
Recently I have been dating a guy over a month who has been taking things slow. He has seen my naked pics, but I had yet to see his. Last night he finally shared nude pics of himself with me. Talk about feeling inadequate. I was stunned. He prefers to be verse bottom. Thank God. But, I just don’t know what I’m going to do if he wants to stick that donkey dong in my ass. Big cocks are fun to suck and look at, but are problematic when you haven’t had proper training.
Size huge or small is not a deal breaker.
Small guys are fine; they can go “anywhere”.
Have had much fun with hung guys.
Have passed on a couple of guys who were extra so convinced they could “teach me” that I could take their extra so monsters in places I knew, as the owners thereof, I only had room for half of them for.
Glad for them I know it shouldn’t take them too long for guys who know they can take anything and everything.
I like big cock but some are so big that you’re limited to what you can do. A lot of really big guys don”t get hard enough to force their way into me. And oral, you can’t get more than the head in. 7 to 9 inches medium thickness is perfect.
I’m a vers top these days, but love flipping for big dick. As others have said, if people can take fists & huge dildos, you can certainly take a big dick with some time, patience, and training. I them much more satisfying–small and thin dicks can feel like getting jabbed with a pencil. And I love deepthroating a big dick, but every once in a while one is too thick, and/or angled wrong to be able to do it justice. Would that we all had those problems….
If it’s too big, then try crotch sex. Every guy I ever did that with seemed to really enjoy it.
Jeff not wanting to sound dumb, but what is crotch sex?
I’m with you Terry. What is crotch sex?
Frottage… Where a guy takes another guy’s penis between his thighs and grips it while the other guy ruts (fucks) him. Once the logistics of depth, angle of penetration, stroke speed, grip (tightness), and lubrication are worked out, it’s a pleasurable alternative for many to anal. I’ve introduced my Top buds to it. While they said “WTF?” at first, we’ve added it to our sex play options. It can be face to face or the “taker” can be face down. I enjoy the second while my partner bangs my balls with his tip. But I also enjoy being on my… Read more »
Also rubbing and grinding them together. Nothing like the feeling and each other’s manhoods and jewels together!
There is big and then there is way too big some guys just have big cocks and then there is monster cocks
This is a joke, right? I’ve never seen one too big, and have never met a gay guy who would say no to someone because they were big.
I do not think the size of someone’s cock has ever been a deal breaker for me. But the person connected to it may be. Some men are just better tops than others. The largest cock that I have ever taken was about 10 inches and he was concerned about my comfort and as a result, we both had a good time. However, I have had bad experiences with guys who had much smaller tools simply because they only cared about getting themselves off.
A large penis is a definite deal breaker for me. sex is meant to feel good for both partners not just the one on top. I think gay men put too much focus on a large penis and they assume all bottoms
like them. I personally steer clear of bbc, bwc and hung guys and enjoy the guys who are average or slightly over average. Its been my experience the guys who advertise being big or hung are over
compensating for the lack of something else.
Under 7 inch, I am doing my grocery list while the top thinks he is plowing me. Between, 7-9 inch it is easy or difficult depending on chemistry. If I am into my guy and the mood is fine, it starts sliding deep. I have refused a guy with 11inches. He lied and said was 9. Gave me a nice massage though and teased my hole and ass with his warm, hard, slippery monster , without penetrating.
My idea of what an awesome cock is like was ruined by my best friend in high school and my first experience. He was huge at 9” super thick with huge balls and a perfect shroom head. So it’s all about the package for me…. It was amazing sucking him but when he wanted to fuck me there was no way his would fit. I seek out bigger cocks but it hasn’t served me well as I’m still dying to feel what it’s like to bottom
Statistically, a majority of gay men are infatuated with penis size. Publishers of gay porn concentrate on what sells, and penis size keeps gay porn alive and well. If I had a monster dick, I would top/fuck more guys…an ego thing. Since I have a small penis, my ego is satisfied by getting fucked by a big dick. For me, I needed to self-analyze and reflect on why I love a big dick. Thanks for this psychoanalysis session.
There are two thing I can’t stand, size queens and little dicks lol I havn’t had a dick that Icouldn’t conquer and I have had some big ones inside me. It’s all about relazing and breathing
7 inches is the bare minimum I even am interested in, 11 inches of I really want to get nailed deep and make sure he gets his seed in real deep
I am 7.5 x 5.5 — pretty thick. A few guys have said I am too small and some tell me my cock must be 9 inches. However, in any case, in my 50s this 20 year old liked to suck my cock and he wanted me to fuck him but he was too tight. It took 6 months for me finally to open him up. Once I did he loved it and only wanted big dick!
Top here, so somebody else’s penis size doesn’t bother me other than wishing mine were bigger.
But don’t we all think that about our manhoods?
As a bottom, I like large cocks, but the top needs to be aware that the ass needs to eased open. Be it length or girth, my hole can accept it but it will take a little time to relax once the monster has been inserted. As long as we have a safe word, and a respect for each other I will gladly let that monster inside my butt. However, the super thick ones are impossible to suck on properly.
Being mostly a top, I can honestly say that over 95% bottoms I’ve encountered always want a hung top. Being too big is rarely a deal breaker for gay guys, especially bottoms. The bigger the better. When I had bottomed, it was usually the smaller penis that hurt. Only times hung guys hurt is when they pounded me senseless.
It’s usually smaller cut cocks that hurt. They just poke poke poke poke poke.
this was an iteresting and fun article to read. Remicient of my last few years, still on-going. I feel 40, however just turning 70 offers a lot of fun history along with still pleasing my 2 tops now exclusively. Graduating college in 1976 I was still a virgin to man sex. my job sent me traveling often, so a hotel lounge one evening a dude came to sit beside me at the bar. we chatted suddenly he ask ” when last time you had man sex”? never but Ive thought about while fucking couples. Come with me. In his room… Read more »
With huge you never ever have to ask: “Is it in YET”??????
LOLOLOL OMFG!