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In the digital age, conversations about sexuality and identity are becoming more open and nuanced. One recent discussion on the popular subreddit askgaybros delved into the complexities of sexual experiences and orientation. A user shared their experience, sparking an interesting dialogue among the community.

The post began with a straightforward question: “Is it gay if it’s oral?” He added, “Sucked dick for the first time, also sucked nipples while jerking him off. Did not hate the experience, does that mean I am gay even if I am sexually and romantically attracted to women? I was told brojobs are normal and are not necessarily gay….”

This question highlights a broader conversation about sexual fluidity and the labels we use to define ourselves. For many, sexuality is not a rigid binary but rather a spectrum of experiences and attractions. The concept of “brojobs” — a colloquial term often used to describe sexual activities between men who may not identify as gay or bisexual — is one such example of how people navigate their sexual desires and identities.

It’s important to acknowledge that sexual experiences do not necessarily dictate one’s sexual orientation. Many individuals explore their sexuality in various ways, and these experiences can be a natural part of understanding one’s preferences and boundaries. The community’s responses to the post ranged from reassurance to sharing similar experiences, emphasizing that the user’s feelings and identity are valid, regardless of the labels they might use.

The discussion also touched on the difference between physical attraction and emotional or romantic attraction. It’s possible to have a physical response to certain stimuli without it aligning with one’s overall sexual or romantic orientation. This distinction can be crucial for those navigating their sexual identity, especially in a world that often seeks to categorize experiences in clear-cut terms. For example, one gay man replied, “If you are over 21 and not in the navy or prison…” He then elaborated, “I know plenty of guys who experimented in college or even the few years after (because they experimented with closeted me) and they went on to lead completely hetero lives after.

“And here’s the thing about being gay– you’ll know.”

On the other hand, another man shared:

Don’t listen to everyone here. So, there’s this thing in public health spaces called MsM. Men who have sex with men. It doesn’t have to be gay or even bi. Look at jails and prisons. Here’s the thing. It IS about who and what you find attractive. If you like dick other than yours then yes bi. If you just wanna get off quickly or test experiment then sure. You can still be straight. But if you’re craving to get sucked or suck then you are some steps away from straight either towards bi or further out. It’s a spectrum man. I’ve hooked up with friends that are definitely not bi. They never hooked up again. And had no interest in it but were happy they tried. For me that’s a for real straight dude 😉

In conclusion, the conversation on askgaybros underscores the importance of open dialogue and understanding when it comes to sexuality. While labels like “gay” or “straight” can be helpful for some, they may not fully encompass the complexity of an individual’s experiences and attractions. As society becomes more accepting and aware of sexual diversity, it’s essential to continue exploring these topics with empathy and openness, allowing everyone the space to define their own identities.

Having said all that, what about you, guys? What do you think? Is it gay even if it’s just oral? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!

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