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“Bottoms, do you masturbate with dildo often?” one gay man asked online. He explained: “Until I hadn’t bought dildo, I didn’t understand what was such a big deal about it and masturbated with hand, as always.
Since I bought myself a first dildo half a year ago, I became addicted to it and now I use it almost every time I need to masturbate.
Masturbating with hand became dull for me because a dildo in my ass brings me ten times better and stronger orgasms, especially since I started experimenting with sizes and bought myself 10 inch big and 1.8 inch wide dildo that hits my prostate perfectly.
What about you? Do you also use dildo daily or am I alone in this one?”
The answer? Oh honey, of course you’re not alone. From guys who swear by a pre-date stretch to those who treat their dildo like a live-in boyfriend, the responses came fast, hard, and unfiltered. It’s a reminder that gay men are redefining solo pleasure—one buzz, thrust, and moan at a time.
The responses from askgaybros were loud, honest, and wildly varied. One guy wrote, “If I know I’m getting fucked, I usually shove that dildo in there after I clean out just to stretch a little.” Another admitted, “Not daily. I’m still too lazy to douche every day, but sometimes in the shower I’d stick mine to the wall.” And then there was the prostate purist: “For real, I’m addicted to prostate orgasm too, I ride my dildo every day and yes I don’t masturbate with hands anymore, handsfree is 100x better.”
Of course, not everyone was all-in. One gay man commented, “I used to a lot, but I’ve used some relatively large ones and don’t do it as often as I realize I’m not going to find as many men with large cocks as I’d like, so I should be a bit more realistic. I still use them from time to time, but not as much as in the past.”
In addition, this guy confessed, “Absolutely, 95% of the time.” That’s dedication, and honestly, goals. When you find something that hits the spot 95% of the time, why would you ever go back to using just your hand? Meanwhile, a partner-preferred bottom wrote, “Honestly, I only like anal play when someone else is helping out.” Another guy declared, “I use a dildo daily, but I don’t masturbate. I have anal and hands‐free penile orgasms, which are MUCH more intense.”
These candid confessions revealed something fascinating—that for many gay men, dildos had turned solo play into something deeper, more exploratory, and yes, way more satisfying. The leap from hand to toy wasn’t subtle; it changed how they experience pleasure altogether. But among all the stories, one truth holds firm: there’s no standard for sexual satisfaction, only the rhythm that feels right for you.
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At the end of the day (or night), it’s all about what makes you feel good. Whether you’re loyal to your favorite toy or shopping for something thicker, longer, or more textured, there’s a whole world of pleasure waiting for you.
Adam4Adam blog readers, what about you? Do you use a dildo daily? Or maybe you use it only for certain moods or routines? What size, shape, or texture pushes your limits? Drop your confessions below and treat yourself to something new from the Adam4Adam Store. After all, satisfaction looks good on you.
Happy shopping!
Used to almost all the time but Im a lazy ass lately …. plus love real assplay so wait for that these days
NEVER use one when I JACK OFF ~~~~
No.
I have used a toy , but they really don’t do anything for me other than open me up preparing for the real thing , It’s the first day of being with anutha man, being submissive to him is what gets me off
Agree. Toys can be hit or miss and I feel that I really do not need them. Currently involved with a Dude that is nicely endowed and thought I would treat him to a Bottom ‘ready to Go’ so to speak by having a thick butt plug ready to be extracted and easy access for him to get down to business,lol. He was actually not happy and told me he prefers me tight as a drum where he can pry me open with aggressive fingering and extensive rimming and teasing me to the point of where I am begging to… Read more »
It’s makes you feel good when a man tells you that you ass belongs to him, anutha thing I like is when a guy tells me I have some good ass, drives me crazy, hearing things like that makes you want to give up the ass
Only like the real thing thrusting deep in my ass
I don’t use one when I jack off. I use dildos mostly when I’m in the shower and training my manpussy for fucking. I like to keep my hole trained for spur of the moment opportunities for fucking and receiving cum in my hole.
Uh no, never did.
Never even thought about it.
I do, Sadly I Have No Other Choice. My City Is Overwhelmed With Other Bottoms, Oral Lovers, Kids, People That Makes Dozens Of Profiles, Tops Looking For 100lb Flat Asses With Busted Open Holes, Hell I Could Go On And On
Not all the time… I do have times when I want it in my ass so bad, I use my plugs and wear them all day and when I jerk off. I cum really hard… I love having my hole stuffed, stretched and filled. While all this feel amazing, it’s not a real cock pounding my ass and feeling him cum inside me… that feeling is amazing.
Who came up with this “spill the tea” expression? Please tell me this isn’t a gay thing.
No, its not a gay thing. Its an old expression used for many, many years before you were probably born.
I do enjoy using toys, especially my inflatable dildos. Love the feeling of being filled. But nothing…. I mean absolutely positively nothing feels as good as a guy’s cock inside my ass. It’s what I live for.
What a stupid question. Would you ask a top if they always useed a fleshl8ght or something like it everytime they masturbate? I think most of us mix up our mastrubation sometime with toy or maybe videos. But would be pretty boring doing the same thing everytime
I have a vibrating dildo and love the feel in my ass, but also while using it on my cock and balls as with its use I can orgasm without every touching my cock with my hands. I have to mention however that inserting a sound into my cock feels so much better than using a dildo in my ass.
Never! I don’t even have one.