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There’s something undeniably intimate about the way sex brings two men together, and for many, that connection deepens at the exact moment of climax. A gay man online recently shared his candid confession that sparked quite a discussion among other gay men in the thread. He asked, “Do you let your partner cum inside?”
He went on to explain, “I love the feeling of my partner cumming inside my butt, I specially enjoy seeing him going into climax and feeling his throbbing cock shooting inside while I make my hole feel more tight for him to enjoy. Is it just me? His pleasure gives me pleasure.”
This raw and honest question quickly drew passionate responses from men who know exactly what he meant—and others who wanted to weigh in on the sensations, meanings, and boundaries around letting a partner finish inside.
One gay man revealed that once he and his “fuck buddy” made the decision to go raw after testing, there was no turning back. He admitted, “My current fuck buddy recently got the joy of fucking raw after we got tested and talked about ditching the condoms. He didn’t pull out the first time he rawed me and I think his pullout game is ruined now because he always cums inside.” For many, that first time without a condom is a point of no return.
Another respondent asked rhetorically if there’s even anything to debate. “I mean, can we (do we want to) blame him? That silky sensation is something really special. Good thing we can’t get pregnant.” For some, it’s less about preference and more about inevitability—for them, the experience is simply too good to give up.
Meanwhile, others emphasized that bottoming almost feels incomplete without it. As one man bluntly shared, “What’s the point of bottoming if not to be filled with his cum? I love when we’re done and he lays there and I have to make the walk to the bathroom while his cum drips out of me.” That messy, physical aftermath is part of the thrill, a reminder of the connection that just happened.
Of course, humor found its way into the discussion too. A married man described his husband’s love for finishing inside with a cheeky analogy: “My hubby likes to feel like a cream filled donut.” Playful, yes, but it shows just how entwined pleasure and intimacy can be.
Trust came up as a vital factor as well. One man explained that for him, it wasn’t just about the act, but about the bond. He shared, “When I trusted him, abso-fucking-lutely! I LOVE getting bred. Makes me so horny just thinking about it.” That sense of being safe with someone amplifies the erotic charge.
Others echoed that sentiment even more strongly. For one man, taking loads wasn’t optional—it was the very point of sex itself. He confessed, “A hundred percent of the time. It’s not even ‘let,’ it’s ‘want.’ Being cummed in is literally the main reason I even want sex to begin with. If it isn’t in me, it’s a waste of a load. Frankly, if I don’t get a load in me, it doesn’t feel like I’ve properly had sex.”
Another man laughed at the intensity of the original poster’s words, but still admitted agreement. “The description is wild and vulgar, but yes… yes I do.” Even when the words are raw, the feeling is relatable.
Yet, not all experiences have been positive. Some shared cautionary tales that served as reminders of how important consent and protection are. One man wrote, “I love it too and strongly prefer it, but only when it is my choice and we have been tested and/or he is on prep and has recent test results. But there is nothing hotter than a top finishing me… well, except for multiple tops finishing in me. I have had threesomes with some couples, and we were safe to play raw and having both guys shoot their loads inside of me was fucking hot!! Loved it!!” He added, “Unfortunately, one guy took away that choice from me and stealthed me. Now I have to take a pill every day to stay healthy and alive and have been U+ for over 2.5 years.” His story underlines the importance of safety and choice, reminding everyone that pleasure should never come at the expense of health.
As this thread revealed, the original poster’s (OP) question taps into something deeper than just preference. For some, it’s about physical sensation; for others, about trust and intimacy; and for others still, about control, boundaries, and responsibility. It’s raw, it’s personal, and it’s part of what makes sex between men such a layered and nuanced experience.
So Adam4Adam blog readers, what about you? Do you let your partner finish inside, or is that a hard limit for you? Is it about the feeling, the intimacy, or the trust? Have your boundaries changed over time? We want to hear your experiences and what “taking a load” really means to you.
And while we’re on the subject, remember that as hot and erotic as bareback sex can feel, it does come with risks. Make sure you and your partner are tested, communicate openly, and consider using PrEP or other prevention methods if you choose to play raw. Sex should be thrilling, pleasurable, and safe—because nothing kills a good orgasm like worry.
