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Hey, guys! When it comes to sex, do you prefer the lights on or off—and more importantly, why or why not?
We’re asking because there’s some compelling science behind how lighting might actually impact your sex life. A study from the University of Siena in Italy suggests that bright light exposure could help improve sexual desire and performance—particularly for men struggling with low libido.
According to the study, published in the Psychiatry Research journal, researchers recruited 38 men diagnosed with hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD) or sexual arousal disorder, both of which are characterized by a lack of interest in sexual activity. Half of the men were exposed to a light box—similar to those used for seasonal affective disorder—for 30 minutes each morning over a two-week period. The other half received placebo treatment with a much dimmer light.
The results? After just two weeks, the men who received light therapy saw a significant boost in testosterone levels and reported greater sexual satisfaction—almost triple their baseline scores. Lead researcher Professor Andrea Fagiolini noted that light therapy could be a safe, non-invasive way to treat low sexual desire in men.
You can find more information about the study here.
So, if you’ve been feeling disconnected from your sex drive or stuck in a sexual rut, don’t overlook something as basic as lighting. Sunlight or even a bright artificial light source in the morning could actually be worth a try—particularly for men with low energy or mood.
Now, back to our original question: lights on or off during sex?
Personally, I think it depends on the mood. Sometimes it’s morning, and the sun’s doing all the work for you. Other times, it’s midnight, and I’m not about to pause a steamy moment just to hit a light switch. Realistically, when desire strikes, lighting isn’t always my first priority.
But if I do get to choose? I’ll go with dim lighting—not pitch-black, not clinical-bright. Just enough to catch his eyes, see the curve of a smile, and watch those facial expressions that make sex more than just physical. It’s romantic and intimate.
How about you? Are you team lights on, lights off, or somewhere in between? Share your stories, preferences, or funny lighting mishaps in the comments section down below—we’d love to hear from you!
I have to say it does depend on the mood. Sometimes I like total darkness, especially with strangers. Anon appeals to me. I like not knowing where it’s coming from and how big it is. Othertimes, I like it outdoors in full sunlight.
Well said!
keep the lights on long enough to examine the corpse for any kind of alien inhabitants in or on the surface? once the examination has been completed, turn off the lights and proceed with caution
LOL!!! LOL!!! LOL!!!
Department store rest rooms, rest stop restrooms, forest preserves, college campus rest rooms, abs, bathhouses.
All these places pretty well lit. If you ever have done it in any of these places, guess you’re OK with the lights on.
Day sex is the best especially outdoors, so guess im a lights on guy, plus love seeing my lovers face as we please each other ….
On, but indirect and low. I want to see what I’m eating!
Lights ON, though not necessarily overly bright, because for me half of the pleasure of having homosexual relations is very visual – seeing every inch of the body I’m helping myself to; big turn-on.
Question for those who prefer it dark: What if you nab yourself a guy with a huge gorgeous cock? Wouldn’t you want to see it?
Honestly, does anybody CARE???
liberals?
Lib here & I don’t.
sorry – it seems that the only ones who care who does what with whom and how are the right wingers, all in Jesus’ name of course.
let’s see how much hate I get for this…truth hurts, don’t care!
I didn’t know there were Trumpers on this site
now you do?
Oh, the amount of boomeritis and entitlement in these comments is WILD. I think it’s a product of age. Seems like somewhere the – how to put this gently – the “older crowd” likes to hang out.
you are one of the older crowd. I believe I put it gently, too
How old am I, Nostradamus?
In that case, lights on. If I see a MAGA hat, he is gone!!
Good lord man, why do you feel the necessity to bring politics into a forum on gay sexual pleasures and practices? Must be that TDS folks talk about. Ya need to get a handle on that.
Good point.
They’re the ones that complain about all things LGBTQ while they’re sucking your cock.
Ain’t it the truth brother!!
Not all things, . . . just about the half that doesn’t know they exist.
HALF the gay community doesn’t know the other half are “Trumpers.” Hard lesson learned.
I don’t give a rat’s azz…Let’s do this! Seriously, if it’s daylight, then, it’s a moot question…If it’s night time AND depending on how long the sex session is, then, lights off. Who the hell would want to get up to turn off the lights, i.e, unless you’re going to use the bathroom afterwards?
Depends on what the cocksucker looks like.
Lights on for better video.
Lights ON!
I love to see his body move whether he’s doing something to me or I’m doing it to him (unless he’s doing me from behind, then I can’t see much!). I also love to see his facial expressions and watch my cock go in and out of his holes. I think it makes it more intimate.
Bright sun on a cloudless day.
Moonlight or stars on a cloudless night.
Low light in the evening.
Day light.
No light during an overnight with an FWB.
It’s all good and not an “or” situation.
Sometimes on. Sometimes off. Honestly, very erotic reaching around in the dark for your lover and his manly body, his lips! Givin me a woody thinking about it.
Lights on for me. They don’t have to be real bright, but I want to see what I’m doing and what my partner is doing. Especially see his face. When I was younger and went to baths or other similar places, I never went to the dark rooms. I have to see what I am getting and who I am getting.
Mood Lights and Porn On the TV!!
Lights on…I’m a visual type and love to see the body, eyes, experssions. When I jump into bed, I turn the lights on. Just saying
it depends but when we have lights make them soft and set the mood for a great ambience and it is so much sexier with dimmer lights
Inside with mostly dark room but enough light to see who I am pleasuring and their responses also 🙂 And to see their HOT hard muscle stud body also!!
I have always had my bedroom in candlelight, lighting from a meditation space—sometimes a couple of candles, sometimes more. 25 watt lamp on night stand, finger candies, breath mints, warm wet cloth, condoms in varying sizes, dry cloths, Lysol wipes, oils. King sized bed, linen covers, low fan on, A/C on low too, nothing else in my bedroom. Drawn curtains. Snack foods in fridge. Time for serious sexercising for a few to a dozen or so hours. It is my sacred duty to please the booty.
Wow, please, lights on as I’m waayyy to visual otherwise.
Lights off, unless I’m sounding him.
The overhead and all table lamps off. Candles/low shadows to illuminate the lines of the legs and ass. The guy can look like he was hit by a train – I have no interest in his face because 1) we won’t be kissing and 2) he’s not sucking my dick. His purpose is to keep his ass in the air and his face buried in the pillow or bed sheets. My fuck buddies? We play only in the evening/night.
Lights on? No thanks. The encounter then plays like a bad porn movie (and most porn scenes are pretty awful).