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Hey, guys! Did you know that May is Masturbation Month? Whether you call it jacking off, rubbing one out, or taking care of business, there’s no shame in talking about something most of us do—and enjoy. And one man’s recent post on Reddit discusses this topic exactly. He asked, “Do you masturbate a lot?” He added:

Be honest, would you say you masturbate a lot?

I can honestly say I do. I’m just horny all the time. Of course I have other things I can distract myself with (working out, reading, etc.) which I do but sometimes I just really need to cum. There are times I can’t focus on a task because I have to cum so badly. It’s like this instinct that always hits me hard.

I have to cum at least once a day. I try to go a few days without but the longest is about 2-3 days and then I HAVE to cum. The crazy part is that I wasn’t always this way. It didn’t start until my late twenties. Morning wood started getting stronger and I felt like I was horny every hour. I attribute it to taking care of myself now. So yes, once a day for me. If I’m really horned up I can do it 2 times a day. My record has been 4.

Gay men jumped into the discussion with candid replies—some reflective, some cheeky, all revealing. One guy, for example, shared that his libido comes in waves. “Sometimes I just have periods when I need to cum daily—multiple times a day—for like 3-4 months. Then I get busy with life and forget about it for weeks. Rinse and repeat.” It’s a reminder that sexual drive doesn’t always follow a clock or a calendar.

Others were more consistent. One reader said, “I’m once a day, at night. It helps me relax and sleep.” He added that he no longer watches porn, preferring erotic stories instead. “Porn can be damaging to the psyche,” he explained, and many guys chimed in to agree that reducing porn had improved their sex lives and mental health.

A more enthusiastic responder laughed: “I’m 2 or 3 times a day at the moment LOL.” No shame, no filter—just someone fully embracing his desire.

Some readers brought a long-term perspective. One man said, “I used to be once a day, every day. Then I got married.” Now he masturbates maybe twice a week and says it actually helps his partnered sex feel more satisfying. He brought up the concept of “death grip,” a term popularized by sex columnist Dan Savage, referring to how overly frequent, tight, or rough masturbation can reduce penis sensitivity during real sex.

Another guy described how his masturbation habits changed with age and lifestyle. “In my 20s and early 30s, it was every day—until I lost my virginity and realized how easy it was to hook up with guys. But now, ten years later, I’m tired of hookup culture, and I’m jerking off more instead of chasing something casual.”

Some guys described it as part of their mental health and wellness routine. One confessed, “At least once or twice a day, after some edging. I love doing it. If I go a few days without, my balls ache, I get grumpy, and I can’t focus.” He even admitted that his all-time record was 10+ times in one day—a feat he chalked up to stress and too much free time in his twenties.

Others fit masturbation into their lifestyle wherever they can. “I work an unusual schedule,” one man wrote. “I’m off every other week. The weeks I’m off, I might jerk off once or twice a day. The weeks I work, not at all. Too tired, too little free time. If I really need a release, I’ll do it in the shower.”

These responses highlight just how varied our masturbation habits can be. Some of us need it daily to stay balanced. Others cycle between periods of intense desire and total disinterest. And a few of us squeeze it in between shifts or workouts, just to take the edge off.

No matter what your habits are, one thing is clear: masturbation is normal, healthy, and personal. It helps some of us sleep better, focus more, and feel more in control of our bodies. It’s also a way to explore pleasure, de-stress, and learn what turns us on.

That said, if you ever feel like your masturbation habits are interfering with your work, relationships, or daily life, it’s okay to take a step back and reassess. Sexual self-care should feel good—physically and mentally.

So now we want to hear from you, Adam4Adam blog readers: how often do you masturbate?
Do you think your habits are tied to your mood, your routine, or your relationship status?
Do you use porn, erotica, toys—or just your imagination? Has your masturbation habit changed over the years?

Let us know in the comments section below. It’s Masturbation Month—no better time to share your thoughts and compare notes. You might learn something new (or feel a little less alone in your horniness).

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