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Hey, guys! Did you know that May is Masturbation Month? Whether you call it jacking off, rubbing one out, or taking care of business, there’s no shame in talking about something most of us do—and enjoy. And one man’s recent post on Reddit discusses this topic exactly. He asked, “Do you masturbate a lot?” He added:
Be honest, would you say you masturbate a lot?
I can honestly say I do. I’m just horny all the time. Of course I have other things I can distract myself with (working out, reading, etc.) which I do but sometimes I just really need to cum. There are times I can’t focus on a task because I have to cum so badly. It’s like this instinct that always hits me hard.
I have to cum at least once a day. I try to go a few days without but the longest is about 2-3 days and then I HAVE to cum. The crazy part is that I wasn’t always this way. It didn’t start until my late twenties. Morning wood started getting stronger and I felt like I was horny every hour. I attribute it to taking care of myself now. So yes, once a day for me. If I’m really horned up I can do it 2 times a day. My record has been 4.
Gay men jumped into the discussion with candid replies—some reflective, some cheeky, all revealing. One guy, for example, shared that his libido comes in waves. “Sometimes I just have periods when I need to cum daily—multiple times a day—for like 3-4 months. Then I get busy with life and forget about it for weeks. Rinse and repeat.” It’s a reminder that sexual drive doesn’t always follow a clock or a calendar.
Others were more consistent. One reader said, “I’m once a day, at night. It helps me relax and sleep.” He added that he no longer watches porn, preferring erotic stories instead. “Porn can be damaging to the psyche,” he explained, and many guys chimed in to agree that reducing porn had improved their sex lives and mental health.
A more enthusiastic responder laughed: “I’m 2 or 3 times a day at the moment LOL.” No shame, no filter—just someone fully embracing his desire.
Some readers brought a long-term perspective. One man said, “I used to be once a day, every day. Then I got married.” Now he masturbates maybe twice a week and says it actually helps his partnered sex feel more satisfying. He brought up the concept of “death grip,” a term popularized by sex columnist Dan Savage, referring to how overly frequent, tight, or rough masturbation can reduce penis sensitivity during real sex.
Another guy described how his masturbation habits changed with age and lifestyle. “In my 20s and early 30s, it was every day—until I lost my virginity and realized how easy it was to hook up with guys. But now, ten years later, I’m tired of hookup culture, and I’m jerking off more instead of chasing something casual.”
Some guys described it as part of their mental health and wellness routine. One confessed, “At least once or twice a day, after some edging. I love doing it. If I go a few days without, my balls ache, I get grumpy, and I can’t focus.” He even admitted that his all-time record was 10+ times in one day—a feat he chalked up to stress and too much free time in his twenties.
Others fit masturbation into their lifestyle wherever they can. “I work an unusual schedule,” one man wrote. “I’m off every other week. The weeks I’m off, I might jerk off once or twice a day. The weeks I work, not at all. Too tired, too little free time. If I really need a release, I’ll do it in the shower.”
These responses highlight just how varied our masturbation habits can be. Some of us need it daily to stay balanced. Others cycle between periods of intense desire and total disinterest. And a few of us squeeze it in between shifts or workouts, just to take the edge off.
No matter what your habits are, one thing is clear: masturbation is normal, healthy, and personal. It helps some of us sleep better, focus more, and feel more in control of our bodies. It’s also a way to explore pleasure, de-stress, and learn what turns us on.
That said, if you ever feel like your masturbation habits are interfering with your work, relationships, or daily life, it’s okay to take a step back and reassess. Sexual self-care should feel good—physically and mentally.
So now we want to hear from you, Adam4Adam blog readers: how often do you masturbate?
Do you think your habits are tied to your mood, your routine, or your relationship status?
Do you use porn, erotica, toys—or just your imagination? Has your masturbation habit changed over the years?
Let us know in the comments section below. It’s Masturbation Month—no better time to share your thoughts and compare notes. You might learn something new (or feel a little less alone in your horniness).
Daily if possible, but 3 to 4 times week at least.
Guess it’s sometimes twice a day, sometimes once a week, sometimes 5 times a week. Depends on how busy I am and how “busy” I’ve been with FWBs. If I know a playdate is coming up in the next day or two, I’ll hold off and let the FWBs enjoy relieving me of the load.
Sometimes twice a day, sometimes twice a week or even twice a month. Depends on what’s going on in my life (work, hookup, boredom).
depends on the wishes of the penis my hands just comply
I’m old,ugly,broke,overweight, with a 5 inch dick. Masturbation is the only release I have ,sometimes 2 or 3 times a day,sometimes 5 or 6. It’s easier that way. No expectations, no judgements, I don’t have to feel like they’re doing me a favor. I don’t have to do something I don’t want to do. It’s perfect. And I’m never lonely.
the gospel truth? Solomon has degreed?
Yes ,the honest truth
the truth; the whole truth and nothing but the truth?
Yes sir.
At least 3 – 4 times a week and up to several times a day when I get in a “horned mood.”
Too much I need the real thing way more often
When the urge hits me. Like, right now.
=:-) =B-D
At least twice a day, first thing in the morning when l wake up with a ragging hardon and then again just before bed, it relaxes me and helps me sleep better. Some days when really horny l will jack off more.
preferred lubrication?
A few drops of baby oil
how about corn huskers lotion?
Coconut oil – big tub from supermarket or Amazon
Olive oil. Nicely absorbs with healthy benefits. I grew up with the taste, being of Mediterranean descent. Works well with true silicone toys, too. Last week new tarrif price was $22 at Costco for imported 3L bottle.
Love to masturbate 3 times a day unless im sucking cock
I wonder if anyone else does this: I do it twice a week. Why only twice? Because on non-weekend nights, I edge myself to the point where I get a nice feeling but don’t let the whole mess out. I prefer to save it for weekend nights. Odd huh?
Last August is last time I did. Masturbation indicates lack of self-discipline and a “low” consciousness. Even the idea of doing it again is disgusting to me.
I won’t even date a wanker. We won’t share the same values.
My mind is more focused, I think more clearly, and I am more productive without masturbating or porn.
Slows down as we get “more Mature” of course!!! In my 20s-30s it was multiple times a day for sure!! Just the sight or memory of a fantastic hot hunky masc stud and I’d do it until I was WORN out. Now a little farther down the line, usually once a day is more than enough to TAKE the EDGE off and help me relax and de-stress 🙂 USE it or lose it dudes!!! Do it until you CAN’T do it anymore ~~ YOLO!!!!
I masturbate almost daily. Maybe one day every other week I might not, but 13 out of 14 days I stroke off a load. I wish I could find other guys to join me, but it has not been easy.
If you’re counting in someone’s azz, then, 6 times a weekend? Seriously, I’ve stopped wracking off since I go to a fukfest on the weekend and take Viagra when someone visits me. ‘Nuf said.
In my 20s-40s, I HAD to cum at least once a day, every day. Often twice a day. I couldn’t skip a day without going crazy! Now in my 50s, I can skip 1-3 days and not be too out of sorts, but generally I still do 1-2 times a day. I often accompany it with a prostate massager or dildo buried inside me. This past Monday, I was super horny and ended up jerking off 4 times! Every time with an oversized dildo inside of me. I couldn’t believe how horny I was! I did leave my ass really… Read more »
When I met my current wife, I was 34, we had sex so much for the first two years (1-3 times per DAY), that I never jerked off. Hell, I didn’t have to! It is hard to believe we are the same couple 22 years later because I’m lucky to have sex every two months. Hence, my regular jerk off schedule and playing with men these days.
get ready it will get worse it will got from once every two month too once every 6 months and so on i understand you issue good ole man on man sex helps alot
Yeah, I know it will get worse. It has been like 3-4 months since the last time. Yeah, I wish I didn’t have to resort to that, but it is hard to go without human touch too long. So yeah, it helps a lot!
Does your wife know you have affairs with men?
Some wives do.
Some wives don’t
Whose business is it other than his or theirs?
Thanks!
What does it matter to you?
She knows that I have.
Is it just me or does it seem like some gay/openly gay guys seem to have a problem with DL married / bi / closet guys ? well especially the married guys ? Seems they always want to know if your wife knows, or some negative comment, like why is it a problem to them? Why does it matter to them ? Some even have problems with DL guy period, then you have some that think us married guys do have any business on this site, one guy got mad with me because I stated that I love pussy and… Read more »
“gay/openly gay guys” for some reason have a license to have a problem with just about everything. “Another perspective” or “Live and Let Live” are not part of their realities. No guy can “present as Straight” or “be married” or “be on the DL” or “not come out” or be Bi. But then of course, they don’t understand why they get backlash … people think they are asses .. or are persecuting them … making them “victims of an ever so cruel society (sob sob) that doesn’t just accept me for who I am”. Maybe they should realize they certainly… Read more »
Almost always daily, sometimes a couple times daily. I use to do it about 3-5 times as a younger single man.
usually every 2wks . try to hold it in case i hook up but here in pa . not much action
I am older so I do not masturbate as much as I used to. Maybe one or twice a week. Depends on how many meetings I have! I like to read good sex stories, expect, guys swapping bjs, etc. I do watch some porn of various types. I really prefer being sucked off and sucking a nice cock!’
I no longer (or hardly ever) jerk off when alone At 78 going a week or more is not big deal I have massage clients who help me take care of jacking off
I don’t remember how old I was, but the first time I tried nothing happened. A friends older brother showed him and he showed me. I still remember the first time I actually orgasmed…what a new and unbelievable feeling. Once I learned about it I masterbated at least once a day, sometimes 2 – 4 times, until well into my 50’s. Masterbation has pretty much been my sex life. Living in a small town didn’t provide opportunities for a gay sex life, but masterbation was always available. You get horny, you jerk off, you go on with the rest of… Read more »
I remember that very first time. It was fantastic; nothing but the sensations of the muscles doing their jobs. No mess to have to clean up.
I used to do it more often than I do now. I remember being 16, 17 and it was crazy how often I would… Now 40 infrequently.. but I have sex pretty often and would rather save that nut for some bttms mouth and ass
I only beat on it occasionally, but never when I’m taking someone’s nut in my ass.
Its very rare I touch my dick when I’m with a man, I don’t have to, I can cum hands free just from his dick, infact most of the time I cum so fast and easily while being fucked I try to hold it to keep me from cumn whitch is very hard to do,, at one point in the beginning I would be embarrassed because I would cum so fast,
LIKED, No sense in wasting a good nut when some hungry bottom can appreciate it”
I have to do it at least once or twice a day. 9 times in a day is my current record into my 40’s even. I enjoy various means & techniques in getting myself off, from dry humping, stroking, vibrators, rubbing myself in the shower, edging, multiple ejaculations without orgasm. I LOVE my d*ck & body!!
There are days where I beat on it so much that my dick hurt the next day. Other times, I go as long as once every 4 days… When I’m with a guy, it’s all about my ass a load…
If A4A’s fucked up software is any sort of guide to this question, we all do often.
Haven’t y’all noticed that little quirk in your profile lately? . . . putting “Solo” in under your preferences , even though it’s not even a selection during the editing?
I’m 61 and I fondle myself daily, but try to wait 3 or 4 days between orgasms. I love to eat my own cum and the taste and consistency and amount are all better if I delay the gratification!
A few times a week, but i prefer to save my cum for a partner
I’m bi and married to a woman who no longer has any sex drive. We both travel a lot for work so I’ll masturbate usually once a day when she’s not around. I only try to hook up with other married men so I usually need to plan in advance. If I know I have a hook up scheduled I won’t jerk off for a few days beforehand. But, lately I’ve been dealing with aging parents so that cuts into my free time to jerk off.
About twice a week, sometimes more. When I was younger, a couple times a day.
I feel the same about the guy who wrote here. I can’t focus on what I need to do at home unless I bust a nut. Horny all the time here. Unfortunately, there aren’t enough mouths out there to get me off every day
As much as I can usually a couple times a day while watching gay porn. I also enjoy hot sexual conversation with someone online, not camming, just the hot chat
Could someone please see my profile on A4A?