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We’ve all read them—those juicy stories about gym locker rooms turning into steamy hookup spots. But are they just erotic fiction, or do things really go down behind the shower curtains? One gay man online asked this very question, and the responses range from “never seen it” to “it’s a full-blown bathhouse in disguise.” He asked:
You read all these posts about guys showing off in the locker room or hooking up in the showers. Does this actually happen or is this just fanfiction softcore porn plots?
Maybe it’s just my area in the deep south and in the country but when I’m at the gym, I see nothing close to this happening. I wish it would happen though.
To me, it is a good way of getting kicked out and getting charged with indecent exposure.
This question sparked a candid and fascinating thread, filled with real-life stories, local differences, and the realities of gym culture across the country. While some guys insist gym sex is just a fantasy, others—especially those in big cities—say it’s a not-so-secret part of gym life. So, what’s the truth? As always, it depends on where you are, who you ask, and how much risk you’re willing to take. See some of the responses below.
- Blowjob heard, not seen – one gay man shared a recent experience at the gym that felt straight out of a steamy story: “I went for a late-night gym session a couple months ago and popped in for a shower before I headed home. I could hear (faintly) the sounds of someone getting a blowjob in one of the shower stalls (I found it extremely amusing). Turned out to be a couple of decent looking twinks who came into the changing rooms when they’d finished up. I avoided making eye contact with them to avoid any awkwardness.”
This guy didn’t get involved, but he definitely heard something spicy going down in the shower stalls. He stayed in his lane, but the experience clearly left an impression—and proved that these stories aren’t always made up.
- Suburban silence – others, however, report a very different scene: “Literally every gym I’ve ever gone to has had individual shower stalls with curtains or doors and the clientele tended to be middle aged dads doing some cardio after work, but I’m sure the experience is different if you live somewhere like WeHo or Chelsea.” It seems geography plays a huge role in whether locker room hookups happen—or even feel remotely possible.
- The manager who’s seen it all – one gym manager who worked for over a decade at multiple locations says it’s definitely not a myth. He says it loud and clear: yes, it happens, and it happens a lot. His experience shows that behind the polished equipment and protein shakes, some locations are secretly hookup hotspots. “I had to break up sexual acts at least 2-3 times a week for years, sometimes between more than two men. Usually, we found out because members would complain to the front desk. I have many, many, many stories, lol.” Clearly, for some gyms, this isn’t fantasy—it’s maintenance.
- Steam room shenanigans – another commenter described a cruisey gym environment where steam rooms were the real action spots: “There was definitely stuff going on in the steam room, but rarely in the communal shower space… Sometimes the guy would make sure the coast was clear, and pop over for a quick feel or taste.” According to him, a lot of it comes down to reading signals and having good timing—though there’s always the risk of being interrupted.
- Urban bathhouses in disguise? – One Chicago guy didn’t hold back: “If you live in a big city…it’s happening all day every day… 4 out of the five gyms I’ve gone to were basically bathhouses. For a long while, the gym replaced hookup apps.” In big cities like Chicago, some gyms function more like bathhouses than fitness centers. According to this guy, hookups were practically expected—especially once you got to know who was into it.
- Staff see it all –This San Francisco gym employee confirms: the locker room isn’t just for lockers. He’s seen enough to know that some guys have zero shame—even propositioning staff members mid-shift. “It happens, a lot. We had to remove our sauna… Someone was harassing a minor and we got more strict. But it still happens. I’ve had guys bold enough to ask ME, a staff member, to do wild things.” For some, the culture borders on chaotic—and problematic.
- Fun, but risky – another gay man recalled a steamy encounter of his own:
“I had one hookup at my last gym in the steam room, very unexpected and honestly don’t think I’d risk it again even if it was fun.” Tempting? Maybe. But not worth it for everyone.
Having said all that, what about you, Adam4Adam blog readers: have you ever witnessed or experienced locker room flirtations, steam room hookups, or gym showers turning into something more? Or do you think this is mostly a fantasy made up by guys watching too much porn? Is it safer and smarter to keep gym time separate from play time—or have you had some memorable exceptions?
I’ve experienced sex in the locker room 5 times in the then 2 bath houses that I had here in Chicago…3 times it was a 69 session in the locker room to sex in the shower, once from the glory hole in the bathroom to sex in the locker room and the shower and the last time in just the shower. We only have one bath house now and since I’ve moved, I haven’t been to the remaining bath house. I live alone now, so, I host at my place for sex. It was adrenaline rushing in a lustful way… Read more »
There is action in the gyms in Chicago, like most big cities.
Man’s Country was a sewer, Steamworks is one of the top bathouses in the country.
Your other comments were racist & ageist.
Saying that overweight people, old people, or certain ethnicities are undeserving or rights or legal protections = fatism, ageism, racism.
Stating that a bathhouse’s demographics are changing in a direction that makes you less sexually interested in the people there = not racism.
STFU pansy. Ur just not getting picked. Old and Fat is a fetish for some, a turn off for most. But unless a rent boy is budgeted, out of shape is out of luck
HOPE I can get it ON with s HUNKY freak like you HUNG STUD 🙂
What you’re describing seems to be sex in bath houses, which is different than sex in gyms. At least where I’m from, a gym is where you would go to work out, but sex might happen there occasionally. A bath house is where guys mainly go for sex, but a work out may happen occasionally.
I find this extremely hilarious as I just received a blowjob in one of the shower stalls this morning from a twink that’s been propositioning me for awhile now. I live in the Lowcountry, down South Carolina where people are expected to be “holier than thou,” but in reality they are whore-ier than you expect. I’ve experienced and seen guys go from sending signals in the locker room no matter the time of day, to blatantly walking outside shower stalls with their ass and dick on display. The gym I am currently at while writing this comment is open 24… Read more »
Yes I am in a midsize town in SC as well and I have had my share of sex at a local Y
HOPE I meet ya there sometime stud 🙂
Speaking of “being careful” … probably not the best idea to post under your real name, state your location, with your other social media open for comments. Not everyone here is sane.
Walking around naked is not a come-on, unfortunately. Straight guys may like to just hang out naked, even if they admire each other.
Any “straight” man that likes to hang out nude with other dudes is flirting. He is trying to get some. He will do anything to play but just don’t call him “gay”
Well I can HOST you anytime sexy Lerico 🙂
Yes, this definitely happens at the gyms I’ve been to. I live in a mid-sized city. It depends on how the showers are arranged though. At one particular gym, the showers were individual stalls with curtains, but there were two rows of showers facing each other. That made it particularly easy to pull your shower curtain back a little and check out the other side. I would say about 25% of the “straight” guys checked each other out and showed interest in taking it a little further. Sometimes one guy would discreetly join the other in the shower stall, or… Read more »
That sounds rather cool, but exiting is another challenge. I never got a single come-on in college in the same situation.
Oh, yeah, for sure some do. I’ve met guys there but got together outside of it.
Oh no, that never happens LOL
I’m sure it happens, but by me being a married DL man, I try not to take risk like that, I have excepted the fact that bi/gay I don’t want anyone walking in on me or secretly watching or recording me making out with anutha man, I try to keep this side of me in the closet, and when I’m with a man I want to be relaxed and totally naked, that way I can enjoy him and his dick, I don’t want to be thinking about what if someone comes in and catches me, but some like the idea… Read more »
i think it’s called CRUISING, yes, it does happen, especially at your local 24hr fitness, gold’s gym, chuze and LA fitness … they got some LURKERS in there wanting to play in them SHOWERS and show off 😉
You might get a quick sucking but that’s it. It’s much harder since Covid. Sometimes I go to Flex Baths. I hang with the other regulars. We just hangout until a new local or tourist pulls up. We usually run trains on the new people.
Gym restrooms/locker rooms/saunas or steam rooms, workplace restrooms, convenience store restrooms, mall restrooms, truck stop restrooms (also sleeper berths), parks restrooms, stadiums restrooms, restaurants restrooms, mass transit restrooms … give guys a public place to have sex and they will.
At my gym they use to have a communual showers ! Then they put up dividers m, then put curtains on the stalls. Then they remodeled the whole shower area to keep everyone seperate. Bummer! They also put a glassdoor on the sauna. Ruined it fo quite a few guys!
the result of all the modifications may have been predicated by complaints by straight males who did not want to see or engage in gay sex? the establishment was trying to tell whomever that gay sex was not wanted?
I have personally experienced sex in the steam room, sauna at the local Y. Yes you take the chance of getting caught. There were certain men who would play.
The gym has saunas and showers, both places i have played numerous times. Nice to be able for eye candy before some hot play
I KNOW first hand that they HOOK up in the MENS Steam Room on Carnival “Fun Ships” – I’ve seen guys get deep throated and jacked in there many times 🙂 First place I HIT after I unpack, dudes, so CUM and have TONS of FUN 🙂
On all the ships? What about the employees?
Don’t ask don’t TELL 🙂 Even one of the HOTTEST performers on the SHIP was in there several times naked but nothing much happened besides some chitchat 🙂
Very true. My friend was having sex on Carnival. Since Covid, they’re fortunate to have passengers! Although my friend caught syphilis and it was pretty resistant for a bit. His dickhead was red for a couple months. He was bussin nuts all over that steam room
Love to Carnival Cruise.
Last Dec was on the Venezia,
Sauna was free and alot of playing.
Even went back to a guy’s cabin.
About 5 of the same guys would meet most every day for fun.
I was blowing another married guy and after he told me the attendant walked in and watched for a bit. It was hot!
Yes I have several times at YMCA, And planet fitness
optimum is possible, given the right time & the right place showers strip a human being of all accoutrements except skin and bones so what you have is the bare facts.
It is true, I have had sex in many gym showers. Not my favorite venue though. I spent much more time messing around in steam rooms. All over now…I wouldn’t be caught naked in any gym at my age.
I hear this goes on mostly in the suburban health clubs, married men and all. One has to consider the impact on other users before engaging in such shenanigans, and the possibility of losing membership. I think it’s very inconsiderate. That’s what a bathhouse is for.
Sometimes you just can’t resist, Virgil. Something seeing a man with spandex shorts and a cucumber in his crotch! Most will submit to that cock.
Yes it does happen. At the gym I go to there are only open gang shower rooms and there are 2 saunas, 2 steam rooms and a hot tub that can comfortably hold six guys at one time. I have had sex several times over the years. One time there were 5 of us all jerking off in the one small gang shower room with another guy watching at the doorway. I sucked a few guys in the steam room and I got fucked a few times in a single user toilet room. This was all pre-Covid and since then… Read more »
after your shenanigans as you described, is it no wonder that the gym started having “Security” checking to discourage such behaviors as you described? How can sex be discreet within a public domain gym?
Yes, guys really hook up in the showers at the gym. I’m surprised this question is being asked. Guys hook up anytime there is a hint of privacy (and sometimes when there isn’t). They think no one knows what they’re up to, but you can see how they look at each other… the subtle nods and shifting eyes. You know there’s something in the works. Coincidentally, they enter the showers at approximately the same time. It’s just like going to the local Home Depot. Sometimes you have to actually use the restroom but there’s a porn shoot going on in… Read more »
i have jerked off someone and been jerked off and been sucked and been sucked off in the sauna at the gym i go to, the door has a window in it so you can see if someone is coming and can stop before they come in and if the light is off inside they cant see in until the open the door but you can see out. also its a communal shower, i have never played in the shower but have jerked myself off while another guy was doing the same, but it hasnt led to a hookup yet
I agree with one of the points in the main article; It all depends upon where you’re located. Mid-sized town in Middle America…not much is likely to happen. Having said that, I have had guys take quick glances in the showers (like we all do), and then approach me in the parking lot. I’ve had a lot of fun, quick, blowjobs in far corners of parking lots.
Not just a fantasy. I participated in plenty of locker room, shower room (gang showers, not individual stalls) and sauna/steam room sex. Jerking off, circle jerks, blowjobs, handjobs, exhibitionism, and fucking. All at the gym at a local university. When you’re young, hung, dumb and full of cum, it’s easier to take risks. Not anymore, unfortunately.
Upstate NY – the Main downtown YMCA had a large communal shower, and while I never saw any overtly sexual interactions, no mutual groping or oral, but for sure a couple of glances could lead to solo jerks by both parties OR with a nod of the head lead to the suana. The suana obviously had a door and with the right mix of guys or just the two of you, a lot more could and sometimes did take place. Silent agreement to watch the door while some real action took place, with a quick resuming placement of towels and… Read more »
i’m too ugly to hookup anywhere, anyplace, anytime, hence it will all remain fantasyland for me, honey, in my head where it all belongs because too many haters in realtimeland
I’ve done it MANY times. The locker rooms at Iowa State University in Ames, IA almost seem to be designed for cruising and sex with the way the lights let you see a shadow coming across the floor well prior to someone entering one of the 6 LARGE and spacious gang-style showers. It’s totally to your advantage and even the local high school students were allowed to go there to use the pool that their gym didn’t have.
No they do not.
I’ve worked out at LA Fitness for years and am in really good shape. I do weight-lifting and cardio.
Before Covid I had a guy come into my shower once but didn’t think to invite him to stay fast enough.
But basically it Never happens. Or at least it never happened to me and I’m literally in the top 2% of guys in my age range (50-60) physically. I think others who say it does are BS’ing.
You’d be wrong then.
Only happened once for me but was amazing. Mid afternoon, empty gym so empty locker room. I’m getting changed to workout and in just my boxers. Hot twink sashays by naked, looks over his shoulder and winks. I’m closeted by the way. He goes to end of the row of lockers and looks back again. I go and sit on a stool in front of him. He said he’d watch for anyone. I go down on his throbbing 7” shaved cock. I turn him around and he bends over and spreads his ass wide. I start mouth fucking his hairless… Read more »
Has anyone gave or received head while driving
Yes l have received head a number of times while driving
certainly not in my part of the world.