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Recently, a gay man online asked, “Who else prefers oral sex over anal sex?” His question drew dozens of responses and sparked an interesting conversation among men who’ve had enough experience to know what they like… and what they don’t. While anal sex tends to be more popular, this thread proved that oral sex can be just as—if not more—intimate, satisfying, and meaningful.
Anyway, one commenter wrote, “I really like getting sucked off. I prefer it to fucking. Love to see a guy on his knees working it.” For many guys, the visual aspect of oral sex is just as hot as the sensation itself. It’s intimate, vulnerable, and erotic without the same level of prep or commitment that anal sex often requires.
Another gay man added, “Oral all the way. I’d rather give though.” For these guys, the joy is in giving rather than receiving—enjoying the power and pleasure of pleasuring their partner, sometimes without expecting anything in return.
“Right here. You can have oral sex any damn time you want to without having to do the prep that must be done before anal sex. You cannot have completely spontaneous anal sex, but you sure can suck and/or get sucked whenever the mood strikes. And without worrying about any accidents happening,” another guy explained. It’s a point that hit home for many—oral sex offers ease, spontaneity, and a stress-free way to connect physically without turning it into a whole production.
Others shared what turned them on about oral sex like this one guy who confessed, “Guys who whimper while they’re sucking me drive me wild.” While another unapologetically declared, “Not me, total anal slut here.” It’s a good reminder that while oral sex is beloved by many, others still prefer anal sex.
Still, many agreed with the sentiment that “Amazing oral is better than amazing anal.” And some were just… over it. “Gonna be honest. Receiving oral bores me. Giving is kinda fun, but as foreplay and not the main event.”
One comment stood out in its vulnerability: “Me. Because honestly, I prefer being a top, but no bottom wants me, so I end up bottoming and I hate it. Nah, I’ll just stick to doing side. I enjoy sucking dicks anyway.” For some, oral becomes a favorite by circumstance, not just preference.
The truth is, preferences evolve. And while one kind of sex might dominate porn or pop culture, the things we actually crave in real life can be much more personal, practical, and specific.
What about you, Adam4Adam blog readers? Do you find oral sex more satisfying than anal? Do you see it as a main course or just a warm-up act? Have your tastes changed over time? We’d love to hear about your experiences, your turn-ons, and your thoughts. Drop a comment down below and let us know what gets you going.
Def. love anal. Oral does nothing for me.
I enjoy pleasing men, letting them use my mouth, throat, ass, I love and enjoy receiving oral from my wife, but receiving oral from a man does nothing for me, kinda like using a dildo, it does nothing for me at all, it’s the idea of being with a man that gets me off, I get excited preparing to get fucked, I have actually came several times while driving without touching my dick hands free while heading to get fucked, and I’ve also came many times while sucking guys off hands free,
Oral is a warm up or “side thing”. You can find satisfaction in it but for me I enjoy the main event anal!!
Was going to say the same thing. Oral is the opening act. I don’t think I’ve gotten off from oral alone in years.
Yes, I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve came from oral— it typically takes awhile for me to cum and penetration makes it better for me as oral I’ve received is mediocre or insanely messy for my liking..
You took the words right out of my mouth, so to speak.
It really depends on the man I’m with. Only a very few can make me cum from oral; receiving or giving anal almost always gets the job done!
“We’d love to hear about your experiences, your turn-ons….”.
What a great job! One where you go to work and get paid to read porn! Sweet!!
I really enjoy the way it feels being fucked, to feel the dick inside of me is a wonderful feeling, and that unbelievable feeling you get when you cum hands free while getting fucked, when I’m with a man , I mostly all the time want to be fucked, that’s a big part of me being a bottom, But I also enjoy being on my knees licking and sucking a mans dick, especially if he’s a verbal alpha top, I love it when a man talk to me while fuckin me or while I’m sucking his dick , telling me… Read more »
Hard for you to explain? I think you just did! Describes me perfectly, too!
I like giving and receiving both. It depends on my mood and how much time I have to prepare.
I Love Oral Sex – Especially Giving Deep Throat Head. Explore the Depth and the Volume of My Throat M2M. Pleaser Here But Reciprocation is Welcome. Oral is my Preferred Way To Cum and To Make Other Guys Cum.
I would have to say that I love both and in my opinion they both go hand and hand….I love kissing, licking, and sucking a cock until it gets hard and wet….sucking cock makes me precum so much and I love taking my precum rubbing it on my hole then scoop up more so I can rub it on the cock im sucking so I can use it as lube and get in whatever position the top wants me in so he can fuck me
I’m not wired for anal. There’s no physical pleasure in it personally for me. At best, a nice rubbing of anus and colon. Two of my FWBs enjoy topping me. The pleasure I get is working with each of them for the experience. I don’t “just lay there”. Rather, I’ll work with them as they thrust in and out. tightening my ass muscles alternately several times as thy thrust. I’ll also use my hips to thrust up against them along the way. I’ll work with them until they orgasm and lay next to me breathless. I very much enjoy oral.… Read more »
yo, mouth sex = hole sex…sex is sex regardless of where you put it a hole = hole
I agree with you could not have expressed any better
as discussed within the prior blog: it is all about labels and identification…I am this; I am that… .
I lost 53 men to AIDS and the only reason I am still alive is that I never enjoyed getting fucked. Oral seems safer somehow.
yo, white bread, Zebra got it between the face lips not the ass lips Zebra is here 2025
The reason you lost 53 friends to AIDS is because – shocker – they were having unsafe sex and weren’t on PREP. If you do at least one (or certainly both), your odds of contracting HIV are negligibly small. And I have some horrible news for you: you can get STDs from oral sex, too.
yo, white bread you make a good point and any hole regardless of placement is susceptible to a STD a hole is never 100% safe
Perhaps these men were early in the epidemic and the science was trying to catch up. Prep is only a recent development. Please don’t be harsh on the poster who lost 53 friends. We need to be sensitive to others experiences, including painful ones.
I love sucking dick and swallowing his cum over being fucked
Ditto. I never enjoyed it, but I’m NEVER without a condom either, if it’s going to not be, masturbation.
Oral is safer. Unless you have open wound on your cock, there is zero chance of becoming infected from getting blown and there are only a few known cases of HIV infection with giving oral sex being the only risk factor.
I’m a top, and I feel I owe it to my partner to give them good head. I love playing with another man’s penis and finding out what gets him really turned on. Sucking his hot cock and feeling his balls is when I like to explore, play with, and turn up the sexual energy.
I have never like oral from either position. I will help a lover get hard, but want him in me!
I’m wired backwards. Receiving oral just doesn’t do much for me and not often turned on to top. Sensations and thrill just not there for me.
But on the other hand, sucking off a guy that loves his cock sucked is so pleasurable for me that I can genuinely get off hardly touching my cock.
If the guy wants to make me cum, fuck me. If your into it and I am comfortable with him the odds are pretty high your going to give me an amazing release
I love oral sex. Just a though of a dick sliding into my mouth and then down my throat and keeping it there. I can breath. I can enjoy it. When I suck it, I love the taste of cum. If a guy remains hard, I usually get that dick right into my ass and enjoy him more. Everyone has their own way of enjoying gay sex.
I enjoy the feeling of being on the bottom when my dude explodes. I know i helped him cum. But giving oral and holding a dude as he shakes, grunts the then shoots his load in your mouth is awesome. Again, i know that i was able to satisfy my dude with that big cum.
As a versatile top I like oral, mostly to get my pole ready for a warm hole to squeeze into. Some guys just aren’t as good as they think when they give head…and then, there are those who can suck me all day and night into oblivion it’s so good. My ex gives great head.
Definitely into anal… it’s a much more satisfying connection with a partner, unless he has ruined his anus with stupid decisions, or doesn’t show respect for mine. Oral is only foreplay, and I would only do oral with a committed partner who can be trusted to keep his package absolutely clean, and who respects my limits. There are far too many guys who go overboard with the oral stuff, often to a point where it is not only annoying, but very uncomfortable. If a man can’t handle anal, he isn’t for me.
i love giving oral but i need to recieve anal
Anal over oral for me…even though oral is titillating to me, it merely sets the pace for me to dig balls deep into a wet, juicy azz. ‘Nuf said.
I love oral. Love watching a guy take my Dick in his mouth and all of the sensations that come with it and I love it especially when they are passionate about taking my Dick.
I’m vers so best case scenario is oral both ways leading up to anal both ways. Not always a reality though. Most times I’ve had to go top or go bottom with anal. A good hot oral 69 session can be hot too. Prefer oral to be the foreplay to anal.
For me I enjoy both but some guys just want head so if that’s all I can get then I’m sucking but if they want my ass I’m giving it up I know there’s those who only prefer one more than the other but everyone has there own thing they like
love oral more than anal, you don’t need to fuck to have a good time .. and even better, more safer too, honey!
As much as I love getting fucked, receiving a good blow job is the ultimate happy ending. I’d be lying, if I didn’t add that a well placed finger during a BJ, puts me right over the top.
I depends. Oral is easier, and is basically foreplay to me. It is rare to find a partner that is skilled in oral as well. With anal we must be more selective, and it does take much more involvement, at least if we are smart about it, but the complete feelings of body contact and envelopment.. Seriously, nothing like it. Step one, hand. Step 2, mouth. Step 3, balls deep up that ass.
I love to give oral and receive anal
I definitely prefer oral. I enjoy giving and receiving but prefer giving. I love the feel of a cock in my mouth as it gets hard and firm! I prefer to have my mouth f***** and the pleasure of each thrust he makes!! The real pleasure comes when he starts to thrust harder and his cock firms up so hard!! Love the taste of his cum as he shoots into my mouth! I also love to be sucked. I do bottom some when turned on and it feels good to have a hard cock pumping my ass!! Love it all!!
To me oral sex is part of forplay getting my top bussy throbbing hard dripping precum in my mouth but the real fun part is when he mounts me an we start our dance. That deep thrusting is what i live for. Toung wrestling while he plows me! watching his face as he get close and then the spasms as he cums! I do enjoy my top to give me a nice bj happy ending after hes used my ass for his cum dump!
I love both. I love lying on my back on a bed with my head hanging off the side of the bed with one man fucking my mouth and throat while another man is fucking my ass on the bed with both of them shooting cum in both of my holes. For me that’s the ultimate experience. I love taking dick and cum in my fuckhole, and I love having a meaty dick in my mouth shooting cum down my throat. Very experienced bottom man here who knows what he wants. I love being a homo.
I enjoy giving and receiving to release things for anal. I’ve always been a top that has enjoyed a bottom getting me ready and then just taking my sweet time showing him my appreciation slowly building to my climax. Gawd, I enjoy that fantastic release and a verbal response as I empty in him.
Im not really into oral, giving or receiving. However I do like anal, immensely. Total bottom here and i can drive a top wild…
I enjoy both about 50/50. Oral both giving and receiving, and anal giving but prefer receiving…MUCH preferred.
I like both. I think I enjoy getting my dick sucked as the warm up and I love being a top and a bottom depending on the guy. But I do love my dick sucked well.
I enjoy oral sex and a prelude to me fucking him. Love having my big cock and balls licked and sucked and, once he has ock hard, it’s into the sling and let the fucking begin. I especially love if he cums hands free just from the fuck!
Man I love it when a top fucks me and make me cum hands free, I chatted with bottoms that have said they’ve never came hands free while being fucked, I don’t understand, most of the time it’s hard for me not to cum, I use to ask the top to stop fuckin me so that I wouldn’t cum and loose the feeling, but nowadays I cum and let the top continue to fuck me until I cum again, it feels so damn good to cum while having a ass fulla hard dick, very intense ,
Oral is great as a warm-up for a good rimming & fucking…both giving and getting!!
So far, so good.
No need to get anal at all. We’re not straight people, don’t have to imitate them.
Imitate ?? Or stimulate prostates ?
I prefer giving head, but also enjoy providing my ass when requested.
I love oral as foreplay, but it’s no comparison to the feeling of a sexy young man inside me
Oral is a huge turn on, giving and receiving. I’ll Top, but only if there is chemistry between us. If there isn’t chemistry its just not as fun.
My preference is oral sex. A great oral session can be the appetizer, the entree and the dessert all wrapped in one!! I love the pleasure both giving and receiving creates and provides. The intimacy connection registers off the charts for me.
Been told I am a natural when it come to oral but love anal. oral is just getting him warmed for anal and guys love want I have like anal
Oral is just the beginning, never the main event.
I prefer mutual oral sex over anal, but truthfully I haven’t experienced anal sex. If it were to happen, I may change my opinion! lol Anyone want to try to persuade me? hehehe
i’ve had just about every version of sex possible and for me there is no comparison. Being the bottom in anal sex is by far the greatest sexual experience there is. No other sexual act involves the level of commitment and intimacy. Whether you’re bent over, laying on you back with feet in the air, riding him cowgirl, or any other of a dozen different positions I’ve tried, the feeling of having an erect man push into my tight butt is like no other experience in life. I enjoy sucking cock especially when he fills my mouth with cum, but… Read more »
As a top hat has gotten older and finds it hard to perform sometimes, I’ve switched to oral more frequently. I get off faster and as the article says, there is much less preparation. I don’t seek out to top anymore but last weekend I was at a sex resort and was able to top 2 guys as the opportunity presented itself.
Oral works out better for me and most of the tome feels better than anal.
I like slender smooth cute twink guys that are effeminate and and I’m very much into TGs. With that said, I enjoy a good BJ but not for an extended period of time. I enjoy nudity and frequent position changes and enjoy seeing all things sexually visual (even select porn); but in the end….. (pun intended) I LOVE doggy and seeing a twitching ass as I’m taking care of business with my boi toy.
I prefer cumming over not.
How we get there is of little concern.
I am 74 and only began to have gay encounters about 5 years ago. Two of my first 3 encounters had oral sex involved. I met a guy at his house intending only to fondle him. The next thing I know his dick is in my mouth and I am just loving feeling his head sliding against my cheek. In that spring, I was cruising in my Miata, top down wearing only a bra and panties. Outside an adult bookstore a guy got out of his truck and proceeded to to suck me off on the hood of my Miata.… Read more »
I am a bottom man; I absolutely prefer anal…oral is not bad, butt I want anal. Yes there is some prep work needed and that takes time….spontaneity is not often my friend. To me it is worth it…I leave for a date or meeting prepped and ready if it goes there. I hope it goes there.
If you have a boyfriend while only doing oral. He will not be faithful. You might as well know that now. He is either pumping ass or getting drilled. Remember don’t wait too long cause your ass will lose value as you age.it might still be good at 50 but can’t match the twenty something queens.