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A gay man online recently asked, “Have you ever jerked off with friends? How was it? How did it happen?” It’s a question that sparks curiosity, nostalgia, or maybe even awkward memories. For some, it’s a rite of passage, for others, an unthinkable scenario. Whether it was a one-time thing, a regular habit, or just a fantasy, plenty of gay men have stories to tell.
Some respondents were quick to differentiate between experiences with straight and gay friends. One guy for instance, questioned the circumstances in which this happens, saying, “Like straight guy friends you were never gonna have sex with? Or just gay buds who circle jerk and none of them ever bang? Both are a no for me, but I’m curious of others’ experiences.”
That aside, many men shared their firsthand experiences, revealing how and why they ended up in these situations like this one guy who confessed, “Yes, with my current best friend. He’s gay, we used to date in the past, maybe that’s why we’re comfortable with it. But we’ll be chilling and then both ask each other if we want to jack off LMAO. It’s actually very convenient. But I don’t think I could do it with our other friends in our friend group.” This response highlights how comfort and past relationships can make mutual masturbation feel natural rather than awkward.
Sometimes, curiosity leads to awkward moments. Engaging in mutual masturbation with straight friends can be complicated like for this guy, especially when boundaries and comfort levels aren’t fully understood. “Yes, but didn’t end well because they’re too straight.”
On the other hand, some experiences go beyond just jerking off together. This respondent had a more intimate encounter, proving that these situations can escalate depending on each other’s attraction and consent. “Yes. But I actually jerked them off and then swallowed.”
That being said, times are indeed changing. For other gay men, technology has changed the way they explore their desires, and virtual mutual masturbation is an option for those who want to share the experience without physical presence. “Virtually but not in person. Sounds fun to chat and watch with some hardcore porn on.”
Meanwhile, not everyone believes that masturbation has a place in friendships. That doing this with friends crosses a line. “Are friends supposed to do that?” But there are also some gay men who take pleasure in making mutual masturbation a regular activity with friends or even strangers, enjoying the intimacy without full-on sex. “Yes, and I love to jerk off with different people and strangers. I just love to feel a big hot throbbing hard cock in my hand or in my mouth.”
Lastly, not everyone has had these experiences but some might be curious to explore like this guy who said, “After reading some of the replies… damn my life sucks.”
Having said all that, mutual masturbation with friends is clearly a divisive topic—some see it as just another way to connect and release tension, a harmless fun; for others, it’s a clear boundary they wouldn’t cross. But what about you, guys? Have you ever been in this situation? Would you be open to it, or does the idea make you uncomfortable? Let us know your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
Nope. Never. I keep my friends separate from my sexual side.
This is my EXACT reply, Dan. Boundaries….
During my college days it was a normal event, circle jerks, seeing who had the biggest load, shoot the furthest and of course there was the times in the showers where even though there were shower curtains rarely did guys close them and when one guy started jacking off everyone else followed, damn those were the good old days.
Never in my dorms!
Yeah, bullshit.
No, but was in a bate club, and a lot of the guys i met there became friends
I don’t even jerk off myself. Would never do it with friends. Masturbation is corruptive, superficial “fun”; self-pleasure is self-debasing, a waste of time.
Mary, please. You’re fooling no one.
He could be “Norman Bates”?
So your short answer was No?
Sorry, you kinda fulfill the adage that 90% of all men masturbate. The other 10% lie about it.
Always with my “friends with benefits”. I never been in a relationship with a guy. So yes, of course I jerked off together with my friends. I’m only into man sex. No emotional connection. Never had the desire and never dated a dude.
I took road trips to a few places with a friend to visit clubs/bathhouses. Denver, Chicago, Austin, and St. Louis were good back in the day. We’d find a place to sit and jack off. Common area, sauna or steam room, pool, etc. Sometimes we’d touch each other, but mostly we jacked our own meat. We did it to see who would stop and watch, who would join in and who would ask to go to a room. We both had about equal luck getting guys to join in and for getting asked to go to a room. Afterwards, we’d… Read more »
I never have but, have thought about it, a lot. My problem would be seeing a few cocks and wouldn’t be able to not jerk everyone off.
Done often when younger, several great memories of it with special buds. Had one we did it dozens of times over couple years, before did mutual one night and advanced to giving him his first blowjob, last about 45 seconds and he popped Another friend did with then second time became mutual masturbation, well over 100 times with him, most others was one or two time deal but all was fun. Then got married, no more until decided how bad missed cock , so restarted at 50, still fun to watch, be watched, even better when help each other out.… Read more »
Heck yeah. Unfortunately jacking off is underrated and jacking with friends is underutilized.
Between time constraints, private location issues and relationship preferences all get in the way of having sex on occasion, jacking kind of eliminates all those problems while fulfilling a nice pleasurable release.
I’d much rather pound out a nut, but I’ve never refused and said no to helping hand.
Oh Yes!! It’s fun and enjoyable. To please an other Guy and share in His pleasure.After making LOVE lying together and talking. Stroking a lover relax COCK and feeling it come back to life, is a wonderful feeling. If it happens mutually !! ALL THE BETTER..
Never
No, hard firm rule, my friends have been chosen, like chosen family members, there’s just way too many other gay men out there/here. I NEED my friends to be just that only, thanks.
I used to go to the local “Y”, and in the sauna I would jack off and watch those that came in and jackoff themselve. It was always fun to watch other guys jackoff.
That’s a HARD NO. Not even as a boy ‘exploring’…. Friends are friends, lovers are lovers, and never the twain shall meet (excuse my cheesiness). It’s called boundaries…
IN many circles, know from personal experience and chatting/talking face to face with others, jacking off with a friend is very common, maybe you and a select few never but many did ay least once. Whether started as a sleepover, show and tell as maturing or conversation lead to “what /how I do so we watch each other. Personally experienced with several friends, a cousin as part of growing up and no was not I, who always suggested, but was lead on by others as much as when was my idea. As Teens when after dates dropped off and no… Read more »
That must be, one of those secrets my oldest brother said “I’ll go to my grave with; an experience he once had,” I’m sure, he was alluding to.
I have fond memories, from my early teen years, of the circle jerks in Joe’s basement while watching his older brother’s 8mm porn movies. Joe and I eventually became BJ buddies, but he “outgrew” it and went totally hetero at about 18 years old. I never outgrew cocksucking and enjoy it to this day!
Cool, we never had an 8mm but many Hustler, Penthouse etc opened minds, hands and flys to reveal hard teen cocks, that were rubbed out in front of another as watched them do the same, some became mutual and a few even allowed oral, So common among honest men lol. Very fond memories. As you, never outgrew the love of it, did stay str8 for 27 years after married but at 50, went back to doing what desired and missed,
Depends on the type/depth of friendship and the boundaries we’ve agreed to/set up. I grew up in the era of 60-70 guys showering after gym class, sports practice/games, etc… so everybody saw everybody else…and most times it became apparent which friends had an interest… First time was age 14, hot summer nights on a backpacking/fishing trip with best friend. We had been skinny-dipping at dusk, dried off, crashed on top of sleeping bags. I thought he was asleep. I had just started stroking when he rolled on his back, started stroking along with me, which moved us to begin exploring… Read more »
Jerking off is another tool in the sexual tool box. Sex between men is not just about anal (topping or bottoming). Sucking, frotting and jerking off are pleasurable options. I enjoy being jerked off, jerking off a bud, watching a bud jerk himself off, and simultaneously jerking each other off. A variation of that last one is when you lay next to each other, on your backs, and one of you flips so you’re head to toe. You both then slide an arm under each other’s closest leg and position yourselves so you have easy access to each other’s cock.… Read more »
Regularly jerked-off with a couple of buddies when a teen. Everyone enjoyed it! “Want to look at Playboy” was the question asked when one of us wanted to jerk-off with the other. Off to the basement!! Never a thought by any of the guys about it being gay.
i prefer so called straight men over gay men to begin with, so if it happens with a friend then great even better, safer and more comfortable with each other, most especially if you are attracted to him,