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A gay man online recently asked, “Have you ever jerked off with friends? How was it? How did it happen?” It’s a question that sparks curiosity, nostalgia, or maybe even awkward memories. For some, it’s a rite of passage, for others, an unthinkable scenario. Whether it was a one-time thing, a regular habit, or just a fantasy, plenty of gay men have stories to tell.
Some respondents were quick to differentiate between experiences with straight and gay friends. One guy for instance, questioned the circumstances in which this happens, saying, “Like straight guy friends you were never gonna have sex with? Or just gay buds who circle jerk and none of them ever bang? Both are a no for me, but I’m curious of others’ experiences.”
That aside, many men shared their firsthand experiences, revealing how and why they ended up in these situations like this one guy who confessed, “Yes, with my current best friend. He’s gay, we used to date in the past, maybe that’s why we’re comfortable with it. But we’ll be chilling and then both ask each other if we want to jack off LMAO. It’s actually very convenient. But I don’t think I could do it with our other friends in our friend group.” This response highlights how comfort and past relationships can make mutual masturbation feel natural rather than awkward.
Sometimes, curiosity leads to awkward moments. Engaging in mutual masturbation with straight friends can be complicated like for this guy, especially when boundaries and comfort levels aren’t fully understood. “Yes, but didn’t end well because they’re too straight.”
On the other hand, some experiences go beyond just jerking off together. This respondent had a more intimate encounter, proving that these situations can escalate depending on each other’s attraction and consent. “Yes. But I actually jerked them off and then swallowed.”
That being said, times are indeed changing. For other gay men, technology has changed the way they explore their desires, and virtual mutual masturbation is an option for those who want to share the experience without physical presence. “Virtually but not in person. Sounds fun to chat and watch with some hardcore porn on.”
Meanwhile, not everyone believes that masturbation has a place in friendships. That doing this with friends crosses a line. “Are friends supposed to do that?” But there are also some gay men who take pleasure in making mutual masturbation a regular activity with friends or even strangers, enjoying the intimacy without full-on sex. “Yes, and I love to jerk off with different people and strangers. I just love to feel a big hot throbbing hard cock in my hand or in my mouth.”
Lastly, not everyone has had these experiences but some might be curious to explore like this guy who said, “After reading some of the replies… damn my life sucks.”
Having said all that, mutual masturbation with friends is clearly a divisive topic—some see it as just another way to connect and release tension, a harmless fun; for others, it’s a clear boundary they wouldn’t cross. But what about you, guys? Have you ever been in this situation? Would you be open to it, or does the idea make you uncomfortable? Let us know your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!
Nope. Never. I keep my friends separate from my sexual side.
During my college days it was a normal event, circle jerks, seeing who had the biggest load, shoot the furthest and of course there was the times in the showers where even though there were shower curtains rarely did guys close them and when one guy started jacking off everyone else followed, damn those were the good old days.
Never in my dorms!
No, but was in a bate club, and a lot of the guys i met there became friends
I don’t even jerk off myself. Would never do it with friends. Masturbation is corruptive, superficial “fun”; self-pleasure is self-debasing, a waste of time.
Mary, please. You’re fooling no one.
So your short answer was No?
Always with my “friends with benefits”. I never been in a relationship with a guy. So yes, of course I jerked off together with my friends. I’m only into man sex. No emotional connection. Never had the desire and never dated a dude.
I took road trips to a few places with a friend to visit clubs/bathhouses. Denver, Chicago, Austin, and St. Louis were good back in the day. We’d find a place to sit and jack off. Common area, sauna or steam room, pool, etc. Sometimes we’d touch each other, but mostly we jacked our own meat. We did it to see who would stop and watch, who would join in and who would ask to go to a room. We both had about equal luck getting guys to join in and for getting asked to go to a room. Afterwards, we’d… Read more »