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When it comes to oral sex, everyone has their own take on the classic debate: spit or swallow? Some guys find swallowing a huge turn-on, while others feel more comfortable spitting. Do you have a strong preference, or does it depend on the situation, or maybe your partner? And does your sexual role—whether you’re a top, bottom, or versatile—affect your choice? And what makes you lean one way or the other? We’re curious to know what you think, so let’s dive into this steamy topic!
Swallowing can be a huge turn-on for some gay men. It might be about the sense of closeness and the connection it brings, an intimate act that deepens the bond with a partner. Others enjoy the act as part of a dominant or submissive dynamic, where swallowing can feel like giving or receiving control. Some even find the taste and texture appealing, adding an extra layer of excitement to the experience. There’s also the convenience factor—swallowing means no messy cleanup and allows the moment to flow without interruption.
On the other hand, many guys prefer to spit, and that’s perfectly valid too. Some may not enjoy the taste or consistency of semen, or they might have concerns about hygiene and safety. Spitting can also feel more natural or comfortable, allowing them to fully enjoy the experience without the pressure to perform a specific act. For those who lean toward spitting, it might simply be about keeping the moment as enjoyable as possible without crossing personal boundaries.
Of course, safety should always be a priority. Swallowing semen, like any sexual activity, carries potential risks. Semen can transmit sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as HIV, gonorrhea, chlamydia, and syphilis. The risk of infection increases if there are cuts, sores, or gum issues in the mouth. To reduce these risks, consider using protection, getting tested regularly, and maintaining open communication with your partner about sexual health.
That being said, do sexual roles play a part in your choice to swallow or spit? Do bottoms generally prefer to swallow more than tops? Are versatile guys more adventurous when it comes to this? Or does your bedroom role have no influence on whether you spit or swallow?
So, what about you, guys? Do you love to swallow, or is it not your cup of tea? Do you spit and find it just as satisfying? Are there specific scenarios or partners that change your preference? And does your position in bed—top, bottom, or versatile—impact your choice?
We’re all ears so share your thoughts and stories in the comments section down below. Whether you’re a swallower, a spitter, or somewhere in between, we’d love to hear from you.
When the vibe is right, I will swallow and continue to suck it dry when he’s most vulnerable. That is my favorite part of the climax. I never spit. But when I’m not feeling him that much, I just won’t swallow; I’ll just watch him squirt his load.
Being bi, sucking is nearly pointless without swallowing. That turns me on. Guys that spit…I don’t give them a second chance. Who wants to work and not get the prize? I swallow, they should too imo
I always swallow that HOT CREAMY TREAT…
It was a time I’ve told guys to let me know when they was about to cum so I could stop and Jack them off the rest of the way and most of them tried to warn me, but for some reason I couldn’t bring myself to stop, I just couldn’t pull away from the dick and ended up swallowing anyway , I love the cum but I also love to hear a man moan and I also love to hear em say don’t stop, don’t stop or swallow it, it’s hard for me to stop sucking
I’m curious if there are others like me: I’m in my mid-60s and no stranger to gay sex at all. I’ve probably had upwards of some 250 bed partners since my first when I was in my late teens. That of course means I’ve sucked many a cock over the years. But it wasn’t until just 2 years ago I finally got up the nerve to let more than a couple of drops of pre-cum inside my mouth. Why? Having tasted my own plenty of times I wasn’t keen on the taste. But even moreso, I was/is always concerned about… Read more »
Honey, if you’ve got to the pre-cum state then you might as well swallow because any pathogen is already in contact with you.
Hilarious! Guys will eat an ass for an hour and then cry”EW” when their mouth fills with jizz! Unless it’s coming out like a firehouse, just swallow that shit! Yum!!
Bon Appetite!
I’ll rim a hot clean ass, but I do not like cum in my mouth at all. Fuck me and fill my ass with that hot load so it’s dripping out later, but don’t cum in my mouth. If a guy wants me to cum in his mouth I will. Not everything is for everyone.
Well, I love the taste of a man’s ass and his cum in my mouth!!
Me too Dick. Thanks for being honest about it, most guys are to scared of being judged to admit it.
Thank you Paul. My sentiments exactly. I totally love oral sex and find nothing about it nasty. Although each guy’s cum has a different taste, some bitter, some sweet, some non-descriptive, just shut up and swallow, LOL!!! What’s the point of sucking a dick if you’re not going to complete the task. Men absolutely love it when you swallow and isn’t the whole point to please the man? Also, if you’re swallowing, you have a better chance of holding onto his dick and getting another round in. Once you pull back, some men are done because of the claim of… Read more »
AMEN! agree i love to swallow why waste it when you can taste it! especially from BBC wow creamy fuckin loads
ive been bi since i was 15 experimenting with my BF… but never completed in the mouth… fast forward to when i was about 27.. is when i actually started to suck on cock myself but jerked off completion. forward again… about at 32, got into letting them cum in my mouth and then spitting,,, i always seam to have it in the back of my mind i didnt like cum so didnt swallow…. one more fast forward…to 3 yrs ago… at age 52… i was sucking off this guy whos cock was just right for me to really take… Read more »
Swallow it. The taste, the way it squirts out into mouth even if it was in my ass. Even better turn on, ATM with cum..Oh damn, nowI’m horny
Huge turn on for me
I want every drop. After he’s coated my rectum with his cum I like to put his cock in my mouth then squeeze out his last drop just so I can get a taste.
Swallow! I love to swallow a guys cum! Giving head is a very intimate act. What could be more intimate then. Swallowing a guys cum?
That being said I love to give give head! Taking a guys flaccid cock into my mouth and seeing (and feeling) his excitement grow, hearing his sighs and moans, and finally feeling him unload! It’s so intoxicating!! I love being on my knees performing oral! Receiving facials is always fun as well!
I swallow every time! I’ve learned that every man really wants to cum deep inside a warm wet hole. Whether it’s down my throat or in my pussy. If I’m sucking cock I want to hear him moan and feel his cock pulsating in my mouth and throat as he’s shooting his hot load. I know he wants to feed me his cum and he knows I want him to. Nothing gets me hotter than being on my knees giving a strong dominant man the ultimate pleasure. Feed me that hot, thick, creamy cum Daddy!!
I totally understand, I love being on my knees sucking a dominant mans dick, I like to get on my knees and unbuckle his belt and unzip his pants and pull his dick for him, then suck him off swallow it then lick his dick clean, I’m a very submissive bottom,
I’ve read some of the comments and I don’t see where spitting is any safer than swallowing. If you have cuts or sores in your mouth, then you are at risk either way. I favor swallowing.
Spit!
I swallowed my first time at 17, swallowed ever since then. I enjoy the feel, taste and arousal when I swallow.
Sometimes I spit, sometimes I swallow. Depends on taste. I like really thick loads, but I have a friend that cums profusely, sometimes taking 15-20 sec before he stops. It’s very watery and fills my mouth to overflowing. I different friend actually does piss while he is cumming. I drink both down
Lucky You!
Nothing like a mouthful, love swallowing and sucking my lover clean
You mean some guys spit?!
Its the idea of swallowing a mans cum and knowing I satisfied him, don’t get me wrong I love a good load of warm slick cum going down my throat, But I get off on when a guy call me and tell me he needs his dick sucked or he wants so ass, it’s a big turn on just knowing another man wants me in a sexual way, I know either way he wants to cum and it my responsibility to be there for him, sometimes I feel bad because my wife is a kisser, she loves to kiss, and… Read more »
It always turns me on when my bttm let’s me cum in their mouth, swallow it… or better yet take my nut inside them. Better when I asked them where they want it and they tell me inside them.
I like a top that claims his bottoms, ( my bottom) , but I also like for a top to tell me where he’s going to put it, I need him to be in control, we’re but men but behind closed doors I need him to be the alpha and let me be his submissive bottom, some may wonder why I always stress being submissive, it’s because that the part of being with dominant men that get me off, I like playing a bitch role
ohhhh baby cum take me!!!!!!
Lol asl…lol
swollow most definatly, but I like to wait awhile and savor the flavor of hot cum!!!!! then hopefully he can get hard and fill my bussy full to mmmmmmm!!!
Just my opinion, I truly think it’s more and more guys are sucking dick these days, rather they are bi/gay/DL/ married witch is all the same, Let’s me just say, men are sucking dick more than ever nowa days, I mean let’s be real, it something most men want to experience, I think we all either have thought it , fantasied about it and or done it, the Internet made it possible for most, I’ve found out that more than a few of my closest friends or either sucking dicks and or getting fucked these days, most of them are… Read more »
Totally agree. After recently moving out into the suburbs, I’m amazed at the number of DL married “straight” men who are sucking dicks, fucking and being fucked!
Yes sir, It’s a lot of us out here, like I said I’ve found out about some of my friends, and I chat with a lotta married, straight acting guys that are sucking and or getting fucked, it’s nothing to brag about, but it’s happening, some like myself still enjoy being with women ,and some are strictly with guys, it’s just a lot of us don’t want to come out, I enjoy sucking dicks and a lotta times I do swallow , because I know from being a man, A man wants his cum to be swallowed, it makes him… Read more »
Sexless marriages, but can’t afford a divorce. Definitely a real thing
Well my wife and I have sex maybe 3-4 times a month which I love my wife and sex with her and other women, I just so happen to be a closet submissive bottom,, I enjoy sucking dicks and swallowing other men cum, and getting fucked, So I myself not looking to leave my wife nor do I want a divorce ,
If you meet a guy you’ve chatted. You’ve gotten alone. You’ve gotten naked. You’ve gotten to where his cock is in your mouth and you’re working him to orgasm.
If swallowing is a question, maybe you shouldn’t have taken his cock in your mouth?
What’s next? Bottoms who allow guys to fuck them bareback but not cum in them?
When I top want to turn me off than spit. To me nothing ruins the mood more. When I’m sucking a nice hard cock than I want that load am definitely going to swallow
Haven’t sucked anyone off yet, but I love the idea of swallowing! Not sure how it would go irl
Swallowing all day long
Sharing. I love snowballing
Snowballing very hot. Also, kissing a guy when he has another guys load in his mouth Is complete turn on. Put me in the swallow column.
It’s simple If you Don’t swallow why Suck Cock
When ever my wife or any woman suck me off, I’ve always told them it’s very disrespectful to spit, sometimes they don’t always swallow and sometimes it disappoints me, so I try my best to always make my man happy, I suck , swallow, lick his dick clean, And I understand cum swallowing isn’t for everyone, but for me, I want to please my man and receive my reward at the same time
Always swallow, can’t get enough of it..
I have never spit. The first guy that came in my mouth I swallowed and every one since then. The perfect sex is making a man cum in my mouth, getting him hard again and let him fuck me in the ass. Then he socks my dick, I cum in his mouth. Then I get hard again with the help of diagram and fuck him. That is truly versatile.
Ooops…Viagara not diagram
I usually swallow, but if my partner wants me to kiss them I will gladly share then swallow what’s left
I’ve got 2 FB’s who have been tested and I love to swallow for them. Anyone else I don’t swallow and I discuss it beforehand. I love a nice big load in my throat and/or ass but he needs to be tested or on PrEP.
Fair enough to be cautious, but the risks of getting HIV from oral sex (even swallowing) are extremely low.
I prefer to swallow whenever I am with my buddy… always leave it nice and dry.
i always swallow love it shooting in my mouth
I’m a top. I met this bi married guy. He primarily enjoys oral with other married guys, both receiving and giving. Initially, we sucked/jacked each other. We would embrace each other during orgasm. After witnessing him shooting cum like a cannon, I began fantasizing him completing in my mouth. This guy could coat a wall standing 10 feet away! So, one day while sucking him, I decided to keep sucking after warning me he was about to cum. The shots inside my mouth were amazing! I swallowed after each rope of cum. When he finished, he admitted feeling emotionally close… Read more »
Swallowing on an empty stomach gives you a stomach ache. Weird but true
I’m bottom, and love having a man cum in my mouth! For me it’s my climax also, I get fireworks when he cums, I alwas cum right after, during the fireworks. I’m very passionate lover and don’t stop sucking untill he’s soft and totally relaxed. Enough said…
I prefer to swallow manseed when I give head. Leading up to the climax, I’m feeling connected to and in touch with my partner’s response, and there’s no way I don’t want to swallow deep. I like making eye contact when my partner is enjoying the pleasure he’s receiving, too. What a great way to share the intensity of his climax 🙂
If I can’t swallow, I don’t want it
demanding aren’t you!
For safety, one should swallow, shoot it down your throat, don’t have it linger in your mouth, and rinse out your mouth with mouthwash or perhaps alcohol, to kill any germs, bacteria or viruses. The stomach acids destroy immediately what is in the semen. It is possible to get HIV from semen orally, not to mention other STDs.
Or use a flavored condom for casual oral
i’d like to try swallowing cum, but i only spit it out .. kind of anxious and worried i could get pregnant if i swallow them TADPOLES, ya know? things squirming around in my tummy could make me output more uglies into the world? not good! again, for now, spitting is the key to good orally sexual harmony
I love to swallow, I love different tastes from different cocks and enjoy that load going down my throat because I know that’s what feels best and that’s my goal, to make the orgasm as intense as possible ! I love getting men off, all ages and sizes !
SWALLOW, why start the job if ya ain’t gonna finish.
“cum on baby finish watcha started .. i need it COMPLETE”
I love to swallow and feel a throbbing cock in my mouth. Im more on the sub side, and it makes me feel good to make a man feel good.
How does it make you feel by being a sub bottom ?
I love giving up control to a cool top guy. Turns me on!
Yes so do I, not sure why but it really does something for me being submissive and just being weak to dominant top, letter him have total control, after getting fucked I like to lay in a mans arms just to get that bitch feel, it’s kinda hard to explain what it does , but it’s give me a certain feeling, I really enjoy sucking a good top off and I enjoy getting fucked and being use sexually by a dominant top
I love to swallow the load I worked so hard to get.
Most of the time that’s exactly how I see it, if I work hard to please him why shouldn’t I enjoy the reward, and the fact that I have a alpha male cum inside me
If it’s only a hook-up or the first time or two sucking a guy off, I usually won’t let him cum in my mouth; I’ll have them cum on my face–which I also very much enjoy…if I let them cum in my mouth it’s 100% to swallow his load
Neither. I hate the taste of cum
All’s if you and the guy who’s cock your sucking agree.
oralphobe
Is there a leotard I can wear that will turn my dick into a brick?
Ok…..so as a bi guy who’s favorite activity is sucking a hard throbbing cock, I do have to say that I get my pleasure a few ways. First, slowly sucking, stroking and licking those balls and edging a guy up to the limit and then backing off, standing back up and planting my mouth on his only to go down to each nipple while still holding those balls in my hand. Then going back down for the white gold. As my bud is getting close, I pick up the ball work making sure that those tingling balls are stimulated until… Read more »
You, sir, are a Maser. (bows)
Swallow without a doubt! Love when it dribbles out the corner of my mouth. Always try to clean up any excess with my tongue.
I was 19 first time a guy came in my mouth. Roomate in the service, horny on the couch together in our underwear. First time with him in that room. Damn, the heat, it blew up. Before I know it we’re sucking each other. Fast forward 45 minutes and his cock is in my mouth and ready to blow. I wasnt sure what to do, but his swollen cock had to stay in my mouth, that much I was sure of. He exploded, full eruption, pulsing 4 times at least. I liked the uniqueness of the taste, a little salty.… Read more »
If your a spitter why are you even sucking on it that’s just pointless you suck it for the reward at the end so he knows that you did a great job and swallow that reward for doing it
To each his own but my sex life is great without any spit or swallowing. Cuddling, frotting, kissing, oral, rimming, nipple-play, verse fucking, nutting and I’m good!!! But yall go ahead and enjoy!!!!
I’ve rimmed a lotta a women but I probably feel the same as you feel about swallowing when it comes to eating a mans ass, the thought of it makes me sick, But I love to eat women ass and I love to have my ass ate, it really brings out the inner bitch in me, other than rimming a man, he can have me in any other way he desires, I will suck his dick for hours for him, he can fuck me as long as he feels, cause man do I love to get fucked, I’m totally submissvely… Read more »
I love the flavor and consistency of a load of cum. I’ll swirl around in my mouth before swallowing. No one walks away from fucking me
Without leaving their cum inside me.
I prefer to swallow. Big turn on for me.
Swallow. Love the look the look on a man’s face when he cums in my month.