Dating: What’s the Most Romantic Thing You’ve Ever Done?

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A gay man online posted a question that made me curious, probably because I’m not a romantic person myself. It reads, “What’s the most romantic thing that you’ve ever done for a guy?” The responses poured in, reflecting a range of touching gestures, from simple acts of love to grand, unforgettable moments.

One gay man shared, “Writing a love letter?” It may seem old-fashioned, but there’s something timeless about putting pen to paper and expressing your feelings in words. Love letters capture emotions that texts or emails often miss, making them a cherished keepsake.

Another touching story came from a man who spent a week before Christmas with his best friend and lover. “We live in different cities. When I got there he didn’t have a Christmas tree set up. I asked him why no tree? He said that he didn’t have a tree, doesn’t really bother much for Christmas.” He added, “So, while he was at work, I got a tree, lights, and ornaments. Set it up in the living room as a surprise for him. Lights off in a dark room, lite only by the lights on the tree. When he walked into the room he started laughing, then crying. We kissed and hugged in front of the tree. It was so romantic.” This beautiful gesture highlights how small surprises can leave lasting impressions.

Planning special trips also made the list. Another gay man wrote, “The most romantic thing I’ve ever done was plan an entire weekend getaway to a cozy cabin, just the two of us. I surprised him with candles, soft music, and a dinner I cooked from scratch, his favorite dish, of course. We spent the evening by the fire, talking about everything and nothing, just wrapped up in each other’s company. The whole weekend felt like a dream.” Thoughtful planning and attention to detail can turn an ordinary weekend into a magical memory.

Sometimes, romance is in the everyday acts of care. “Cook, my boyfriend loves food so I’m always cooking all that he wants, no matter what.” Food has a way of bringing people together, and cooking for a loved one shows dedication and love.

Another story shared the importance of emotional support in tough times. “This guy was the one who didn’t have to look at his bank account and paid for everything. I didn’t have a lot of money after I lost my job, but I saw he was struggling with himself, so I spoiled him a couple of times. Took him to the sauna, got him some massage oil, massaged his body, and made him cum 2 times. I would do it again if I could.” Here, the gesture wasn’t about the expense but about providing comfort and care.

Setting the mood can also create unforgettable moments. “Lit the apartment up with candles before he came home from his late shift. Left a trail of rose petals from the front door to a bubble bath in the bathroom (we had a garden tub) and another trail to the bedroom.” The ambiance created a space for relaxation and connection and of course, romance.

Lastly, romance can be about providing safety and support. “Took an ex-boyfriend that was living with his abusive dad to my place, got him food and let him vent to me until he cried, cuddled with him and told him he’s safe with me. I hope that counts.” Being there for someone during their most vulnerable moments is perhaps one of the most profound expressions of love.

What about you, Adam4Adam blog readers, what’s the most romantic thing you’ve ever done for a guy? Do grand gestures or small, everyday actions hold more meaning for you? Conversely, what’s the most romantic thing a guy has ever done for you? Have you ever been surprised by a romantic gesture from a boyfriend or a partner? Share your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!