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How do you react when someone calls you daddy? For some, it’s a huge turn-on; for others, it’s an awkward or confusing moment. Whether it’s in casual conversation, the bedroom, or shouted across the street, this term carries different meanings for everyone. Adam4Adam blog readers, we want to know: what’s your take on the term daddy and how do you react when your date or hookup calls you this?
Responses to this question on Reddit’s r/askgaybros highlight the diverse range of reactions. One gay man shared a relatable yet humorous experience: “My older husband, whom I call Daddy, called me Daddy in casual conversation. I told him that was nice to hear and turned me on.” Clearly, for some, the term carries erotic energy even in unexpected moments.
Not everyone feels the same, though. A self-described twink humorously commented on the thread, “I become very confused as I am a 5’2 twink bottom who weighs less than a sack of flour.” It goes to show that the label often feels mismatched depending on the receiver’s identity or self-image.
For others, the term is strictly tied to intimacy. “I push them down further onto my dick,” wrote one commenter, embracing the kinky undertone of the word. Yet another gay man expressed a more complex dynamic: “It’s funny because it’s a huge kink for me when guys let me call them that, but I’m really not into it when it’s used on me. Unfortunately, at 38, it’s not going my way.” The line between giving and receiving the daddy title can blur, depending on personal preferences or perceptions of age.
Not everyone appreciates the label, though. “Bro, my first boyfriend called me daddy when I was 18 and he was 19. So stupid, I hated it,” one user lamented. For some, it’s a dealbreaker, with another stating plainly: “It’s a huge turnoff.”
However, some gay men embrace the term with pride and humor. “I take it as a compliment. When I walk to the YMCA, these college guys are always on the front porch (usually with a bong) and yell, ‘Daddy!’ when I walk by. I will do my best catwalk strut for them.” Confidence, after all, can transform any situation.
So, Adam4Adam blog readers, where do you stand on the daddy spectrum? Is it a sexy compliment, an annoying cliché, or just plain confusing for you? Share your thoughts and tell us your funniest, hottest, or most awkward daddy story in the comments section down below!
I was 52 and hooked up with a 19-year-old guy fresh out of high school. Pudgy ginger, so cute and an amazing kisser and lover. While we were having sex and in our chats and texts he called me Daddy occasionally and I would call him son. He was looking for that scene and had a somewhat broken home life growing up. His dad had divorced the mom and left years before so he probably had ‘daddy issues.’ I found it sweet and innocent and sexy when he called me dad, and I was happy to play that role for… Read more »
CREEPY……..
SPOOKY……..
Yeah, I agree. Very creepy!
Beyond disturbing
And you can be just LYIN all about this too, but yeah VERY CREEPY(and not surprising with some gay men of this way).
Thank you for respecting your young ginger’s fantasy, Dave. It was a harmless and fulfilling relationship between two consenting adults.
agreed, thanks for sharing your daddy/son story, sounds heartwarming and it was nice of you to be a sort of “father figure” to the younger guy, i truly needed that in his life, sexually or otherwise
sorry about that, correction, HE (not i) truly needed someone in his life, and it was nice that you gave him that companionship
I’m a 60 y/o bottom. when i am being topped by a 20 or 30 something TOP, being called daddy is a real turn on for me. I am always about mutual pleasure and I love to please them, but true is true….I like it 🙂
I Bolt I have 2 grown kids i’m not anyone eleses daddy
This is another one of these not-for-everyone kinds of things. Generally, it’s not for me at all, as I also have grown kids and am nobody else’s daddy. Being over 60, I enjoy sex with younger guys but not for the older/younger personal dynamic. Rather, it’s for their appealing bodies and energy. On rare occasion when in the heat of the moment with one who’s called me “daddy,” I’ve called him “my boy” and it’s been slightly arousing. Otherwise, not for me either.
While I don’t bolt, I don’t encourage being called Daddy. I have a son so the thought of sex with a son is unsettling, weird, and on the brink if incestual.
If it works for other guys, fine, of course.
Wholeheartedly agree with you – it kinda gives me the creeps being called that when I have kids of my own.
Having kids is not exactly normal for most gay men…
#MeToo. I have kids and I don’t much like it but I’ve grown a little bit used to it so I don’t bolt right away. If they insist on calling me that after I tell them I’d prefer they didn’t then I have to evaluate what kind of arrangement I’ve gotten myself into. Then I’ll decide to bolt or not.
There is not an easy yes/no answer to this. There are several factors that come into play. My ex of 16 years called me Daddy but it was more of a play on the fact that we had 4 dogs and a cat. I’ve been with guys that are 18-22 and it’s been a turn on when they called me Daddy, but for someone my age (not including my ex), it would just be weird.
Call me anything you want just don”t call me late for supper
Who cares what someone calls you as long as they are HOT sexy HUNG and ready to have an AWESOME TIME!!! No effect at ALL on me!!! 🙂
Hot and hung works for me anytime … call me anything you like
No! Being called ‘daddy’ is a total turn off. To me it implies a power dynamic, where I’m supposed to ‘teach’ or ‘support’ him. I’d rather be with someone who is closer to my level.
All sex has a power dynamic. Power dynamics are what make sex erotic. You might want to be in a relationship with someone who’s your equal in every single way, but does that sound like someone you’d want to fuck? I’d imagine not.
Oh, why not, I accept! Hell, I earned it, it’s always a compliment!
While personally, being called “Daddy” just isn’t for me, I applaud your enthusiasm! As always with sex, if it works for those involved, that’s it. If others have a problem with it, they are the problem.
My wife calls me daddy, but not in a incestuous way, but in a way of submissiveness , I love a submissive woman, a submissive woman will usually let you have your way with her sexually, and me myself being a closet 100% bottom, I prefer a take charge tops, and depending on how dominant a top is i will call him daddy, again not is a father figure way, but in a I’m submissive to you way,, you’re my man and I’m your bottom/bitch/panty boi /pussyboi , for your sexual needs and you can take this ass whenever you… Read more »
Being Called ‘Daddy’ Make You Blush and H**D!!!
This is very off topic, I’m a downlow bottom, if I was in Walmart how can I catch the attention of a downlow top without everyone else getting the same vibe without me outing myself , and what signs should I be looking for in a Down low top guy,
If you’re under the impression that all gay men share a certain feature or set of features that undeniability reveal their sexuality, I’ll save you some time and just disabuse you of that now. We don’t.
I know all DL tops or just tops period don’t have the same demeanor, I was thinking more along the lines of secrets signals or some kinda gesture to let a bottom know that he may be interested, reply to John
I’m in my forties and regularly hook up with a guy who’s ten years older than me. He calls me Daddy, and I call him “boy” (despite him being older). As long as there’s informed, mutual consent, I don’t see the problem.
Being 68, it’s not in the top10 ten names to be called. I’m not a father or daddy.
It’s not a feel good moment, but I deal with it if I know I’m getting a piece of ass out of it. Just calling me daddy in general is something I’m not keen to, and it doesn’t turn me on or make me your sugar daddy like they might think.
Genuinely not for me. I am not a fan of being called daddy or Papi. Instant turnoff for me.
I’ve been Daddy to my two Preciouses for thirty-eight years. Being daddy to some of my lovers is a non-issue; it establishes the relationship.
It kind of makes my skin crawl to be honest.
Oh c’mon guys, don’t get hung up on labels. A good portion of us should just be happy they’re not calling us grandpa.
Who’s to say that ain’t already out there?
I love it, at first.
GENTLE READER: Mr. Manners blushes to think what social indiscretions your father must have committed. Mr. Mamers is disturbed by the vitriol regarding the use of the word “daddy” in any relationship between 2 consenting adults, i.e., a personal relationship, a hook-up, and all its variations. Mr. Manners would certainly be concerned if one participant was below the age of 18 (or below 17 in some states), in which case such a relationship would be illegal at the cost of significant consequences (and appropriately so) for the adult and untold harm to the minor. Mr. Manners can only guess (and… Read more »
At first I wasn’t keen on it…or calling a guy “son”…I never thought about having a sexual encounter with my Dad…and while I am attracted to younger guys (60 qualifies as younger at 74) I can’t think of them as my “children”, now…I don’t care, seems Papi is well accepted by most.
There is apparently a growing attraction of younger guys for “age gap relationships” these days…Sure wish I could find one
Bolt.
Implies my age is an important factor.
I had recently started chatting with a couple of guys when suddenly they started calling me “Daddy”. I was thinking I am about 5-10 years older than they are and yet they started calling me that. After our conversation, I would go back through our chat log and think about it. At times it seemed like I was talking to them like how a father would talk to their son. Giving them advise about life or how to go about doing something, etc. So for a while it was kind of fun that someone would consider using that title on… Read more »