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Gay sex parties have long been a part of LGBTQ+ culture, providing a unique space for men to explore their sexuality, connect with others, and have a good time. But what is it really like to attend one of these parties? Whether you’re a seasoned attendee or a curious newbie, we want to hear from you!
For many, the idea of attending a gay sex party can be both exciting and intimidating. What can you expect when you walk through those doors? What are the unspoken rules and etiquette? How do you prepare for such an event? Your stories and insights can help demystify these gatherings for those who are curious but hesitant.
Before going to one though, here are some of what you might expect, or may want to consider or remember:
1. Consent and boundaries: one of the most important aspects of any sex party is consent. Attendees are typically very respectful of boundaries, and consent is always a priority. Before engaging in any activity, make sure to communicate clearly with your partners about your comfort levels and boundaries.
2. Varied environments: sex parties can vary widely in their settings. Some might take place in private homes, while others are held in clubs or other venues. The atmosphere can range from casual and intimate to more structured and themed events.
3. Dress code: many sex parties have specific dress codes, often ranging from underwear to more elaborate fetish wear. It’s important to check the invitation or event guidelines to know what’s expected.
4. Social atmosphere: these parties often start with a social component where guests can mingle and get comfortable before any sexual activity begins. This helps to build trust and ease any nervousness.
5. Safety measures: expect to see condoms, lube, and other safer sex supplies readily available. Many parties also have staff or hosts who ensure that everyone follows the rules and respects boundaries.
Sex parties can be an exhilarating experience, but it’s important to go in with a clear understanding of your own boundaries and expectations. Here are some tips for first-timers:
1. Do your research: make sure you know the rules and guidelines of the party you’re attending. This will help you feel more comfortable and prepared.
2. Communicate openly: whether you’re attending with a partner or solo, communication is key. Discuss your boundaries and expectations beforehand and check in with each other throughout the night.
3. Take it slow: there’s no rush to jump into anything. Take your time to get comfortable with the environment and the people.
4. Respect others: remember that everyone is there to have a good time and feel safe. Always ask for consent and respect others’ boundaries.
5. Have fun: most importantly, relax and enjoy yourself. A sex party can be a great way to explore your sexuality in a safe and consensual environment.
Speaking of parties and events, you can create one at Adam4Adam under Parties & Events. Parties & Events, like the name suggests, are parties or events ads that you can create to invite other users to participate. There are two types of parties & events ads: user’s parties/events or company’s parties/events. For more information, you may check here and here.
Having said all that, tell us about your first gay sex party experience. How did you feel before, during, and after the event? Did anything surprise you? What advice would you give to someone considering attending their first party? Whether it was a thrilling adventure or a night of unexpected twists, your experiences are invaluable. So, Adam4Adam readers, let’s open up the conversation. Comment below and share your stories, tips, and advice about gay sex parties.
I have been to a few. The first one I was nervous and only messed around with a couple of guys. The best one was a smaller party, and all 4 of the other participants took turns fucking my hungry aching hole. I have wanted a repeat performance since.
Similar event — small group with two willing mouths in the center, on their knees, mouths open, with other erect members rotating around, filling the holes, to everyone’s delight. The two willing recipients ended up side by side on a large bed, holding hands, holes exposed and presented for use by the rotating tops. The multiple sounds and smells were intoxicating and I learned the pleasure of “sloppy seconds”!
Expect to see condoms? We’re all supposedly on prep or undetectable so it’s alright
you are not alone
There are OTHER STIs that prep doesn’t fully protect you from….
Not to mention Covid, MonkeyPox…it’s activities like these that make gay men a health hazard to the whole world. It’s how AIDS became an epidemic. There was one famous orgy from which every single participant ended up dying of AIDS.
Which famous orgy are you referring to.
It’s reported in some books, it took place on the Upper East Side of Manhattan, as I recall. Early in the epidemic. It was one of the wake-up calls for promiscuous guys. It took place over a three-day weekend, no one coming or going, all of them there, fucking the entire time, so every one fucked everyone at some point, and then, they were all totally FUCKED. FUCKED TO DEATH.
Actually, yeah, that one, rings a bell somewhere in my memory, that “famous orgy” and the subsequent outcome, somewhere in my memory.
Plus, prep is not 100% effective. Undetectable is never 100% untransmissable. Stop acting on myths and lies.
Did you mean to say “infamous” orgy?
I’ve never been to one, but I was recently invited to an all day nude gay pool party. I’m bi and married, so I wasn’t comfortable being in an environment where I may run into someone that my wife and I may know. I’m not out and my wife doesn’t know. I was thinking to attend a party out of town where I don’t know anyone.
i do have to say if you would’ve run into someone you knew they are in the same boat as you so i think you would’ve been fine
Except that we know some gay guys that don’t have to worry about being outed, I know how gay guys like to gossip
Yeah and straight people don’t gossip.
Yes, women more than men though
Agreed. Per my other messages here, I’m bi-married- and totally locked in the closet. Having someone see me in one of these or any sort of gay sex situation would be a total disaster. But like you say here, if I were to happen upon a guy I know who’s also married and closeted, we’d have to share the same secret and neither would out the other.
YOUR “WIFE” SHOULD KNOW!
YOU ARE OUT THERE SUCKING GUYS COCKS…RIMMING THERE ASSES….CUM ETC….
THEN COME HOME AND KISS HER AND YOUR KIDS ON THE LIPS…..
AND ACT HOMOPHOBIC AROUND HER AND YOUR FRIENDS……..
First of all, he hasn’t been to a sex party, just considering it
Second, if he does attend you don’t know what he will do and not do.
Third, you don’t know anything about his marriage – perhaps it is a sexless one.
Forth, acusing him of being “homophobic” is you projecting your issues. No where did he indicate that he persecutes LGBT folk.
He’s probably right. Married men keeping this a secret are incredibly selfish. What exactly is a pool party? Can’t it just be a party with swimming? Does it always have sex? In the pool? Who cleans out the pool after? Yuck. Imagine swimming through cum and santorum…
Shannon, Shannon, Shannon, I know you’re not surprised, at the responses, but I agree. His deception is stronger than his love for his family, apparently.
I honestly don’t know how people can sleep with themselves being this disingenuous, with the one you supposedly love. This will get the thumbs down, too, but who really cares, in light of such betrayal.
I’m in the same boat but I’ve taken part in a number of groups, 3somes, etc. over the years – see my post. One thing I’ve never had a chance to take part in though is a pool party. That must be incredible. Perhaps one day…
I totally understand,,, I’m married myself and my wife doesn’t know,, I have played in my hometown but now days I play a couple hours away,, that way I don’t come across anyone I know,, although I’ve never been to a sex party and I don’t intend on going to one,, but I have fantasized about sucking a few guys off and getting fucked by about 4or5 guys in one setting,,, but it always someone that has to come with some your wife should know bullshit,,and you never said that you didn’t play safe,,, and why are people worried about… Read more »
I guess two such “events” would qualify here, but in all cases, these are all about the group sex and not about drinking & partying: About 12 years ago I attended one of those motel room orgies where guys would come and go throughout the day. One guy rented the room, put out a bowl, each attendee would drop $10 or $20 (I forget) and go at it. When I arrived, about a dozen guys were already there, mostly paired off. I was a bit disappointed at first because most of them were around my contemporary (50s-60s at the time)… Read more »
Who got to clean it all up?
If you had been there, you could have pitched in and helped.
The hotel maid? LOL Actually, I covered the guy’s chest with it, so it was his problem!
Ajax usually does the job well, honey .. but for a better clean, use that CloroXXX!
I have been to and hosted gay orgys, in hpuses and hotel rroms. Sized from 5 to 40 guys. Overwhelmingly an area with naked guys having fun. Some are more organized with dedicated start time and host who used a draw of cards to originally pair up guys so everyone was included. Or those with open door policy and guys coming and going. Usually a smell of poppers inhabits the room. Guys choose what thay will or will not participate in. Lots of playing, watching and being watched. Everybody should expierence at least once.
So you have no choice who you have sex with? Awful. Trashy.
Have been to several. Repeats by two groups: one held by friends and one “open to the public”. Both pre-Covid. I haven’t looked since. My FWBs are taking care of me just fine. The friends one was advertised online, but you had to be vetted in order to get the address. The host was careful who he’d invite based on questions he got; if the guy was a flake, no go. Most guys were guys he knew that we got to know over time, which we cool. The other had a long email following with dates posted. Both had rules… Read more »
Seems unsafe and diseasy.
Not to mention, easy to be raped or otherwise violated. Boundaries respected? Yeah, sure…NOT.
So Father H, you have been to lots of sex parties and can speak with authority about your concerns?
That’s antisemitic
Not only that, it’s anti-helminthic, too! Such prejudice, I do declare…
Hymie is a slur bigots would use, “Hymietown.”
Huh? What is?
First of all, there is nothing safe about this. At all. It is one of the best ways to spread disease of every kind. Second, it’s hardly a normal activity. You did not define it clearly, either.
Oh Gawd, IT’s back.
“It is one of the best ways to spread disease of every kind”
yea, pump and dumps are usually what goes on in here, the number of loads taken, the betta, honey
*eyeroll*
Can’t you go back to your altar boy porn channel?
You are BORING
NO, HE’S NOT! HE SPEAK THE TRUTH, HONEY! LETTIMM!
What’s not boring, but is threatening, racist, anti-Semitic, and hateful, especially self-hating, is your sick name. Think what they do to guys like you in “Palestine.”
So how is the vampire life treating you ‘Father’. Killing children gets you hard?
You are so judgmental on every topic and to everyone. Sometimes is better not to comment if you can’t say anything positive or uplifting.
I’ve been to a few of them. They were really awesome experiences. And yes, there were big bowls of condoms and lots and lots of lube all around and everyone was expected to play safe and did. I’m a bottom but unless I know someone well I always play safe, and it’s an amazing experience to be the center of a large group of people.
you been to a pump and dump too, baby? how many loads ya get?
Went to a really good one in Palm Springs and took loads from about 15 men. My hole never felt better.
see see SEE! there ya go .. pump n’ dump!
The kind of thing that makes me never want to go a “gay resort.” New Hope, Provincetown, Fire Island, Palm Springs, Sitjes, disgusting.
why are you here? self-hating queer? can’t you go visit your countrypeople in Tel Aviv? Plenty of kids to torture there instead of trying to be the Moral Compass of Queerdom.
I have not been to any parties, but have fantasized about attending one. It sounds really hot, but there is definite risk which has scared me away. But I would love to bottom for a big group of men and have my holes used if it wasn’t so risky. Definitely a bucket list experience for me.
I have been a with a few couples and that was fun, so I can imagine that a party would be super hot!
Used to have 4 ways with the neighbors back in school daze. All take turns on the youngest, including his brother. The older brother only topped, with the rest of use loving his dick while we did each other. The simple things can be best
I went to a party that began to turn into one, or nobody told me that it was a sex party. I got there, and it looked as though they were starting to; many stopped and looked at me, lol, must have been the look on my face; one of them said, “he’s on a higher-level,” I had no idea what ‘he’ was talking about as I was only 19 and had just come out. One dude in the community was known to poz and did not care who he infected, and I was warned as this dude tried to… Read more »
I have been to a few over the years. They ask for a donation at the door. NO DRUGS or HARD LIQUOR! I have been to motels with a suite and privet homes. RULES ARE BASIC. safe sex and NO MEANS NO I AM NOT INTERESTED!! There have been 10 to 40 people. Parties that I have attended most of the guy’s were in there 40 to 60 and a few younger and older. most of the people there were Bi and on the DL. It was fun meeting new people and watching all the action that was going on.… Read more »
i got to say i agree 100% i been to two and both was really really fun the one i went to be all married guys a mixed of bottoms tops and ver me being a bottom i got split roasted once the best sex I have had wish i could go to more or there was more around in the area
I’m so sorry, I am way too ugly to go the party, especially a gay sex one .. if I did, they be all frowning at me, laughing at me, or look disgusted at me .. and all their dicks be going limp immediately upon my arrival .. y’all have fun at yo sex parties, but remember to never allow uglies like me in, and always wear the rubbers when necessary, get checked for std too, honey
cuties attend them pump n’ dumps everytime, honey, works for THEM but not for those who are uncute
They pay for it in the end, so to speak. You’re better off.
I went to them when I first moved to DC in the early 2000s. There was two in particular that was extremely fun, the other one I felt like I was being used as a human dildo. Literally dues, jumping on and off my dick, felt kind of used afterwards. Lol.
I have been to and organized many sex parties over the years. I pretty much stopped after prostate/bladder cancer left me without the ability to stay hard enough for penetration and my ejaculations consisted of pre cum only. I am so thankful I have all those wonderful memories to look back on.There is definitely sex party etiquette that if followed makes it a better experience for everyone. First off, you should never say no, or push someone away rudely. Let them suck on your cock some, they will quickly get the message that you are not really interested in them… Read more »
A similar experience with a bad outcome. I have a prosthetic that keeps it up.There’s a reservoir of saline solution inside the pubes and a pump and release in my scrotum. It works great and it doesn’t go down until I let it down. There has been some shrinkage. It happens whether you have surgery and or radiation with Lupron chemo. The doctors don’t know why. My orgasm seems to have become more powerful probably because there’s nothing to shoot. I make sure the other guy knows not to expect cum. Every guy should have a PSA test every 6… Read more »
I’ve always wanted to go to one I’m a bottom and think I would have alot of fun taking all kinds of cocks all Bareback
Speaking of which, I’m reminded of a Saudi guy I hooked up with a couple of times. When I asked how he managed his sex life at home, he said that they have house parties. He and his friends have large homes and servants. I don’t know how the parties are conducted, but there’s lots of food and drink, and lots of sexual activities, perhaps in the bedrooms, he didn’t give me details. But he’s a government official, so he’s in the protected upper class and aristocracy. I think the poorer gents have to go to Dubai or elsewhere to… Read more »
So you hate Palestinians and revel in the gazacaust, but have no problem taking on any and all Saudis. Maybe you like the camels too? or is it just the thrill of bottoming for desert aristocracy? The Palis are too low budget for your tastes. A bourgeois butt boi
I was very nervous at my first party, which was pretty much a club/bathhouse type setting. I enjoyed the attention I was getting but wasn’t sure how to initiate with those who were showing interest. I had went there with a friend who immediately got to playing. I figured I would go take a shower. While I was washing my hair I noticed that I had 2 men on each side of me and they started touching me. I was led into the sauna where I ended up getting spitroasted by them. I then went back and took another shower,… Read more »
I’ve been to a few of them. I’m bi married and very much in the closet. I’ve been lucky to be able to go to a big city in other states where I’m not too worried about running in to someone that we may know. The first one, was very large, over 40 guys were there. The host was very gracious, strict rules, of condoms, lube and towels. Since it was my first time, he announced it to everyone, he looked at me and said I hope you like getting fucked cause you getting dicked down. I did, I really… Read more »
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